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How to politely reject someone.
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CrimsonSquall
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Can u be a bit more descriptive how this person was asked? Cause you could always just say you're busy everytime you are asked and that wouldn't be lying entirely cause that can mean anything
Pankratous
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Sorry, I just don't feel that way.
Sorry, I don't think we'd be a fit.
Sorry, I'm not interested.
Sorry, you're a 4 and I'm an 8, be thankful I even speak to you.
Sorry, I fancy [name].
All of these.
Sorry, I don't think we'd be a fit.
Sorry, I'm not interested.
Sorry, you're a 4 and I'm an 8, be thankful I even speak to you.
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All of these.
Seraph_Nicholas
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'Without sounding mean' is a noble aspiration, but don't sacrifice clarity for it. 'No. Never.' should suffice.
MooseKnuckles
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jadedm17
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Honest and direct, anything less and youre trading pain now for more pain later.
Aziz Ansari studied this through hundreds of thousands of people : Most polled will ghost but those same people prefer others be direct.
Be polite and direct; Ive dated several people this year and i still respect the direct ones, whereas the "im not ready for a relationship" then weeks later seeing on Facebook shes in one i have zero respect. Honesty always.
Aziz Ansari studied this through hundreds of thousands of people : Most polled will ghost but those same people prefer others be direct.
Be polite and direct; Ive dated several people this year and i still respect the direct ones, whereas the "im not ready for a relationship" then weeks later seeing on Facebook shes in one i have zero respect. Honesty always.
capitalCORN
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I'm sorry, I just don't think you're a hot piece of ass.
Well, he hasn't been asked yet, but it's a bunch of things including getting way too close to him, talking to him often (including making up flimsy excuses to do so), and staring just a tad too long.
WhateverItTakes
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I'm not a big fan of this one, cus the truth is if someone who was absolutely perfect for them walked through the door, likelihood is something would happen. It should just be more acceptable to say 'I don't have any romantic feelings for you' and the person on the receiving end to take that with grace.
Oh god, watch out for when she touches his shoulder or arm!
oh so you want a rejection without her having asked him out yet?
this of course is harder imho because you don't really know if the other person just likes him as a good friend and wants to deepen the friendship or if she really wants to date him..
curiouscharles
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first post nails it.
being unambiguous, clear, and concise is the absolute nicest thing you can do for someone in such a situation.
don't give them anything to hang on, because if you do, they'll fucking hang on.
"not right now" or "i just worry about wrecking our friendship" and shit like that is just the WORST thing you can do to someone.
being unambiguous, clear, and concise is the absolute nicest thing you can do for someone in such a situation.
don't give them anything to hang on, because if you do, they'll fucking hang on.
"not right now" or "i just worry about wrecking our friendship" and shit like that is just the WORST thing you can do to someone.
Cooties are contagious. Better safe than sorry.
Auto-Reply
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"Out my face, NOW!"
The Cretan
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This.
I said to a girl once that I like her, but I was nervous as shit (to the point it was like I was ashamed of me liking her), so she rejected me by saying "I don't". We remained friends and I totally respect her for not giving me hopes and being straight-forward.
Username1198
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"I have a girlfriend in Canada "
SuperBanana
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GasProblem
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I remember a study trip where a girl was really into me, but I'm gay and wasn't out yet, and slept in a room with a couple of pretty religious guys. Boy, that was akward.
TheRedSnifit
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Say yes, but when you two get back to your apartment say you want to show her how far gaming has come since Super Mario Bros.
BobbeMalle
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"I'm sorry, i don't think it's gonna work. Got a lot of dankest memes to unload."
On a more serious note, the other fellas already provided good answers.
Just tell the truth, if you're not a good match you're not a good match.
On a more serious note, the other fellas already provided good answers.
Just tell the truth, if you're not a good match you're not a good match.
triplestation
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Just fart dude
quoting because a lot of people don't read this post >>
As a guy, whose greatest fear is rejection, just be forward about it. "Sorry, I'm not interested." is fine if you guys are just acquaintances, "but we can still be friends." if you know each other. Please be sincere about the last part. I know rejection sucks. It's going to be hurt for a little bit, but I made great friends after the period of awkwardness. Reason why I don't for it sometimes is it just sucks losing a friend once you have opened up about it.
Just be direct. Don't give us false hope. The pain will pass. We can't force you to like us. I think this is the best way I can explain it.
Just be direct. Don't give us false hope. The pain will pass. We can't force you to like us. I think this is the best way I can explain it.
Gravy Boat
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Lord Fagan
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If they can't take "No, thank you," for an answer, any politeness related to the rejection is moot.
Good guys, and ladies, are secure enough in themselves to let the above response curb all further non-platonic behavior. But Nice Guys, and Nice Ladies, will remain under the impression that they are owed attention, and ultimately sex, despite clear rejection of any tone because of course they do.
Fuck those Nice People and their selfish feelings. Being friends with good people and having cordial, benign interactions with others as "normal" is its own reward. If they aren't classy enough to keep their pining for unrequited love to themselves without it making their marks uncomfortable, then politeness isn't gonna do jack shit. It's just gonna feed into their unrealistic fantasies and further prevent their maturing into an emotionally secure human being.
Because, seriously, it's flattering that they notice you that way, but no thanks. And then just go back to work.
Good guys, and ladies, are secure enough in themselves to let the above response curb all further non-platonic behavior. But Nice Guys, and Nice Ladies, will remain under the impression that they are owed attention, and ultimately sex, despite clear rejection of any tone because of course they do.
Fuck those Nice People and their selfish feelings. Being friends with good people and having cordial, benign interactions with others as "normal" is its own reward. If they aren't classy enough to keep their pining for unrequited love to themselves without it making their marks uncomfortable, then politeness isn't gonna do jack shit. It's just gonna feed into their unrealistic fantasies and further prevent their maturing into an emotionally secure human being.
Because, seriously, it's flattering that they notice you that way, but no thanks. And then just go back to work.
Count Dookkake
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"I like 'em new, not like you."
Jokes aside, if someone asks you out, just tell them that you aren't looking for that with them.
It's pretty easy. Just pretend it is any other subject you are talking about.
EDIT: I totally empathize with women who have to deal with this all the time. It is fucking annoying when someone gets wet just because you treat them like a human.
Jokes aside, if someone asks you out, just tell them that you aren't looking for that with them.
It's pretty easy. Just pretend it is any other subject you are talking about.
EDIT: I totally empathize with women who have to deal with this all the time. It is fucking annoying when someone gets wet just because you treat them like a human.
Professional Enthusiast
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Throw in the 'Im an expert' rant meme and you're golden.
CrimsonSquall
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Oh okay! Find a way to let her know that you're into one of her friends or just someone random. That should kill her vibe super quick. Don't leave room to let her think that it's her for some reason tho
Chaos2Frozen
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"I live with my parents."
Count Dookkake
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"I really don't want to see what your butthole looks like."
Everytime. I hate this. I agree that I rather just have an honest brutal response over a fake one or have someone ghost me. I still respect the people who I've been rejected by in this way no matter how hurt I was at the time
Marky Mark
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Tell them youre flattered but choose not to be in a relationship, because you are pursuing your dreams and you do not have time to be arguing with someone, or having to entertain someone every other day.
This is the most polite thing you can possibly do.
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