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I live with the most disgusting person on earth. (Long ass ranting))

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Set up a secret camera in his room and threaten to post it on Youtube if he doesn't change his ways
Also maybe if you make him realize how gross he is he might change
 
Uhh...

Dude, the rooms that you worked on look awesome and quite lovely. Seriously, excellent work. My god I would never step a foot in that place though. I don't care what you promised your now dead aunt - not to be harsh, but she's not going to care now. Time to kick your Uncle and Brother out.

I feel bad for whoever eventually ends up in that house without knowing the disgusting history of it =/
 
OP, your renovation is fantastic. You should be proud of that because it looks great. I was disgusted by what I read. You have the patience of a saint. You really do. I don't know if I would be able to keep my cool in your situation. Isn't there somewhere he can go live?

Ugh I can't even imagine having to make decisions like this.
 
This may in fact not be hyperbole. I think you need to move everyone out into a professional care facility before the home is condemned.
 
I agree with the other posters in that you are acting very selfless, certainly more patient than the rest of us. However, it really seems like you are enabling their behaviour despite your best intentions. I would strongly consider institutionalizing him, he does seem unable to function in society by himself.
 
Anyone remember that blog post by someone going through the room of some obese woman that was living in his house? She all of a sudden disappeared and he tried to clean up her stuff, only to find poop everywhere. Like seriously everywhere, in bags, in the bed, in the couch... There was just poop everywhere, in everything that poop could be smeared on.
 
WoodenLung said:
Anyone remember that blog post by someone going through the room of some obese woman that was living in his house? She all of a sudden disappeared and he tried to clean up her stuff, only to find poop everywhere. Like seriously everywhere, in bags, in the bed, in the couch... There was just poop everywhere, in everything that poop could be smeared on.
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Shoulda worn poop pants like your dog
 
Hope you don't lose all that work. :(

Someone already said this, but I think it bears repeating. You are not the help your family needs right now.
 
OP, I am nearly in tears after reading the thread.
You are as brave and as strong a person as I've ever met.
You deserve to live a happy life, surrounded by people who love you and bring you joy.

Please update this thread after the hearing on Thursday; I hope you are granted full ownership of the house.
After that the first step should be contacting social services and getting your uncle into some kind of supervised living arrangement. Tell them everything you've said in this thread, make it clear he is dangerous to himself and everyone else in the house.

I'm happy that your brother seems to have started reforming, and I think he can become a functional, sociable person again if he continues to get help and treatment. He is lucky to have such a wonderful brother in you, and you were wise to send him away from the house for a year.

There is hope the two of you can rebuild a brotherly relationship in the long term, and I think any effort spent should be in that area.
Your capacity for empathy is truly extraordinary and inspiring. But I think now is the time to concentrate that empathy on clearer and more attainable goals.
Continuing to support your uncle is only going to cost you more time and energy which would better be devoted to yourself and your brother.

Feel free to update this thread whenever you feel the need to vent, or would just like to hear additional points of view.
Also feel free to PM if you prefer.

Please take care of yourself in the meantime.
 
When the courts asked me to press charges when he hit me with the hammer...I couldn't do it.
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I actually did get him kicked out of the house for a full year after he trashed the backyard when I got him jailed for twenty four hours after he beat me in the street with a metal baseball bat and tried to run me over.
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He's still my brother, and he's the only sibling I have.
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Yeah, now you've crossed the line from "saint" to "doormat". Sounds like battered wife syndrome. You need to make some smart decisions.
 
Beautiful job on the renovations, OP. And it's quite a feat to stay patient when someone literally pisses all over your hard work. Must be tough living with such a difficult family. I'm keeping my eye on this thread.
 
Woah. OP, more important than your house, you need to fix your uncle and brother. Or at least have them evicted. There is no way I would put up with that kind of shit even for a week. But I guess it's different when you've gotten used to it.

These assholes are drowning you man.

The house is gorgeous btw. Great job.
 
I'm glad I finished eating before reading this.

OP, you really need to have something done about your uncle and brother. They sound like they're seriously ill, and they need help.
 
I was about to post "there's always someone worse", but after reading the OP and the subsequent posts I'm not too sure about that. You're a stronger man than I, OP, I would've cut all ties to my family a long time ago.

That said, the uncle seriously needs some professional help. You can't do anything for him, he needs to be locked away in an asylum or a hospital where people can care for him 24/7. This man is clearly not right in his head and it sounds like you can't do anything for him.
 
Oh my god. I hope you get the place sold and get far, far away from it all as soon as possible.

It must be heartbreaking seeing family self-destruct, but you're not safe there. You should be miles away, living the happy life you deserve with people who love you in return.
 
Just wanted to say that you did amazing work on the house, OP. Those pictures are incredible.

Hope your situation works out.
 
Kick him out/put him in a hospital or a Home or something..
It's frustrating watching a house like that being ruined over and over. For fuck's sake he pisses on the floor? Is he mentally ill!
 
This reminds me of my situation with my mother...for a while there she simply "gave up" and when depression sets in, the first thing to go is hygiene. Your uncle clearly has issues...whether it be depression or alcoholism, he needs help.

With my mom, I had to bare down and lay down the law and force her to conform to some semblance of normality. Tough love is best here...don't give up and good luck!

Edit: Just read your post that he hit you with a hammer...fuck him. Start video taping and recording everything and get him out. If you haven't, I highly suggest contacting a lawyer and see what recourse there is to forcibly move him out.

It's one thing to be a fucking louse but it's quite another to beat on a relative that is (quite literally) picking up his shit. What a dick...get him out.
 
Damn, what a beautiful house.

But really OP, I know family is important and all but there is a limit to what you should have to put up with.
 
You did a beautiful job with the house. Based on the situation you described, your uncle is in dire need of full time professional care. For the sake of his health and your life, find a better place for him whether he approves or not.

Those pictures of that filthy room motivated me to clean my house.
 
You're a good person Joe. I couldn't imagine putting up with those kinds of problems. What you did with the house is pretty incredible as well, awesome job with it.

Good luck with your hearing this week! We gotta have another fighting game session sometime.
 
You're going to be doing him a favor by getting him out of the house for good and in some kind of institution. I highly doubt he can fight you in court over this. Stop being so nice, it's dumb.
 
Holy crackers, I thought for sure the thread title was an exaggeration. I think I speak for all of us saying that you're quite entititled to complain/rant as much as you want. I really hope you can get everything sorted out though, that's no way to live your life.
 
This story is so crazy. All I can say is the house looks gorgeous (the parts you fixed up, anyway). Good luck to you. Others have given good advice here.
 
Well, my dad would piss in random places when he got really drunk, maybe a few times a month or so, but he worked for a living and kept the house and his room clean. Then he became sober.

It looks like he does have a mental illness.
 
Get a court order, say he's not fit for living in an un assisted facility.

Get him the fuck out of there. Fuck that guy. He's just walking meat at this point.
 
Brother or not, I suffer for noone, should have thrown him in jail, he needs to gain some perspective and he needs to suffer the consequences of his actions, that is the only way he will change, otherwise he will keep taking advantage of you, good luck
 
He is very very ill. Addiction is a terrible disease and there is only hope, if the patient has some sort of motivation to battle his illness.

You are not able to help any alcoholic or drug addict by supporting his lifestyle. There is no compromise in this. Try to get medical professionals and authorities involved in this chaos and get him in therapy or leave him alone (but not in your direct vicinity, you have to KEEP DISTANCE, otherwise you will be affected too by his mental state).

You seem to be a very altruistic guy. That's fantastic and admirable. BUT IT DOESN'T HELP ANY OF YOU.
 
OP, how is he getting the beer? Are you supplying it to him? If he's too lazy to walk to the bathroom, I suspect he's not the one going out to the beer store.
 
Is him defecating all over the place to get back at you or is he just lazy? I've seen some homeless people with better hygiene than this.
 
Wow, if you really put up with all that shit and still managed to turn up making over the house i admire you.

The house looks beautiful, but after everything you said, i'll be damned if i ever put a foot inside that bathtub...

I don't really know how to put it, but i guess that life sometimes just puts you through bad situations, in my eyes, your family is that situation, going by what you have said so far, you have made as much as a human could do to help these people that just don't want to help themselves, and as much as you love your mother and try to get along with your brother and uncle and hope for everyone to get better, you gotta love yourself first and look up to something better and if i was someone close to you i wouldn't judge you if you wanted to take your uncle and brother out of it, and don't let your mom guilt you through this situation.

OP you deserve better in life.
 
aw man, I was going to share a story about my disgusting brother eating his feet at the kitchen table, but Op wins hands down. That's terrible, and you should probably seek therapy for yourself/family and learn to move on. Nice renovations BTW.
 
Prost said:
aw man, I was going to share a story about my disgusting brother eating his feet at the kitchen table, but Op wins hands down. That's terrible, and you should probably seek therapy for yourself/family and learn to move on. Nice renovations BTW.
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You mean eating with his feet, right?
 
Sounds like extreme mental illness prolonged by substance abuse. Not a good combination at all. You shouldn't really be responsible for any of this anymore. Such poor hygiene is a strong sign of severe mental illness. They need professional care and treatment. I wouldn't be surprised if it was discovered to be something like schizophrenia worsened by alcohol abuse.

Family or not, get them help and get out.

You did great work with the house, by the way.

Also let's just clear this up. Addiction alone does not escalate to this degree. Usually a case like this is a much more severe case. Usually dual disorders. Addiction meant to self - medicate the major problem.
 
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