Did you really just ask that on the most virgin centric website on the internet op?
The fuck? Of course there's people who've wilfully deceived others with photos before. Is that every overweight woman on dating sites? No.
The thing about the photos in the example (the top example having a full photo that has been cropped (not shown in the article weirdly) and is usually passed around the net as an "example" when it's really just shaming overweight women).
And two women in your household actively take pictures for the purpose of deceiving others? You sure you're not just looking at it in a negative lens buddy?
Also, I think everyone else has abandoned thread now. So it's probably just us two. PM me if you want to continue, whether I respond or not? Who knows.
Says the guy with a "vagina repellent" shirt...
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I have to wear that or I'd be drowning in pussy!
srs if I shave the beard there would be no girls left for the rest of you!
Nobody ever said it was. Are you just being intentionally dense, or just really bad at reading comprehension?
All people (myself included) are saying is don't intentionally misrepresent your weight by not posting pictures that actually look like you on a dating website profile. This happens. People do this. Men and women. And it's commonly referred to as the "myspace angle", because photos are framed in a way to hide unflattering features, usually extra weight.
If you do this to hide the fact that you are overweight, it will only lead to deception once you meet up with the person. Just post a picture that shows what you really look like, even if that means extra weight, and you will meet people that are attracted to you just the way you are instead of people who are expecting to meet someone who doesn't actually look like you.
And all people are saying that any photo that doesn't have a woman's overweight areas up front and centre is a deceptive photo by women intentionally trying to trick men. And in the context of this thread, this seems to be most overweight women on dating sites.
These women aren't doing to it to be intentionally deceptive. They're doing it because they think whatever photo they chose looks nice. And in most cases, that's it.
Combine that with a "fat girl" angle on your photos![]()
And all people are saying that any photo that doesn't have a woman's overweight areas up front and centre is a deceptive photo by women intentionally trying to trick men. And in the context of this thread, this seems to be most overweight women on dating sites.
These women aren't doing to it to be intentionally deceptive. They're doing it because they think whatever photo they chose looks nice. And in most cases, that's it. I think the problem more so lies with the absolutely shallow nature of dating sites. A woman can't take a photo of herself that she happens to think looks nice without a man coming along and being all "oh that doesn't 100% represent you all the time", acting like they're a freaking retail product they're picking up at the shops.
I mean people here say that initial attraction is super important while simultaneously shoving everything else under the carpet. It can go both ways, initial attraction also isn't that important considering there's more to someone than just that. And if a woman takes a photo that seems deceptive and you go on a date but bloody ditch the instant they don't look 100% the same, really I think it's that man's fault they're not dating and getting laid more so than the woman.
This thread peeves me. Gone for real this time.
Are you intentionally not getting it? The point is misrepresenting what you look like in real life. If you are overweight or obese, but your pictures are intentionally staged or cropped to avoid revealing that, it's lying. And you'd have to be unbelievably un-self aware to put photos up that don't look like you.
And the text of the source is irrelevant. You asked for examples, you were given them. The whole conversation is about weight, so why is it a problem that the examples given are mostly about weight?
I could post a recent example I encountered, but I'm not going to put a real person on blast. Sorry? A quick Google search will reveal a ton of them, I'm sure.
Are you telling me there's no distinction between the two? That no person has ever chosen a pic they know will make them seem completely different than what they actually look like in real life?
Because I know for a fact that people do this. Two women have been in my house today that do this on a daily basis on Facebook.
i think the issue is more that some seem to consider it a fat person's duty to visually disclose their fatness. front and center.
If they fail to do so, it's wilful deception.
I'm not asking / forcing anyone to find overweight or even obese people sexually desirable, but i don't think it's their right to villainize them for not "disclosing" that fact on their dating profile.
If I am going to be spending $40-$60 on a date, then I want to know what you really look like. There is absolutely nothing creepy about wanting to see real pictures of a person before going out with them.
This is why I hate the "man pays on dates". It gives one party the power dynamic and it has always always made me bloody uncomfortable.
Went a saw a movie together? You bought me a drink? A burger? Fucking wonderful. But I'll pay for my own share if it means I don't have to listen to what I "owe".
This is why I hate the "man pays on dates". It gives one party the power dynamic and it has always always made me bloody uncomfortable.
Anyway- my partner is a little overweight and she said that when she shares photos of herself online unless it's a desperately horny dude they always feel the need to point out that her belly juts out a bit or something stupid like that. She'll take a photo of herself that she feels looks nice in a typical selfie fashion and those same dudes will be wanting her to get her tits out or something, but then when she just takes a casual photo while out they might call her a "fat cow" or something similar. To me it just seems like dudes sometimes think with their dick too much.
The "fat girl pose" is probably really any pose an overweight girl pulls that they personally think looks cute that's not the classic bathroom mirror shot.
Yeah, and I'd wager that that "so an overweight person doesn't look overweight" is the observation from the viewer and not necessarily the intent, likely born out of being confusedly turned on by a photo of an overweight girl or something. "How can this be?"
It's not semantics. Not every overweight person is obese. That's, like, a fact.
This is why I hate the "man pays on dates". It gives one party the power dynamic and it has always always made me bloody uncomfortable.
Went a saw a movie together? You bought me a drink? A burger? Fucking wonderful. But I'll pay for my own share if it means I don't have to listen to what I "owe".
Yeah. Never understood why that's expected of the man. I get a few odd looks from a few of my friends when I mention I pay for my own stuff on dates. I'd feel dirty if I allowed that shit to happen, after all, dating's a two-way street, and why should my date spend all of his money on a night out that may not have a chance of furthuring a relationship? Preach!
I don't see how this matters. People have the right to be attracted to whoever they want, even if it's only to people "out of their league".
Nobody is owed attraction. Otherwise you sound like those bitter "Nice Guys"
Since we are judging people on how they look these men should be rocking six pack abs and be very attractive.
I would say all the dudes in this thread talking about fat girls deceiving them sound like "bitter nice guys" . They think they deserve a girl with that perfect ten model body that doesn't actually exist in real life and how dare a larger girl post a flatter pic of herself.
It's also comical reading about straight people having trouble dating or having to use online dating. I can't imagine how much these dudes would be crying if they turned out gay and 90% of the dating pool isn't interested.
After years of online dating it's pretty easy to tell who has misleading photos. They will usually have a headshot or two and if they won't send any more photos it's a good sign to keep away. It's not that people don't find big girls attractive it's more the terminology and how disrespectful they sound in this thread.
I'm willing to bet most of these dudes are not attractive enough to be that judgmental.
I'm not condoning posting photoshopped pics at all. I have been catfished a few times its part of online dating unfortunately.
Since we are judging people on how they look these men should be rocking six pack abs and be very attractive. not one has posted a photo in This thread I wonder why ?
I would say all the dudes in this thread talking about fat girls deceiving them sound like "bitter nice guys" . They think they deserve a girl with that perfect ten model body that doesn't actually exist in real life and how dare a larger girl post a flattering pic of herself.
It's also comical reading about straight people having trouble dating or having to use online dating. I can't imagine how much these dudes would be crying if they turned out gay and 90% of the dating pool isn't interested.
After years of online dating it's pretty easy to tell who has misleading photos. They will usually have a headshot or two and if they won't send any more photos it's a good sign to keep away. It's not that people don't find big girls attractive it's more the terminology and how disrespectful they sound in this thread.
I'm willing to bet most of these dudes are not attractive enough to be that judgmental.
I'm not condoning posting photoshopped pics at all. I have been catfished a few times its part of online dating unfortunately.
And here I thought you only meant that you're disappointed that they would lie to you about their appearance. I can understand being pissy about someone having photos that really don't represent who they are in person, but completely ignoring a girl because she's fat is plain rude. People like you are the reason they do that in the first place, so they get the chance to actually meet the person and show their personality, because most of the times they wouldn't even get the chance.
I love Neogaf.And there we have it. His girlfriend takes "MySpace angle" pics, so he is going to defend it to his death. It all makes sense now.
And there we have it. His girlfriend takes "MySpace angle" pics, so he is going to defend it to his death. It all makes sense now.
Since we are judging people on how they look these men should be rocking six pack abs and be very attractive. not one has posted a photo in This thread I wonder why ?
I would say all the dudes in this thread talking about fat girls deceiving them sound like "bitter nice guys" . They think they deserve a girl with that perfect ten model body that doesn't actually exist in real life and how dare a larger girl post a flattering pic of herself.
Since we are judging people on how they look these men should be rocking six pack abs and be very attractive. not one has posted a photo in This thread I wonder why ?
I would say all the dudes in this thread talking about fat girls deceiving them sound like "bitter nice guys" . They think they deserve a girl with that perfect ten model body that doesn't actually exist in real life and how dare a larger girl post a flattering pic of herself.
It's also comical reading about straight people having trouble dating or having to use online dating. I can't imagine how much these dudes would be crying if they turned out gay and 90% of the dating pool isn't interested.
After years of online dating it's pretty easy to tell who has misleading photos. They will usually have a headshot or two and if they won't send any more photos it's a good sign to keep away. It's not that people don't find big girls attractive it's more the terminology and how disrespectful they sound in this thread.
I'm willing to bet most of these dudes are not attractive enough to be that judgmental.
I'm not condoning posting photoshopped pics at all. I have been catfished a few times its part of online dating unfortunately.
Whoa there. My avatar is a photo of me. In my profile is a link to my website that has photos of me. There's more photos of me on www.alawyerabroad.com. I'm out there on the Internet. I'm moderately attractive (rated a 6 on Neogaf.com), but as others have pointed out, I never said I was only attracted to skinny girls with 6-packs or whatever.
I'm attracted to all types of women. All I'm asking is for a realistic representation of a person in their dating profile. I really don't see how this is so hard to understand for the 3 or so of you that keep pushing against it.
I'm also chubby and not ashamed of it. It's me. However, I am consistently told that I look better than my photos and younger than my photos by girls I meet IRL. So whatever, you're talking out of your ass.
Is it deceiving if someone is wearing a hat in a photo and then on the date you find out they're bald? What if their hair is dyed and longer, but then on the date they actually have shorter hair and it's a different color? Is it deceiving for a girl to take a photo and her nose appears (because of lighting and angle) smaller in the photo than in real life? Are these people being intentionally deceitful?
There's nothing wrong with feeling not attracted towards someone because of their weight, but what I think people are saying is dick about it is the idea that overweight people are being "intentionally deceitful" and "lying" for not providing a full body picture on their dating profile.
Yeah. Never understood why that's expected of the man. I get a few odd looks from a few of my friends when I mention I pay for my own stuff on dates. I'd feel dirty if I allowed that shit to happen, after all, dating's a two-way street, and why should my date spend all of his money on a night out that may not have a chance of furthuring a relationship? Preach!
I tend to only see those people in stuff like tinder. Where they basically just want people to like their pics to boost their confidence.What are you guys' thoughts on people that are on dating sites just to "meet friends and have conversations (aka be hit on relentlessly)"?