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Is Anyone Actually Single?
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Alcotholic
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I'm in a relationship. Things are going well. I don't know what else to state. I had the most fun not worrying about being in a relationship when I was single. It's awful stressing about that shit.
AdventureRacing
Member
Unless they're using photoshop how are they lying? They literally do look exactly like the photo they took, no alterations have been made. Is it any different to wearing make-up or just in general picking the best photos of yourself in a dating site? Let's face it, online dating is basically a meat market. People can instantly swipe through 1000s of people and do so almost entirely based on looks. Of course you're going to try and make yourself look as attractive as possible. It's not just 'fat girls' doing it either. Everyone is trying to put on their best face/personality in their profile.
Shit if you listen to most dating advice the whole act of dating is basically people trying to act like someone they're not. Stuff like hiding all your nerdy stuff and making yourself look like someone you're not (pretty sure you advise this in the dating thread). Simple fact is dating is a cruel world, people are judgemental and there are 1000s of choices out there. We're all just trying to give ourselves the best shot we have to find someone.
Kwansu Dudes
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I'm assuming if you're in your late 20s-30ish, you ain't got time for people who do duck faces or hide their imperfections by cleverly angling their shots.
C'mon, you are what you are and you aren't going to find someone who truly likes you if you aren't being honest and upfront. I don't get people who do that shit. Just take a normal photo that doesn't hide something you're self conscious about.
"For every lock, fits a key aka you and me." - Ancient Chinese proverb
AdventureRacing
Member
On some level everyone basically does that. To different extremes of course. No one is picking ugly pictures of themselves to put on a dating website, everyone chooses the pictures that make them look the best. That's basically what online dating is about, trying to make yourself look as awesome as possible so that people of the opposite sex will actually notice you and not just keep swiping through the 1000s of profiles on display.
This is jut guys getting annoyed because they feel like they got tricked into dating a 'fat chick'. In reality they're also guilty of cherry picking their best photos and qualities for their profile to make themselves look good.
The Power Of Snap
Member
Need a girlfriend for christmas?
ryutaro's mama
Member
Brother, I have been there.
The awkward part is when they want a second date and you gotta be the bad guy.
Thank goodness I am out of the dating game and happily significant othered.
Nealand Liquor
Member
Nahhh, it happens. Sometimes you meet the right person at the wrong time.
Kwansu Dudes
Member
Yeah I agree 100% that you should choose your best photo. I only draw a line where people hide their imperfections or bodies intentionally. If OP doesn't like fat girls, so what? That's his personal choice and I guess he should follow up with demands of a full body photo haha
Ganzlinger
Member
I am the singlest man alive. Nearly everyone I know is in a relationship though.
exmachina64
Banned
Depends on where you live.
Choppasmith
Member
I've had a couple coworkers years ago who would ask me if I had a girlfriend and when I said no the just sneered "Why?" Not like an "Oh, I thought someone like you would have someone" but rather more like "Ewww what kind of freak DOESN'T have a girlfriend?" I haven't gotten that in ages though, but I always thought that was the weirdest thing.
Still single here. Mostly busy with full time work, but I've been making great strides in doing exercise, getting in shape and trimming down.
Still single here. Mostly busy with full time work, but I've been making great strides in doing exercise, getting in shape and trimming down.
Alpha Phoenix
Member
To OP: If you don't want to waste your time, go on a dating site. You can safely assume most women are single there.
ZackieChan
Member
Come on. You know it is a misrepresentation of themselves. And I'm not saying I wouldn't do it (though my photos are a pretty good representation of my rad life), but I have a problem with others saying it us totally fine. If you're a bigger girl, then own that shit or be prepared to have guys disappointed when they meet you.
Also what he said. I'm 37 and I know the kind of girl I like. I ain't got time to be messing around with girls who look nothing like their photos. But I'd say every third girl I meet is like that. It sucks.
I've only had ladies be pleasantly surprised with how I look IRL. I should probably take better photos ( -_-)
I got some responses so here I go lmao
Maybe you should be asking them if they work out and the such, just like you, rather than looking at a few pics and deciding to date based upon that?
No wait what am I kidding, of course you wouldn't do that lmao. That makes too much sense. Honestly it's like none of you guys complaining about photos actually talk to the women you're about to meet up with.
Let's be honest here, would you actually extend a date invite or accept one from an overweight girl who "owns that shit"? Lots of guys here are saying they should, but based upon their response to them actually being (or being more) overweight it doesn't seem like it'd get them anywhere if they took what they themselves perceived to be an unflattering photo.
There's a megaton of double standards here too. Based upon this thread, dudes can dress up and cherrypick rad photos. Women? No they must have some unflattering police mugshot or something. No one's actually provided a photo of what they consider to be an acceptable photo of an overweight girl yet.
Maybe you should be asking them if they work out and the such, just like you, rather than looking at a few pics and deciding to date based upon that?
No wait what am I kidding, of course you wouldn't do that lmao. That makes too much sense. Honestly it's like none of you guys complaining about photos actually talk to the women you're about to meet up with.
Let's be honest here, would you actually extend a date invite or accept one from an overweight girl who "owns that shit"? Lots of guys here are saying they should, but based upon their response to them actually being (or being more) overweight it doesn't seem like it'd get them anywhere if they took what they themselves perceived to be an unflattering photo.
There's a megaton of double standards here too. Based upon this thread, dudes can dress up and cherrypick rad photos. Women? No they must have some unflattering police mugshot or something. No one's actually provided a photo of what they consider to be an acceptable photo of an overweight girl yet.
Which really sucks if you don't want to break up relationships. There's a girl I'd date if she was single, and I feel like she might if she was too- but...I can't bring myself to push that.
This. Plus the idea of physical intimacy makes me gag lol.
Gnome Scat
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I'm single.
kik me
How can you completely turn away from trying something again after an experience you had when you were 21, an age where nobody even knows who they are?
shrug, I'm single. it's been ~3 years though I go on dates occasionally. I've been moving every year (moving again in a month), so I don't really even bother looking for something serious. It would be nice to have someone to do and do things with, but I really enjoy travelling a lot so I'd have to find someone that likes the same and would be willing to move with me. Not sure when I plan on stopping, but the only reason atm would be for a relationship, I think.
Strangelove77
Member
Well, I know I am.
dreamcastmaster
Banned
Because rather than realise his faults he's blaming her still. I read a lot of "can't get so I don't want" because of reasons in this topic.
Professor Beef
Banned
It took me nearly ten years to get over being scared of the opposite sex after a bad experience in middle school (aside from rejections, things have been smooth sailing
). That shit can haunt you for a while, man. My point is that he'll be ready when he's ready.Dombrowski
is responsible for the well-being of this island.
Growing up in the most repressive country, I've been single my whole life. And will most likely die single.
#foreversingle
#foreversingle
JigglesBunny
Banned
I bounced from a year long relationship, to a 5 month relationship, to my current 7 month relationship where we actually live in an apartment together.
I payed for it initially myself though, and paperwork is in my name, so if things go south it can be salvaged, but ya know, being single has it's perks too.
Less anxiety, less stress, less fear of losing the other person, more money, more time for hobbies and friends and family but... As corny as it sounds, the second you're lying in bed wrapped in the arms of someone you love, it's worth it.
To the greater point of the thread though, like I said, I bounced almost immediately (span of 1-3 months apart) between relationships so, single girls are out there!
Then again, I am on a college campus so...
I payed for it initially myself though, and paperwork is in my name, so if things go south it can be salvaged, but ya know, being single has it's perks too.
Less anxiety, less stress, less fear of losing the other person, more money, more time for hobbies and friends and family but... As corny as it sounds, the second you're lying in bed wrapped in the arms of someone you love, it's worth it.
To the greater point of the thread though, like I said, I bounced almost immediately (span of 1-3 months apart) between relationships so, single girls are out there!
Then again, I am on a college campus so...
use dating sites or apps to look for people in your area. You can't just roam around your circle of friends/work, bars or the party scene and cross your fingers hoping to find someone looking for a relationship. lots of people use the internet for that kind of thing now because it ups your odds of finding someone you have things in common with.
why limit yourself the people who just happen to be in your path when you have the entire world available to you.
why limit yourself the people who just happen to be in your path when you have the entire world available to you.
Cow Mengde
Banned
Guys guys guys. You can never be single when you have Neogaf. You have all of us!
liliththepale
Banned
Of course there are available singles. There are roughly the same number of men and women in the world, and there's a non-significant difference between the percent of homosexual men and homosexual women, and polygamy is rarely practiced. Ergo, for nearly every single male there is also a single female.
If you're perpetually single (and not by choice), then either your standards are too high or you haven't done enough to meet most peoples' standards, or both. We know that lots of people have standards that are too high. Media is largely to blame for this. But if lowering your standards is too much to ask, then do whatever's in your power to become more attractive. It's pretty simple if you just step back and remove all the mushy emotionality of it.
If you're perpetually single (and not by choice), then either your standards are too high or you haven't done enough to meet most peoples' standards, or both. We know that lots of people have standards that are too high. Media is largely to blame for this. But if lowering your standards is too much to ask, then do whatever's in your power to become more attractive. It's pretty simple if you just step back and remove all the mushy emotionality of it.
ZackieChan
Member
So I wouldn't want to date a girl that is very overweight - what's the problem with that? All that posting a misrepresentative photo does is lure me out for a first date and waste both of our time. I don't see why you're advocating for that.
Why do you argue your point ad absurdum? Just because I want to know what someone actually looks like doesn't mean I want a mugshot or a photo of their belly. You're being ridiculous, but I guess that matches up well with your ridiculous notion of what a representative photo for a dating site is.
A Human Becoming
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Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
Correction, online dating is fine. Do coffee for date 1. Met my fiancée that way.
nintendork666
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Thick is in OP.
Try it when you're ready
ZackieChan
Member
Yeah, just to clarify, I ain't on board with that. I don't necessarily have a problem with dating overweight women. I'm not exactly Daniel Craig. But I'd like to know who I'm meeting before I go through the trouble of going out for the date.
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