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Most mind blowing reason you were turned down for a date

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Well I asked a woman of 35 years old, who I know for over 10 years, out to diner. She said she was flattered but was already dating another man.

Few weeks ago I found out that was a lie.
It baffles me that a mature woman doesn't have the heart to just say 'no'. On the other hand I surprised myself too cause I'm 38 years old and believed a made up excuse like that.
 
harSon said:
I didn't really get turned down for a date because of it, since we had already been dating for a little while. But a girl dumped me because I wasn't rough enough in bed for her. I turned down her request to slap the shit out of her in the face repeatedly while she was giving me a blowjob.
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Send her my way. Just sayin...
 
Was told she was told I was a "player." Not the case at all and no clue where that came from. Was a bummer at the time. We had some mutual friends that probably saw me out at bars socializing and just projected shit on me or something. Funny looking back on it though. Not sure whether to be proud or slut-shamed.
 
I once got turned down by a chick I didn't even ask out.


She worked at a cafe/sandwich shop that was in my office complex, so I'd see her pretty regularly. We'd make small talk here and there and after awhile, I had learned quite a bit about her. One day, she told me she was in art school and being a decent human being, I asked,"Oh, do you have a portfolio online? I'd be interested in seeing some of your work." She then got this sheepish look, started blushing, and said,"Oh I have a boyfriend, sorry. I can't date you. If I've been leading you on I apologize." In my head I was like,"WTF? Who said anything about dating?" Then, I just kinda smiled and said,"Oh ok sure, no problem" and walked off with my drink. I never made small talk with her again lol.
 
that one actually kind of makes me depressed, like you could have been friends or something, she just sounds sort of shy
 
MindofKB said:
I once got turned down by a chick I didn't even ask out.


She worked at a cafe/sandwich shop that was in my office complex, so I'd see her pretty regularly. We'd make small talk here and there and after awhile, I had learned quite a bit about her. One day, she told me she was in art school and being a decent human being, I asked,"Oh, do you have a portfolio online? I'd be interested in seeing some of your work." She then got this sheepish look, started blushing, and said,"Oh I have a boyfriend, sorry. I can't date you. If I've been leading you on I apologize." In my head I was like,"WTF? Who said anything about dating?" Then, I just kinda smiled and said,"Oh ok sure, no problem" and walked off with my drink. I never made small talk with her again lol.
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She saw through your fake interest
 
I was chatting up a girl for a few weeks and it was going really well. We had a lot in common and I asked if she wanted to meet up some time with a mutual friend. She said sure but was busy for the next little while with school. Kept in touch those weeks, everything still seems cool, until abruptly all contact is cut off and I never hear from her again. Feel really jilted.

5 years later, I find that someone was stalking & harassing her, leaving disgusting messages on her voice mail and all kinds of other awful stuff, she had no idea who it was but decided to cut contact with any man in her life she thought it could possibly be to get away from it. I mean... I understand I guess and that's an awful place to be in, but it really sucks that I was on the shortlist for that and I had no idea what happened for 5 years.
 
I've been turned down by my current girlfriend over her thinking I was just too friendly for her to be attracted to me. She said this before I even made any moves on her, so I went "Okay" and gave up on it. A bit later she was like "Wait no, I was trying to make you pursue me, don't give up, what's wrong with you" and I was like "I'm not gonna keep insisting on the offchance a girl wants me to violate the boundaries she set" and we kept a weird dance of her turning me down without me asking her out, expecting me to give chase and me being like "Oh, okay, I like you but I won't insist if you're saying no."

We eventually gave up and just started dating haha. Been together for over two years now so that's nice.
 
capslock said:
Better off without her then. Is she a Trump voter?
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Her family is... conservative. I mean I do live in Texas. Her dad actually was all for me becoming a son in law though and tried to steer her into it which didn't help my cause. I think she didn't even vote though.
 
Oxn said:
She saw through your fake interest
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That's the thing, I wasn't interested. I was recently engaged and felt that the flow of the conversation dictated that it would be nice to inquire about her art since she was nice enough to reveal that about herself. If you met someone who said,"I'm a game developer," naturally you'd probably respond with,"Oh, what have you made? For which company?" etc.

It was nothing more than a simple extension of kindness that I don't think she was expecting, so she just froze up and her brain went "MAN BEING NICE = HE WANTS YOU. Abort. Abort. ABORT!"
 
eh, i don't think you can blame a woman who is a cashier or other customer facing position for being wary about guys being nice. it probably is insanely common that they all have that in mind. think of how women that work at gamestop or something must feel
 
This guy wanted to play Destiny with his friends instead of go on a date.
 
Poppy said:
eh, i don't think you can blame a woman who is a cashier or other customer facing position for being wary about guys being nice. it probably is insanely common that they all have that in mind. think of how women that work at gamestop or something must feel
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Oh yeah, I don't blame her for how she acted. She was like 19-20 working in a cafe that was frequented mostly by men age 30+. I'm sure she had some rather creepy interactions lol. It was just really funny how knee-jerky her reaction was.
 
This isn't quite on topic, but I had a girl dump me because she had a hard life before I met her and she was upset that I wasn't there for her back then. Before I met her. I assume there was some other reason she wasn't telling me, and it was definitely for the best in the end.
 
Hopeford said:
I've been turned down by my current girlfriend over her thinking I was just too friendly for her to be attracted to me. She said this before I even made any moves on her, so I went "Okay" and gave up on it. A bit later she was like "Wait no, I was trying to make you pursue me, don't give up, what's wrong with you" and I was like "I'm not gonna keep insisting on the offchance a girl wants me to violate the boundaries she set" and we kept a weird dance of her turning me down without me asking her out, expecting me to give chase and me being like "Oh, okay, I like you but I won't insist if you're saying no."

We eventually gave up and just started dating haha. Been together for over two years now so that's nice.
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Is she a fan of Harlequin romance novels?
 
FaintDeftone said:
I've gotten the ol' "you're super sweet but just too short" line from women many times in my life. While that's probably (and sadly) quite common, I still think its fucking stupid.
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It's no different than men preferring the hourglass shape. It's a big part of male attractiveness, being tall is considered an attractive feature.
 
"Sorry, but you're too short".

Not really mindblowing, but it's the only reason that's been said to my face. It's not that bad though, I'm batting over 80% anyway.
 
I've only been turned down by one person (multiple times, different situations) all for completely understandable reasons.

I play it extremely safe. Many girls have been clearly into me, and I've only asked out a handful of them after I was damn near 100% sure. I've never asked out a girl who wasn't showing signs...not really a good thing overall, but I'm happy and I should be glad I get as much attention as I do. :P
 
I had a girl rejected my marriage proposal because she thought that I was...fat. :|

My mother wouldn't tell me this till a year later.
 
Not me, but a freind of mine hooked up with a girl at a club and took her back to his room, she, at that point, said his room was too clean, which freaked her out and she swiftly departed.
 
I got turned down all the time in my hometown because:

1) my sister was very popular and friends with everyone from the cheerleaders to the nerds. Girls would turn me down because they didn't couldn't see me as anything but her brother.

2) I was awkward when I was younger and it followed me. Even when I matured and grew older, more confidant, smarter, a better catch, they would always be like "oh you're still that fat dumpy nerd with crappy hair we remembered when he was 13".

I was dating beautiful and intelligent women in the Cities 3 hours away, then moved back home and was a fucking leper. Even an ugly crackhead girl with three children wouldn't fuck me when I hit her up in desperation because "ugh, you're like Jason Vorhees". Really?

Moved again and was dating better people and ended up marrying the most awesome human being in the planet.

And suddenly I get msgs from those girls back home on Facebook "she doesn't look good for you - she's too pretty and will leave you"...
 
daveo42 said:
I've heard that quite a few times and is more than likely a nice way of saying they don't find you attractive.
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This isn't always true. A girl can find you plenty attractive but not want to date you for other reasons. Sometimes, a girl might actually value the friendship you have.
 
openrob said:
Not me, but a freind of mine hooked up with a girl at a club and took her back to his room, she, at that point, said his room was too clean, which freaked her out and she swiftly departed.
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Lot's of girls find clean rooms to not be manly.
 
Hopeford said:
I've been turned down by my current girlfriend over her thinking I was just too friendly for her to be attracted to me. She said this before I even made any moves on her, so I went "Okay" and gave up on it. A bit later she was like "Wait no, I was trying to make you pursue me, don't give up, what's wrong with you" and I was like "I'm not gonna keep insisting on the offchance a girl wants me to violate the boundaries she set" and we kept a weird dance of her turning me down without me asking her out, expecting me to give chase and me being like "Oh, okay, I like you but I won't insist if you're saying no."

We eventually gave up and just started dating haha. Been together for over two years now so that's nice.
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That's a cute story.
 
Shmuppers said:
This isn't always true. A girl can find you plenty attractive but not want to date you for other reasons. Sometimes, a girl might actually value the friendship you have.
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I think for the most part it is true. In this example, it could just be she finds you attractive but not attractive enough to potentially sacrifice your friendship. There's a threshold there because if you were more attractive, the value of the friendship wouldn't even be brought up, and her reply would've been "took you long enough", or "shit, I was tired of being just friends". LOL

Also, it's less about physical attractiveness and more about sexual chemistry.
 
Just realized I've never been turned down, I always did recon and had strong intel before going in. I only cold caled a girl once when she was working at the Hot-Dog-On-A-Stick, but it worked out. Though years later I found out I had inadvertently committed statutory rape.
 
Hopeford said:
I've been turned down by my current girlfriend over her thinking I was just too friendly for her to be attracted to me. She said this before I even made any moves on her, so I went "Okay" and gave up on it. A bit later she was like "Wait no, I was trying to make you pursue me, don't give up, what's wrong with you" and I was like "I'm not gonna keep insisting on the offchance a girl wants me to violate the boundaries she set" and we kept a weird dance of her turning me down without me asking her out, expecting me to give chase and me being like "Oh, okay, I like you but I won't insist if you're saying no."

We eventually gave up and just started dating haha. Been together for over two years now so that's nice.
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It's great it turned out well, and no offense to your GF, but girls need to stop playing this dumb shit game. It's super immature
 
After asking a girl out and up front disclosing that I have lupus, she callously quoted the house "It's never lupus" joke and told me that it would be immoral to for me to date because spreading my genes would make society worse. I dodged a bullet.

I think it's a valid reason not to date someone because of an illness, but she didn't have to be so cruel about it.
 
Agent_ShortBus said:
Yo that's the kinda stuff you hide until she's in too deep.
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