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Vanity Fair Puts Young NYC People (And Tindr) On Blast

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Brakke

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This article: http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating.

Features these gems:

Ivy League Douchebag said:
You can’t be stuck in one lane … There’s always something better.” “If you had a reservation somewhere and then a table at Per Se opened up, you’d want to go there,” Alex offers.

Ivy League Douchebag said:
“I sort of play that I could be a boyfriend kind of guy,” in order to win them over, “but then they start wanting me to care more … and I just don’t.”

“Dude, that’s not cool,” Alex chides in his warm way. “I always make a point of disclosing I’m not looking for anything serious. I just wanna hang out, be friends, see what happens … If I were ever in a court of law I could point to the transcript.”

Bummed Babe said:
“I’ll get a text that says, ‘Wanna fuck?’ ” says Jennifer, 22, a senior at Indiana University Southeast, in New Albany. “They’ll tell you, ‘Come over and sit on my face,’ ” says her friend, Ashley, 19.

Investment Banker Bimbo said:
“It’s like ordering Seamless,” says Dan, the investment banker, referring to the online food-delivery service. “But you’re ordering a person.”

lmao so close to self-awareness but so far.

Tindr Twitter taking it personally: https://twitter.com/tinder/status/631249125959335936. They're also trying real hard to #brand the phrase "Tindr Generation".

So NYC millennials: how totally vapid are you?
 

LyleLanley

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I want to see North Korean Tinder profiles.
 

Aurongel

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Back in my day we actually had to WORK to objectify the opposite sex.

Fucking kids today.
 

old manatee

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I feel like I'm the only person left on the planet that likes to go on like 10 dates with someone before sleeping with them.
 

And_Gignac

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The trend is real. Dating is getting the consumerism treatment in a way that wasnt posible before. Grindr and Tinder are changing the way compromise is build. Nothing wrong about it, just different.
 

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This article reminds me of a Clickhole classic:

http://www.clickhole.com/article/what-rise-hookup-culture-means-everyone-you-1111

From college campuses to the internet, modern courtship is changing fast. Traditional dating has taken a backseat to no-strings-attached fun, prompting debate over whether this signals sexual empowerment or moral decay. No matter what, though, hookup culture is here to stay, and it has big implications for everyone except you.

With the advent of dating apps like Tinder and Grindr, it’s now possible for anyone but you to arrange casual sex with relative ease. It’s not just a fad, either. About 40 percent of adults who are “single and looking” say they’ve tried online dating, a sign that the game really has changed for confident, attractive people you can never hope to be.

Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with casual encounters. Sex, after all, is a natural part of life for people other than you. However, treating a deeply emotional act with such flippancy raises some important questions—questions entirely irrelevant to you—about the consequences of this kind of lifestyle.

For instance: What do we give up by choosing one-night stands over long-term relationships? How does the idea of hooking up change our idea of friendship? Is all this abundant, carefree intercourse hindering our ability to form real, personal bonds? These are issues that we—not you—must eventually grapple with.
 

nib95

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I feel like I'm the only person left on the planet that likes to go on like 10 dates with someone before sleeping with them.

Nah, you're not the only one dude. I personally find keeping things sex free early on gives you a better insight in to personality compatibility. If it gets too physical early on, that element tends to take over or get in the way. Though I doubt most meeting through Tinder care about the long term relationship aspects lol.
 

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The end of the current norms of "dating" sounds like a natural and good thing to me.

Whenever there are changes like this in society there is always the same complaints. In the 1950's it wasn't Tinder, it's was cars.

Automobiles provided an excellent forum for sexual experimentation in the fifties. They provided the right amount of privacy for just that kind of "exploration," better known as "parking." Adults knew that "parking" happened, so instead of trying to stop the practice, which would be near impossible, they tried to contain it. For example, a police chief in New Jersey set up system where cars could park at night in county parks while patrol cars watched over them; however, the system required that the cars keep their lights on and must be parked legally. The goal of this system, which is similar to many others implemented throughout the nation, is not to control sex itself but to make it difficult for sex to occur. It manipulated times and locations so that sex was nearly impossible to happen.
 

Maximo

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I feel like I'm the only person left on the planet that likes to go on like 10 dates with someone before sleeping with them.

22 years old and with my SO for 5 years. I would be the same and totally clueless, taken back by trying to find someone on Tindr.
 

CassSept

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Is it wrong that these guys sound exactly like I expect New York investment bankers to sound?

They sound like dudes around the world had always sounded. The platform has changed, the attitude is the same. This is a prime example of old man yells at cloud.
 

enzo_gt

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This article has a completely different definition of fuckboy than I am accustomed to.
 

neorej

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I don't know what's worse; the writing in that article, or Tinder's reaction....
 

Chinner

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Someone I know it's using tindr to find a boyfriend. She meets loads of guys, but none of them want to date.
 
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“I sort of play that I could be a boyfriend kind of guy,” in order to win them over, “but then they start wanting me to care more … and I just don’t.”

Sounds like an amateur version of the DENNIS system.
 

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Ivy League Douchebag said:
You can’t be stuck in one lane … There’s always something better.” “If you had a reservation somewhere and then a table at Dorsia opened up, you’d want to go there,” Patrick offers.
Heh.
 

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I don't know what's worse; the writing in that article, or Tinder's reaction....

Tinder's reaction. The article itself is the same dime-a-dozen piece of hookup culture we've seen over the last few years now.

The meltdown is so insane, because the piece isn't even about Tinder specifically, but they took it so personally and are just lashing out so stupidly. It's like watching some butthurt fan having a go at a writer because they dissed their favorite movie.
 

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Tinder's reaction. The article itself is the same dime-a-dozen piece of hookup culture we've seen over the last few years now.

The meltdown is so insane, because the piece isn't even about Tinder specifically, but they took it so personally and are just lashing out so stupidly. It's like watching some butthurt fan having a go at a writer because they dissed their favorite movie.

This guy gets it.

Also even though the article isn't particularly ground-breaking some of those quotes from rich idiot kids are *so* choice. So many of them are right there teetering on the edge of major epiphany but never quite get there.
 

Death by BB Gun

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This guy gets it.

Also even though the article isn't particularly ground-breaking some of those quotes from rich idiot kids are *so* choice. So many of them are right there teetering on the edge of major epiphany but never quite get there.

The funny thing is, the article came out last week and there was nary a peep. More people were talking about Taylor Swift's "Spotify ain't shit, lol" thing, which is in that same issue. Tinder's angry tears are actually giving the damn thing more attention.
 

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Someone I know it's using tindr to find a boyfriend. She meets loads of guys, but none of them want to date.

I met my current GF on Tinder. I also met a bunch of women who just wanted to have sex. Both are ok in my book, as long as both parties know the deal.
 

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The next person to call it tindr is getting a slap.

I met my current GF on Tinder. I also met a bunch of women who just wanted to have sex. Both are ok in my book, as long as both parties know the deal.

Yet to meet these women, although I've never been straight forward in that way as I figure like 50 percent of the messages they get are that kinda thing.
 

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The next person to call it tindr is getting a slap..

For real guys. It's just Tinder. Like the real word

You're getting it confused with tumblr

For the record, I find Tinder to be a lot of fun. You meet some nice people, you meet some assholes. Most conversations are dull and end quickly, some are funny. Some people you meet in real life, some you don't. It's all gravy. For very social people it's amazing

And if you're racking up a lot of matches, a huge ego boost too
 

Uncle

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Yet to meet these women, although I've never been straight forward in that way as I figure like 50 percent of the messages they get are that kinda thing.

Very few were that straight forward in the messaging phase, but usually quite forward in the end of the date phase.
 

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You hit the drought, change it up baby. Switch out that pic, flick the bio round lil bit,boom.

honestly sometimes I'm surprised I got any matches. I only had 3 (older) pics, and a short, snarky profile. Just deleted cuz I think this new chick is bae
 

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As long as people are clear what they want at the start, it's all fine in my book. At some point just having sex with another random does get boring and you'll want something more. Tinder has just sped up the process of those looking to have sex. Something like PoF, and OKC can be a bit slow.

Some people are just social addicts. I even see single people on the 3nder app looking to date other singletons. When it's primarily for couples and people looking for threesomes.

This has been a thing since the internet got widespread no point just pointing out Tinder, I remember when Facebook first opened to non college and uni people. The sex hookups were outrageous before, but it got even better. I'd have women straight up messaging me and we'd hook up a day later.

On FB that's very,very now as it could get messy.
 

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Where were all the articles 15 years ago blasting bars and clubs, that the tween generation back then couldn't find the love for the rest of their lives drunk at 3am.
 

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Originally Posted by Ivy League Douchebag

You can’t be stuck in one lane … There’s always something better.” “If you had a reservation somewhere and then a table at Per Se opened up, you’d want to go there,” Alex offers.

Shitty, but not wrong...
 

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Tinder isn't only useful for very social people. Case in point, I met my girlfriend there and neither of us are social butterflies. The match feature does a great job at giving people a starting point because it's not a one sided approach: both sides know the other liked something about their profile and that can be make a difference for shy people.
 
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