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Should I be worried here?? (potential affair)

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Defending deleting messages in general is a no brainier.

She denied their existence in the first place if I recall correctly however.

Innocently.. "yeah i was bitching about work, and deleted them because there were a fuck ton"

Non-innocent.." I didn't have any. CRYYYY ok he's married"
 
Domino Theory said:
Um, in general, if your wife was cheating on you, but at the same time willing to come back home every night and still fuck you, then who cares if she's cheating, lol. She still likes you, still comes home, and still wants to have sex.
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that's a horrible mindset, you're more pathetic than the OP if you believe that shit. Besides he's NOT getting sex.
 
Zoe said:
From the sounds of it, even though they work at the same place, they're on different teams. However, it does seem like she's on the same team as the other guy, so it would make sense to vent to him if it's something relevant to both of them.
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but why should the wife text the guy she sits next to?
 
Imm0rt4l said:
but why should the wife text the guy she sits next to?
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If it's venting about work, you may not want that stuff being said out loud or via IM which could be logged by the company.
 
So, now Gaf has turned on itself? Sees fitting, but people, remember, neither of these characters are anywhere near defending. And they both need out of the relationship.
 
lil smoke said:
*sigh* For example, at work I email a girl back and forth sometimes. Talking about nothing. Stupid shit. At the end of the day the inbox is something like:

sue
HR
sue
sue
sue
VP
sue
wash dept
bob
sue
fred
sue
sue
sue

If someone walks past my computer and see that, they are going to be curious. So I'll just delete Sue's name. Problem solved. Misunderstanding averted.

Or say you suscribe to a forum that automatically forwards responses to your phone. Lots of responses come in one day, so now your phone is bombarded with XForum messages. You can't even scroll to the messages you need. So... you simply delete the XForum messages.

Some people are just anal, and do shit like that for organizational purposes. I mean it never looks right to have one persons name repeated in your inbox or phone. Sometimes I go into my Blackberry and delete chatty (hi h r u) (kbythx) (meet @ 7) messages from certain people, and I save messages from others.

All sorts of things people do... everything is not always as it seems. Open your mind to other plausible explanations. Don't always jump to the obvious conclusion.
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I'm calling these possible explanations, not plausible. Obvious conclusion is obvious for a reason...
 
Zoe said:
If it's venting about work, you may not want that stuff being said out loud or via IM which could be logged by the company.
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You're going to great lengths here. Occam's Razor tells me his wife is blowing this dude.
 
OP also made it sound like his wife deletes only the messages to/from this guy, and that she did it everyday. Doesn't sound like they were deleted because her inbox was full.
 
With the thread surviving this long you can really start to get a good feel for the gaf members that are vested in this relationships demise.
 
joelseph said:
With the thread surviving this long you can really start to get a good feel for the gaf members that are vested in this relationships demise.
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I don't want his relationship to demise, I just want closure damnit.

This thread is the biggest cocktease ever.
 
Zoe said:
If it's venting about work, you may not want that stuff being said out loud or via IM which could be logged by the company.
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From what the op has said these text have been going on for more then one day.... Unless she needs to vent with 30-40 text a day and only bothers to delete text from this one number, doesn't make much sense, does that not seem strange to you? If not your probably getting played like an ps2 game just like him.
 
Darkman M said:
From what the op has said these text have been going on for more then one day.... Unless she needs to vent with 30-40 text a day and only bothers to delete text from this one number, doesn't make much sense, does that not seem strange to you? If not your probably getting played like an ps2 game just like him.
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The OP also admitted he exagerrated the situation. maybe he's just melodramatic. That's what it seems like to me. I mean he made this thread, struggles with what to do, breaks down in tears with his wify, comes back and everything is all good.

Who knows wtf this is about anymore :lol
 
eznark said:
You're going to great lengths here. Occam's Razor tells me his wife is blowing this dude.
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Occam's Razor tells me GAF is full of misogynists who are quick to assume the worst.
 
Zoe said:
If it's venting about work, you may not want that stuff being said out loud or via IM which could be logged by the company.
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Have you ever "vented about work" as much as this girl has (if we believe the op) without being involved or sexually attracted to the person?

From my personal experience there's one thing my girlfriends have all had in common, the need to tell me constantly how annoying their boss/work colleague/teacher/mother is, and work colleagues may make a passing remark about it but honestly nothing more.

This agrees with my life-long theory that if a woman talks to you a lot about her personal life she is interested in you.
 
joeblackisback said:
I think this about sums it up right now. There needs to be a moratorium on posting in this thread until OP comes back/shows up on the news.
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Too late. The misogyny accusation might have just given this thread new life.
 
I wonder if his wife knows how much her husband trashes her on some random internet forum.

Don't get me wrong, she doesn't seem like the most awesome g/f in the world .... but you sir certainly don't seem to be any better. If I was a chick, I'd probably cheat on you too.

And you approach sex with your wife all too wrongly. Spend time with her, make her laugh, do stupid shit, indulge in playing WoW with her and helping her out in it or something. Make her happy and she will make you happy (hopefully).

Don't just expect to go into the bedroom when she is watching TV and out of nowhere start making out with her. From my experience, women and their sex drives are not like light switches ... even though ours often are haha.

Compliments and flirting will go a long way in the long run ... and if they don't ... your wife really does suck and she needs an attitude adjustment or she needs to be dropped.
 
travisbickle said:
Have you ever "vented about work" as much as this girl has (if we believe the op) without being involved or sexually attracted to the person?
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Not about work, but yes.
 
Zoe said:
Occam's Razor tells me GAF is full of misogynists who are quick to assume the worst.
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If you had posted the exact same thing about your husband/boyfriend my reaction would be identical. It's not sexism, it's realism.
 
lil smoke said:
The OP also admitted he exagerrated the situation. maybe he's just melodramatic. That's what it seems like to me. I mean he made this thread, struggles with what to do, breaks down in tears with his wify, comes back and everything is all good.

Who knows wtf this is about anymore :lol
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Perhaps in reality, the wife has a specific set of chores, which she does really quickly, then plays WoW for like an hour or two before doing whatever else she has to do.

We don't have her side. We have the OPs, extremely biased side, and he seems a tad unstable.
 
travisbickle said:
This agrees with my life-long theory that if a woman talks to you a lot about her personal life she is interested in you.
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I strongly disagree with this statement. Can be quite the contrary actually.

Or you might say she's "interested" but not romantically interested.
 
lil smoke said:
I strongly disagree with this statement. Can be quite the contrary actually.
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Yeah, usually when a girl talks to you about her personal life it means you're in the dreaded "friend zone."
 
OxtheMidget said:
Some women just don't get it... looking at porno means nothing at all in regard to what you think about your partner. Anyways, you should just make her accept it and tell her it has nothing to do with her. I think it's ridiculous if a girl won't let you look at porn.
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Kinda off topic. But yes, it can mean something if the guy has an actual addiction to it. I dated a guy that did and it was really bad. Fucked up my self esteem big time. I'd be gone at work for 10 minutes, before he'd get to his porn thing. he'd 80% of the time would also refuse to have sex with me (and I had a decently large sexual appetite..) So, it's not fair to assume it doesn't always just mean nothing. :/ It can definitely become a problem depending on the person.

Edit: As for OP.. I generally get the feeling some things in his thread might be exaggerated about his wife to try and make HIM look better. That's usually what people do when they're venting on forums I've noticed. So he is obviously leaving stuff out about himself. And yeah, I don't blame her for cheating if you apparently think so lowly of her anyway. Just end it. Unless you two are the type that like being with someone you hate and enjoy the constant drama.
 
Koshiba said:
I generally get the feeling some things in his thread might be exaggerated about his wife to try and make HIM look better. That's usually what people do when they're venting on forums I've noticed.
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so your ex boyfriend's porn addiction wasn't too bad then? ;)
 
You guys like drama way too much.:lol

BUT WHAT ABOUT THE TEXTS?!?!

I selectively delete text messages all the time. Bunch of drama queens.

Reasons:

Planning a surprise
Buying drugs
Privacy
 
levious said:
so your ex boyfriend's porn addiction wasn't too bad then? ;)
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No, it was quite bad. But I didn't go making a thread about how lazy he was and how he just sat around playing CS and looking at porn while I was working hard and ask GAF OHNOESWHATTODO. :P From the amount of threads he's started about it, he seems like he wants empathy/attention though which is what makes me suspect that.
 
Sometimes when my dogs are bad, I don't even feel right saying this, but sometimes I'll lift them up by their neck and put them against the wall and tell them "You do that one more time I'll fucking kill you".
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What kind of man does this sort of shit? No wonder your wife is looking for some real cock..
 
Macattk15 said:
....And you approach sex with your wife all too wrongly. Spend time with her, make her laugh, do stupid shit, indulge in playing WoW with her and helping her out in it or something. Make her happy and she will make you happy (hopefully).

Don't just expect to go into the bedroom when she is watching TV and out of nowhere start making out with her. From my experience, women and their sex drives are not like light switches ... even though ours often are haha.

Compliments and flirting will go a long way in the long run ...
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This man knows what he is talking about!
 
joelseph said:
With the thread surviving this long you can really start to get a good feel for the gaf members that are vested in this relationships demise.
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I just want to know whether or not the OP tasted the other dude's dick on her lips.
 
Nore said:
Yeah, usually when a girl talks to you about her personal life it means you're in the dreaded "friend zone."
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Technically (most of the time) you're only in the friend zone if you actually listen/pay attention to her stories.
 
Xeke said:
You guys like drama way too much.:lol

BUT WHAT ABOUT THE TEXTS?!?!

I selectively delete text messages all the time. Bunch of drama queens.

Reasons:

Planning a surprise
Buying drugs
Privacy
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The point is, she lied about it, then started to cry, then said "Wait no he is married". What does that have to do with anything?

It's pretty obvious she is full of something, and I mean besides her co-workers dick.
 
Yeah, you can say they were just texts or whatever but DeathNote pretty much nailed it. Emphasis on the bold.

DeathNote said:
Defending deleting messages in general is a no brainier.

She denied their existence in the first place if I recall correctly however.

Innocently.. "yeah i was bitching about work, and deleted them because there were a fuck ton"

Non-innocent.." I didn't have any. CRYYYY ok he's married"
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Whether or not the OP is a douche and "deserves" it or whatever is another topic. One that I'd be glad to participate in for that matter.
 
travisbickle said:
So a man "can't control physical attraction", and a woman "develops attraction from deeper feelings", so what you do with this knowledge is have a secret relationship with a female colleague you are physically attracted to so that she can grow feelings for you.

If you carry on you are going to cheat on your girlfriend, trust me.


And my girlfriend can usually tell if I've jerked off by the amount of cum in her mouth/the condom, but she's never been bothered about it.
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It's not a relationship, and it's not even that secret :) I don't do anything that would make this girl think i'm attracted to her (although she probably knows everyone is by default). Actually, i must be the only one around that has never EVER let his appreciation show for anyone, i guess i come through as a very cold person, while every other guy constantly comment on how they would fhuta/cum on everyone.
I'm just being polite, helpful and quite the gentleman, but i do the same with everyone. Besides, she hasn't come clear about us, which is why i still couldn't make it clear i'm not going to let anything happen between us. Might be a huge misunderstanding on my side after all. Doubtful, but still.

And no i never jerked off to her : ) Actually i haven't jerked off in i don't know how long. Years probably. Been together since 2003 and my girlfriend is still wild in bed : )
 
RobertM said:
Did they guy that didn't pay for the drinks in Taiwan die?
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frankly, we need a recap of all those threads.

I was wondering what happened to the guy in taiwan as well, but there's several other stories that need to be told
 
You let her onto your snooping with those joke texts and such, and planned ahead her responses to anything that you would throw her way... She bested you.

Also, looking at your other posts, yes, you should be worried.

Why not bail out now? It sounds like you're miserable. Yes, it will suck for a while doing the whole divorce thing and splitting up, but think of the freedom on the other side of that hill!

There's plenty of fish in the sea (though it seems with your current wife you got a shark instead of a fish!
Fuck anyone who dare tells me if a shark is a fish or what-not. That's not my point!
)
 
Koshiba said:
Kinda off topic. But yes, it can mean something if the guy has an actual addiction to it. I dated a guy that did and it was really bad. Fucked up my self esteem big time. I'd be gone at work for 10 minutes, before he'd get to his porn thing. he'd 80% of the time would also refuse to have sex with me (and I had a decently large sexual appetite..) So, it's not fair to assume it doesn't always just mean nothing. :/ It can definitely become a problem depending on the person.

Edit: As for OP.. I generally get the feeling some things in his thread might be exaggerated about his wife to try and make HIM look better. That's usually what people do when they're venting on forums I've noticed. So he is obviously leaving stuff out about himself. And yeah, I don't blame her for cheating if you apparently think so lowly of her anyway. Just end it. Unless you two are the type that like being with someone you hate and enjoy the constant drama.
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Couldn't he have sex while watching porn? He seriously needs to learn how to multitask.
 
SapientWolf said:
Couldn't he have sex while watching porn? He seriously needs to learn how to multitask.
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I once tried to have sex whilst emulating what was going on in the porn. Unfortunately that night all I had was Siamese Gymnast Midgets 3 - Double Blow.
 
SapientWolf said:
Couldn't he have sex while watching porn? He seriously needs to learn how to multitask.
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Well it's a messed up addiction for a reason. but no, I wouldn't like if the only way we'd have sex is if porn was on. Not very healthy in my opinion. Maybe as an occasional thing, but every time? No thank you. Besides, that's not what this thread is about. :lol I just figured I'd bring up (despite being full of a forum where a lot of people porn is probably the closest thing to a real woman for them..) that porn does not always = healthy/normal. Can be an unhealthy addiction like anything else. Also, he'd never look at PORN so much per say, MOST of it was nude pictures from what I remember, that he'd browse and save every single day. Anyway, not every one should need porn in general if they have a healthy active sex life. I don't really use porn much when I'm in a relationship unless well, something is wrong with the relationship. :/

OP is dead. D;
 
there is a really easy solution here, put your penis in her, if it doesnt fit right you know she cheated on you.....and that he is doing it better and bigger then you
 
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