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My best friend forgot my birthday

Maybe it's just the people I am around but birthdays really don't seem to be a big deal once you reach a certain age. I'd likely forget about my own birthday if my family didn't remind me.

Really late edit: After reading through some of the later comments here I want to clarify: I didn't mean to say you have to grow up OP, I was just mentioning my personal experience. If you feel hurt because they forgot your birthday just know that they likely didn't ignore your birthday on purpose. It's an easy thing for a lot of people to forget. In the future I'd recommend just saying something like "hey it's my birthday next week, want to catch a movie?" or something like that. Some of us need the reminder.
 
I had a fake birthday on Facebook to see how many friends would tell me happy birthday on the wrong day. Final answer? A lot. However, my close friends knew better. All...like....two of them.

terrible said:
Maybe it's just the people I am around but birthdays really don't seem to be a big deal once you reach a certain age. I'd likely forget about my own birthday if my family didn't remind me.
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Same boat. Maybe it is because I don't like attention for nothing, and needless celebration.
 
A lot of people forget about my birthday, including close friends. Then again, I don't really give a shit about my birthday, so I'm meh to the idea. I told people to stop buying me presents years ago.
 
Vincent Alexander said:
I had a fake birthday on Facebook to see how many friends would tell me happy birthday on the wrong day. Final answer? A lot. However, my close friends knew better. All...like....two of them.

Same boat. Maybe it is because I don't like attention for nothing, and needless celebration.
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That's like dipping your toe in water to check if it's wet. Of course that's what would happen.
 
KissVibes said:
So you haven't said anything for the last three months? What are you going to do, wish him a happy birthday and then say SEE? SEE? I REMEMBER BIRTHDAYS UNLIKE YOU 'BUDDY'? You sound like an absolutely miserable person and a shitty friend, my guy.



You don't make a big deal out of your birthday yet:

1) You're still upset, three months later
2) You felt the need to point out that you didn't forget HIS birthday and you even gave him a GIFT!
3) Instead of communicating your feelings on the perceived slight to this best bud of yours, you come tell the internet.

Maybe he had stuff going on at the time, and it slipped his mind. Maybe he thought he had sent you a birthday text or a FB message and he has been unaware of this slight? If this minor ass thing bothers you after FIFTEEN YEARS of friendship, you shouldn't be friends and I hope he cuts you out of his life.
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No I'm just gonna congratulate him if he thinks of it then fine if not I'll let it go, I don't make a big deal out of the actual event, but I don't want best friends and family to forget I don't forget theirs either. I did not treat him any differently because of this it's not like I'm mad at him it just bothers me that he forgot. Maybe stuff like this is more important in my culture (I'm from Austria), but practically anyone I know would mind if their best friend forgot. You HOPE he cuts me out of his life? Wishing stuff like this based on the info in this thread makes me think you're a pretty shitty person and friend.
 
I'll never understand why people feel the need to state their disinterest to birthdays. Good for you if you don't care. It's just nice to have date in your life to sit with your family and reflect.

"Being yanked out of your mom? Pshh. What need is there to celebrate that. It's not as if it was the first day you entered the world or anything. Man up! On the other hand, 20 years since my favorite game came out..."

Lmao. All these tough people on a video game forum.
 
Mendrox said:
Lmao
Yeah totally gotta grew up because i remember birthdays of my loved ones and have at least the time to Talk a few minutes with them and offer some drinks or getting some food to give them an even better day. Were I come from people also give food on their birthday at work or do something for everyone. They appreciate someone on that day even more and let them know. It's a nice feeling. Holy shit indeed.

Edit: oh arrogant smirk, why do I even reply to you lol
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1 agree though it isn't neccessary.little cake in the office,nice words,a hug,little gifts etc. Its a good way to show careness.
Sometimes even companies work to celebrate their employees birthdays.

Just like i said not a neccessity.some people get beyond petty and act like their birthdays are the most important day of the month/year and expect a fucking parade or something
 
Here's a good life lesson for you - when you do nice things, you should do them because you want to and for no other reason. You shouldn't expect anything in return not even a thank you.
 
I've spaced on my best friends birthday, but it was during more turbulent times of my life. So have they, but I've never taken it personally. Life happens.
 
Sub Boss said:
1 agree though it isn't neccessary.little cake in the office,nice words,a hug,little gifts etc. Its a good way to show careness.
Sometimes even companies work to celebrate their employees birthdays.

Just like i said not a neccessity.some people get beyond petty and act like their birthdays are the most important day of the month/year and expect a fucking parade or something
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Yeah I guess many in here are just bitter because people dont care about them and they dont get little gifts. I appreciate every little thing on my birthday and never expect anything big. I also make some nice food for all the people in the office because everyone does that and it's nice sitting down for a few minutes and just talk a bit there about the day and all.
 
TheDanger said:
I got him Bloodborne for his last bd fuck this shit, most people who congratulate me I couldn't care less about, but when your best friend (and I'm talking best friends since I can think back) forgets it kinda stings. It was back in February and just now I thought of it again and am pissed off again.
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first of all, you should never expect something just because you did something.

second, if it bothered you to that level, you owe it to your friendship to hash out issues, just to not build up that kind of resentment. it's not healthy.
 
Seventy70 said:
I'll never understand why people feel the need to state their disinterest to birthdays. Good for you if you don't care. It's just nice to have date in your life to sit with your family and reflect.

"Being yanked out of your mom? Pshh. What need is there to celebrate that. It's not as if it was the first day you entered the world or anything. Man up! On the other hand, 20 years since my favorite game came out..."

Lmao. All these tough people on a video game forum.
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Guy didn't remind his friend since the three months passed his birthday...like what the hell is that?
 
I don't think friends need to worry about their friend's birthdays after the age of 16.

I mean if they remember and make a deal about it: cool. But it's not obligated if you're no longer children.

95% of remembered birthdays these days are because FB tells you anyway.
 
DMONKUMA said:
Guy didn't remind his friend since the three months passed his birthday...like what the hell is that?
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Yeah, I think he should've called his friend himself. I'm just talking about the way people respond when the topic of birthdays are brought up. I knew this thread would be full of them when I read the title.
 
Seventy70 said:
I'll never understand why people feel the need to state their disinterest to birthdays. Good for you if you don't care. It's just nice to have date in your life to sit with your family and reflect.
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Because honestly, and just speaking for myself, it seems quite childish to care about your birthday, and posts like the OP's underscore that for me.
 
Mendrox said:
Lmao
Yeah totally gotta grew up because i remember birthdays of my loved ones and have at least the time to Talk a few minutes with them and offer some drinks or getting some food to give them an even better day. Were I come from people also give food on their birthday at work or do something for everyone. They appreciate someone on that day even more and let them know. It's a nice feeling. Holy shit indeed.

Edit: oh arrogant smirk, why do I even reply to you lol
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People are so jaded these days it's pathetic. Antisocial GAF strikes again.

Newsflash: Some of us actually care about our birthday only because it's a nice reminder of how much people actually care about it. It's kinda hard not to feel sad when one of your best friends forgets about it especially when the other people in your life are giving you calls to wish you a good day or in some cases, going out of their way to invite you to dinner.
 
I don't know any of my friends birthdays, nor do they know mine. I'm sure we told it to each other before but people can't be expected to remember the exact date for everyone.

This may be an age difference. This seems like an extremely childish thing to whine about. I would say grow up.
 
Seriously get over it. It's not a serious offense.
I don't say happy bday to any of my friends or family, except for my mom. I don't expect them to say to me either. Shit is so overrated once you go full adult :p
 
Lol at least it wasnt your mother and when she called you that day it was to ask you to come work at the family owned convienience store and close. Lololololololol......

Yup.
 
Randolph Freelander said:
Because honestly, and just speaking for myself, it seems quite childish to care about your birthday, and posts like the OP's underscore that for me.
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"You're a child if you care about your birthday" is, ironically, a pretty immature thing to say. It only highlights how much you take your life for granted.

It wasn't until I saw age and death ravage my four grandparents until birthdays took on a different meaning of their own. It's not about cake or presents or your Facebook friends copy-pasting Happy Birthday on your page. I've treated my own birthdays as a day of self reflection but above all, taken the time to appreciate that I've lived another healthy year. Another year of being on this earth, even if you don't like your place in life, is a gift. You should appreciate that you're not one of millions with terminal illnesses who do not know when the next sunrise is their last, or the people who feel a hole in their being for having lost someone near them. Remember another's birthday should be similar: you appreciate them for having lived another year, and that should not be taken for granted.

This also goes for the people who like to whine and bitch that "omg I'm getting old". GOOD. You get to live to be old. Do you understand how many people didn't get to do the same, how many families would give anything to have a lost one "get old"?
 
Look man you seem like a nice person and I like your posts on this website but nobody gives a shit about anybodys birthday
 
blame space said:
Listen I don't want to shit on you but birthdays are bullshit. The same reason exists for people wanting their birthday to be special and realizing why it isn't. Don't hold it against people.
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Do you forget a lot of birthdays or do you chose not to remember? You can't retroactively not believe in them after you accidentally forget. Well you can but you can do anything. Not letting others hold you down is what makes a person great. You've convinced me... FUCK BIRTHDAYS!
 
Some people remember birthdays and some people don't. To me it seems like something encoded in you if birthdays were a big deal in your family or not.

Birthdays were barely celebrated in mine and consequently when I hear somebody's birth date there's hardly a single set of memories or feelings to attach that information to and I just forget it almost immediately.
 
You reach an a certain age in life where birthdays are just another day. You mature and realise that, really, you're celebrating being one year closer to being dead. I stopped giving a shit about birthdays when I turned 21. Try not giving a shit, OP.
 
The other week there was the thread about the "friends" dead dad and how said "friend" wasn't grieving properly. Now this.

When did we become such a self obsessed and narcissistic society.

You give to give not to receive. You've proven the extent of your friendship by not being able to bring it up with your friend if indeed it means that much to you

I'm struggling to believe the validity of this post. I refuse to believe people like the OP exist in real life.
 
I clicked on the thread to tell you to grow up & get over it, but then you mentioned Bloodborne so I'm totally on your side now.

Happy birthday, OP.
 
I have a friend that I know for more than 20 years, a very very good friend. We never knew the birthday of each other and honestly never cared. last year, I don't know why, we told each other the exact date... forgot it this year, nobody cares. Birthday smirshday.
 
Symphonia said:
You reach an a certain age in life where birthdays are just another day. You mature and realise that, really, you're celebrating being one year closer to being dead. I stopped giving a shit about birthdays when I turned 21. Try not giving a shit, OP.
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Getting to live to an old age isn't something to be taken for granted. Or at least, it shouldn't. If you do take it for granted, don't pretend that it's "maturity".
 
EatinOlives said:
"You're a child if you care about your birthday" is, ironically, a pretty immature thing to say. It only highlights how much you take your life for granted.

It wasn't until I saw age and death ravage my four grandparents until birthdays took on a different meaning of their own. It's not about cake or presents or your Facebook friends copy-pasting Happy Birthday on your page. I've treated my own birthdays as a day of self reflection but above all, taken the time to appreciate that I've lived another healthy year. Another year of being on this earth, even if you don't like your place in life, is a gift. You should appreciate that you're not one of millions with terminal illnesses who do not know when the next sunrise is their last, or the people who feel a hole in their being for having lost someone near them. Remember another's birthday should be similar: you appreciate them for having lived another year, and that should not be taken for granted.
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A lot of assumptions in this post.

Death has taken all of my grandparents and is now working its way through my aunts and uncles, which is obviously my parents' generation. I don't need a birthday to remind me of loved ones' importance, nor do I need my own to make me consider my own mortality. That day of the year is of zero significance to me.
 
Randolph Freelander said:
A lot of assumptions in this post.

Death has taken all of my grandparents and is now working its way through my aunts and uncles, which is obviously my parents' generation. I don't need a birthday to remind me of loved ones' importance, nor do I need my own to make me consider my own mortality. That day of the year is of zero significance to me.
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It's really not hard to recognize that a lot of people use the significance of an exact calendar year as an anchor through which to make a special note of it. Is there any particular problem with that?
 
Randolph Freelander said:
A lot of assumptions in this post.

Death has taken all of my grandparents and is now working its way through my aunts and uncles, which is obviously my parents' generation. I don't need a birthday to remind me of loved ones' importance, nor do I need my own to make me consider my own mortality. That day of the year is of zero significance to me.
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I like checking all the famous people that died early and seeing if I've outlived them on my birthday. Only 3 more years and I'll be older than Chris Farley was.
 
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