Clay Davis
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Ok, I misunderstood your point then. Although I would say that you should not need to "instill" self-esteem in your kids, it should come naturally as you raise them to be strong and independent adults.
And there are certain things we do that really are to artificially boost kids' self esteem, like not being allowed to fail kids in schools, that shit needs to stop.
what do you base that on? did your parents not instill some some sense of self worth and by extension, self esteem? I don't believe you're right at all in trying to state that it comes naturally through nurturing or upbringing. the only way it could come through those means is if the child is taught about self worth and instilled with some level of self esteem. these things don't come naturally as you claim they do, but I would like to know what you base it on. what have you experienced that leads you to believe that self esteem comes naturally?
I agree that the "everyone is a winner" mantra needs to die. I didn't have it when I was growing up and it didn't affect me or anyone around me at the time adversely if anything, losing taught me to take defeat with pride and try harder next time, to not give up because I wasn't successful the first time round.
