InfiniteBento
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I cut ties with my main group of buds.
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Dagobert Duck
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Seems more like drifting apart then cutting ties...keeping up your daily life is exhausting and already a lot to actually do, so of course you cant meet up as much as during school or college...some people just dont want to realize it...
The Lone Courier
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Read the title as cutting off my taste buds.
Sirpopopop
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As someone who has had this happen to him before, I can only tell you three things:
A. People are shit. There's a possibility the well's been poisoned.
B. A confrontation won't help you out. It will just confirm in their minds why they were right to exclude you. They won't be honest with you. They weren't honest with you in the first place, they won't start now.
C. You just need to move on. Get out of your complex if you can. The less you have to see of them, the better.
This is advice from someone who tried the confrontation path. It only succeeded in costing me what little good will I had left.
A. People are shit. There's a possibility the well's been poisoned.
B. A confrontation won't help you out. It will just confirm in their minds why they were right to exclude you. They won't be honest with you. They weren't honest with you in the first place, they won't start now.
C. You just need to move on. Get out of your complex if you can. The less you have to see of them, the better.
This is advice from someone who tried the confrontation path. It only succeeded in costing me what little good will I had left.
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Pancake Mix
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Looks like you drifted apart more than anything. It happens with school friends, unfortunately.
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Soldiussnaku
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You didn't overreact op, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do, no regrets.
I cut all my ties, suddenly and forcefully, with a lot of my high school friends 10 years ago, and.moved on.
Then I did similar with the peeps I knew at college, just less brutally.
Glad I did, a good portion of them fucked up their lives and I've seen the good apples get dragged down by the bad ones.
You did nothing wrong op. Sometimes you just gotta fuck people off.
I cut all my ties, suddenly and forcefully, with a lot of my high school friends 10 years ago, and.moved on.
Then I did similar with the peeps I knew at college, just less brutally.
Glad I did, a good portion of them fucked up their lives and I've seen the good apples get dragged down by the bad ones.
You did nothing wrong op. Sometimes you just gotta fuck people off.
MindCollizion
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Do your other friends who went on the cruise have girlfriends who went on the cruise as well, do they have girlfriends but they didn't go with them, or are they single?
I was in a very similar situation OP, the difference was that I was about 90% sure I knew the reason why I was excluded. I can't deny I was bitter, but I eventually just let it go since I knew starting drama would only make it worse.
OP ask yourself if you want to be their friends again, in which case being confrontational will only make that less likely, or if you don't care anymore and just want answers. I grantee that even if there was a good reason it won't make you feel better, and it sounds like there actually wasn't a good reason anyway. I'd say your response was reasonable, and can't blame you for wanting to cut ties with "the group". Clicks are for stupid high-schoolers anyway just try to stay in contact with the few people in the group who are actually cool friends that's what I did.
OP ask yourself if you want to be their friends again, in which case being confrontational will only make that less likely, or if you don't care anymore and just want answers. I grantee that even if there was a good reason it won't make you feel better, and it sounds like there actually wasn't a good reason anyway. I'd say your response was reasonable, and can't blame you for wanting to cut ties with "the group". Clicks are for stupid high-schoolers anyway just try to stay in contact with the few people in the group who are actually cool friends that's what I did.
SmackCrackleNPop
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Jezbollah
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It sounds like when Friend A became involved in their group, you became the black sheep (not him).
I think it's a pretty powerful statement by them that they would invest in trips away without the slightest thought of involving you.
And I think it was a poor attempt by him to try and preempt any awkwardness of you both living in the same development by inviting you out to his get-together. I think if you guys didn't live in the same vicinity you wouldn't have got an invite.
Dick move by your other friends not to stand up for you too during this while situation.
At the end of the day, I would have thought "I guess we were not all close friends anyway" and move on.
I think it's a pretty powerful statement by them that they would invest in trips away without the slightest thought of involving you.
And I think it was a poor attempt by him to try and preempt any awkwardness of you both living in the same development by inviting you out to his get-together. I think if you guys didn't live in the same vicinity you wouldn't have got an invite.
Dick move by your other friends not to stand up for you too during this while situation.
At the end of the day, I would have thought "I guess we were not all close friends anyway" and move on.
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