Yes, I agree. But inevitability doesn't mean you should rest on your laurels, right?
I mean, I believe gay marriage is inevitable. It's moving in that direction. Yet you still fight, despite its inevitability. I still "fight" too (although I hate that word, because it helps encourage incivility toward the "opponent," who is our brother or sister on earth). I just happen to be on the losing side.
Yeah, I largely agree. But I think you're underestimating the weight of societal shunning. In fact, I would say shunning is the central aspect being battled in the gay rights movement, and is the biggest reason gay couples want the title "marriage" instead of a "civil union" that gives all the rights of marriage (which I support, btw). I hear much about how they don't want to be second class citizens, which is completely understandable. The only difference between an (ideal) civil union and a marriage is the shape of the ink printed at the top of the page. They can still have lifelong commitments, they can still adopt, they can still have ceremonies... none of their actual, tangible freedoms would be blocked, just as no one can actually change my beliefs. But the SHUNNING is what gets them, the "lesser" perception of a civil union, even if legally it's identical to marriage.
Anyway, I understand completely the gay rights movement and the desire to no longer be shunned. Shunning is a terrible thing. For me, though, the answer isn't within the word "marriage," vs. "civil union," the answer is in empathy. To be able to put yourself in someone else's shoes doesn't mean you go along with everything they say, but it does help you love them and treat them like the human being they are, which we have far too little of in this world.