Yes. I love him, but I'm angry at him. It wasn't an accident. If it were I wouldn't have these conflicted emotions. He did one of the most selfish things a person can do. My mother is a disaster. He may end up brain damaged. All because he had a fight with his girlfriend of several months? He isn't a child. He is a 30 year old man.
Yes, and you get yourself out of the hole, not go deeper. I don't want to sound like a robot, but depression is almost a problem-solving exercise and can always be rectified.
OP, best of luck that he gets his head right about all this, and comes out a better person.
Here's a good quote about suicide, from someone who later committed suicide:
The so-called psychotically depressed person who tries to kill herself doesnt do so out of quote hopelessness or any abstract conviction that lifes assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fires flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. Its not desiring the fall; its terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling Dont! and Hang on!, can understand the jump. Not really. Youd have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling.
― David Foster Wallace, committed suicide in 2008
― David Foster Wallace, committed suicide in 2008
Suicide isn't an easy way out. It's a last resort. It's possible that he kept his feelings to himself over a long period of time and never told anyone he had problems. The thing with his girlfriend could have been the last straw.
I'd hold up on judging him before he wakes up and is able to explain himself. I'm not telling you how you should feel but if it were me, I'd have an enormous amount of sympathy for him for having reached the point of no return.