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Melon

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Welcome to Mental Health GAF

Firstly, I'd like to add some ground rules for this thread in order to maintain and preserve a safe and welcoming space. Yeah, yeah, I know, I used safe space unironically, tee-hee.

1. Be respectful - This should go without saying, but please be respectful to your fellow members and what they are going through. Just because you personally do not relate to someone's situation does not mean you get the right to belittle what they are going through.

2. Do not give out personal information - Yes, this is for discussing personal issues, specifically mental health issues, but giving out (traceable) personal information about yourself or those involved with you is discouraged. This site is very much public, and although we are here for you, not everyone is. Just be safe and act responsibly.

3. Do not self-diagnosis- Self-diagnosing, whether on yourself or others, is a very harmful, sometimes dangerous, practice that is rarely ever accurate. It does far more damage than good. Researching symptoms you are experiencing is one thing, but do not claim, "Google told me I have schizophrenia because I get sad!!!!".

4. GAF is not your therapist- While this topic IS for discussing mental health, we do not substitute for mental health professionals. Similar to self-diagnosing, attempting to be or looking for a mental health professional on an online forum does far more harm than good. We are here to support you, but we cannot be your therapist.


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With all that out of the way I suppose I should explain why I made this. It's pretty well-known and obvious that I, myself, struggle with some mental health issues. It personally helps me a lot being able to talk to people who are also in a similar boat as me. Not everyone has a good support system and can cause some to feel very alone because of that. This thread, as cheesy as it sounds, was created for the purpose of people (who want to participate, or hell, even just read) feeling less alone in their battles/struggles with mental health.

Before I progress any further, below are some helpful links if you are in a crisis and are unable/unwilling to reach out to a local professional.

Most Countries' Hotlines

A Textline For those Who are Not Comfortable with Speaking Over the Phone

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Now with all that out of the way, I suppose I should introduce myself a little more.

Hi, my name is Melon, and I am twenty-one. I am diagnosed with general anxiety, bipolar disorder, and borderline personality disorder. I currently am on a wonderful care-plan and have a fantastic therapist and psychiatrist. My biggest triggers are big, social events, and being alone in spacious places. I am an open-book (to an extent, obviously) and I love discussing mental health with those that are capable of holding a mature conversation.

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If you are not comfortable with saying what exactly you have, that's perfectly fine! Be as vague or as open (within reason) as you wish! Just want to do a quick rant? That's fine too. I love you all, and know that you aren't alone and you can always message me if you just need someone to listen. :messenger_heart:
 

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This is such a fantastic topic, that I want to help start it off. I think I found a way I can do that, plus gain some genuine insight into the world, and some people I care about.

Regarding bipolar disorder, how can I be a better friend to people who have to deal with this? A while ago, I had a roommate with this, and it was a source of a lot of friction. I feel like we learned to live with each other a lot better, but it’s still something that I don’t have a lot of knowledge in dealing with.

I don’t... you can’t cheat sheet a person and an affliction, obviously, but are there things that I could do to be more supportive and helpful?
 

Melon

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This is such a fantastic topic, that I want to help start it off. I think I found a way I can do that, plus gain some genuine insight into the world, and some people I care about.

Regarding bipolar disorder, how can I be a better friend to people who have to deal with this? A while ago, I had a roommate with this, and it was a source of a lot of friction. I feel like we learned to live with each other a lot better, but it’s still something that I don’t have a lot of knowledge in dealing with.

I don’t... you can’t cheat sheet a person and an affliction, obviously, but are there things that I could do to be more supportive and helpful?
That's a great question! Being friends/acquaintances/etc. with someone who suffers from bipolar disorder can be pretty tricky at times due to the fact that a lot of what triggers them depends on their mood and how they're feeling that day. For example, say you have a friend who, most of the time, has a good sense of humor and can joke about pretty much anything. But one day you crack a joke and they go apeshit on you. It catches you off guard and you wonder where the hell that came from. It's shitty to experience and you probably blame yourself for it. It's important to know it's not your fault, bipolar people can just be difficult to go about with. The best advice I can give is proceeding with caution until you get to know them well and can read their patterns and behaviors better. It also doesn't hurt to just ask what they are and aren't comfortable with on a day you are not sure. It can probably feel like a monotonous task, but it definitely helps, in the long run, what boundaries you can and cannot cross.

Every person is different, regardless of what mental illness they have, and it's important to learn what their quirks and triggers are in order to preserve a friendship that you would like to build with them. One thing I forgot to add, is, as dumb as it sounds, to make sure you aren't too careful. It can make that person feel like a burden. As I said before, this shit can be tricky, but it can be worth it in the end. But it's also important to know when you need to take a step back. Your own mental health matters greatly, and if the other person is draining you, you need to back off. It may seem like a shitty thing to do, but your own health comes first.

I hope this helped at least a little.
 

Melon

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i've had nightmares every night for the last 7 years

they tell me it's because of accumulated, compounding trauma

getting kinda tired of it
I know putting a love reaction seems weird for a post like this, but take it as me sending you my love, or something like that. I relate to that to a certain level, and it really sucks. Trauma, it doesn't matter what kind or how it came to be, is a shitty thing to deal with, and I hope you are able to find peace. You can message me anytime if you need to talk.
 

Melon

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Thoughtful idea for a thread, Melon Melon
Thank you! I figured it would be worth a shot for people that need a place like this; somewhere they can vent/express concerns (within reason) and receive thoughtful advice instead of unwarranted criticism or just being told to suck it up. Not saying there aren't times for criticism or being told to suck it up, but overall, I just want this thread to be welcoming and open.
 

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A great effort, Some people are suffering from inner struggle due to various reasons and As I feel, this key point of the instability of mentality is keeping the things locked inside themselves without revealing them to someone..So, I hope this thread will be a nice place to reveal yourself get relived without exposing you real identity
 
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It's like advice at work from numerous bosses........... (not in these exact words, but close enough)

"When the company is doing poorly, don't take all the fault because it's not just you. When the company is kicking ass, don't gloat as it's not just you who did it"

In other words, for any of you with personal issues on a message board feeling like shit, if it makes you feel better (which is IMO 100% true), don't measure yourself vs. others..... especially on social media.

People on the web will usually only tell the good things in life. And half the time it's phony anyway. For every Facebook friend you have showing awesome family pics skiing at a chalet, probably half of them are either going through marital issues, money issues, their kid is a fucking brat etc.........

Put it this way. There's one person I knew in high school (never really knew her but I remember her cuz she was hot). You ask other peope who you are closer with remember this person or that person..... everything seems fine. Turns out she's got the usual nice family photos online..........

.............. turns out she was arrested for possessing drugs in the US and has a record.

Pretty sure she's not going to post that online.
 
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Currently doing CBT to improve my confidence and knowing where problems that arise from external and internal factors.

I have Aspergers, so try and learn how to react to the best situations, but I do feel that ignorant people tend to both speak to me as if I am incapable of doing things, as well as overtly rely on me to get things done (as they assume we can handle simple tasks repetitively).
 

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Hi peeps! Today I am sharing something with you that I, personally, find very soothing during high-stress/anxiety situations. I'm sure some of you have already heard of it, but if not, well, say hi to Bilateral Music!

It may not work for you, but I'd say it's definitely worth a shot. It calms me down relatively fast during panic attacks. Though, to be fair, music is a part of my every-day-life so the comfort may stem from that, idk.

 
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