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Because it's lazy and thoughtless. Especially with the male elf option. The damsel in distress is used so often because of course men hate it when their women are taken. They must go after them. And this time we add the threat of rape. Why? Hmm how do you show the oppression of the elves in the city? Well... Rape the women. That'll show their oppression. The elf women get raped and the elf men's women get raped. Everyone is oppressed! There are many ways they could have shown how bad the city elves as a whole being oppressed, but they specifically chose one that targeted the women.
Why is it lazy and thoughtless? Your argument basically boils down to "I don't like it because it's a trope." Guess what: everything is a trope. Taking issue with tropes just because they're tropes (and therefore "overused") is ludicrous.
It's not simply about if the act is used, it's about why it's used. What its purpose is. One quick tip would be if using it isn't even about the act itself, but just being used simply as a means to elaborate on something else in the story (example: using it to show how evil someone, or a group is), then you might want to think twice.
You realize that literally everything in a narrative is being used to "elaborate on the story," right? There is no such thing as an event depicted in a work of literature that "is just about the act itself," whatever the hell that means.
Why is it relevant? Men do sometimes play as the female option.
Sure, and women sometimes play as men too. But Sarkeesian's thesis is that this trope exists as a way to titillate male gamers, by putting them in the position of the heroic macho rescuer of the helpless women. Except in this case you can play as a woman and save your own self. She doesn't mention this, however, presumably because it's an indication that her thesis might be oversimplified and she's not intellectually rigorous enough to anticipate and defend against potential criticisms.
They are still both examples. Just because you think one is worse than another doesn't make it not an example. It doesn't invalidate everything in the video, and it doesn't diminish either as an example.
They're not both examples. These are totally different depictions. None of the reasons that Sarkeesian gives for why the women as background decoration trope is supposedly objectionable applies to the Dragon Age example.