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[Halcyon]

For me I only started feeling confident about myself after I started working out.

When I was just thinner I still felt like I was fat and ugly.

Then I slowly started seeing my now self. I still have issues with it. Especially because my girlfriend has a flawless body and has been fit for her whole life mostly.

If I eat badly my mental image of myself turns to fat guy. If I eat well and stay on my workout schedule I feel good. I posted this on reddit awhile back.

 

[marrec]

What about BlindGaf?

Blind GAF is the only people we can trust with a self-assessment for how they look.

 

[Ledsen]

For me I only started feeling confident about myself after I started working out.

When I was just thinner I still felt like I was fat and ugly.

Then I slowly started seeing my now self. I still have issues with it. Especially because my girlfriend has a flawless body and has been fit for her whole life mostly.

If I eat badly my mental image of myself turns to fat guy. If I eat well and stay on my workout schedule I feel good. I posted this on reddit awhile back.

Oh man. You're the Schmidt of this thread. Great job.

 

[terrisus]

Those glasses you were wearing were impressive levels of thickness.

They have a whole bunch of prism and other fun optical stuff in them due to the vision issues I have as a result of my stroke.

Although I did actually get a new pair today which isn't quite so cumbersome.
I'm still having trouble getting used to them, though, since I'm used to the frames being bigger. Apparently that's not really the style these days, though >.>

 

[Kevyt]

I'd say 6.5/10

I'd add 2.5 more to your score.

55-34-21-13+8+5+3+2+1+1=my looks

Clever!

I-see-what-you-did-there.gif.

Terri posted a picture before and he is way too hard on himself. You're a good looking dude, Terri. Those glasses you were wearing were impressive levels of thickness.

This is at me, right? What I meant is I have a degree (in biochem), I'm nearly done with a second in mechanical engineering, own a house, high paying job, own a couple nice cars, no debt etc. etc. I'm still in my 20s. I feel like I'm doing well and it gives me an extremely high level of confidence.

So all those hot guys are clearly gold diggers! jk

You're like a Christian Grey then!

For me I only started feeling confident about myself after I started working out.

When I was just thinner I still felt like I was fat and ugly.

Then I slowly started seeing my now self. I still have issues with it. Especially because my girlfriend has a flawless body and has been fit for her whole life mostly.

If I eat badly my mental image of myself turns to fat guy. If I eat well and stay on my workout schedule I feel good. I posted this on reddit awhile back.

You look like a completely different person and you look great! Congrats dude!

 

[Ahasverus]

I'm curious about this. How long does it take to kind of adjust your own mental image of yourself? I've lost about 60lbs with another 50 or so left to lose and looking in the mirror I think I still look like a fat sack of crap, even if people around me say otherwise.

You never do. I used to weight fatty 170lbs, got to 103 through anorexia, I can safely say I still saw myself fat, but I felt really weak. After bouncing back (or course) I work out and I still feel fat. I know I'm not, but my eyes tell me that. The step you gotta take is to realize your eyes are decieving you.

Terri posted a picture before and he is way too hard on himself. You're a good looking dude, Terri. Those glasses you were wearing were impressive levels of thickness.

WHEREE. NOWW!

 

[daveo42]

I get told otherwise as well and I still feel massive....I lost a lot of weight 5 years ago though. I was heavy for a long time and it really messed with my confidence so I might be worse than others.

Nah...I get the messed up confidence. I've been overweight my entire life so that's the only image I have of myself. I've yet to even find a good way to deal with people complementing me on my weight loss and even when it comes up, I usually divert back to a stance of still having a good deal of weight to lose. Maybe not bad, but I end up downplaying what I've done up to this point.

For me I only started feeling confident about myself after I started working out.

When I was just thinner I still felt like I was fat and ugly.

Then I slowly started seeing my now self. I still have issues with it. Especially because my girlfriend has a flawless body and has been fit for her whole life mostly.

If I eat badly my mental image of myself turns to fat guy. If I eat well and stay on my workout schedule I feel good. I posted this on reddit awhile back.

I need to start on a weight training regime to build muscle since I know my torso is probably a mess of fat and not much else at this point. That might help in building some confidence and losing more fat weight.

That mental image is spot on though when I have a cheat day. I feel like a horrible person eating more garbage foods and that doing so means I'm slipping back into old bad habits.

Btw...looking good man. Congrats on losing the weight and keeping it off!

 

[terrisus]

WHEREE. NOWW!

I did a while back in the LGBTQIA thread.
Didn't leave it up for long, though.

 

[Snkfanatic]

For me I only started feeling confident about myself after I started working out.

When I was just thinner I still felt like I was fat and ugly.

Then I slowly started seeing my now self. I still have issues with it. Especially because my girlfriend has a flawless body and has been fit for her whole life mostly.

If I eat badly my mental image of myself turns to fat guy. If I eat well and stay on my workout schedule I feel good. I posted this on reddit awhile back.

Wow crazy, awesome work!

 

[MarzipaNMOS]

For me I only started feeling confident about myself after I started working out.

When I was just thinner I still felt like I was fat and ugly.

Then I slowly started seeing my now self. I still have issues with it. Especially because my girlfriend has a flawless body and has been fit for her whole life mostly.

If I eat badly my mental image of myself turns to fat guy. If I eat well and stay on my workout schedule I feel good. I posted this on reddit awhile back.

quite the transformation buddy. i was never as big as you but i definitely had some extra weight until I started running senior year of HS. Then i started college & was very skinny until I started working out. up until I graduated I never thought my body looked good until i was complimented by my gf. And bulk/cut cycles certainly didn't help...

 

[kirby_fox]

I don't try to look good, and I still get a lot of women calling me "cute" and obsessing over my eyes being "big and brown"...

But I've also been single majority of my life because I used to be a skinny barely 120 lbs kid, and in gaining 40 lbs it's gone straight to my gut. Add in being only 5'8" and the cute status doesn't usually make me feel all that great. Not to mention I never got braces so my teeth, especially my bottom row, aren't straight.

I think my image issues come mostly from dating sites and having no one interested in me in the slightest. Really makes you feel ugly.

 

[ShemhazaiX]

Borderline 6/7. However if I lost a load of weight and could actually grow decent facial hair I'd be a goddamn 10. >:[

 

[MetalGearZed]

I'd say 6.5/10

Sometimes I feel that number is higher, but other days it's much lower.

This is how I feel about my appearance and not how I may objectively rate it.

Is that you? fuq 8.5--9/10

 

[kingwingin]

before you ask what magazine I cut this out of, it's a picture of me

 

[Ahasverus]

I'd say 6.5/10

Sometimes I feel that number is higher, but other days it's much lower.

This is how I feel about my appearance and not how I may objectively rate it.

Yeaaah no. 8/10 at minumum. Really good looking and already poised to age well based on your features.

 

[SnowHawk]

I'm a 2 or weak 3.

 

[Alchemy]

Trying to work on the confidence thing, but I feel like a 5/10 at best.

Especially when I'm this tired looking:

 

[pixelation]

People posting pictures and saying they are ugly have really low self-esteem and/or are fishing for compliments.

Or maybe some of us have self-image issues?, in my own mind i'm insulting to the naked eye.

 

[FStop7]

Self-confidence coming back after a few years of really fucking up.

 

[Talladega Knight]

I'm a 4, but I think I'm a pretty solid 4. Once I hit the gym, I'm confident I can rise to a 7.

 

[Featheredkitten]

A solid 8/10. Could push to a 9/10 if I really try.

 

[terrisus]

For what it's worth, when I talk about my left arm being messed up from cancer surgery, this is what I'm talking about:
(Pictures in links as opposed to embedded for anyone who might not want to see significant scarring/etc.)

Elbow
Arm

On the plus side, I didn't lose the arm (which they had said going into surgery was a possibility, and we wouldn't know until after the surgery).

But, yeah, that arm's a mess.

 

[Messofanego]

I find it very interesting seeing what people look like and how they rate themselves. The thing is although there may be some universal beauty standards, most often beauty is completely subjective and what one person finds attractive someone else won't.

There are some people who have posted pictures and rated themselves rather highly when I think they would be a lot lower, and vice versa there are Gaffers I think are totally hot but have rated themselves low. But some people might think I'm a 9, some might think I'm a 4. It's all about what you personally find attractive.

I would say I'm probably a 6 on a bad day and an 8 on a good day. All that matters is that someone out there will find you attractive no matter what you think of yourself.

It could be that the environment such as social validation or villification plays a big role. What others think of you transfers to your self-image. "If you tell me I'm ugly, I guess there must be some truth to it, so yeah I'm a bit ugly now."

Also, the lack of validation could be one's projection: "Hey, if I was attractive, then people would definitely point it out to me. But if they're not commenting then I must not be all that."

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

I wonder if the mods would approve side view pic of me nekked, but only PM.

 

[FUME5]

I wonder if the mods would approve side view pic of me nekked, but only PM.

PMing mods dick pics is GAF tradition.

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

Well, like I said, its side view. No dick show or anything. Just my awesome thighs and butt, but side view. Thirsty gaffers would PM me.

 

[terrisus]

PMing mods dick pics is GAF tradition.

RIP White Man's Rule

Well, like I said, its side view. No dick show or anything.

You can do a side view naked without your penis showing?

 

[liliththepale]

For example, I have assessed my looks to be "average." This comes from a combination of how my parents raised me and how others treat me. My parents tell me I'm not attractive and will never get by life coasting on my looks. This tells me I am not very hot. [So, definitely not an 8 or above.]

At the same time, my mother once remarked, "no, you'e not hideous." My parents are very blunt, and I trust them on that, too. Also I have eyes and I can see that I have no obvious physical defects / abnormalities. So, I'm not a 2 or below.

The rest of it comes from how people treat me, as opposed to what they say to me. Since I sometimes am given exemptions and/or free stuff, I can tell that some people at least find me attractive. However, I'm not as pretty as my friends. To translate into numbers, my pretty friends are good looking and some can skate by on looks. 7/8. So, I'd rate myself below that, but given the free stuff treatment, I think I can guess I'm not "barely above paper bag." So.... average. Really, average could be 4 to 6, so easier to say 5. Perfectly average!

Your parents sound really wise.


I think there's a temptation to use the ends of the scale, and for average to be taken as an insult. There's nothing wrong with being average—most people are. You just need to be honest and realistic about it.

 

[Vicetrailia]

As long as one doesn't mind my skin color, I'm an 11/10!!!

 

[Kevyt]

<snip>

I don't trust what other people tell me because no one is ever truthful or honest when it comes to these things. No one is going to actually tell you that you are hideous, because there's a lot of value judgment when it comes to self-worth and appearance. When someone calls someone else "ugly," it's almost always because it's an insult to put-down, not an actual rating.

<snip>

Bunny, I think you're really pretty though! :3

With that said, I have a different definition of average, and I'm assuming other people's average can meam something totally different. You pretty much nailed it. Yep, no one is going to truthfully judge someone based on their looks. At least most people wouldn't. It would be seen as rude and impolite.

We are living in a "love yourself/You're beautiful as you are" culture which is good. It's great. It's about empowering people to feel happy with who they are and what they have. But this makes it hard and uncommon to render a value judgment without possibly offending someone about their looks.

As for me, I am harsh about myself and very self conscious about my appearance. It's a good thing in my opinion, because it allows me to not have any unrealistic expectations when it comes tp finding a partner, romantic someone, special someone, whatever you wanna call it.

I know there are some standard physical characteristics that are shared among groups of people, that they equally seek in their partner. I know I lack certain characteristics and so I and many others try to not expect something they wouldn't expect. In other words, someone out of your league, lol. This is reflected in a person's self image.

"I am ugly" or "I'm not attractive" might seem like fishing for compliments but in reality, as is the case with me, you're just mentally preparing yourself for the worst value judgment anyone could render about you.

Edit: pardon the typos, wrote this on cell and in a rush! ;_;

 

[FUME5]

You can do a side view naked without your penis showing?

Ask him to PM you and then report back.

 

[Rayis]

meh/10

I don't like to pretend I'm good looking when I know I'm not and I don't care a lot about my appearance tbh, I know it could be a lot worse.

 

[Kurt Angle]

5

8 in the ign scale

 

[richardhawk]

Anytime I feel bad about my looks I think about all the women I've slept with. I can't be that ugly, right?

 

[liliththepale]

Anytime I feel bad about my looks I think about all the women I've slept with. I can't be that ugly, right?

More like it must not matter.

We assign arbitrary value to things that aren't directly linked all the time. Like, we want to be attractive so that we get good attention, but does being attractive still matter if you're going to get the good attention anyway?

Just a thought.

 

[Highwind]

Solid 2/10, maybe 4/10 on a good day (not many).

Doesn't help that I am not photogenic but hey what can you do? ¯\_(&#12484_/¯

 

[Santiako]

I don't know, like a 3-4?

linked so it's not out in the open

 

[terrisus]

Anytime I feel bad about my looks I think about all the women I've slept with. I can't be that ugly, right?

I don't think there's necessarily too much correlation.

I consider myself extremely unattractive.
Yet, over the years I've had many girls/women (going back to when I was 15 - I'm 32 now - hence the terminology) who wanted to sleep with me.

On the flip side, I had an extremely difficult time finding anyone who actually wanted to commit to a relationship with me.
And that's probably a large part of the reason for how I view myself.

More like it must not matter.

We assign arbitrary value to things that aren't directly linked all the time.

And, yeah, that.

 

[Noirulus]

5 until I get in shape.

 

[Shpeshal Nick]

7? Compared to the people in my circles id go as high as a 9, but in broader terms, id say my body/face combo is about a 7. Body 8, face 6 so overall a 7.

 

[Az]

5/10

 

[xkramz]

im a solid 7/10

dick wise? 10/10

so yeah..

 

[Makai]

I'm like a 6.

Spoiler

please compliment me

Lol. That's nearly everybody in this thread.

 

[StickSoldier]

Mmm it just depends on how I see myself. I can feel like a 10/10 for awhile, than a 1/10 in a split second. Most of the time girls or guys say I'm good looking, and I did get voted into beautifulpeople.com (lol), but I sure as hell don't feel attractive about 90% of the time.

 

[lem0n]

beard/10

 

[Thug Waffle]

if i had to put a number on it i'd go with a sexy/10

 

[jasonng]

Well at least I'm funny.

 

[marrec]

Well at least I'm funny.

Well, at least you think you're funny.

 

[Audioboxer]

There's always someone more fortunate and less, than yourself, so really prefer I'd just have a pretty/fabulous mind and be a good person. That way you'll attract decent like minded company and looks will take the back seat (outside of general body cleanliness of course, clean yourself GAF).

 

[Makai]

Good enough