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[ElectricBlanketFire]

I've been best friends with the same group of guys since 5th grade and the only birthday of ours that we can remember is on Christmas Eve. ¯\_(&#12484_/¯

Plus we're all in our mid-30s so who gives a shit?

 

[TheSpoiler]

OP said it bothered him on his birthday, then forgot about it, and now 3 months later thought about it again and it still bothers him so he's trying to confirm is feelings on the matter are reasonable.

None of that warrants the snide remarks, snark or the open insults I've been reading in this thread, and before you accuse me of backseat modding as well taking the moral high horse, I'm not, I'm just saying you and quite a few others are behaving like dicks and your intentions are clear.

Don't pretend you're not in this thread because you weren't hoping it would turn into some "epic" backfire thread that you could link others to down the line. This shit is transparent.

Except the OP didn't freak out, at any point, and had already stated he could give a fuck about the gift and is more bothered by the fact his best friend didn't remember a 15 year long tradition and still hasn't caught on to that.

But you carry on, whatever you need to justify being snide.

I think people are being snide because most of the time, when people are upset at their best friends, they talk to them about it. It's been three months since his birthday and OP is angry about it. Okay, maybe mention it to your friend and clear the air? If that's your best friend, it's really silly to not say anything about being angry. Heck, the longest I've went without discussing a problem with my bff is like less than a month.

So the ribbing is fine, because OP could fix this issue by simply having a discussion with a friend. But this is GAF, and we get GAF topics, so he gets GAF responses.

 

[Apt101]

The shit happens man. My BF's birthday is 4/20, easiest day of the year to remember next to Christmas, and I still forget sometimes. He's ya boy, not your wife.

 

[diunxx]

I forgot my best friend's birthday last year because I decided to unistall FB from my phone, shit happens.

 

[Pinko Marx]

You should have spoken to him about it if it bothered you that much. Maybe something was going on in his life and it slipped his mind. But you'll never know because here you are three months later stewing over it.

 

[Kilrogg]

I forgot my best friend (who's also my ex-gf)'s birthday last year or the year before, even though I haven't forgotten once in 10 years. Just cause, you know, I forgot. It happens. Guess what happened: she messaged me, and I apologized. End of story.

Birthdays are not that big of a deal. Another friend of mine always forgets the exact day of my bday, and I don't mind it, even though I remember his.

 

[Raiden]

I am that person that forgets. My mom, my grandparents, my girlfriend and my friends. I care about all of them and think about them. I absolutely hate my own birthdays so i guess thats why.

 

[LiK]

Buy a game for yourself on his bday next time.

 

[old manatee]

Unless you are a child or turning 100 I don't see what the problem is.

 

[Brinbe]

Passive aggressive much? How old are you, op?

So many questions right now... Why you haven't just discussed this with your supposed BFF? Why you'd shrug off other ppl wishing you well? Why you'd make a thread on GAF about this months afterwards?

The mind boggles.

 

[WrenchNinja]

And I thought i was a jerk for forgetting to tell my best friend happy birthday at midnight and waiting till like noon

 

[rackham]

Ohhh man if my friends forgot my birthday...well let's just say they'd be get s pretty brutal text message from me


Something like "wtf m8s. Too busy sucking each other off to wish me the best?"

 

[Walter White Walker]

I can't imagine giving a crap if people don't remember my birthday on that day let alone three months later. Once you're an adult who cares?

 

[rockman zx]

Now imagine if you don't wish him/her happy birthday, and she/he gives no fucks about it.

People forget things, important things all the time, talk with your BF or move on.

 

[thesoapster]

As time goes on, I find myself hoping people will forget about my birthday.

 

[Spinluck]

I used to remember this shit all the time. Now I don't.

 

[Thor Molecules]

I forgot my best friend's bday last year. I was focused on other things so it slipped my mind. Shit happens. We've been friends for a decade, 1/10 aint too bad.

 

[depths20XX]

Once you become an adult who gives a shit about birthdays? Me and my friends never get each other gifts.

 

[Seirith]

I got him Bloodborne for his last bd fuck this shit, most people who congratulate me I couldn't care less about, but when your best friend (and I'm talking best friends since I can think back) forgets it kinda stings. It was back in February and just now I thought of it again and am pissed off again.

So? Are you being real here? It was months ago and you are still mad?

I've forgotten my husbands birthday, he didn't care. He laughed and thought it was funny. I apologized and we moved on.

 

[Vincent Alexander]

Congrats, I guess.

How close was it to your actual birthday?

I put my fake birthday 3 days early.

That's like dipping your toe in water to check if it's wet. Of course that's what would happen.

Well, I was curious and bored! I didn't call anyone out on it or anything though. I think I forgot it...I bet if I reactivate my Facebook, it is still wrong now.

 

[Van Bur3n]

People forget things. It happens. Or happened past tense since this was months ago.

Don't be a drama queen. Time to get over it.

Hell, I hardly care about my own birthday.

 

[Joni]

I put my fake birthday 3 days early.

And now you have to think, how many of your friends that did really know, saw the date and thought they were wrong.

 

[Gaogaogao]

I dont remember anyones birthday, dont take it personally

 

[xxracerxx]

I put my fake birthday 3 days early.

That is such a shit test. Seriously if my mother told me her birthday was within 3 days of the actual date I would believe her.

 

[BajiBoxer]

If it was your boyfriend/girlfriend I could see why you'd care but cmon. Did you have a party? Did you go out? If not, I doubt he has a calendar with his friend's birthdays on it. I know I don't.

Bring it up but don't whine about it. I'm sure he'll apologize. Just give him shit for it.

I think that ship has sailed since his birthday was in February. Would just seem incredibly petty at this point.

 

[TimeEffect]

At a certain age, who really cares?

I hang out with my buddies, and they do nice things for me here and there so I dont really give a shit about any birthday gifts or wishes.

Does your friend do things for you throughout the year?

 

[Stinkles]

Can't relate. The last thing I care about is someone remembering the irrelevant date marking my birth.

Hi five. I am the number one forgetter of my birthday after my single mother who forgot because she was working three shitty jobs with no outside help to keep three kids from hunger and poverty in a damp walk up tenement in a rough part of town. But sorry for your situation op.

Sounds brutal.

Also I forget it more since I moved to the States because of the idiotic date inversion.

12/10 becomes 10/12 etc.

 

[Doctoglethorpe]

"Forget" his next birthday and see if he makes an issue of it. If not, then you can mutually just not worry about it anymore cause honestly who cares about b days but children? If he does, he's a selfish dick. But you don't wanna make it look like you're the selfish dick by making a fuss over your birthday first. You've got a weapon in your pocket now for if he ever makes an issue about something like this, and all the better if you never have to use it cause now you don't have to buy him anything or feel like you owe him back for his gift.

 

[antibolo]

The only people I care about their birthday is my immediate family members.

 

[KissVibes]

What is it with neoGAF and the love for the relationship equivalent of the death penalty?
If something bothers him, instead of trying to fix it, he should just be abandoned?
Reminds me of the time where an OP was concerned about his GF getting cosmetic surgery for "wrong" reasons and people started telling him she deserved better, hoping she'd leave him.
Why so cynical?

He didn't want to fix it three months ago. Would you personally want to be friends, best friends even, with someone that doesn't talk to you about issues that spring up in your relationship? I sure wouldn't. That sounds miserable.

It isn't about being cynical or being a dick, the OP is overreacting and refuses to admit that it bugs him more than he wants to let on. How do we know this? They very first piece of information provided is about how OP bought his friend a gift for his birthday, so how dare he forget.

 

[Hale-XF11]

 

[RecRoulette]

OP: I bought you Bloodborne

Friend:

Edit: You've been holding this grudge for three months?

 

[milkham]

I knew a guy who's birthday is near memorial day. he'd always ask what your plans are for memorial day weekend so he could remind you by telling you his family's plans for his birthday.

 

[Gunblade47]

OP why don't you try this smooth move next year when they forget:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdqVelQh60E

 

[DAHGAMING]

Last year on my birthday I was working away just 2 of us and we get on but not great friends, I had 3 birthday texts and spent the evening alone in my hotel room, but there's bigger problems in this world to get upset about this stuff.

 

[RedAssedApe]

should have posted on your social media "thanks for all the birthday wishes" lmao

 

[Dead Prince]

Did you ask him. He probably had other things going. Or just blanked out. Just be grateful to be here still

 

[TheDanger]

talked to him he was embarrassed and said sorry, I brought it up in a very breezy way and it's all good.

 

[UrbanRats]

I forget my own simetimes, pure bliss.

It's not a big deal, unless you're under 14.

 

[LordKasual]

I got him Bloodborne for his last bd fuck this shit, most people who congratulate me I couldn't care less about, but when your best friend (and I'm talking best friends since I can think back) forgets it kinda stings. It was back in February and just now I thought of it again and am pissed off again.

i forgot my sibling's birthdays sometimes

grow some balls

 

[shoelacer]

Wait, isn't it against NeoGAF TOS for people under 13 to post here?

 

[Jedi2016]

I stopped giving a shit a long time ago.

I like to kick back and give myself a bit of a break on my birthday, but I could give a shit if anyone else says or does anything on the day.

 

[Morrigan Stark]

Edit: oh arrogant smirk, why do I even reply to you lol

That's an anagram of my username, but nice zinger, you sure showed me.

Feels like asshole GAF is in full force or it's just another American thing. I dont know, never heard of reactions like these. Here in Germany it's not taking on birthdays but also giving like serving some cake in the office and all and getting invited for dinner and drinks. Feels like many lonely people in here that never felt like somebody cared about them, but it's GAF and videogames I am not totally surprised. Some really hard Men in here that surely get all the women all the time with their attitude in here or that are working the dream /s

Wow, and I'm the arrogant one? xD The irony is getting pretty thick here.

Here's the thing:

- There's nothing wrong with enjoying and celebrating birthdays. It's not inherently mature or immature to do so. Birthdays can be fun, after all. (Same with not caring/not celebrating them, mind.)
- On the other hand, caring to the point of butthurt (e.g. whining about it 3 months later, considering "getting back" at them passive-aggressively, etc.) that someone forgets your birthday or doesn't think they are a big deal, does make you sound extremely petty and childish, not to mention quite self-centered. Because getting upset over trivial and insignificant things is indeed pretty childish.

Don't pretend you're not in this thread because you weren't hoping it would turn into some "epic" backfire thread that you could link others to down the line. This shit is transparent.

lol
Or, you know, stay with me here... people are being snide because OP is just incredibly childish and passive-aggressive about unimportant shit? Nah, couldn't be it, it's all about the deep desire for dogpiling buried in all of us or... whatever the fuck. xD

 

[eso76]

Big deal.

Next time throw a party or just tell him you two are going out to drink to celebrate your bday.

 

[McLovin]

Not to be a downer but birthdays are for kids man. It's just another day. If you're over 25 maybe get over it? I turned 35 last April and went out of my way to make sure nobody bothered me with that crap. The week prior I blocked my bday from facebook. Sure presents are nice but 100% of the time I would spend more money and put way more thought into everyone elses stuff only to get something really generic when it was my birthday. I'm saving so much money not giving a shit about them lol.
edit-

talked to him he was embarrassed and said sorry, I brought it up in a very breezy way and it's all good.

Thats cool, just don't make a big deal about it.

 

[Mammoth Jones]

Not a big deal.

 

[NeonBlack]

Calm down. I can barely remember my mom's birthday

 

[Kain-Nosgoth]

eh, my best friends never remembers it, he's shit with dates, at least he knows the month and will ask me each year, but i don't really care, we never do gifts, just go to the restaurent

 

[D1renegade]

Lmao. Your first mistake was putting faith in a human. They're bound to let you down.

 

[MickeyPhree]

Grow up OP.