David Incorporated Esq.
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I'd say it's closer to 6/12 of the posts.AtomHeart said:
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My little brother beats me up what should I do?
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Devolution
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Call the cops next time this happens. Your brother needs court ordered anger management now. Let's say you fight him off, how would you feel about yourself if you could have nipped this behavior in the bud and he goes off and abuses a girlfriend/wife/child?
It's going to escalate, that's how abusive people work. He will keep coming at you until one of you (and it sounds like it will be you) is unconscious or dead.
It's going to escalate, that's how abusive people work. He will keep coming at you until one of you (and it sounds like it will be you) is unconscious or dead.
Mister_Bubbles said:
And here I wondered if I was the only one thinking this.
KaotikMind said:
Fighting back could conceivably help; other people have mentioned that it has helped them in this topic. But it isn't the magic bullet you're pretending it is.
He's not going to earn any respect simply by fighting back - he would need to fight back and actually do enough damage to dissuade his brother from doing it again, or make him afraid. If he fights back, doesn't manage to hurt his brother, and his brother beats him worse for his impudence, he isn't going to earn more respect.
Given that he's said that his brother is 6' and is buff, and that he's 5'6" and doesn't work out, I don't exactly like his chances there. I'd think that failure is more likely than not. He'd have to get a really, really lucky shot, because I doubt he could do enough damage hitting anywhere but the face or genitals.
Devolution
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Mumei said:
I hate how people are making this about the OP. It's about his brother. Let's say OP does fight his brother and gets him to back off. His brother sounds like the type who will just find a new victim of his abusive tendencies honestly.
BobsRevenge
I do not avoid women, GAF, but I do deny them my essence.
Get drunk with him and smoke cigarettes in your back yard and have a cathartic moment where you both realize how much you love each other and need to get over whatever hidden reason is causing him to lash out.
Drunk back yard smoking sessions are powerful in this regard.
Drunk back yard smoking sessions are powerful in this regard.
TheRagnCajun
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Did someone suggest kicking him in the balls yet?
Pristine_Condition
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1) Buy some pepper spray.
2) Evaluate your life.
2) Evaluate your life.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I don't think it's about preserving the relationship~ it's just the principal of the matter.Mumei said:
He needs to deal with his family directly, no 3rd party involvement is needed yet. So far he's just allowed the abuse to continue and he's probably encouraged the behavior by ignoring the problem instead of trying to deal with it.
If it was a step sibling/parent or a family members boyfriend that he had no relationship with sure thing call the cops asap.
Earthstrike
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AlimNassor said:
And what isn't humiliating. Allowing yourself to continually be beaten because you're scared?
Or the OP could potentially become like his father granted the history of domestic abuse in the family with the mother.Devolution said:
He just hasn't succumbed to his father's actions, so in another way, he is stronger internally.
I don't understand the internet tough guy thing. Isn't this a form of trolling?
Would you honestly risk the OP's life to do something that can be potentially life ending? His brother seems like he shouldn't be in public as he can be harming others as well.
Seems like these fight back suggestions are from people who find life boring and by telling someone to do what they think is entertaining, that's how they get a kick out of life.
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AbortedWalrusFetus
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If you do not want to go to the police (which you should), then file for a restraining order. It is possible to get a restraining order against someone you live with and they will be required to relocate. Although, I would say, even if you go to the police you should still get the restraining order.
There are so many ignorant people/internet tough guys in this thread that it's disgusting. Regardless of how you feel about how people should fight back/protect themselves, it's irrelevant and stupid to bring up. Even if people SHOULD fight back, the fact of the matter is that people have a RIGHT to live without malice or physical attacks against them. Fighting back will not always work, but more importantly it's not a step you should ever HAVE to take. That's why we have a system of laws and police to enforce them.
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That's not to mention the long-term repercussions of not taking action. If this guy lacks the filter to stop from assaulting his own family, what happens when he gets angry at someone on the road, or when he turns 21 (or whatever the legal age of wherever OP lives) and is a drunk, raging, violent person? Not taking action now to curb this violence is going to wind up with more people getting hurt than just OP, even if OP were to kick the living shit out of his brother.
There are so many ignorant people/internet tough guys in this thread that it's disgusting. Regardless of how you feel about how people should fight back/protect themselves, it's irrelevant and stupid to bring up. Even if people SHOULD fight back, the fact of the matter is that people have a RIGHT to live without malice or physical attacks against them. Fighting back will not always work, but more importantly it's not a step you should ever HAVE to take. That's why we have a system of laws and police to enforce them.
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That's not to mention the long-term repercussions of not taking action. If this guy lacks the filter to stop from assaulting his own family, what happens when he gets angry at someone on the road, or when he turns 21 (or whatever the legal age of wherever OP lives) and is a drunk, raging, violent person? Not taking action now to curb this violence is going to wind up with more people getting hurt than just OP, even if OP were to kick the living shit out of his brother.
So if the thread title was changed to My boyfriend (or husband or father) Beats Me Up, would the response still be "just fight him yourself"?
I don't see why this should be treated any differently than any other kind of domestic abuse.
There's a big difference between brotherly fighting and constantly getting bruises and even a black eye.
I don't see why this should be treated any differently than any other kind of domestic abuse.
There's a big difference between brotherly fighting and constantly getting bruises and even a black eye.
bengraven
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You have three choices:
1) accept it; you're the lesser man and you need to submit to the alpha
2) fight back; fight back more and more each time he fights you, no matter how hard it hurts...learn to accept pain and fight THROUGH it
3) find more clever ways to torment him to get him back...get him arrested for something he didn't do or fuck his girlfriend.
1) accept it; you're the lesser man and you need to submit to the alpha
2) fight back; fight back more and more each time he fights you, no matter how hard it hurts...learn to accept pain and fight THROUGH it
3) find more clever ways to torment him to get him back...get him arrested for something he didn't do or fuck his girlfriend.
lunarworks
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OP's bailed on us. I saw him in another thread.
BannedEpisode
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Every time I go to OT and see this thread I laugh a little bit.
I shouldnt.
But I do.
I shouldnt.
But I do.
WrathOfOtaibah
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Mumei said:
KaotikMind said:
You were saying?
LQX
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Why is it some seem to think no one on GAF or the internet for that matter could possibly be tough or fighter from experience and give sound advise on fighting and kicking someone else ass? Some of you make it seem like the internet is filled with sniveling nerds unable to defend them self's with anything other than words.AtomHeart said:
Dabookerman
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I think there's enough tough guys in this thread to liberate North Korea.
LaserBuddha
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LQX said:
For another example, check out the fantasy of what hackers are like in those PSN Hacker threads.
Unfortunately, the water table where I live is too high to have basements, so I'll never be a hacker.
Both you and your brother are mentally ill. He needs to deal with his temper and you need to deal with issues of self-worth. You are literally polar opposites on the psychoses scale, judging from your posts.
Call the cops, get him help. It's either that, or he winds up raging on the wrong guy and eats a bullet.
Call the cops, get him help. It's either that, or he winds up raging on the wrong guy and eats a bullet.
Haven't read the rest of this thread, but... Pepper spray everything in his room. His keyboard, etc, etc. Make sure to admit to it too, fuck him. Throw him nut shots randomly.
All else fails, learn a few moves. You don't need to win it in a fist fight, but if you can hold him in a move or headlock, that would be good too. Watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3K-mrlYG7Y
All else fails, learn a few moves. You don't need to win it in a fist fight, but if you can hold him in a move or headlock, that would be good too. Watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3K-mrlYG7Y
How is he mentally ill? Do dudes that are beaten up by other dudes in prison have issues of self-worth? His brother has an obvious size advantage and has some training. No amount of confidence that op can possibly show would protect him from getting a beatdown.Takuan said:
OP can either tell someone or do something to let his brother know that he shouldn't be fucked with. Personally I would find something that would hurt the brother, but won't break a bone. I would throw a pillowcase over him and go to town with some type of weapon. If you have to be a snake ass motherfucker to get your point across then do it.
Some of you are dumb and are looking at this wrong. Forget the whole brother thing and look at the situation at the root; a bigger, trained dude is beating up a smaller dude on the regular. That is the situation. A lot of you can puff your chests out all you want, but if you were thrown into a cell with a badass dude most of the people in this thread would bitch up.
David Incorporated Esq.
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If the OP doesn't hurry up and give us an update I'm gonna kick his ass!
I think the root problem is that the guy is reluctant to do anything to address the issue because of the consequences his brother will face, despite knowing for a fact he has problems with rage.charsace said:
I don't think fighting back is a viable alternative. Baby bro sounds like a monster.
Kos Luftar
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Start crying, next time he tries to beat you up.
Sorry to hear about your situation, OP. You need to talk to your family about this, and then talk to your brother, but don't show fear or he'll call you out on it. Tell him you'll call the cops if he lays a finger on you again. And then just don't talk to him.
Or something like that. Or just call the cops.
Also lmao
HeadlessRoland
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This thread WAS good for something! What a douche :lol
Or something like that. Or just call the cops.
Also lmao
HeadlessRoland
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This thread WAS good for something! What a douche :lol
KaotikMind said:
In regards to your statement, "Well sir i agree with this statement, and just for clarity fighting back will not solve everything, but it is the best solution and his brother will start backing up and respecting him more when he sees he isn't a pushover," you mean?
Same thing.
By "magic bullet" I wasn't suggesting that you thought it would solve everything. I was suggesting that you thought that the mere act of fighting back would make his brother think that he's not a pushover (essentially what you argue right there), and I don't think that's the case. His brother's going to think he's just as much of a pushover when he fights back and still gets his ass kicked.
As charsace said, his brother has a size advantage and some training; fighting back isn't going to protect him from getting beating.
Still don't see what's so complicated about the "call the cops" option.
Devolution
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Outlaw said:
This thread has just been filled to the brim with a bunch of dudes hopped on too much egotistical bullshit to see that the OP is honestly suffering at the hands of his physically superior and imposing brother. Instead of offering him valid advice, you insult those who are trying to help him without suggesting he do something violent in return.
Clearly I'm a fucking pansy for telling the OP his brother needs counseling and help, not to be beaten himself. But what the fuck ever.
Mistake
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If it's going this far now, then it WILL get worse later. It doesn't have to be you either. Wresting between brothers is one thing, regular black eyes is another. And seeing as your brother has gotten not only the genes, but the mentality to match your father, I would seek help. Have a serious discussion with your mother, and possibly your brother if he complies. See what your mother says about the situation and go from there. If it continues then call the cops. He will get some charges, but you can get the court to send him for anger management classes. Again, this is best prevented early.
The brother does need help, but how do you suggest the OP makes him get help? Bringing it up would likely end up getting him a beatdown. I am looking out for the op and don't give a fuck about his brother who uses him as a punching bag whenever the mood strikes. The OP's brother is a predator and the OP is the prey. Nothing that he can say will change how his brother views him, which won't stop the beatdowns.Devolution said:
The op has to fuck him up. The op has to be sneaky about it though because his brother will beat him down if he tries to do it when the brother confronts him to beat him up. IMO the op shouldn't even wait for another ass kicking, he should do something sneaky and fuck him up real good. Earlier I said he shouldn't break any bones, but breaking one of his brothers arms or legs could help him get the point across to his brother that he isn't a person to fuck with. That he isn't prey.
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