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[Monocle]

What would this thread look like if you reversed the OP's gender?

What's the point of pointless hypotheticals? Everyone already knows there's a sexual double standard in society. What do we gain by contemplating a different version of this thread about a different version of events?

You don't need to be very hot for that. I've been hit on by creepy guys on public transport several times, and I'd consider my attractiveness slightly below average

Part of me wants to find a hopeful message in this, like there's someone out there for everyone. But then I remember we're talking about jerks who, at best, go out of their way to make other people feel uncomfortable.

 

[Kaizer]

Cruiser trails huh? Guess you learn something new everyday, I'd never heard of that term or knew that hiking trails were a common hookup spot. Makes a lot of sense though. Looking at the pic OP posted, it's easy to see why he'd attract a certain amount of attention.

 

[lenovox1]

Hey OP, hope you can exercise without the sexual harassment.

He shouldn't have to research anything before going for a run, victim blaming in here is atrocious.

He shouldn't.

But if his favorite hiking trail is a crusing spot there's nothing he can do about it besides becoming unattractive or hiking with a friend or borrowing a big dog. It's like inadvertently walking into a gay bar, but worse.

Eventually regulars will get the hint, but there's always going to be new people who have no idea he's straight.

 

[Monocle]

He posted a pic

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=205560223&postcount=86

Ah thanks, I missed that.

This guy was actually ok. He was this huge guy. When he started rubbing my shoulders I shot up like 10 feet in the air. I told him I wasn't into that and he was like all right man you said your peace. Then he left. Here is a pic of myself.

The guy that followed me in the car was definitely the worse. Who does that?

Oh, I see. You've got a kind of Sebastian Stan thing going on. Yep, no mystery here.

Sorry about your hotness. Those creeps aren't your fault, but I will say you're probably a lot of people's type. Just do your thing and decline advances, I guess.

 

[the_batman]

you're lucky you weren't hurt/killed, OP.

 

[Morrigan Stark]

I had no idea this (hiking parks being cruising spots) was a thing...

stop going to known cruising sites

Stop victim-blaming. What he got is borderline sexual harassment. (Or in the case of the dude who followed him for 5 miles, not even borderline) And that ain't cool.

OP reminds me of this:

Why Do All These Homosexuals Keep Sucking My Cock?

LOL, I thought of that too, good ol' Onion

 

[lenovox1]

you're lucky you weren't hurt/killed, OP.

I think the only major murder at these types of spots has been, ironically, the case the 1980s film Crusing is based on. Most of these spots are pop up because they're "safe" spaces where a certain type of gentleman can have illicit sex.

 

[lawnchair]

i had no idea there were gay cruising spots in the woods. seems antiquated. why not just use grindr or splurtr or squirtr or whatever app

 

[jstripes]

Hey OP, hope you can exercise without the sexual harassment.

He shouldn't have to research anything before going for a run, victim blaming in here is atrocious.

Ya, it's kind of ridiculous.

Cruiser trails huh? Guess you learn something new everyday, I'd never heard of that term or knew that hiking trails were a common hookup spot. Makes a lot of sense though. Looking at the pic OP posted, it's easy to see why he'd attract a certain amount of attention.

I know public washrooms in certain parks are hook-up points, but I've never heard of hiking trails being popular for that either.

Guess it's different from region to region.

i had no idea there were gay cruising spots in the woods. seems antiquated. why not just use grindr or splurtr or squirtr or whatever app

Why are there still porn shops with the internet around? Old habits die hard.

 

[Harmen]

I once had some issues with my car (backlights stopped working) and stopped near to a well known meeting sex spot, without knowing it. Over the course of 30 minutes or so, like three dudes came to my window being weird/creepy. And others walked past the car staring at my window. I didn't understand at all, but noticed there were an awful lot of other cars with people entering some distance ahead of me. Then the car maintenance guy finally arrived and he told me where I was, suddenly it made sense. Maybe it is one of those meeting spots? (or maybe one is near there).

 

[MisterNoisy]

TIL that hiking trails are the low-fi version of Tindr/Grindr for weirdos.

themoreyouknow.gif

Bring a camp knife or machete with you next time, OP.

 

[halfbeast]

i had no idea there were gay cruising spots in the woods. seems antiquated. why not just use grindr or splurtr or squirtr or whatever app

because a lot of them aren't

Spoiler

officially

gay.

 

[oti]

He shouldn't.

But if his favorite hiking trail is a crusing spot there's nothing he can do about it besides becoming unattractive or hiking with a friend or borrowing a big dog. It's like inadvertently walking into a gay bar, but worse.

Eventually regulars will get the hint, but there's always going to be new people who have no idea he's straight.

That's just terrible.

 

[HORRORSHØW]

Usually people are doing their own thing where I used to hike. I had a group of teens ask me for water once, though.

 

[PeskyToaster]

Sounds like you found your neighborhood's "cruising" spot.

If only there was something guys could where that said "I'm not gay."

Cargo pants?

 

[Nameless]

There's this secluded little river lookout deep in the trail. I'll stop there to rest or read on long hikes sometimes and had never encountered another person. This particular morning my dog was laying in front of me and shot to his feet all of a sudden. When I turn around there's this SKETCHY looking middle aged dude walking up behind me from out of the woods instead of the trail. He has no pack, no water, no nothing, just a white tee, white shorts, and sneakers. My dog postures up agressively but doesn't bark or growl and the guy stops, about 10 feet away. He says something small talkie, I give a short reply, and then there's this incredibly akward 10 second silence/stare dowm before I say 'well, have a good one' zip up and go. I glance back before the trail turns and he's still just standing there... staring

TL;Dr - Get yourself a 105lb Akita, OP.

 

[Pryce]

What the fuck? "Cruising" spots?

Why is this a thing? Jesus.

 

[LaMagenta]

My wife stopped jogging in certain areas because of the same reasons. It was either transients or randos cat calling in a hiking/jogging trail. I don't get it.

Yes that's very sad. My bf used to have a hard time understanding why I don't like walking anywhere. I learned not to like walking since i was a kid at 12.cars honking, cat calling, horrible.

 

[oti]

Hold on a second HOLD ON.
I just remembered something. At my university I had to go to another building on campus for one of my lectures. The toilettes are located on the ground level. When I went I found two really creepy dudes who looked nothing like students at all, they didn't have backpacks with them and they looked like mid 40 or something. They threw a look at me as if they were waiting for something to happen. I didn't think much of it back then but reading this...

Oh my gooooooood.

 

[the_batman]

This guy was actually ok. He was this huge guy. When he started rubbing my shoulders I shot up like 10 feet in the air. I told him I wasn't into that and he was like all right man you said your peace. Then he left. Here is a pic of myself.

The guy that followed me in the car was definitely the worse. Who does that?

no offense, but you look like a twink. that could explain why all the gay guys gave you so much attention.

 

[FyreWulff]

Yep, my mom, gfs, and friends usually ask me or another friend to go with them when they hike/jog trails. It's maddening that they have to, but creepers creep the most when women are alone. Just having a big ass dude walking next to them will prevent them from even starting.

But even for dudes it's best to have a buddy with you.

 

[Mariah Carey]

Here is a pic of myself.

Oh lord, I don't know if there's any way to say this that doesn't sound (or is) horrible, so I'll just go ahead - you look like a gay guy.

Ugh, I feel dirty even saying that, so DISCLAIMER: I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm not saying all gay guys look the same way, I'm not trying to undermine your masculinity or question your sexuality, and I'm definitely not trying to make some "well you shouldn't go out there dressed like that" type of argument (or any argument at all pertaining to your situation, really). Honest!

Just jotting down the honest first observation that ran through my head is all. You definitely fit the general profile that first comes to mind when I try to think 'young white (?) American gay man'. You look good, in any case.

 

[oti]

Yeeeeeep. The university toilet is one of those spots. I googled the name of it and cruising and there it is. It even has a rating lol.

 

[halfbeast]

Yeeeeeep. They university toilet is one of those spots. I googled the name of it and cruising and there it is. It even has a rating lol.

how much out of 5?

 

[Dash_Riprock]

What the fuck? "Cruising" spots?

Why is this a thing? Jesus.

Gay people have needs too, dude.

 

[PeskyToaster]

Yes that's very sad. My bf used to have a hard time understanding why I don't like walking anywhere. I learned not to like walking since i was a kid at 12.cars honking, cat calling, horrible.

12? Damn. As as a dude who's fairly "with it" there's still multiple worlds out there that you just never get to see. Like I've never had second thoughts about just going for a walk at night or stuff like that. Just never thought about these things I guess.

 

[fester]

But people walking their dogs without a leash bother me more.

After being bit by an unleashed dog while out for a run, I now carry wrist-strap pepper spray with me at all times. Fuck that shit.

 

[oti]

how much out of 5?

3/5

 

[SmellyHoundRedux]

So someone gives you a free back massage and they're a creep? Sheesh, what an ego.

 

[Gabriel_Logan]

no offense, but you look like a twink. that could explain why all the gay guys gave you so much attention.

Oh lord, I don't know if there's any way to say this that doesn't sound (or is) horrible, so I'll just go ahead - you look like a gay guy.

Ugh, I feel dirty even saying that, so DISCLAIMER: I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm not saying all gay guys look the same way, I'm not trying to undermine your masculinity or question your sexuality, and I'm definitely not trying to make some "well you shouldn't go out there dressed like that" type of argument (or any argument at all pertaining to your situation, really). Honest!

Just jotting down the honest first observation that ran through my head is all. You definitely fit the general profile that first comes to mind when I try to think 'young white (?) American gay man'. You look good, in any case.

Lol time to get swole. Here's me with a beard, do I look less gay?


https://imgur.com/3d5qNzX

 

[Sai-kun]

gay people have beards too

you're not safe

 

[Lead]

This always worries me. My girlfriend goes hiking everyday, sometimes multiple times per day. She's 4'8 and 101 lbs wet. It worries me a lot. She's been safe so far but has been creeped out a few times by people. I got her mace and a knife. Not sure what else to do.

I hope that knife doesn't give her a false sense of confidence and security, unless you're absolutely mentally prepared to go into a knife fight it wont work.

If she's going to carry a lethal weapon give her a gun and take her to concealed carry training.

If guns are not an option I would stick with the spray.

 

[KodaRuss]

You're running/hiking in a cruising location. Same thing happened to me. I used to eat lunch at a park near my work, and had all these weird interactions with dudes who seemed to be looking to get it on. I asked one of my gay friends about it and he told me I was eating lunch at one of Dallas's cruisiest parks, where gay, bicurious, whatever dudes go to get a little suck on out in the woods.

Reverchon Park? I used to live over there.

 

[LUFTRAUSER]

What the fuck? "Cruising" spots?

Why is this a thing? Jesus.

 

[the_batman]

Lol time to get swole. Here's me with a beard, do I look less gay?

https://imgur.com/3d5qNzX

no, you're too pretty.

 

[uncredited male]

Lol time to get swole. Here's me with a beard, do I look less gay?


https://imgur.com/3d5qNzX

You are going to have to learn to carry this burden.

 

[Monocle]

Oh lord, I don't know if there's any way to say this that doesn't sound (or is) horrible, so I'll just go ahead - you look like a gay guy.

Ugh, I feel dirty even saying that, so DISCLAIMER: I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm not saying all gay guys look the same way, I'm not trying to undermine your masculinity or question your sexuality, and I'm definitely not trying to make some "well you shouldn't go out there dressed like that" type of argument (or any argument at all pertaining to your situation, really). Honest!

Just jotting down the honest first observation that ran through my head is all. You definitely fit the general profile that first comes to mind when I try to think 'young white (?) American gay man'. You look good, in any case.

I have a pretty good gaydar and I didn't get the vibe.

Lol time to get swole. Here's me with a beard, do I look less gay?


https://imgur.com/3d5qNzX

You didn't look especially gay before, but the beard does make you more masculine. But then you've got a whole new problem: you look like a hot dad and guys with no shame won't even care if you're straight or not.

Sometimes beauty is a curse.

 

[Replicant]

Just hiking trails?

It's happened to me on toilets in mall. Guys staring while I just want to take a pee or washing my hand. If I want to hook up I'll use Grindr or Hornet not on some random toilet with unsavoury-looking men.

Lol time to get swole. Here's me with a beard, do I look less gay?

You'll get hit on too on the gym. Maybe in less obvious manners. But there have been times when this guy follow me around.

But, it's not a reason to get stressed out. I usually just ignore them or move away. And if they start talking to you, give them the coldest response possible. One that is unmistakenly say that you're not interested in talking to them, let alone them. Or immediately put on a headphone when they are in the vicinity and then talking to another guy that you actually like/know. Always works.

EDIT: I forgot, straight guys when interested in getting to know you in the gym also behaves like the above (looking at you, engaging you in convo, flexing in front of you to the point of covering the goddamn mirror you're trying to see, etc) so don't immediately assume they are gay. lol.

 

[TickleMeElbow]

Lol time to get swole. Here's me with a beard, do I look less gay?


https://imgur.com/3d5qNzX

I think it's the eyebrows dude. Judging by the other pic it looks like you pluck them or something. Plus you have innocent dreamy looking eyes like a child who just saw the twinkling stars in the night sky for the first time haha.

 

[O Canada Our Home and Native Land]

There's movie about this called Stranger by the Lake. Um, it's an interesting movie that I wasn't prepared for. I guess that comes with the territory when you rent movies by reviews without looking at the subject matter.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stranger_by_the_Lake

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

Holy shit I just googled cruising and my area, there's a site with trails around me, and fast food/store toilet listings with fucking ratings and descriptions. What the fuck is this?!


Kinda makes me wonder what kind of other seedy shit goes down that we have no clue about.

 

[markofhavoc]

I had a friend walk off the trail and run into three dudes fucking each other, you can run into a lot of things on trails

 

[braves01]

Holy shit I just googled cruising and my area, there's a site with trails around me, and fast food/store toilet listings with fucking ratings and descriptions. What the fuck is this?!

Part of gay culture that really is unnecessary nowadays. If you're gay, please get a room instead of doing this in public places. This is part of the reason there are so few public restrooms where we need them.

 

[Replicant]

Part of gay culture that really is unnecessary nowadays. If you're gay, please get a room instead of doing this in public places. This is part of the reason there are so few public restrooms where we need them.

9 out of 10 these men are not openly/self-accepting gay men. Those are using apps to hook up.

The ones who cruise in public are usually closeted 'straight' men (who probably has a wife) or bicurious people who don't want their face plastered in hook-up apps.

 

[DorkLord54]

Holy shit I just googled cruising and my area, there's a site with trails around me, and fast food/store toilet listings with fucking ratings and descriptions. What the fuck is this?!


Kinda makes me wonder what kind of other seedy shit goes down that we have no clue about.

I looked it up too. Thankfully I live in Michigan, where winters are brutal and summers melt the skin and flesh off your bones, so most of the cruising spots in my area are public bathrooms and university buildings. Seeing as I'm a person who loves to bike, I'm pretty happy about this, as I would rather not deal with people hitting on me thinking I'm looking for a hook-up.

 

[freenudemacusers]

i had no idea there were gay cruising spots in the woods. seems antiquated. why not just use grindr or splurtr or squirtr or whatever app

Maybe they're all using hikr

 

[lenovox1]

There's movie about this called Stranger by the Lake. Um, it's an interesting movie that I wasn't prepared for. I guess that comes with the territory when you rent movies by reviews without looking at the subject matter.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stranger_by_the_Lake

I still don't get the point of its ending.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

Part of gay culture that really is unnecessary nowadays. If you're gay, please get a room instead of doing this in public places. This is part of the reason there are so few public restrooms where we need them.

That's what surprised me, I thought I was well versed in gay culture having djed gay clubs and hanging out with that crowd. No one ever mentioned cruising trails haha.

 

[Gabriel_Logan]

I still don't get the point of its ending.

I'm guessing he's about to kill him as he's called out his position. Probably going to get his throat slashed like the other guy? Who for some reason wanted that? France is so crazy.

 

[Pryce]

Gay people have needs too, dude.

You don't do this shit in public.