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[Sol..]

Josh Hartnett is so hott. My new avatar is going to have him in it.

he has a square head..and sharp elbows

DO NOT WANT

 

[Greatness Gone]

omnomnomnomnom

 

[NekoFever]

I hear they are claiming David Tennant now too.

They have John Barrowman and now they want David Tennant too? No wonder there's so much homophobia in the world!

Spoiler

Take Catherine Tate

 

[Meier]

The Britney love didn't clue her in before?

Fuck, Scooter beat me to it.

 

[Mareg]

wee, I red the title as "I just came out on my mother".

I'm a bit disapointed. Unless your a girl. * goes back to reading the entire thread*

 

[Ajemsuhgao]

I misread the title quite badly, newborn babies posting on gaf would have been truely epic.

I did the same :lol

 

[Acerac]

At this point I'm wondering if all the people misreading the title is a running joke of some sort.

Seriously guys? >_>

 

[lsslave]

At this point I'm wondering if all the people misreading the title is a running joke of some sort.

Seriously guys? >_>

Nah, they are just admitting that they are so into incest that everything looks like it to them

"to" and "of" are entirely different words that don't even look the bloody same X.x

 

[btkadams]

So how many gaymers are on Neogaf? Seems like everyday I see another gaffer say he's gay.

well its not like people make threads about how they are straight, so it probably just seems like a lot. but there is definitely a decent amount of gaymers on gaf

 

[Wizpig]

yeah.. well i actualy kinda read it like that.. .. or came outside my mother.. just something sick.. must be me

Always-honest

But no, seriously, i read the same thing.
Then i read "sexuality" in the first post before reading the whole post and i was all like "oooooh shit".
I don't know if i should be glad or not that that wasn't the case

 

[btkadams]

At this point I'm wondering if all the people misreading the title is a running joke of some sort.

Seriously guys? >_>

its mostly people trying to be funny and really really sucking at it.

ZOMG did you see that?!!! o wait i totally thought btkadams said realy really sucking on it. OMG ROFLLLLMAOOO that was funny.

 

[A Link to the Past]

I misread it as "I came on my mother".

But hey, hope she learns to deal with it and accepts your lifestyle.

 

[Ajemsuhgao]

"to" and "of" are entirely different words that don't even look the bloody same X.x

Seeing "out of" is more common than seeing "out to". Since I was quickly looking over threads, and opening multiple in tabs, I misread it as "I just came out of my mother", thought something was weird about it, and just opened it in a new tab and moved on. :\

 

[Father_Brain]

and accepts your lifestyle.

I really hate to repeat this, but no one who is gay or pro-gay should refer to anyone's sexual orientation as a "lifestyle."

 

[A Link to the Past]

I really hate to repeat this, but no one who is gay or pro-gay should refer to anyone's sexual orientation as a "lifestyle."

Whatever, I just didn't care enough to find a better word for it. Anyone understands what I mean regardless.

 

[Cauliflower of Love]

I really dont feel like "a load has been taken off my back"

Of course not, your always gonna have a load on your back.

 

[domokunrox]

It just happened an hour or so ago. Didnt plan it nor did I ever consider doing it, not because I was ashamed (I'm not) but because I just never thought it was necessary to announce your sexualty to everyone. Its your own bussiness, right?

But I had been going through some much stress and a little bit of depression and I just needed to vent. I told her she wouldnt understand but I thought "what the hell just do it". She's kinda in shock right now and is blaming herself, that it all comes from me not having a constant father figure blah blah blah. She told me she still loves me but that she feels like a failure for having a bisexual son :/

I really dont feel like "a load has been taken off my back" like most say but thats because it was never really a burden to me. I came to terms with it years ago.

I feel odd, I never really talk about my personal life to GAF but I thought this was share-worthy.

Uh, well, you know, Not having a father figure is the leading cause to young males feeling like they're homosexual or bisexual according to research studies, so its not rediculous that she thinks this. Its right up there with Child Molestation, Child Rape, Early prepubescent Sexual experiences, etc.

In fact, there is a study that links divorced parents leading to child homosexuality and the rampant rise of divorce statistics and coming out in the past 40 years.

Mother's are understanding. If you're the only child, imagine what your mother feels especially if she is still single. I'm sure her goals are to support you and hopefully be a grandmother, but you've decided to play the half way point against procreation. Grandmothers typically play important roles in their grandchildren's lives depending on the culture your mother was raised in. Like Filipinos or Mexicans for example. Its very crushing for a parent brought up in these cultures to not be able to fulfill these roles. So, I mean, you have to be understanding. Yes, your life is your business, but your parents are part of your life weather you like it or not. Parents get older and they learn valuable wisdom that help guide you through to your late 30s even.

I hope you don't resent your mom, she sounds like she really loves you. I never had a good relationship with my mom and she drives me nuts all the time, but I still go to her for things because shes mom.

 

[ilikeme]

Oh this just begs for me to tell my own story.

This summer I liked this guy and I was happy so I told him and he told me he didn't like me like that and we talked for 5 hours and a week or so later I felt the need to tell my mother so when I came home from a festival I said "Hi, I'm homosexual!", she was like "Yeah. Did do you think I'd missed that fact? Do you think I'm stupid?" and I was like "I just wanted to tell you" and she was like "Oh, sorry, of course."

Now I just LOVE Britneys new album I listen to dance music all the time and take three different dance classes and I think I sound even more gay than I already did before so I'm a bit nonplussed by the whole situation and I feel like nothing has changed except it has because I feel a little bit better and I think that's worth it.

 

[Mau ®]

UPDATE!

The next things have happened since my coming out:

+ She acted cool about it for 2 weeks then
+ she brought up "recovery" therapy. To that I said a big F U.
+ she has pretty much stoped talking to me and I really dont care.

so yeah pretty shit. But I'm pretty strong about these things.

 

[Weenerz]

You don't need her anymore anyways, after birth, what good is she for?

 

[CurseoftheGods]

And that's why I am not ever coming out to my parents.

 

[castle007]

You don't need her anymore anyways, after birth, what good is she for?

wow....

 

[Mercury Fred]

UPDATE!

The next things have happened since my coming out:

+ She acted cool about it for 2 weeks then
+ she brought up "recovery" therapy. To that I said a big F U.
+ she has pretty much stoped talking to me and I really dont care.

so yeah pretty shit. But I'm pretty strong about these things.

Good for you for standing firm. "Conversion" therapy is a bunch of shit.

I would consider writing her a letter telling her that you are who you are, that you're not going to change and that life is too short for her to be so hard-hearted.

 

[B!TCH]

It's been less than a month. She hasn't kicked you out of the house yet so hopefully she'll come around.

I haven't followed this thread but did your mother or any other family members accuse you of being "gay" before you came out to her?

 

[camineet]

Like others, I too read "I just came on to my mother" and was like, oh man this is gonna be SOME thread.

Then I realize it was only about being.... gay, er, bisexual. Darn.

 

[scitek]

Wow, I still haven't told my parents.

Don't worry, they read GAF.

 

[Mau ®]

It's been less than a month. She hasn't kicked you out of the house yet so hopefully she'll come around.

I haven't followed this thread but did your mother or any other family members accuse you of being "gay" before you came out to her?

The house is actually mine, so no kicking out is taking place.

And nope. Never, not even my friends know it so I have to have a talk every once in a while.

 

[krypt0nian]

Stay strong and remember, if they don't like it fuck em. You only need people in your life that are supportive.

Once she figures that out, you're golden.

 

[Mau ®]

Stay strong and remember, if they don't like it fuck em. You only need people in your life that are supportive.

Once she figures that out, you're golden.

Thanks man

You're probably my favorite gay! Heck my favorite poster! Keep em' threads going!

 

[castle007]

I can't believe some of you people!!

What the hell is this "fuck parents" mentality?? I can kind of understand if you are 15, but other than that...

 

[btkadams]

I can't believe some of you people!!

What the hell is this "fuck parents" mentality?? I can kind of understand if you are 15, but other than that...

because some parents disown their children when they discover that they're gay.

 

[krypt0nian]

I can't believe some of you people!!

What the hell is this "fuck parents" mentality?? I can kind of understand if you are 15, but other than that...

Fuck anyone who isn't supportive in your life. Just because they fucked and had children affords them no respect. They earn that. And if they cannot support their own children after coming to terms with their new honesty, they aren't worth respecting.

 

[Gaborn]

I can't believe some of you people!!

What the hell is this "fuck parents" mentality?? I can kind of understand if you are 15, but other than that...

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"

 

[Osaka]

Hahahaha therapy for being gay? I thought we're living in the 21st century. That's ridiculous!

 

[Ryck]

Hahahaha therapy for being gay? I thought we're living in the 21st century. That's ridiculous!

Yeah when my cousin came out to his mom they sent him to therapy and church. Apparently the therapist was gay too so they just talked about gay stuff.

 

[Ploid 3.0]

I misread the title quite badly, newborn babies posting on gaf would have been truely epic.

lol, I also read it like that, and since babies can't read or post on gaf... yea gross.

 

[norinrad21]

You don't need her anymore anyways, after birth, what good is she for?

ummmmm

Yeah when my cousin came out to his mom they sent him to therapy and church. Apparently the therapist was gay too so they just talked about gay stuff.

:lol :lol :lol

 

[GSG Flash]

I can't believe some of you people!!

What the hell is this "fuck parents" mentality?? I can kind of understand if you are 15, but other than that...

I agree, no matter how much they dislike the way you're living your life and no matter how much they're unsupportive of your choices, in the end they're still your parents, they're still the ones who brought you into this world and brought you up from when you were a baby, I think they deserve quite a bit more respect than just "fuck em".

 

[Gaborn]

Hahahaha therapy for being gay? I thought we're living in the 21st century. That's ridiculous!

As sad as the results are, it's not that uncommon that some people try it.

‘Making Your Marriage Work’
Mike suggested attending a workshop on “Making Your Marriage Work.”

Frank Worthen, an Exodus founder, and his wife, Anita, offered tips on how the ex-gay male can marry a woman and meet the expectations of family and friends. They addressed a classroom packed with about 60 people, about half with what appeared to be their spouses.

“Men are ready for marriage when their desire to be protected becomes a desire to protect,” Frank Worthen said. “A man should also have three years of celibacy,” he added, “and have been free of pornography and masturbation for some time.”

They were many questions.

A middle-aged man with a crew-cut wanted to know he needs to be “free of masturbation.” He was seated next to a woman.

Frank Worthen asked the crowd, “What should be done if a man begins to have same-sex fantasies while making love to his wife?”

A man in the audience said he and his wife pray whenever they make love.

Anita Worthen told the crowd that married couples are responsible for keeping one another sexually satisfied, and that this can present special challenges in a relationship with an ex-gay partner. A wife needs to be prepared to offer extra help so that her husband can have an erection, she said. Also, she said some men do not enjoy the feel of a woman’s skin.

“How can this be overcome?” I asked.

Frank Worthen said men need to become “hard and masculine” in order to be able to enjoy the soft, mushy feel of a woman. To become firmer, it is OK for a man to work out a little bit, he said, just not too much.

He also said that many wives wonder whether their ex-gay husbands will expect them to engage in the “unnatural” sex practices to which they imagine their husbands have become accustomed. Not so, Frank said, and he recommended that couples avoid oral sex, which could stimulate gay fantasies.

The Worthens said physical intimacy should proceed slowly, and it is best to wait until marriage to experiment with deep kissing. There should be no commitment to sexual performance on the wedding night, they said, and some prudent couples wait a year after marriage before even attempting sexual intercourse.

Frank Worthen also warned the crowd that gay friends are a one-way ticket back to “the lifestyle.”

His wife said wives should be prepared to submit to their husbands’ plans. Her husband instructed audience members to practice communication: Be a good listener, put down the paper, he said, make eye contact, and pretend you care.

GSGFlash - What if your parents followed Stephen Bennett's advice and not allow them to bring their partner home for dinner? I'm all for respect, but I think parents also have to respect their children enough to respect their family... if they still want to be a part of their Children's lives that is:

“Straight talker” Stephen Bennett gets in the spirit of Thanksgiving on today’s show. (11.23.05 Real Audio / Windows Media) (+7:47) Stephen: Homosexuals are desperately looking for acceptance and they will do everything and anything possible to force you to give in to them. You may do the slightest act of kindness toward them and they will immediately misconstrue that as you are giving them full approval now of their homosexuality. Let me give you a final word on this. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having your child there for the holidays, you should show that unconditional love, allow your child to be there, have the whole family together. That doesn’t mean you have to be forced by your child in having the partner come. Let your child come by himself or herself.

 

[Tornado Condor]

Yeah when my cousin came out to his mom they sent him to therapy and church. Apparently the therapist was gay too so they just talked about gay stuff.

:lol :lol

 

[krypt0nian]

I agree, no matter how much they dislike the way you're living your life and no matter how much they're unsupportive of your choices, in the end they're still your parents, they're still the ones who brought you into this world and brought you up from when you were a baby, I think they deserve quite a bit more respect than just "fuck em".

I find that ridiculous. If someone treats you with respect, you give respect. If someone is unsupportive of their own children they are beneath crap.

Guess you would respect them if they were physically abusive too?

 

[FF_VIII]

Oh....

I read it as "came on"

Damn

 

[Calcaneus]

Guys, I totally read the title as "I just came out to my mother" lol:lol

 

[krypt0nian]

Guys, I totally read the title as "I just came out to my mother" lol:lol

Um that's the title. So good reading!

We would have accepted "I just came out of my mother" but thanks for playing.

 

[Calcaneus]

Um that's the title. So good reading!

That's the point. Kinda dumb that we have at least 10 posts talking about how they misread the title in different ways.

 

[krypt0nian]

That's the point. Kinda dumb that we have at least 10 posts talking about how they misread the title in different ways.

To be fair, given GAF's tendencies it would read better as out of my mother.

 

[GSG Flash]

I find that ridiculous. If someone treats you with respect, you give respect. If someone is unsupportive of their own children they are beneath crap.

Guess you would respect them if they were physically abusive too?

Yes I would. I guess I just have a higher opinion of parenthood and parents (who actually bring up their kids) in general than you do.

 

[Gaborn]

oh god, I just found the original source for that Stephen Bennett quote I linked above.

:lol :lol :lol :lol :lol

 

[krypt0nian]

Yes I would. I guess I just have a higher opinion of parenthood and parents (who actually bring up their kids) in general than you do.

Wow talk about abused wife syndrome. I take people as they are. Family only means something if they behave like family.

 

[Kinitari]

I can't believe some of you people!!

What the hell is this "fuck parents" mentality?? I can kind of understand if you are 15, but other than that...

My dad left the family when I was 8, he used to think I was gay because I was left handed and would torture me to act more manly. I then saw him once every few years when he'd come to visit (he works for Total, so he shuttles between the red sea and Ethiopia most of the time) and he'd be a lazy jerk every single time, irregardless of my age, he'd try to get me to go to the corner store to buy him cigarettes. 6 Months ago he was visiting again and I could barely muster up the energy to see him - but I thought, this person is my father, he is getting old and is not in the best health being a chain smoker and all... at least let him know his son a bit. I asked him to go out with me, to a restaurant or a movie or anything, do something cool together. He said he doesn't do that sort of thing and just told me he wanted to watch the news, and if I wanted I could come over and sit with him. Oh and, on the way over, pick up a pack of cigarettes for him.

Fuck him.