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[DominoKid]

My parents tried to stop when I was 18 but then I complained about it so they started back giving me money/presents. I usually get ~150 from each parent or a pair of shoes because they know I like shoes.

 

[Vanillalite]

IMO as long as you aren't begging for presents from anyone post turning into the realm of the adult hood it's okay to accept whatever anyone gives you (if you feel comfortable) as it was their prerogative to want to get you something!

My mom gives my Bro, Sister In-Law, and I all $100 even every birthday that we can do with as we please. She says she has the means and likes to celebrate our special day! Plus she says $100 is just an easy flat number that we can do something cool with without her needing to go find something we'd like on her own.

Quite frankly normally I end up just spending it on going out for my birthday with my GF especially since her birthday is like a week after mine. We just go celebrate ours together by going to dinner and/or movies, ice cream, starbucks, bar/lounge etc... and it's a nice way to share our time together!

The only person I feel bad for is my only living grand parent still randomly sends me something every birthday that is usually clothes that are to big, and I'm the only grandson that gets anything. It's just plan fucking awkward, and even if I tell him he doesn't have to send anything he does anyways.

PS: The bigger question is how many of you send out thank you notes still after getting say birthday or holiday gifts?!?!!

 

[Despera]

I say around 21...

Edit:

:lol

 

[TommyT]

- "How ya doing" drop-in visits every few days for no reason

This is one of the top 3 reasons I went to college 8 hours from home, and now live 6 hours away.

edit: Honestly I think I kind of lucked out when it came to how our family does most of the eventful days of the year (except for Thanksgiving and Christmas) as they're treated as "just another day" which most often just warrants a phone call. A birthday gift from them, unless I ask for something specific like this year (food processor!!!!), is usually a bit of money under the guise of treating myself to a nice dinner.

 

[TheClimaxan]

The year after I graduated college I told my parents to stop giving me any sort of presents. Birthday, Christmas, all of it. There is nothing they can get me that I can't get for myself. At some point its just healthy as a human being to let go of being a spoiled little bitch. It's not a trait that looks good on adults. Keyword: ADULTS

 

[geeko]

lol, my stepdad nearing 60 years old still gets $500 from his parents on his birthday. He tells them not to send it, but they send it anyway.

 

[fernoca]

PS: The bigger question is how many of you send out thank you notes still after getting say birthday or holiday gifts?!?!!

Don't need to.
In my case, my family always consisted on my mother, father, brother and I. Yeah, we had/have aunts, nephews, uncles, etc.; but they were more interested in other things (like each other and their own families); that they just ignored us through the years. Since we've never been the kind of asking for help; even when needing it; they chose to ingore us alltogether. (For example, I have an aunt that is technically "rich". Yet, since my uncle was always asking her for money and to help take care of his kids; she just..loved been with him because "he really showed interest in her". While we; when we went to visit her to know about her; she just didn't cared and was always reminding us that "she had no money"; even when my dad had to tell her mutliple tiems that were weren't there to ask for money.)

So, in my case I directly thanked my parents for any...way/gift they found as a reminder of said occation and I gave back too. I startedworking when I was 14, so whenever I had some extra cash I just gave them money or bought them something. In the end we tend to just gift things to each other through the year, and not specific occations (i.e. take mom out to dinner multiple times during the year, rather than Mother's Day only; etc...of course there was the usual postcard and gift on that day; but it was an addition more than a need to do it)

 

[RDreamer]

I'm 25 and my parents usually get me a 50 dollar gift card or something, and it's tradition for the whole family to go out to dinner at the birthday person's choice place for their birthday. They pay for that too. I'd like to buy them stuff in return on their birthdays, but they really really put up a fit for it. They don't even want stuff from me and my sister on Christmas, but we really don't stand for that. We get them something then despite their resistance. They just know that neither me nor my sister are that well established in their eyes, and we could use the money more than they could.

 

[Nix]

After reading alot of your replies, I have to say, no there aren't too many fucking comma's in the OP, and no I don't think I'm wrong, but I may come off as wrong in some ways.

Yes, yes, it's the thought that counts. Thank you greater-GAF. I'll eat my Oreo's in peace from now on, knowing I'm at least thankful for the gift of life! Having said that, these thought only really circulate like, once every year, usually around summer-time, when the whole family gets together. Once a year. Is that bad? Maybe. I'm sure that everyone here can say that they're the perfect example of human beings though; once again, throwing rocks in a glass house. A big no-no.

 

[kehs]

PS: The bigger question is how many of you send out thank you notes still after getting say birthday or holiday gifts?!?!!

I alway send out "Thank you, Congratulations, and Good Luck" cards after being invited to weddings.

Does that count?

 

[TxdoHawk]

I haven't recieved birthday money from my parents in years. I don't know, it shouldn't bother me, at all, but it does.

Please answer the following:

1. If you went to college, did your parents help you financially in any way in this endeavor? Tuition? Cost of dorming? Books? Supplies?

2. If you drive, have any of the cars you've driven/currently drive been partially/fully paid by your parents?

3. If you were in a bad situation and had to borrow a thousand dollars from your parents on the spot, would they do so without even thinking twice about it?

4. Would they probably tell you not to bother paying them back on that loan?

5. Are you older than 24?

Now, score yourself! If you answered yes to:

0-1 questions - Your parents probably provided the bare minimums to you. You're still kind of an a-hole, since even the bare minimum involves a lot of time, effort, and money.

2-3 questions - Mom and/or dad cushioned your rise to indepence a bit, no doubt. You know what they'd like for their birthday? Gratefulness.

4-5 questions - While your parents have already given you so much, the best gifts you will ever get will come from yourself. My suggestion? A cyanide pill.


If you think this is a little scathing, let me offer this:

1. Do a rough estimate of how much your parents spent on raising you. Divide that by the age you became fully independent.

2. Do a rough estimate of how much you have spent on your parents. Divide that by your current age.

3. Compare the two numbers and make an enlightened decision on who owes who.

 

[MYE]

Turned 24 this year and the other day my father left three envelopes with cash for me and my brothers. He called them "late birthday gifts" lol

Its a gift ffs, it was given with love and good intentions and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

 

[UFRA]

Edit, nvm missed it

 

[zoukka]

Ten?

 

[alphaNoid]

I expect nothing but always get too much, both my family and my wifes family always celebrate birthdays, and yes even for adults. I just turned 32 this past week and I got probably over $600 in presents, and my parents tossed me $100 cash to do whatever with (on top of 3 or 4 gifts). I had a few friends over on the weekend, some of them got me give cards or booze.. probably got $200 in gift cards etc...

I suppose it just depends on your circle of 'people'. Do your friends and family celebrate? I guess I'm pretty fortunate or something. Shit .. last year for my 31st my wife closed down a skating rink (yes skating rink! lol), gathered like 50 people, cakes, booze, a DJ and rented out the entire rink for several hours into the night. Was a surprise bday, which was a surprise

I do however know TONS of people who never get shit from their family, because their family has basically stopped really celebrating birthdays for anyone older than 16 or something. My family, every person. mom, sister, sister, neice ... 10 years old, or 60 .. everyone gets cakes, dinner out, presents.

Birthdays are nothing in my family, the Christmas presents .. don't get me started on Christmas. I probably get over 40 gifts every year.

 

[Nix]

Please answer the following:

1. If you went to college, did your parents help you financially in any way in this endeavor? Tuition? Cost of dorming? Books? Supplies?
Yes
2. If you drive, have any of the cars you've driven/currently drive been partially/fully paid by your parents?
No
3. If you were in a bad situation and had to borrow a thousand dollars from your parents on the spot, would they do so without even thinking twice about it?
Probably, I don't know. Would never be in that situation, and would rather eat crow than ask anyone for money.
4. Would they probably tell you not to bother paying them back on that loan?
Yes, but would get shit for it down the line.
5. Are you older than 24?
No. I already said 22.
Now, score yourself! If you answered yes to:

0-1 questions - Your parents probably provided the bare minimums to you. You're still kind of an a-hole, since even the bare minimum involves a lot of time, effort, and money.

2-3 questions - Mom and/or dad cushioned your rise to indepence a bit, no doubt. You know what they'd like for their birthday? Gratefulness.

4-5 questions - While your parents have already given you so much, the best gifts you will ever get will come from yourself. My suggestion? A cyanide pill.


If you think this is a little scathing, let me offer this:

1. Do a rough estimate of how much your parents spent on raising you. Divide that by the age you became fully independent.
Well, this is kind of~
2. Do a rough estimate of how much you have spent on your parents. Divide that by your current age.
I mean, come on. I'm barely living comfortably.
3. Compare the two numbers and make an enlightened decision on who owes who.
Well, this was just-

Geez. I already said the need was unwarranted, no need to go off.

 

[Rewrite]

Hmm honestly I think after 21, a person should stop caring. I know I did. Now I'm a present person and I like giving to everyone. Now at 25, when my day rolls around I don't ask nor want anyone to give me anything. If we can hang out like any other day and have fun as usual that's more than enough.

I'm the same. Love giving presents, but I never ask for anything in return.

 

[I NEED SCISSORS]

I heard 50 Cent still gets $20 from his granny.

 

[Yasae]

Geez. I already said the need was unwarranted, no need to go off.

The need is very warranted. I'm more like a -2 on that scale and I still don't expect money because that's not what's important. Yeah, so I got older and don't receive huge birthday bashes like when I was younger... So what? You're still special to your mother.

 

[suzu]

If you've already told them they don't need to give you gifts, and they still want to.. well just accept it and be grateful.

 

[MYE]

Maybe this is a cultural thing? My family buys gifts no matter what your age is. Cake, party, the whole damn thing.

Between family and friends i had three fucking bd cakes when i turned 24. THREE


edit: Sounds like i'm complaining. I'm not

<3

 

[Timo]

When I was 7 my parents combined all my birthday money to get a coat for winter.

I was the most pissed of 7 year old ever. But I get it now.

But yeah, my parent's have never done much for my birthday since it was a little less than 2 months from Christmas. I got over it. Shoot, they probably do more now than they ever did as a kid though, I'll get a 20 or a pizza here or there.

 

[Escape Goat]

ITT GAF learns to accept gifts gracefully.

 

[Yasae]

Maybe this is a cultural thing? My family buys gifts no matter what your age is. Cake, party, the whole damn thing.

Between family and friends i had three fucking bd cakes when i turned 24. THREE


edit: Sounds like i'm complaining. I'm not

<3

Maybe it is a cultural thing. But.......... There does seem to be some kind of materialistic bias underneath this, i.e. you're more special if you receive more things.

Nope.

 

[Al-ibn Kermit]

My friends and I still celebrate birthdays by going out to hang out and eat but nobody gets a present. That's supposed to stop in your early teens, when you're too young to get a job and buy your own stuff.

I did have one friend who turned 23 and was angry that nobody outside of his immediate family got him presents, I was so disgusted by that.