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Why are purses still seen as "just for women"?

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I still don't understand why you need to carry all of that stuff everyday. Did I miss the post?

I'll give an explanation:

--Keys To get into my house.
--Wallet To pay for things, carry my bus pass and my ID
--iPhone To make calls
--Hand lotion To stay moisturized. If you're black, or any enthnicity with a dark skin tone, you know how important this is in dry climate, and ashy dark skin has a very visible and unattractive appearance. NOT an option.
--Lip balm Same as hand lotion
--Notepad It's a small notepad, but it's invaluable to me because I work primarily for a catering agency, and I ALWAYS find myself in a position where I need to quickly jot something down.
--Two pens See: notepad
--iPad (if I have a lot of reading to do)
--Condoms (never be caught without 'em, y'all)
--Camera This one, I'll admit, isn't necessary.

OP, have you considered a nice unstructured blazer as well?

You get two huge front pockets. I can fit an iPad mini in one. A breast pocket and four inside pockets.

I wear slim jeans, not skinny--I'm no hipster :P-but that helps to conceal any bulk in my pockets.

No. Absolutely not.

Blazers are a disgusting fashion nightmare and I wouldn't be caught dead in one. Seriously guys, we're talking one step above fedora here.
 
There isn't anything wrong about men having purses per se, but just imagine a world where it exists. You and your buddies go out for some drinks and cram in a booth - but wait, there is no room for purses. So now you're all sitting with a purse on your lap. You chat up some cute lady and ask for her number, she starts talking as you dig through your purse for your phone. Missed opportunity bro.

You'll find yourself browsing purses online, you can't have the same one everyday. And you'll also need a "special occasion" purse. Next thing you know you'll have a closet full of purses, you'll be kicked out of your apartment because you spent all your rent money on purses, and you'll lose your job because you couldn't separate your purse life from your professional life. You have no choice but to build a fort out of your purses and live on the street begging for more purse money and people will call you the "purse guy."

That's not the world I want to live in.
 
Use the same bag as Jack Bauer, can't get any more badass than him.

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Anyone link to the Bauer bag?
 
--Keys (pocket)
--Wallet (pocket)
--iPhone (pocket)
--Hand lotion (small bottle in pocket)
--Lip balm (tiny, pocket)
--Notepad (you have a iphone dont need)
--Two pens (you have a iphone dont need)
--iPad (fuck off with that shit)
--Condoms (1-2 in wallet)
--Camera (iphone, you need nothing more)

If i can carry 2 charging cables, some ear phones, lip balm, 2 phones, keys and a wallet in my pocket you can to.
 
--Keys (pocket)
--Wallet (pocket)
--iPhone (pocket)
--Hand lotion (small bottle in pocket)
--Lip balm (tiny, pocket)
--Notepad (you have a iphone dont need)
--Two pens (you have a iphone dont need)
--iPad (fuck off with that shit)
--Condoms (1-2 in wallet)
--Camera (iphone, you need nothing more)

If i can carry 2 charging cables, some ear phones, lip balm, 2 phones, keys and a wallet in my pocket you can to.

Having pockets stuffed with stuff sucks. I barely like having my keys, wallet, and phone in my pockets.
 
You still haven't explained why two pens doe. The curiosity corrodes me "o

Because sometimes one pen runs out of ink. Or I leave one sitting on a counter unattended for 5 seconds and it gets stolen, because NOBODY carries pens but EVERYONE always needs one.

Having pockets stuffed with stuff sucks. I barely like having my keys, wallet, and phone in my pockets.
Yeah, all these people saying pockets for all this stuff and all I'm picturing is lumpy thighs walking down the street or, even worse, cargo pants.
 
Man I wish I could wear a skirt without getting weird looks. Skirts are great.

ugh :( me too. they're comfy!

My brother got me this for Christmas one year, still use it, best bag ever

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I dont even like Halo but I love the bag

yoooo I had this bag for the longest time. Totally remember how comfortable and awesome it was.

I don't always carry a bag with me, because I usually just have my phone, my keys, and my wallet. I do have a messenger bag though that I use to carry school stuff, laptop/tablet, and whatever else I might need for that day. Never gotten any weird comments about it, messenger bags are pretty common at my school. I also have a little Left 4 Dead Healthkit backpack that I use for festivals and stuff. :D
 
I really don't feel comfortable carrying all of that shit in my pockets...at all. The weight it adds too, ugh. Def hear the op.
 
All I carry with me are my keys, wallet, phone, cigarettes and a lighter. Pockets do me just fine.

I got nothing against men wearing purses though. Do your thing. Fuck what society says.
 
Move to Japan.

All men there carry purses. Not even man bags, like those super massive purses that ladies used to carry a few years ago. They all went to Japan and were adopted by the dudes there.

Convenient sure I guess but man... there is just something about a dude with a massive Gucci purse that isn't manly at all.
 
I don't have dry skin, nor do I use any moisturizer. My skin is amazing. Besides. do you have to moisturize that much? Once or twice a day after showering is fine.

If you're black and live in a cold and windy climate (like, say, the Northeast), your skin will get chapped throughout the day. No two bones about it, you need to moisturize or you'll look like the crypt keeper the first hour or two you're outside.

I am one of those but I own neither a purse nor a handbag...

But I'm guessing--and it's not much of a stretch, granted--you have a car. That you use daily.
 
Yea, if the climate is cold enough, you'll need lotion on the ready: lip balm too.

I didn't know that wasn't considered "manly". lol.
 
If you're black and live in a cold and windy climate (like, say, the Northeast), your skin will get chapped throughout the day. No two bones about it, you need to moisturize or you'll look like the crypt keeper the first hour or two you're outside.

Noted.
 
I mean, I carry a backpack to and from work. It's not a handbag.

Well... I'm not sure it's much more socially acceptable for a working professional to carry a backpack over a bag. [That being said, there are really chic, slick backpacks out there on the market nowadays.]
 
Well... I'm not sure it's much more socially acceptable for a working professional to carry a backpack over a bag. [That being said, there are really chic, slick backpacks out there on the market nowadays.]
I can't think of any industry where something like a black laptop-carrying backpack (Targus for example) would be considered not acceptable for even the most gussied up professional.
 
If you want to wear a purse/man bag, then go ahead. If you think it's a feminine thing and not your sort of thing, then don't.

I personally think men should only use backpacks or tote bags. Though the latter is more for sports/minor travel.
 
If you're black and live in a cold and windy climate (like, say, the Northeast), your skin will get chapped throughout the day. No two bones about it, you need to moisturize or you'll look like the crypt keeper the first hour or two you're outside.



But I'm guessing--and it's not much of a stretch, granted--you have a car. That you use daily.

To be fair, white people get chapped skin too. It's just that white guys feel they can get away with it because it isn't AS visible against their lighter skin.

But the chapped flakiness is still there, and it's still gross. Guys, moisturize. It's really is good for you.
 
All I need when I leave the house is my keys, wallet and cellphone, and those fit in my pockets. Carrying a messenger bag feels awkward to me and I don't like how my stuff is not as safe in there as it is in my pockets
 
To be fair, white people get chapped skin too. It's just that white guys feel they can get away with it because it isn't AS visible against their lighter skin.

But the chapped flakiness is still there, and it's still gross. Guys, moisturize. It's really is good for you.

Have you read the ingredients list in most lotions, plus all the pseudo estrogens.

I do like real cocoa butter, though. That shit is legit and it's free from all those garbage chemicals. A brother--a coworker--got me into that.
 
Men carried purses when they were filled with coin. Well now I got a wallet for greenbacks and plastic.
 
Have you read the ingredients list in most lotions, plus all the pseudo estrogens.

I do like real cocoa butter, though. That shit is legit and it's free from all those garbage chemicals. A brother--a coworker--got me into that.

Cocoa Butter/Shea Butter all-day-every-day #TriedandTrue if ain't broke don't fix it #GrandmaDidn'tLie
 
There are other ways of moisturizing besides carrying lotion everywhere you go. Staying properly hydrated and eating well goes a long way, for example.
 
Why, GAF? Why?

Let's see, on any particular day, I need to carry:

--Keys
--Wallet
--iPhone
--Hand lotion
--Lip balm
--Notepad
--Two pens
--iPad (if I have a lot of reading to do)
--Condoms (never be caught without 'em, y'all)
--Camera

And I get that, for a guy, that might be a lot of stuff, but even if I only carried half of these items, it would still be more than I'd be able to fit in my pockets comfortably. And with fashion trending towards more "fitted" clothing, even for straight men, it's true for a lot of guys that pocket real-estate is at a premium.

So why is still seen as such a socially awkward thing for men to carry bags regularly? I know so many men who would rather walk around with awkward lumps in their jeans or have to constantly go back to their cars, just so they don't have to carry a sack.

Any other trendy male gaffer carry a bag regularly? And if so, what kind? I need a new murse.

Ok, if you want a solution, I have it.

First of all, your question; "Why are purses still seen as "just for women"?"
They are seen as "just for women" because they were always designed to suit women's needs when out and about. Simple as that.

But, if you are in this position, the same position I have gotten into more recently (own and/or need a heap of things with me when out) there is a simple classy solution.

As long as you are confident that practical solutions to your needs outweigh any potential shit-stirring or what ever. Get one of these (you can choose more specific leather/colour combinations too) http://www.sfbags.com/products/indy/indy-bag.php

Excellent build quality, classy, practical (even down to having a light coloured inner layer so you can see where your shit is) and subtle. Disclaimer : I am in no way "trendy" or a "hipster", I grew up in the country and always got shit for doing anything that wasn't "Manly". But I am now fully grown man who is comfortable in his own skin, so you can rock the bag and not feel bad about it, trust me.
 
Call it a messenger bag, sachel, Jack Bauer bag, etc, it's still a damn purse. I've gotten by with 4 pockets for ~36 of my last 40 years. When I see a guy with any of the above my first thought is

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Rick Rude...if he were still alive...would never use one of those.
 
A lot of men rock skirts better than women. Also air on your balls instead of suffocating in pants would probably be awesome. Surprised more men haven't pushed skirts into mainstream wear for these reasons.
 
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