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The worst 'dating' rejection someone had to face?

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I was 9 or 10 and in elementary school. It was during class when we (the kids) were working on plants and a cute girl named Valerie came up to me and said, "Hey, I've been looking at you and... you're really ugly." A group of student behind her snickered. It was all a big joke.

It's surprising that I remember that. That was 14 years ago.

I don't like going to parties with my friends because all of them are handsome and I am not. And if I go with just one of them it becomes even more obvious because the girls at the party all stare at him and I just blend into the furniture. Now when friends text me about hanging out or going to parties I just tell them I'm not feeling well or that I just can't because it's late. I'm starting to lose everyone.
 
There was this guy who went up to a girl in front of me and told her she was the most beautiful girl on campus and to have a happy valentines day. She said thanks, he stood there for a second awkwardly then left.
 
Bombadil said:
I was 9 or 10 and in elementary school. It was during class when we (the kids) were working on plants and a cute girl named Valerie came up to me and said, "Hey, I've been looking at you and... you're really ugly." A group of student behind her snickered. It was all a big joke.

It's surprising that I remember that. That was 14 years ago.

I don't like going to parties with my friends because all of them are handsome and I am not. And if I go with just one of them it becomes even more obvious because the girls at the party all stare at him and I just blend into the furniture. Now when friends text me about hanging out or going to parties I just tell them I'm not feeling well or that I just can't because it's late. I'm starting to lose everyone.
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Go for your friends.

I usually don't assume girls at parties will be into me, but I also doubt that they're my type, so it's whatever. Go to hang with your bros and wingman if necessary - that just requires you to be a catalyst. And drunk times are always great.
 
I got dumped via IM once. She wanted to go back to being friends effective immediately. The rest of that conversation was really awkward.
 
Had a girl tell me she wouldn't come to my funeral if I died, and then told me not to talk to her ever again unless my parents died or something.

I deserved it. It didn't make it sting any less. I was like fifteen...or sixteen at the time. It's so long ago, I can't remember now. That's really weird considering I spent over a year and a half obsessing over it and depressed by it.

Stupid teenage years. Screw that noise, man.
 
Mistouze said:
That's not rejection though, that's life giving you the gift of avoiding to date a cunt. Imagine dating a girl for some time before realizing she's a racist...
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The way I see it, it is very saddening that my race is even an issue. Of COURSE I prefer knowing from the onset, but still, it hurts.
 
Cosmic Bus said:
This is not the worst, but for me, it certainly felt like it.

A guy finally accepted my invitation to go on a date -- my first and only date in 34 years -- and it went wonderfully. We talked, cooked, watched a movie, etc. He dumped me via text 20 minutes after he left that night.

I honestly think it crushed my spirits so much that my interest in even trying anymore simply vanished.
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Sounds like you avoided a douchebag. You don't need to date to validate yourself but to find companionship with people who are nice.
 
megamerican said:
This happened to me in the opposite way today. I was at the mall waiting for someone and this guy comes over and starts chit chatting with me. I'm super incredulous but polite. Eventually he asks if I wanted to thumb wrestle and I just said "uh....nah". He looked really hurt and it didn't dawn on me until then that he was probably hitting on me. I feel strangely guilty about it even though I'm straight.
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Getting hit on by gay men actually boosts my mood.
 
I used to get a lot of;

*You're just a friend

*You're a nice guy but....

*I'm sort of seeing someone

Sometimes a combo of all three, as has been said in this topic already I'd just prefer a straight no back then. Anyway datings behind me now so I don't have to deal with that anymore.
 
I met this girl at a bar a few weeks back, she was visiting Boston from Seattle. Things seemed to be going well at the end of the night so I moved in to try to kiss her, and she turned her cheek and said "Don't try to kiss me, you silly Boston man."

And...I dunno in retrospect what a weird thing to say. But it stung at the time.
 
Team mate got her cousin to prank call me, sounded just like my crush, chatted me up on the phone. Go up to him in the cafeteria and start talking to him about it. Of course he doesn't know what's going on. One of the most embarrassing moments in my life.
 
There was a girl that I had the biggest crush on from 3rd grade all through middle school. I told her and she laughed at me. Felt bad, man.
 
I once witnessed a drunken friend go in for a kiss on a girl he liked. She full out juked his advance and due to being drunk, he lost his balance and fell face first into the ground. It was like a horribly failed trust-fall.
 
I've been shot down a couple of times.

I've developed a relationship impediment since then. Usually I date girls and then I shoot them down, hard. It's a revenge of sorts. And I am so tired of it.
 
BobTheFork said:
I got set up on a blind date by a friend once. After about 30 minutes at dinner, she said 'Do you remember when FRIEND tried to set us up, lol'

Me: "...remember? Isn't that what we are doing now?"

her: "well, you're nice but I have standards for the guys I date"

I paid for the meal with my food mostly still there and left.

Not even joking :/
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damn son
 
I asked a girl to have a coffee with me after she finished work (sales attendant girl), she said "I'm going home after work". I was stumped.
 
At a party, all seemed to go according to the keikaku with a cute girl.


And then, I aimed for the lips. And reached the cheek.


But come on guys, rejections are the love soldiers' scars!
 
Was at a bar, went up to a group of girls (like 6 or 7?) and started to bend over to talk to one of them. She backed away and started giggling with the girl next to her.
 
cryptic said:
I have one.

I was about 16 or so, a senior in high school.
One day while walking home for school I met this girl who looked real cute in her outfit or something about the light, I don't know.
Anyway I left off good, said maybe we should see each other again sometime, some shit.
So the next day I was all excited walking the same path home and then I spotted her with another girl.
I was at first somewhat trepidatious but continued to walk on the sidewalk toward her.
Then I noticed her dress, or the lighting, something was odd, this girl and her friend, they were both very young, like maybe freshmen. This was like a completely different girl than the one I saw yesterday, I thought.
I scrambled to think of something to say but I just stiffened up and kept walking past her and her friend, I just stonewalled her like an asshole, I saw her face change from a smile to a look of confusion.
Then I heard her say, "Oh no, he's blind."
The way she said that, I think she was serious; I became blind to reject her. (keanu voice)
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This post is like a fever dream. You're a madman.
 
Devolution said:
Team mate got her cousin to prank call me, sounded just like my crush, chatted me up on the phone. Go up to him in the cafeteria and start talking to him about it. Of course he doesn't know what's going on. One of the most embarrassing moments in my life.
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Ouch, total arse.
 
A girl who I had set up a dinner with, was at a pool party and I was supposed to pick her up. I confirmed it with her on the day and just before I was about to pick her up she SMSed me and told me we should go another day because It was raining...

So, a pool party is ok on a rainy day, but not a dinner at restaurant...
 
I wouldn't be surprised if some of the people on GAF with the most humiliating rejections are also the people who have had the most romantic successes.
 
Opiate said:
I wouldn't be surprised if some of the people on GAF with the most humiliating rejections are also the people who have had the most romantic successes.
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Well, yeah. They've been innoculated, so to speak. Fear of rejection doesn't strike so much in the hearts of the previously rejected,
 
Opiate said:
I wouldn't be surprised if some of the people on GAF with the most humiliating rejections are also the people who have had the most romantic successes.
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...Damn.

I was trying to think of instances that would prove you wrong and failed.

Wait, no, my ex-roommate.
 
The girl I've loved for years, FROM THIRD GRADE, the progress is so gradual it's shameful my friends! It's convoluted but the best progress came when she visited from college. I ran into her on Black Friday shopping at the mall and we swapped numbers since she got a new one.

Around December break on Facebook she posts a picture of me and her in high school. I'm shooting the shit with my crew when they tell me about this photo on facebook(since I don't have a Facebook). then right after talking about it, my buddy checks my iPod to look something up and suddenly it's a text from her(life huh? Lol). So I'm like YEEHAW!

We go to bed and we don't talk for a few days. I devise a plan to finally get this girl(once and for all, no more DICK'N around)

I text her back now that she's back in town. We chat and I joke around and get her to come over to my house to watch "Its A Wonderful Life". (yup I ain't play'n).

I figure it'll be late so maybe I'll get her all night ;D and a romantic film like that around Christmas which is ESSENTIALLY OUR RELATIONSHIP?! What could be a better plan?

It plays out well, we get intimate, watch this movie and I have to drive her home which I do SUPER late and we part at the door after a good night smooch. Sounds like I'm finally IN right?! This has been TEN FUCKING YEARS in the making... You KNOW I was dancing back to the car like someone who just won the lottery. (holy shit, maybe she looked out her window and SAW me dance! Lol)

-_- but since that day I haven't seen her even ONCE.

XD BLAH HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!! I texted her a few times but she wouldn't see me or hang out with me(crappy excuses) and then she posts pictures of a guy she's hanging out with instead of OUR night together. So what do I do? I think: "YOU PLAYED ME YOU SON OF A BITCH!" But thinking back now, a long distance relationship when she went back to college wouldn't have went well anyway so a one night stand? I can dig it -_-

She's super good at softball though and is beautiful and tall like a model so I figure at the LEAST I can brag that I pulled that girl when I'm like 40 or 50 someday. But until then, here's to rejection!!!!! May we be blessed with many more.

*CHEERS*

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I've been given the silent treatment over texts/calls after the first date a couple of times. Shit is worse than being told "sorry, I don't think we match" or something like that.

In the other hand there's an Spanish idiom, "hacer la cobra" (to do the cobra), for which I don't know if there's an equivalent in English that you can see at the beginning of this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewVOXv36F2E which I do an awful lot of times because I like being friendly at people in clubs and pubs and they always think the wrong thing.
 
JokerOfSpades said:
I never understood what special type of monster you'd have to be to laugh at someone asking you out.

Certainly throws a wrench in the whole "the worst they can do is say no" bit.
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Well the worst was when she pretended to be interested and gave me her number, but didn't reply to my texts for a week, then finally sent me a text telling me she wasn't interested.

I'd rather be laughed at than given that kind of false hope.

Being laughed at is just the most common.
 
KevinCow said:
Well the worst was when she pretended to be interested and gave me her number, but didn't reply to my texts for a week, then finally sent me a text telling me she wasn't interested.

I'd rather be laughed at than given that kind of false hope.

Being laughed at is just the most common.
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Laughter and false hope aren't the only two possible reactions for decent human beings.
 
I've not really suffered many rejections, let alone bad ones. I guess that just come with the job of being so casual and not all that forward when it comes to this stuff.
 
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