Sure, but I think what a lot of people disagree on is what constitutes "use." Is saying the word when discussing dialogue in a novel or film using it? Is singing along to a song playing using it? I'm not asking these to be rhetorical or difficult, I think they're actual questions everyone should ask themselves.
That's where things get a little more murky, as many people see a clear distinction between, say, reciting and analyzing a line from Huckleberry Finn (sorry to drag out that tired example) and casually/ignorantly calling someone a racial slur out of affection or because it makes them look "tough," or whatever. Then there are the million shades in between, including situations like singing along to a song.
This debate is probably never going to go away because different people in different communities all have different opinions on the subject and are comfortable with different things. Personally I think it's important for everyone to remember that freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from criticism, and that saying certain words in many situations won't reflect well on them, and that it's important to understand why.