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How were you punished as a child?

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Mammoth Jones said:
Never yelled at? Did you ever misbehave? Like set fire to the backyard or piss in your teachers coffee or accidentally put the car in the pool?
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I never did anything that bad but I could be annoying to my siblings and be mischievous. I think my parents were just really really calm and relaxed. They sat me down and talked with me instead.
 
Some of you seem like you're rationalizing the abuse you received, and I don't just mean Black Lawn Finale.

Honestly, I never really did anything to get punished. The worst that happened I believe was having my toys and video games taken away once. Even then, that wasn't all that really effective as a punishment given I live in my own little world.

Mammoth Jones said:
Never yelled at? Did you ever misbehave? Like set fire to the backyard or piss in your teachers coffee or accidentally put the car in the pool?
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Maybe my childhood was strange, or maybe you're being sarcastic about those, but I can't fathom why I'd ever do such things as a child.
 
I used to get a slipper thrown at me or spanked with it, but what really felt the worst was...


"You really disappointed me"



Hit me like a ton of bricks
 
stuminus3 said:
Beaten senseless. I'm talking full-on bloody knuckled thrashings. This happened up until I was 24. I'm glad it happened, otherwise I'd have been too wasted on drugs to ever have known the love of God.
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Christ almighty, dude.

Edit: and Black Lawn Finale is banned? Aw man, seemed like a cool guy.
 
It ranged from being yelled at / sent to my room for X amount of time, to getting a good smack across the head for saying something offensive/stupid to my parents, typically when I used foul language. I got the belt a good number of times lol it was never in excess though. Just a few good whacks to get the message across to not swear at the parents XD. This was mostly when younger (10 and under).

In my teens it was typically the "I'm disappointed in you" but I pretty much stopped being a shithead around age 12 and learned not to act like a tool.
 
I would get spanked lightly when I was real bad, but rarely happened. Also my dad... he scared me into behaving. He would just give me a look.... and I was immediatly a good boy.

I was never touched in the face, only spanking were your usual butt spank.
 
Yelled at, called stuff, slapped, hair pulled, hit with belt all over, kicked and punched bit less but happened, kicked down the stairs once.


Was fun :|
Stopped at 15+ I think at point where they realized retaliation could be grave. It did have long term effects on me both good(as in I'll never hit my kid and that's only "good" one) and some others I would share.

Oh yeah, grounded often too. But then again, what my grandfather did to my father was even worse, chained to table, not fed etc, guess he didn't learn much from that and wanted to share, just not that bad -.-

Now what did I do, I was never bad kid just silly children misbehaving, pranks etc, nothing seirous, and it was usually due to lack of guidance or care, and stuff I won't go into.
meh
 
Hell yeah I got smacked around, turned out alright though.

The worst punishment is you fucked up so much that parents cried or simply don't care anymore, imo.
 
Marrshu said:
Maybe my childhood was strange, or maybe you're being sarcastic about those, but I can't fathom why I'd ever do such things as a child.
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I did two out of the three I listed. I'll leave it up to you to figure out which :P And yes, I caught some ass whoopins for em. It happened, not a big deal to me as I'm over it. Were the beatings I took "child abuse"? Hell yea, lol. You jaw would drop at the beatings I took. Nothing as extreme as throwing things at my head, but I got hit for just about anything: Talking back. Cursing. Disrespect. Getting in trouble at school. And hell, I had the vice-principal say in front of my parents that it's not illegal at all for parents to spank me with their belt for what I did. I also had a teacher relay a message my mom gave her to give me that if I keep acting up she is gonna "tear my ass up when you get home". The culture was different back then...and it wasn't that long ago.... (I'm in my early 30's)

I have mixed feelings about hitting ones kid... I really don't want to hit my child. One slap in extreme situations but anything past that and you're just taking your anger out on your kid and that's just pointless. But on the other hand, I've seen what happens when a child has absolutely no fear/concern/respect (chose whatever word you want) for their parents authority and I refuse to have little man cursing at my wife in public or private and acting like a spoiled douche because he can't get the videogame he wants. As bad as I was, I feel I would be MUCH worse without "wait till your father gets home..."
 
Mammoth Jones said:
I did two out of the three I listed. I'll leave it up to you to figure out which :P And yes, I caught some ass whoopins for em. It happened, not a big deal to me as I'm over it. Were the beatings I took "child abuse"? Hell yea, lol. You jaw would drop at the beatings I took. Nothing as extreme as throwing things at my head, but I got hit for just about anything: Talking back. Cursing. Disrespect. Getting in trouble at school. And hell, I had the vice-principal say in front of my parents that it's not illegal at all for parents to spank me with their belt for what I did. I also had a teacher relay a message my mom gave her to give me that if I keep acting up she is gonna "tear my ass up when you get home". The culture was different back then...and it wasn't that long ago.... (I'm in my early 30's)

I have mixed feelings about hitting ones kid... I really don't want to hit my child. One slap in extreme situations but anything past that and you're just taking your anger out on your kid and that's just pointless. But on the other hand, I've seen what happens when a child has absolutely no fear/concern/respect (chose whatever word you want) for their parents authority and I refuse to have little man cursing at my wife in public or private and acting like a spoiled douche because he can't get the videogame he wants. As bad as I was, I feel I would be MUCH worse without "wait till your father gets home..."
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Are you down south or outside the US? You're not much older than my cousins, honestly, and the culture wasn't that radically different a few years earlier.

Personally, looking at all of my friends who were overly "disciplined" or "punished" as a child, it doesn't seem to have done them a whole lot of good. They've simply grown up more aggressive in private situations.
 
Got the very rare spanking, but the worst was getting my games confiscated. Once my mother had my SNES so long that she forgot she took it.
 
Marrshu said:
Are you down south or outside the US? You're not much older than my cousins, honestly, and the culture wasn't that radically different a few years earlier.

Personally, looking at all of my friends who were overly "disciplined" or "punished" as a child, it doesn't seem to have done them a whole lot of good. They've simply grown up more aggressive in private situations.
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Parents were from North Carolina :P Born and raised in New York. Went to school on Long Island from elementary to high school.

That's the thing...my parents hit because they never knew another way and out of anger, I believe. They never drew blood, save for one slap from mom. And the whippings never left a mark or left me in pain after the fact.

But they didn't take no shit. The beatings stopped when it was clear that I was physically capable of breaking my mothers neck with ease. I never hit her back and never thought about it ever. I still feared my pops for a while after that as he's 6'10 and was meaner than my mom, lol.

But they mellowed out completely as they got older. Now they admit they didn't know better as parents and there's a better way to influence a childs behavior but still advocates an ass whopping in extreme circumstances.
 
My mother used to make me stand in a corner and hold my arms up. Easy, right? Only, she'd be standing behind me with a wooden spoon just waiting for my arms to inevitably drop. I would cry because my arms burned so bad and I knew when they dropped I'd get the spoon.

I've been told to kneel on a couple of grains of rice a few times (which fucking hurts)
 
I have been wondering about people other types of domestic violence, like smacking your partner. The thought of doing so would never cross my mind in a million years, even if I was really frustrated and we had a bad fight. My system is just not wired to do it, which I believe is because that was not the model I learned as kid.

So what I wonder is - would anyone who has *not* been hit as a kid by their parents hit their partner/spouse? Or is there correlation between receiving corporal punishment and dishing out domestic violence?

Because that would be one reason for people not to do it, even if they don't believe it's otherwise harmful for kids.
 
Chittagong said:
I have been wondering about people other types of domestic violence, like smacking your partner. The thought of doing so would never cross my mind in a million years, even if I was really frustrated and we had a bad fight. My system is just not wired to do it, which I believe is because that was not the model I learned as kid.

So what I wonder is - would anyone who has *not* been hit as a kid by their parents hit their partner/spouse? Or is there correlation between receiving corporal punishment and dishing out domestic violence?

Because that would be one reason for people not to do it, even if they don't believe it's otherwise harmful for kids.
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I got beat, but never have and never will put my hands on my girl. Unless she's running at me with a butcher knife I'd never get physical with her. Ever.
 
Ping pong paddle from my mom, fly swatter from my grandmother, small board from my dad.

And I'll be using all three at the same time on my future kids.
 
Spanked, belted, back-handed, hit on the back of the head, punched in the face, thrown across rooms, screamed at, called names, etc. A mixture of those from both parents.

All for extremely minor offenses. I was a scared shitless kit who didn't dare mess with my parents, never talked back my entire life, and was praised (and my parents received lots of praise) for how well behaved I was at school and around other adults.

Beyond 6th grade or so it all pretty much stopped.. my parents barely talked to me at all really.
 
Wow, this is nothing in comparison to some of the people here but...


Hell of a lot fillips to the forehead and yelling. Dad was one scary man when he was upset with me. Hell, he still is.
 
scale/ruler
power cord
pumper (for inflating soccer ball)
spanking, loads of it
big/small piece of wood, which ever was close by

there might be more, can't remember now
 
I'll say it again.
If my mom had done some of this shit, she'd be spending her life regretting it in prison.

As for my dad, he was gone my entire life.
Only saw him for a couple days before he died when I was 17.
And I was better off for it, I probably would be telling the same kind of stories you all are if he had been around.

My step-dad never dared to do anything, I would have kicked his ass.
 
I got smacked once or twice when I was really little, but almost nothing after that. I was pretty well behaved, but my parents stopped really parenting when I was about 10 or so

Never was grounded, failed a class or two and nothing happened, chores were optional. I don't want to blame them for my own failings but I could have used more structure, I think.

edit: Interesting how it's physical in a lot of responses
 
This one time my older brother was trying to kill me (quite literally, he was kind of troubled).. he was shoving pillows on my face trying to suffocate me.. I was struggling to get away, screaming, crying.. my parents were downstairs watching TV.

So my brothers final attempt was to sit on my face.. I couldn't breath.. had a mouth full of ass.. so I bit down.. well, that then caused my brother to jump up and scream bloody murder.

My Dad came upstairs, saw me laying their crying, and before I could get a word out my older brother yelled that I had bit him..

My Dad picked me up and carried me into my room (we were "playing" in my parents room, which was adjacent).. I tried explaining that my brother had actually been torturing me, and that I was suffocating, and bit him to get him off of my face..

He just screamed at me to shut up.. and while holding me with his left arm, punched me hard in the face with his right hand.. He then threw me across my bedroom, into the wall above my bed.. I remember as I hit the wall I felt myself peeing my pants.

I lied their stunned... then quietly sobbed for a while.

About 10 minutes later, my Mother came upstairs.. to tell me...

I needed to go downstairs and apologize to my father. I pleaded with her to explain what happened, but was told to shut up.

So after being beaten and thrown across the room, and peeing my pants.. I went downstairs and told my Dad I was sorry.. he didn't even turn his head to look at me, just kept watching TV.

I was a 3rd grader.

Lovely memories..

Don't get me wrong... I also have some great memories of my parents.. they were highly educated and successful people who taught me some great values, while at the same time mentally and physically abusing me.

The world isn't a simple place.
 
Growing up with a brother who was only two years younger than you didn't help much. We'd always fight, breaks each others things, accidentally break my mom's things. I don't think growing up in an apartment helped either since you weren't allowed to leave the complex and neither were the other 30 children, so you were all forced to kind of hang out or play by yourself. Got caught climbing the garage roofs, hiding under and in cars, throwing shit that hit people's apartments. Then there was visiting Grandma's farm everyday, almost.

So yes, I got punished. At home it was the choice of the belt, spoon or the hand and if I was real bad and knocked all those out of her hand, whatever was on my bedroom floor (I was very fond of walking sticks). My mom usually made us grab the top bunk or towel rack, so we could resist the temptation not to deflect a hit and sometimes she'd talk about what you did wrong and spank our asses at random which made you want to deflect a hit, which would just get you one more. She also liked to put us on separate couches or in the corner. Didn't want to eat your food, well you can just sit at the table till it's finished.

At Grandma's it was a switch, belt, wooden paddle, or whatever was laying around that farm that you may have broke.

I only got punished, never beaten. Mom was abused and wasn't a fan of it. Being a single mom she had the be the punisher and then the person you cried to afterward about how that wasn't fair.
 
I rarely did anything that warranted punishment. One time I broke a piece of pottery while playing ball indoors, which I wasn't supposed to do. My parents docked my allowance and assigned me extra chores and attached a monetary value to each that they would pay me to do it until I had paid back the value of the vase.

Come to think of it, that was my parent's disciplinary strategy as a whole, for the most part. Make the consequences of the universe the consequences of the kids' actions as much as possible. When I was much younger, I was told not to touch a hot stove, and did it anyway, getting burned. I got an "I told you so" from the parents, but not much more because, hey, now I knew why I wasn't supposed to touch the damn stove.
 
count to three shit.

that's 1.......(._.), come down stairs....that's 2............................3 *punishment*

fucken annoying. punishment was losing a privileged like tv or having to do an extra chore. I minded my parents usually when taking the punishment but I got in trouble a lot as a kid also.
 
Jzero15 said:
And when i got older i got the belt or the infamous "chancla".
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Oh yeah, I did get the occasional "chancleta" to the butt.

When I was 14 my mom found a note where I had written that I wished she were dead. My parents never hugged me or showed much affection, but they weren't all that abusive, so I guess I just felt a bit unloved as a teen. I came home and found her crying. She told my why and smacked me in the face. I felt sooooo guilty. I apologized a million times while also crying. From that day on, though, our relationship really changed for the better, even though my last smack to the face was at 17.
 
Jesus, didn't expect that so many were abused as a child here.
Either you guys are much older than me or this stuff is much more prominent in other countries than where i'm from.
Using violence when raising a child is one of the laziest and sickening things you can do IMO, it clearly shows lack of tolerance and empathy a parent should at least have towards his/her child.

The only punishments I remember is that I got my games taken away for a day or two and one time I was sent to my room.
 
Spanked once or twice, but for the most part had my games taken away and was sent to my room.

I didn't really do anything that would lead to me getting punished that much.
 
Drencrom said:
Jesus, didn't expect that so many were abused as a child here.
Either you guys are much older then me or this stuff is much more prominent in other countries then where i'm from.
Using violence when raising a child is one of the laziest and sickening things you can do IMO, it clearly shows lack of tolerance and empathy a parent should at least have towards his/her child.

The only punishments I remember is that I got my games taken away for a day or two and one time I was sent to my room.
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I also never expected to see so many abused GAFers.
 
Like the hat? said:
I think most of us that fall into the abused camp weren't so much being punished for things as just being a vent for our parent's frustrations.
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Pretty much this.

I find the "I didn't do much to get punished" comments a bit... odd.. borderline offensive.

I was once called a bastard and slapped hard across the back of the head for not being able to find my jacket. My Mom had hung it up in the closet without telling me. Did I get an apology when she found it there? No.. just more insults and "don't ever make me hit you like that again."
 
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