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US teens' dangerous obsession with 'thigh gap'
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foxuzamaki
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I thought this was referring to thigh highs and knee socks, disappointed.
or in other words, Zettai Ryouiki
or in other words, Zettai Ryouiki
Turns out that I have a thigh gap. B-)
It seems like such an oddly specific thing to be concerned about. I suppose it's probably a bench mark to prove to yourself that you're not fat.
I'm a dude but when I was 21 I came pretty close to having an eating disorder. Even though I'm 6'6" and got down to weighing 160, I was always able to point to some bullshit that nobody else noticed to prove to myself that I was still pudgy.
It seems like such an oddly specific thing to be concerned about. I suppose it's probably a bench mark to prove to yourself that you're not fat.
I'm a dude but when I was 21 I came pretty close to having an eating disorder. Even though I'm 6'6" and got down to weighing 160, I was always able to point to some bullshit that nobody else noticed to prove to myself that I was still pudgy.
xKilltheMx
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Man, I've got to say. Get off my back. I apologized. Get off it.
CoffeeJanitor
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I can attest to hearing this from some girl friends of mine. Very messed up --I seriously don't get it
TastyOreoFriend
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Your avatar has made me realize how sad bass clefs look. :C
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
Just wanted to express my appreciation for you making your post sound like a personal taste rather than law.
CoffeeJanitor
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Also I don't find thigh gaps attractive. I don't find them unattractive either.
It's such a weird thing to obsess over...
It's such a weird thing to obsess over...
Yeah, I always thought having the small opening is what the thigh gap is. I didn't know it meant their whole legs. Pretty stupid either way.
that's a thigh gap to me.
Lawd
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I don't think girls understand what guys like. As long as you don't look like Jabba the Hutt and take moderately decent care of yourself you'll have no trouble attracting a mate
polyh3dron
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I can't lie, I always found the thigh gap attractive.. Never actually gave it a name though.
Well, I've had guys tell me that no one would ever find me attractive or want to date me so the confusion certainly came from more than one place.
Although, as this thread proves, guys like different things.
This type of thing largely isn't about doing what guys like. It's about fitting in and establishing what they perceive as their worth to society.
AbortedWalrusFetus
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Thanks for giving me a zettai ryouiki fetish gaf.
Anyway, thigh gap is hot, but when you have to be disgustingly thin to have it it's gross. Some women are just naturally built with it and don't have to go to extreme measures to get it.
Anyway, thigh gap is hot, but when you have to be disgustingly thin to have it it's gross. Some women are just naturally built with it and don't have to go to extreme measures to get it.
Aizu_Itsuko
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People worry too much due to insecurities, especially teenagers.
In almost every case all you have to do to look good is have some healthy habits and little more.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Ether_Snake
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So people don't know if a thigh gap is when the thighs don't touch at all, or when they touch just below the pelvis.
Put me in the I like when thighs touch camp
Put me in the I like when thighs touch camp
I used to hang out with groups of only guys and they'd rate the other girls in class and let me know what they thought of me, stuff like that. Or I'd be talking with the boyfriends of friends and they'd tell me that why guys didn't like me or be very surprised when any guy did.
It won't. Muscles need actual work
I really don't think it's a question of what girls think guys like, it's just a measure that some people have for themselves. It's also a somewhat weird one, but not one that I haven't heard before, although it's the first time I've heard an official name for it.
It's interesting though, after seeing that thread about why girls don't post on gaf that this thread kind of reiterates a lot of the key points people were bringing up about how threads about girls bodies get turned into what's attractive and what isn't. I mean, as Pau said earlier, there are plenty of girls who have this kind of thing. It might be something unhealthy to strive for, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a negative thing just because of that.
Very few women can pull off a thigh gap without being unattractively skinny. Those who aren't generally have more of a nether region gap (more like a V gap) than an actual thigh gap. But yea, chunky thighs and an ass are far more attractive than the gap imo. Hopefully many teens don't go getting super skinny just to get one.
ChocolateCupcakes
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Thats not a thigh gap.
User 100115
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My entire high school career I was bullied by every single male in my school. Constantly told I was the ugliest thing to walk the earth. It was bad enough that the class would 'troll' the most popular guy by electing me to be representative, so he'd have to walk with me at homecoming. They would often fill the black board with votes about 'who they'd rather date' and I would lose to the girl with Down's Syndrome. This was perpetuated by my entire school.
And you know what? I believed them. Even though this was me my senior year.
It's all well and good to tell people that 'oh those guys are just assholes, don't listen to them!' but it takes A LOT to move past systemic bullying like that. It's not something you can just brush off.
Devolution
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What do you mean still? Dude, I have that gap.
User 100115
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I will join you, cause Pau is freakin' gorgeous.
You're saying that 'every single male' in your school bullied you? Because depending on the size of your school/class - I find that awfully hard to fathom.
User 100115
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That's exactly what I am saying. If you feel the need to fact check me, ask Marrec when he's unbanned heh. It got a bit better after I switched schools for the last year (there were two guys that were my friends in the new school, one got kicked out heh) but being a bit of a weird geek girl in a rural, football loving area was my downfall.
The first school where it was everyone, I think my class was around 30 kids. The second school I graduated from was around 13 kids.
Edit: Okay, I was wrong, since Marrec was also in my school it wasn't EVERY SINGLE GUY, but I doubt my brother counts.
Yeah my sister went through the similar bullying, coloured her preception of herself to this day and shes 26. She had serious image issues but I can tell you was gorgeous in highschool.
Depression and serious and a 5 year relationship with a verbally abusive boyfriend later, she looks raggedy as shit.
Bullying is no joke. Glad you found a way past it.
Devolution
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From my elementary -> middle school experience all you need is one real fucking jerk of a person to make your school experience absolute shit. They will sully your name, make sure new people know you're the school pariah and socially isolate just about anyone who talks to you. Because they're that much of an asshole.
User 100115
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Yeah my sister went through the similar bullying, coloured her preception of herself to this day and shes 26. She had serious image issues but I can tell you was gorgeous in highschool.
Depression and serious and a 5 year relationship with a verbally abusive boyfriend later, she looks raggedy as shit.
Bullying is no joke. Glad you found a way past it.
I still have issues with it. I hate having my picture taken.
I honestly believed them until those pictures were taken. The photographer, who my mom hired at 75 dollar for 15 photos, went nuts over me. Ended up taking over 100 pictures, pretty sure he didn't charge us, and wanted to launch my modeling career. It took FOREVER for me convince myself he wasn't just a skeeze looking to get in my pants and was genuine.
megamerican
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I had a girl brag to me that she had a thigh gap. I had no idea what she was talking about. Now I wish I would have continued that conversation.
I see. It just seems odd that every male would bully one single girl - barring some type of glaring disability or extreme behavior. Like wearing nazi or anti-male shirts and spiting in dudes faces as they walk the halls. But like Devo said, I guess a single person can alter one's entire experience, or perception of reality in some cases.
CherryWoodFuton
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We're judging thigh gaps now???? Christ who gives a shit?
User 100115
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Like I said, I was a geek in a rural, sports loving area. I didn't play basketball or volleyball. I wore flannels and long coats, and didn't wear makeup. I was more interested in the X-Files than in sports or gossip or getting laid or getting drunk. Thus, I was a total pariah. I played Magic the next town over and tried to start a D&D group. I spent WAY TOO much time online.
My best friend, shockingly enough, was one of the more popular girls in the school, and it didn't make a damn bit of difference. Everyone considered me her 'pity friend'.
MTG? God I wish we hung out. Thats just ridiculosly awesome, nearly all the magic tourneys I've been to had little to no girls. Not to mention I was the only black guy in every instance, in a multicultural city like Toronto too.. lol
Shoot we had magic table in our highschool, aside from a couple of snide remarks in the cafeteria, we were relatively left alone.
SwiftDeath
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This is so dumb
I can be just as attracted to a woman without a thigh gap as one with one
Wow what did I just type?
I can be just as attracted to a woman without a thigh gap as one with one
Wow what did I just type?
NEOPARADIGM
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Lawd
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The Faceless Master
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User 100115
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I wish we could have hung out too, I needed some geeky friends.
My brothers would play with me at school sometimes.
It honestly also could have been a combination of the geek thing + me being darker skinned, but I doubt it. There were plenty of Mexican folk running around back home, and I was mostly mistaken for Mexican anyhow.
All this talk about Magic is making me want to dig my cards out and go through them nostalgically.
I was in the same boat but living in a tropical island where every woman is extremely promiscuous makes you stick out like a sore thumb when you "dress like a boy"-- or so they called it. I was always made fun of for being the ugly one.
I actually met my first boyfriend though a group of people who did D&D gatherings at school. After I reached college, I was deemed attractive to my peers but it actually made things worse and was often victim of people taking advantage of me both emotionally and physically because I was still in the mindset of doing whatever I could do to please men. I'm turning 25 now and I still can't get over the hell I went through ages 18~21. The sheer touch of someone makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I haven't dated anyone since I was 19. I've thought about trying but every time I end up pushing people away whenever I start to think I may be emotionally relying on the person.
StickSoldier
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The gap is fucking sexy. I need more actually.
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