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[OverturePT]

Man, that's really fucked up. I just hope you find some solution and are able to deal with this, pretty sure it's not easy to think about this every day.

But like everyone said, paternity test, you never know at that age and there's nothing more you can really do. I'm guessing talking to him won't really do much anyway.

 

[Hunter S.]

I hope your dad is rich... that is all.

 

[Keri]

I don't know, the more I think about it, the more I think this woman deserves your inheritance. She's been having sex with your elderly father for over four years.

 

[Earthstrike]

Did he pay for your university? If not, I would be pissed.

This is a really good question and I am also wondering what the answer to this is.

 

[TommyT]

Someone here has a tag that fits this scenario pretty well.

 

[Omegasquash]

If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, then the younger girlfriend is there to provide some companionship for a payoff.

Sure, I don't know explicitly what's going on or been going on, but goddamn. Primarily though, I'm sorry to hear that this comes so soon after your loss. I think a frank conversation with your father about how you feel and what steps your going to take to cope (i.e. moving out) is what's best for you, and then take prompt action.

 

[zarmena]

70 and 27? Holy crap. I'm not sure what I'd do in that kind of a situation but here's hoping that she doesn't mess him over.

 

[King Boo]

that whole thing about them making fun of your mother makes me even mad for some reason.


this does remind me of king of the hill.

 

[ElRenoRaven]

... 70 and 27... damn.

DAMMMMMMNNNN came right to mind for me too. I'm a skeptic and a cynical person hence that does seem odd. My money is her after anything he has. But again I'm a skeptic and a cynic.

 

[GaimeGuy]

So let's run through the timeline:

Around 43 or 44 years ago, CFK's mom and dad get married.

Sometime before CFK is born, they move to the house that CFK grew up in and currently lives in. Across the street is a similarly aged young couple in their 20s or 30.

Around 28 years ago, both couples prepare for new children.

27 years ago, CFK and this woman (We'll call her Jane) are born. CFK's dad is 42/43.
Jane's family is poor.

Move to around 7-9 years ago: 18-20 years pass, and CFK and Jane have grown up. CFK's dad pays for Jane's college tuition. (?!?!?!)

6 years ago: CFK's mom's health begins to fail, and she becomes permanently confied to a wheelchair. Some time over the next 2 years, Jane and her family make fun of CFK's mom's condition.

4 years ago: CFK's mom dies. Almost immediately, CFK's dad and Jane reveal they're dating.

Present day: CFK's dad has heart problems. Jane has, since they started dating, tried many times to get CFK's dad to marry her. She "controls him like a puppet" and doesn't seem to care about CFK's dad much at all. Now she's pregnant, and she claims the kid is CFK's dad.


CFK, it seems pretty clear your dad is being used by this woman, and possibly her family. You claim your family is "ok" financially, but it sounds like you're decently well off. Maybe not rich, but upper middle class from the sounds of it.

It's been years since this thing started, and not once have you talked to Jane or your dad about this. You need to tell them, especially your father, how you really feel. Be honest, upfront, and don't mince your words.

If you truly do have a half-sibling coming into this world now, you owe it to him/her, as well.

 

[charsace]

OP she has literally fucked you out of your inheritance. And your dad paying for her college tells me that they have been in a relationship for at least a decade. Why else would your dad pay for her to go to school?

 

[Darkman M]

Being a 70 year old man fucking a 27year old girl i seriously doubt he has any fucks to give about being played, hopefully he's smart enough to leave everything to the op though.

 

[Kid Ska]

God damn. That's messed up.

 

[daycru]

I don't know, the more I think about it, the more I think this woman deserves your inheritance. She's been having sex with your elderly father for over four years.

Pretty much. All OP did was exist, she's been putting the work in.

 

[charsace]

OP, she better be hot since she has a chance of stealing from your family.

 

[Flying Toaster]

She is sleeping with him till he has a heart attack and she can control everything... OP I would bury her.

 

[sixteen-bit]

Sounds like he's the one being played. Try thinking with something besides your dick.

How is he being played? I'd love to spend my twilight years with a younger woman.

 

[lupinko]

... 70 and 27... damn.

James Woods is almost there.

 

[RangersFan]

70 and 27...

Damn, be happy for your dad.

 

[Valkyr Junkie]

Probably not his kid.

 

[Escape Goat]

This thread makes me kind of sad and creeped out. What an awful situation to find your family in.

 

[MemoryHumanity]

Brazzers.

 

[Dark Octave]

... 70 and 27... damn.

Got 'em!

She knows what she's doing.

 

[davepoobond]

sounds like a terrible gold digger. i suppose she isn't that bad since she got university tuition paid.

she'll work her way on to a richer person unless she's unattractive

 

[Charles Foster Kane]

I really hope he's not the father because if he is this is really going to fuck me up.

In a way I understand him not wanting to be alone. I feel he feared staying alone for the rest of his life (though I wouldn't have left him), but I always thought the whole thing was sort of a joke. At least not to where a kid would be the end result.

About her college. Like I said, her family is poor and she couldn't afford one, so she started studying later than usual. This was all after mom had passed away.

Also, for clarification, I said he was nearing his 70s, not that he's 70, he's 67. Not that that makes much of a difference.

 

[Violater]

Dude kick them out of the house, you don't go anywhere.

 

[Rad-]

We really need pics of her.

 

[Takuan]

I really hope he's not the father because if he is this is really going to fuck me up. I don't want another sibling; I don't think I can forgive him this.

In a way I understand him not wanting to be alone. I feel he feared staying alone for the rest of his life (though I wouldn't have left him), but I always thought the whole thing was sort of a joke. At least not to where a kid would be the end result.

About her college. Like I said, her family is poor and she couldn't afford one, so she started studying later than usual. This was all after mom had passed away.

Also, for clarification, I said he was nearing his 70s, not that he's 70, he's 67. Not that that makes much of a difference.

Listen to the advice in this thread and protect your fucking neck. God damn.

 

[Keri]

I really hope he's not the father because if he is this is really going to fuck me up. I don't want another sibling; I don't think I can forgive him this.

This actually sounds pretty selfish and childish. Honestly, how does your father having another child affect your life, other than reducing your inheritance? You phrase it, like your father having another child is something he's done that actively hurts you.

 

[WonkyPanda]

We really need pics of her.

It's the only way.

 

[Charles Foster Kane]

This actually sounds pretty selfish and childish. Honestly, how does your father having another child affect your life, other than reducing your inheritance? You phrase it, like your father having another child is something he's done that actively hurts you.

I say it because these people hated my mother and were asses to us during the most difficult time in our lives. Having a child with them (and she being my age) really troubles me. I don't care if it makes me sound childish. I also don't care about any inheritance.

 

[Sats]

Read it as "My father knocked up my young girlfriend"

And was infinitely more interested.

Still, I would move on and let it be. He is an old man will little life left. If he is being used and knows it, he probably don't care, since he gets 27-year old pussy.

 

[Mr. B Natural]

Guys, he's nearing his 70's, not 90's.

 

[eudaemonic]

I say it because these people hated my mother and were asses to us during the most difficult time in our lives. Having a child with them really troubles me. I don't care if it makes me sound childish. I also don't care about any inheritance.

When it happens... it's not because you care about the money.. it's because THEY cared about the money. You get angry because in the end - they won and your father's life was just a stepping stone.

 

[Village]

Did he pay for your university? If not, I would be pissed.

That's kinda what I wanna know.

 

[Takuan]

I say it because these people hated my mother and were asses to us during the most difficult time in our lives. Having a child with them (and she being my age) really troubles me. I don't care if it makes me sound childish. I also don't care about any inheritance.

Talk to him, not us.

 

[Miles X]

Why are you all assuming he paid for her education when she was 17, are you only allowed to enter Uni at that age or something? I don't think so ..

Maybe it was more recently.

 

[Charles Foster Kane]

Talk to him, not us.

There's nothing to talk about. Like I said, I was just trying to vent a little, but whatever.

 

[Keri]

I say it because these people hated my mother and were asses to us during the most difficult time in our lives. Having a child with them (and she being my age) really troubles me. I don't care if it makes me sound childish. I also don't care about any inheritance.

I guess that makes sense, but your father already chose these people over your mother 4 years ago. This horrible thing he's done, he did already. Having a child doesn't change anything, except make it so you can't ignore his decision.

The best you can do now is recommend a paternity test. If the child is his, then there's nothing else you can do, the child will be the priority.

 

[RSLAEV]

Secure as much of his estate as you can legally (lawyer up?) and then bounce on this.

As gross as it is, I can't fault an old person for getting down with a younger consenting adult, but knocking her up was stupid and irresponsible-He's not going to be around to father that kid. I wouldn't be surprised if he expects the OP to pick up where he leaves off.

At least they aren't married so you aren't legally tied to this new family.

 

[Dark Octave]

If youdidn't like them being together you should have messed with her and then let your dad find out. If you're a younger version of your dad that would have made it even easier. He would have eventually gotten over it.

Too late now though. She's in like Ben. About to inherit all your birthright millions.

 

[Anticitizen One]

If I was in your dad's shoes I would have my fun with the girl while also excluding her from the will.

 

[Busty]

It saddens me because my dad is nearing his 70s (she's my age, 27) and she controls him like a puppet. Knowing her I can't help but feel she doesn't give a shit about him. It's his life I guess, I don't know.

:O

Man alive. Don't take this the wrong way (I'm sorry that you're understandably hurting over this) but is your Dad rich or something because if not that's crazy....,

How on earth does a hook up like that even happen?

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

You really think that's your dad's kid? When is there ever a case when a 20-something-year-old has a geriatric boyfriend or husband and ISN'T also banging someone her age? The answer: never.

I will bet anything that is not your dad's kid.

 

[SoulClap]

They fucking used to make fun of my mom while she was on her wheel chair (she spent the last two years of he life on that chair).

That's fucking despicable man. You're disgust with all parties involved is completely warranted.

 

[thiscoldblack]

Wow, 2 months? That is heartless. It has been 3 days since my 2 year old hamster died and I haven't been able to get over with. A hamster! Your dad must have definitely stopped loving your mom for a while before her death.

At that age of 70, you're just near death and don't care anymore. He probably knows this 27 year old is taking advantage. He might just be in for the young poontang before the end. No offense, OP. Hope your dad starts to think of his family first before his pleasure.

 

[Concept17]

So let's run through the timeline:

Around 43 or 44 years ago, CFK's mom and dad get married.

Sometime before CFK is born, they move to the house that CFK grew up in and currently lives in. Across the street is a similarly aged young couple in their 20s or 30.

Around 28 years ago, both couples prepare for new children.

27 years ago, CFK and this woman (We'll call her Jane) are born. CFK's dad is 42/43.
Jane's family is poor.

Move to around 7-9 years ago: 18-20 years pass, and CFK and Jane have grown up. CFK's dad pays for Jane's college tuition. (?!?!?!)

6 years ago: CFK's mom's health begins to fail, and she becomes permanently confied to a wheelchair. Some time over the next 2 years, Jane and her family make fun of CFK's mom's condition.

4 years ago: CFK's mom dies. Almost immediately, CFK's dad and Jane reveal they're dating.

Present day: CFK's dad has heart problems. Jane has, since they started dating, tried many times to get CFK's dad to marry her. She "controls him like a puppet" and doesn't seem to care about CFK's dad much at all. Now she's pregnant, and she claims the kid is CFK's dad.


CFK, it seems pretty clear your dad is being used by this woman, and possibly her family. You claim your family is "ok" financially, but it sounds like you're decently well off. Maybe not rich, but upper middle class from the sounds of it.

It's been years since this thing started, and not once have you talked to Jane or your dad about this. You need to tell them, especially your father, how you really feel. Be honest, upfront, and don't mince your words.

If you truly do have a half-sibling coming into this world now, you owe it to him/her, as well.

Nice breakdown and good advice.

Basically, don't be a bitch about it and make sure hes not getting fucked over.

 

[Takuan]

There's nothing to talk about. Like I said, I was just trying to vent a little, but whatever.

As in you already talked to him about it, or you're not going to bother expressing how you feel to him?

 

[Bundy]

.....It saddens me because my dad is nearing his 70s (she's my age, 27)

Unbelieveble.....!

 

[ChubbyHuggs]

Even if you don't care about your inheritance, if that baby isn't his, she's stealing it from your sister and you. I would talk to him about a paternity test and express how you feel in general. If he's not down with any of it, just don't talk to your father anymore or as least as possible.