Awesome. That took a lot of courage. If you need to talk to anyone, we are here or we can find someone local to talk to for you.
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I was just robbed and abused
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Awesome. That took a lot of courage. If you need to talk to anyone, we are here or we can find someone local to talk to for you.
Vigilant Walrus
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Very sorry to hear that
RecRoulette
Member
Great! I know that was a really hard thing for you to do.
Just remember, don't apologize, it wasn't your fault. If you have any friends you can talk to for support, that would be a good thing to do. Even that relative of yours would work if you have no one else.
StarCreator
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If you don't report it they definitely won't do anything. Don't make this a self-fulfilling prophecy. Get help.
FunkyPajamas
Member
You did the right thing. That took courage, good on you.
I think you should report it, really. Is there other place you can go for a few days until you feel better? Or do you have any friends that you can confide in that can show you support? You mentioned you're new in town. Any work buddies or such?
Don't be sorry. You're understandably upset. Think about it for a while, but I think you should continue to escalate it to the proper authorities.
hydrophilic attack
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Damn that really sucks
I can understand OP. Often times I just bail on things rather than deal with them. Just as an example I found I'd rather lose $600 personally than deal with going to court.
Now that said, there is nothing stopping this man from hurting you again. In fact, there is a good chance he will. Criminals get more confident as they keep getting away with crime.
Now that said, there is nothing stopping this man from hurting you again. In fact, there is a good chance he will. Criminals get more confident as they keep getting away with crime.
thetrin
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I'm so so sorry this happened to you OP. I can totally understand why you did what you did, and from your perspective, it may not have seemed like as large a risk as it ended up being.
Please be safe.
Please be safe.
echoshifting
Banned
How horrible. I'm so sorry op. None of this is your fault.
cooljeanius
Member
This is false, regardless of if you're straight or gay or whatever. Getting rejected can be soul-crushing.
lvl99 Pixel
Member
I dont think I could ever open up to someone I just smoked weed with once. People can be shitty even when you knew them for years :/
How far did the abuse go? If you don't report it you KNOW he will do it again. Please reconsider or leave the area forever
Charles Foster Kane
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I am so anxious and paranoid now. I moved to another house near (same neighborhood) where I lived last month just 2 days ago.
I can't just leave. And I know I will see him again.
I can't just leave. And I know I will see him again.
FPS murderer
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Well, Latin American countries tend to be more conservative/very Catholic influenced even in their judicial system. Most of the times there's not such "church separate from state" thing we have in the USA. I know, because I grew up in one of these such countries.
I do hope OP gets justice, but knowing Latin American countries... I have little hope for him.
This. Don't let him get away with what he did and don't be afraid of retaliation.
EDIT: I see you called the police. Did you get your phone back?
George Washington
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Good. Please report it the government agency. This behavior is inexcusable and will only get worse if you don't curb it now. He might do it again to you, or to someone else.
I'm happy to hear that you took the first step which is usually the hardest. Don't be sorry for any of this; you have no fault. Better days are ahead; stay strong.
You gotta be one of those moles. Have got to be lmao.
OP should report this, but with caution tbh.
Baron Aloha
A Shining Example
Edit: you called the cops... GOOD!
Hate crime. Call the cops immediately!
There is a point. #1 so he learns its not ok and goes to jail where he belongs. #2 - you have no guarantee he won't do anything either way. He might decide to come back and do something worse "because he can".
Hate crime. Call the cops immediately!
There is a point. #1 so he learns its not ok and goes to jail where he belongs. #2 - you have no guarantee he won't do anything either way. He might decide to come back and do something worse "because he can".
It's understandable, but you still did the right thing. You don't have any relative or friend at all that will help you? Try contacting someone, as last resort there must be some LGBT organization somewhere that could help you.
I'm not very familiar of police efficiency in Costa Rica but I know it's at least better than in most of Latin-America, at the very least you reporting him already sets a precedent that will help you in the future.
Buena suerte y ánimo.
Head of Vengarl
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So sorry to hear that OP.
Please reconsider reporting him to the police. I know you're scared of retaliation, but as someone else pointed out, if you do nothing then he'll think he can get away with this kind of stuff.
Edit: Saw you called them. Good for you. Stay strong.
Edit: Saw you called them. Good for you. Stay strong.
Sorry you had to deal with this. But yes, you should call the cops
Took bravery to report that, good on you. I'd go on and report to the govt agency as well, no reason to do this halfway once you've already started.
You said you're gonna run into this guy again—is that just because the neighborhood is small? Or are there ways you could avoid interacting with hima gain?
Even though you (understandably) don't want to fully confide in your family member, maybe you can tell them something more general—person x is shady let me know if you ever see him around, etc.
it is slightly suspicious that "malcolm" is misspelled in a Malcolm X-referencing username
You said you're gonna run into this guy again—is that just because the neighborhood is small? Or are there ways you could avoid interacting with hima gain?
Even though you (understandably) don't want to fully confide in your family member, maybe you can tell them something more general—person x is shady let me know if you ever see him around, etc.
it is slightly suspicious that "malcolm" is misspelled in a Malcolm X-referencing username
Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
This this this.
If you can't do it, have someone do it for you.
Sorry this happened to you, OP. I'm proud of you for being brave enough to call 911 and report it. Now you need to be brave again and follow up with reporting and info to all the other people you need to get it to so this won't happen to someone else. Hope everything works out for you, keep your head up!
echoshifting
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Op, maybe add a line to your first post to let people know you've already called the cops
NorthAndSouth
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That's terrible OP, I am so so sorry that happened to you. It took a lot of courage to report and I really hope that the sick piece of crap that hurt you will be caught!
Please stay strong. I know that it may be early for you, but do you know of a helpline or another anon outlet with which you can ask for further support?
Please stay strong. I know that it may be early for you, but do you know of a helpline or another anon outlet with which you can ask for further support?
TimeEffect
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If you are too afraid, is there anyone you can tell to help u thru it? Maybe there is a gay support group in your city or soemthing?
SugarDaddy
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Hope you don't let that asshole steal your peace of mind.
You did the right thing by reporting it just to get it on record.
Dude is a piece of slime, and don't you lose one ounce of thought on that asshole.
Just try to relax and do something fun to keep your mind off it.
Also feel free to pm me if u ever want to talk, not sure if you remember me or not but you've always seemed like a good guy and I remember talking to you a long time a go back when I was in one of my more down moments in life.
Be well, mate
You did the right thing by reporting it just to get it on record.
Dude is a piece of slime, and don't you lose one ounce of thought on that asshole.
Just try to relax and do something fun to keep your mind off it.
Also feel free to pm me if u ever want to talk, not sure if you remember me or not but you've always seemed like a good guy and I remember talking to you a long time a go back when I was in one of my more down moments in life.
Be well, mate
What is this supposed to mean?
CanUKlehead
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So sorry, dude...wtf...
*hugs*
*hugs*
FunkyPajamas
Member
That's basically what I said. I live in Colombia. There's a large LGBT* movement here and it's mostly backed by the government, but there's still a lot of homophobia and the people lean heavily to the right. The LGBT* rights page for Colombia paints a nice picture, but from what my friends tell me (and what I see in the news), the reality is a bit different. Of course there's also the issue of the Catholic church. I don't imagine Costa Rica is that much different.
Anyway, sorry, it wasn't my intention to derail the thread.
That's why it's good that you called the police. That way you can tell him that if he ever comes near you again. Are you considering reporting the issue to the government as the police suggested? Remember there are government bodies in charge of these types of hate crime.
Also, did you deactivate your phone/removed your account? Is there anybody you can call for support?
Stop. Just fucking stop. Call the OIJ and report him. Fucking now. If you don't you're perpetuating the GAF meme of creating a thread over any issue and not doing anything about it.
He has your phone. He assaulted you. You know his name. You probably know his address.
Fucking. Call. Goddamn. Now. Holy shit.
800-8000-OIJ (645)
http://www.poder-judicial.go.cr/oij/index.php?option=com_contact&view=contact&id=1&Itemid=248
Look at his thread history, op did you use a house phone to call him or what?
I looked. He's a depressed individual who can't do a push-up and seems to only watch movies and play Nintendo games.
What does that have to do with not reporting a crime?
EDIT: Apparently he's in his early 30's so one would assume he would be capable of a phone call to the actual agency who would help him.
So they're still stalking you? They simply won't go away after they assaulted you? Fucking hell.
Something similar happened to me OP, and it made me paranoid to go outside for years. That way of dealing with it seems to have had some negative effects on my mental health and now I regret not living my life for such a long period of time. It's understandable to want to be extremely introverted as a response to something like that, but keep in touch with friends fam and the cops and give them all his info, etc. Then attempt to not let it have any hold on your life, if possible. Go to concerts, clubs, festivals, whatever. Live, laugh, fuck, etc. Don't dwell on anything that wasn't your fault, bud.
Something similar happened to me OP, and it made me paranoid to go outside for years. That way of dealing with it seems to have had some negative effects on my mental health and now I regret not living my life for such a long period of time. It's understandable to want to be extremely introverted as a response to something like that, but keep in touch with friends fam and the cops and give them all his info, etc. Then attempt to not let it have any hold on your life, if possible. Go to concerts, clubs, festivals, whatever. Live, laugh, fuck, etc. Don't dwell on anything that wasn't your fault, bud.
j0hnnix
Member
I'll add I know you do not want to report it but...
I agree with this post. You need to report this immediately for your own future wellbeing.
Evil Monkey DTT
Banned
Fight this fight for all the scared people of this country and for yourself. <3 stay strong and remember that you matter, that you didn't deserve this. Gaf loves you, we want to see you thrive.
Earthstrike
Member
You are less likely to end up injured if you do tell the cops. He will know that if anything happens to you, he is prime suspect number one. That is a disincentive.
Pancake Mix
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Some people are insane OP, but not outwardly. Stay safe, dude.
Sorry that happened to you. Hope you get your phone back.
Sorry that happened to you. Hope you get your phone back.
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