If abortion is not an available option, then the premise for this thread is moot. By definition, we're talking about situation where the decision to carry the pregnancy to term could go either way.
As far as cases where the woman's own religious beliefs are the issue, obviously that's perfectly understandable. But again, it's a situation where the woman effectively has no real choice in the matter - so that's again avoiding the real question of who bears the moral blame for a child's well-being (or lack thereof) in a situation where both parents had real choices.
You're being reasonable and considering the difficulty many women have with the issue of abortion. I really appreciate that.
I think that I could agree with you: theoretically, if a woman was pregnant, who had no moral, religious or emotional qualms against abortion (such that the decision was as simple as signing a paper) then the decision to carry the child to term, despite otherwise bad circumstances, would be a poor one with little justification.
My feeling though, is that the decision is typically a difficult one that isn't so simple (although, I don't have anything to support this position, other than my gut instinct).
I'll also add that, in a perfect world, where the same woman described above had the financial means, such that the child would be well cared for, I could potentially support a "paper abortion" for the biological father.
Unfortunately, this isn't usually the reality.
The way I see it is that as long as you are not at a point where an abortion is extremely dangerous to a mother then it is fair game because there is no choice actually being taken away from the woman then. In that exact situation if the kid ended up in a poverty situation I do see it as a mother's fault because she knew ahead of time what was going to happen.
The problem is that, for some
potentially significant portion of women, abortion isn't a choice (for religious, moral or other reasons). For those women, a "paper abortion" merely punishes them and the child.
And even for the women who theoretically have no qualms, such that it may be fair to blame them for bringing a child into poverty, the fact that we have an identifiable person to blame...does nothing to help the child. If we don't do anything, then we're just punishing an innocent child.
This is the ultimate problem with "paper abortions." Even though there may exist circumstances where they could make sense, there is no workable way to allow them that doesn't risk significant harm to children and an incredible burden on some portion of women (for whom abortion isn't an option).
[Also, Prost, thanks for the kind words!]