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Is it weird that I can't look at myself in the mirror?

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Oh man, i'm horribly the opposite. Everytime i pass a car/window whatever i'm looking at my self reflection. I'm not even that good looking, just sometimes i get a good shot of myself and feel pretty for a while.
 
SalsaShark said:
this is how I come off in 99% of pictures:

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WADUP FATFACE


I feel like even if I didnt like how I looked, i'd still try to look my best by looking at the mirror. Idk if I could face a normal life by not accepting how I look
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You look straight out of the 70s in that last pic.
 
I wish I could stop looking at myself in the mirror, or any reflective surface..I like what I see, what can I say.

The lighting in my gym is great and always love checking myself out there.
 
I have close to the same problem. It is not quite unbearable to look in the mirror, but i do avoid it as much as possible. I dont need a reminder of the (many) flaws i have.
 
XenodudeX said:
Yeah it could be that. I have this mental image of how I look, but once I see myself in a mirror or reflection, I see something different. And I guess I just don't like that, so I look away or avoid them altogether.
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I think you have an anxiety disorder and I think it's something that may be easily overcome through medication or therapy. I do not think you need or should continue to live with that kind of thing, as I think it's something that may eventually hinder you professionally.

Raiden said:
Oh man, i'm horribly the opposite. Everytime i pass a car/window whatever i'm looking at my self reflection. I'm not even that good looking, just sometimes i get a good shot of myself and feel pretty for a while.
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I'm not entertaining you with an avatar quote.
 
When I was a child I had a difficult time looking at myself in a mirror but it's because I was diagnosed with Exotropia I just didn't know how to adjust for mirrors. lol
 
I went nearly two years without ever really looking at myself in the mirror. From age 15-17. Various self esteem issues.

One day I finally looked and was shocked. My face had matured and I looked a lot different than I imagined. It was really, really strange.
 
Raiden said:
Also OP and other non mirror lookers. What do you do when go to the barber? Close your eyes till its over?
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Focus on my hair and not my face. Kind of hard to do though. I got to the barber every two weeks, so I literally see my face every two weeks.
 
Also, sorry but its impossible to not look in the mirror, you have to get your hair fixed, and see if you shaved correctly. I mean there is only so much you can do blindly. Nothing worse than a hairy patch you left over, or neckbeard and all that stuff.
 
In all seriousness dude, speak to a professional?

If this is a self-image thing, Im sure it manifests itself in other, more serious ways.

Work those issues out.
 
How do you do your hair? How do you know it's even half decent? And start by looking into the mirror every day and start accepting who you are. And know that tv brainwashes you, as is society. Walk into a crowd and look around you, most average looking, and more uglies then beauty's. A lot of the most successful athletes are no lookers, yet they have superior genes, they rank at world class. Look at Bill Gates, one of the most powerful man on earth is a nerd. Why run when there's nowhere to hide. Face the inevitable; that you are human.
 
Raiden said:
Also, sorry but its impossible to not look in the mirror, you have to get your hair fixed, and see if you shaved correctly. I mean there is only so much you can do blindly. Nothing worse than a hairy patch you left over, or neckbeard and all that stuff.
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Could be he uses electric clippers and take it off in one go.
 
I have a strong aversion to mirrors, but probably for much different reasons (aggravates my ED and BDD). Find out why you refrain from looking in them, but it could be just disinterest.
 
Roland1979 said:
Could be he uses electric clippers and take it off in one go.
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What if he misses some, though. Maybe ye walks around looking like the lawn looked after my grandpa mowed it when he wanted to fuck it up so bad that my grandmother would leave him alone and let him go to the bar.
 
GungHo said:
What if he misses some, though. Maybe ye walks around looking like the lawn looked after my grandpa mowed it when he wanted to fuck it up so bad that my grandmother would leave him alone and let him go to the bar.
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I don't cut my own hair. I go to a barber. I usually just get a low and even fade. It's easy to manage.
 
Aesius said:
I went nearly two years without ever really looking at myself in the mirror. From age 15-17. Various self esteem issues.

One day I finally looked and was shocked. My face had matured and I looked a lot different than I imagined. It was really, really strange.
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Wow, I just can't imagine not having a clear image of how you look :o.
 
soepje said:
Lol, i don´t have problems with mirrors. But this is actually a thing for me too.. I never know where to look.
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The worst
best
is if its a girl and she has major cleavage going on. Especially if they start to push those things in your face as well.
 
GungHo said:
What if he misses some, though. Maybe ye walks around looking like the lawn looked after my grandpa mowed it when he wanted to fuck it up so bad that my grandmother would leave him alone and let him go to the bar.
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I have electric clippers. If you are experienced and go over you head multiple times (one thorough pass, 2 quick passes, 1 pass of the crown and edges) you will never miss a spot. And even if you did. So what? Why worry so much about how you look. I once forgot i had a face full of bloody paper clots on my face from shaving (before i used both aftershave and alum) and found out at the supermarket while paying. So what? I'm still here. I didn't die from embarrassment. Taking care of your looks isn't a bad thing. But this modern fixation is.
 
i have the opposite problem.

i deliberately walk one particular way back to my desk at work, as i can see my reflection directly in front of me.

i really hope no one has noticed me doing this.
 
I had a bad skin condition, was super fat and had bad acne, I just felt so ashamed I couldn't look at myself and still feel bad when I look at myself. I also hate taking pictures.
 
XenodudeX said:
I think it's that. like I sair earlier , I have this mental image of myself that doesn't match up to what actually look like (or what I think I actually look like),and I can't seem to get over that.
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Well thats the first step, get to terms with that issue. I think like someone said earlier, post a picture up and get feedback, people most certainly don't look as bad as they think they are.

Or maybe start by focusing on small parts of your reflection, while ignoring the rest, keep looking at more of yourself every few days, condition yourself to understand its okay if you look different from what you have in your head.

Speaking of which I do remember at one point in my life where I did feel I didn't look like what my mental image of myself was. You just get comfortable with your own skin and you'll actually notice you look awesome.

I mean I'm not narcissistic or anything but I actually look at myself in the mirror and I see someone that look more handsome than he is or has any right to be, its a self esteem boost. Take a positive approach to your face, feel good about how you look and everyone around you will reciprocate that feeling.

Confidence is all in the head, it isn't a physical attribute.
 
Derwind said:
Well thats the first step, get to terms with that issue. I think like someone said earlier, post a picture up and get feedback, people most certainly don't look as bad as they think they are.

Or maybe start by focusing on small parts of your reflection, while ignoring the rest, keep looking at more of yourself every few days, condition yourself to understand its okay if you look different from what you have in your head.

Speaking of which I do remember at one point in my life where I did feel I didn't look like what my mental image of myself was. You just get comfortable with your own skin and you'll actually notice you look awesome.

I mean I'm not narcissistic or anything but I actually look at myself in the mirror and I see someone that look more handsome than he is or has any right to be, its a self esteem boost. Take a positive approach to your face, feel good about how you look and everyone around you will reciprocate that feeling.

Confidence is all in the head, it isn't a physical attribute.
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Or sometimes you are just that fucking hideous. hence mirror avoidance.
 
You know what's weird? When I get a haircut and have to take my glasses off. I can't see myself in the mirror because it's all blurry but I can't see shit around me either. I think people assume I'm looking at them weirdly but I can't see shit! I'm just staring at blurry outlines. It's fun to guess if a woman is attractive when I have my glasses off though.
 
kaioshade said:
Or sometimes you are just that fucking hideous. hence mirror avoidance.
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Not helping.

And who cares, own it, don't let anyone else own your feelings for you. You'll be emotionally bankrupt that way.

So whats the worst thing that you could happen? There are people with horrific facial disfigurements that have enough strength to see the reality in front of them, instead of having someone else dictate it to them.

All this mirror avoidance is just a way to escape reality, not come to terms with it.
 
Sounds like you may have self-esteem/body issues OP.

I don't know what to suggest other than counseling . This sounds ridiculous, but get in the habit of trying to be nice to yourself. Take time out of your day to give yourself compliments or find things about yourself that you can be positive about. Overtime, maybe you can break this trend..
 
Derwind said:
Not helping.

And who cares, own it, don't let anyone else own your feelings for you. You'll be emotionally bankrupt that way.

So whats the worst thing that you could happen? There are people with horrific facial disfigurements that have enough strength to see the reality in front of them, instead of having someone else dictate it to them.

All this mirror avoidance is just a way to escape reality, not come to terms with it.
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I wasnt talking about the OP, i meant in general. some people, myself included absolutely loathe the way they look. barring insane amounts of plastic surgery, nothing can really fix it. so people choose to avoid the things that remind them of this.
 
Yes, as I get older, the mirror reminds me of that. I used to be a good looking youthful guy. Now I still have a baby face, but some stress lines and receding hairline.

I can see some depression that has settled in over the years.

So yeah I won't exactly stare in the mirror and practice making cute faces anymore.
 
I have a fun idea, OP.

Take a pic of yourself and post it here.

Then let GAF describe you, as if we were the mirror! It will be a jolly ol' time.
 
kaioshade said:
I wasnt talking about the OP, i meant in general. some people, myself included absolutely loathe the way they look. barring insane amounts of plastic surgery, nothing can really fix it. so people choose to avoid the things that remind them of this.
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I don't think that's healthy.

Do you have a certain standard of self image in your head that you want to uphold? I mean who cares if you don't have a perfect jaw structure or a perfect complexion, no one, anywhere, carries perfect features. No one.

Imperfections exist, there is no line in the sand to gauge what is an acceptable amount of imperfections to have or not. That's all a mental game.

You probably don't look anywhere near as bad as you think, but damned if anyone can convince you of that.

I know, I have an older sister who has severe issues over how she looks and to be honest I think she looks amazing almost all the time and that's not me just being her brother, its the truth and everyone compliments her, yet she still has self image issues herself(She was severely bullied when she was younger in elementary & middle school when she was lanky and really, really thin).

Sorry to sound like a broken record but its just not healthy.
 
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