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[Conciliator]

Much like I don't think most guys who don't confess their feelings right away are being particularly malicious, I don't think most girls who realize the guy has feelings but do not say anything are being malicious or stringing the guy along on purpose. It's mostly just social awkwardness and an unwillingness to rock the boat. Both sides are thinking, "If I say something, it would just get awkward. That would be horrible." Humans being social creatures and all, they are unwilling to put themselves on the line for social death. It's understandable, even if awkward for all parties involved the longer it is put off.

Yep, I'm with this. In reality people are not always sure what they want, not always perfectly confident, sometimes make bad decisions, etc. These are things we typically accept(to some degree) about others. Sometimes people enter one kind of a relationship or another and then find later that they can't really gel because one person wants something different. Tough luck. Love is a battlefield and all that. Doesn't necessarily mean that any party has done anything really wrong.

You do have the 'nice guys' who buy shit for women in hopes that they will love them, and I think here and there you do have ladies who get a thrill from stringing a dude along, but for the most part I think it's just life in all its typical messy complications.

 

[Fantasmo]

Many (probably most to be honest) women are wired such that they feel tingly stuff in the first few moments. So if you're communicating the right things from the start, she's tingly real fast. Not always right away, and sometimes after certain circumstances, but typically quickly. If she's single, chances are she's mentally categorized most men into a friend.

With that being the case, you don't get to wait to categorize her, because if you've waited too long its off. You're better served going for broke pretty quickly. And by going for broke, I mean asking her to hang out if she seems remotely cool.

That's how many women approach dating and relationships, and unless you're a sensational stud muffin, you have to approach things the same way. If you click, you take the next step and so on.

None of this build up in your head I love her junk, because its not how they work.

If you're attracted, you make a move. That's the mans version of tingly stuff by the way. If you click, you hang out. If you're getting positive feedback, you take the next step. And so on.

Strike while the iron is hot. Boredom kicks in and you're an average joe.

Tick tock tick tock... its the only way to play.

 

[dinazimmerman]

Much like I don't think most guys who don't confess their feelings right away are being particularly malicious, I don't think most girls who realize the guy has feelings but do not say anything are being malicious or stringing the guy along on purpose. It's mostly just social awkwardness and an unwillingness to rock the boat. Both sides are thinking, "If I say something, it would just get awkward. That would be horrible." Humans being social creatures and all, they are unwilling to put themselves on the line for social death. It's understandable, even if awkward for all parties involved the longer it is put off.

exactly.

 

[Tenks]

Lol pretty funny article. Never really thought about it from the other side of the fence. I guess it does have to be frustrating for a girl who thinks she's just hanging out with a buddy just up and get asked out. Know I did it quite a few times in my life.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Those images must be created by all those internet feminists that I'm always hearing are fighting for the issues men care about.

You're crying. Feminists are trying to make it so you can do that without people making fun of you.

 

[Freezie KO]

You're crying. Feminists are trying to make it so you can do that without people making fun of you.

Crying? Nah. My instinct is to laugh at hypocrisy, not cry.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Crying? Nah. My instinct is to laugh at hypocrisy, not cry.

The feminists who people say don't have a sense of humor actually have a really good one about themselves. I'm sorry it went over your head.

 

[Freezie KO]

The feminists who people say don't have a sense of humor actually have a really good one about themselves. I'm sorry it went over your head.

But the images are pretty clearly not feminists poking fun at themselves. They're poking fun at men who claim misandry exists. They're doing this with the same level of effect that men would accuse a woman of "crying rape." As if you "cry" something, then it clearly doesn't exist.

Personally, I wouldn't post images pretending that misogyny or rape culture don't exist, but that's because I'm not ignorant.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Feminism 101: the negative effects of patriarchy on men is not misandry.

 

[Freezie KO]

Feminism 101: the negative effects of patriarchy on men is not misandry.

Cool. Let's play semantics and post image macros.

 

[Lionheart1337]

Crying? Nah. My instinct is to laugh at hypocrisy, not cry.

Hahaha, exactly.

 

[TUROK]

Yep, I'm with this. In reality people are not always sure what they want, not always perfectly confident, sometimes make bad decisions, etc. These are things we typically accept(to some degree) about others. Sometimes people enter one kind of a relationship or another and then find later that they can't really gel because one person wants something different. Tough luck. Love is a battlefield and all that. Doesn't necessarily mean that any party has done anything really wrong.

You do have the 'nice guys' who buy shit for women in hopes that they will love them, and I think here and there you do have ladies who get a thrill from stringing a dude along, but for the most part I think it's just life in all its typical messy complications.

This and the quoted statement are the most reasonable posts in this entire thread.

Human interaction is complex, and people are rarely on the same page. Whenever I see threads like this, empathy is sorely lacking, and judgment is the law of the land.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Cool. Let's play semantics and post image macros.

You saw a joke meme and got upset because you're taking it seriously. That's all there is to this. You are upset because a bird flew away from another bird.

 

[Freezie KO]

You saw a joke meme and got upset because you're taking it seriously. That's all there is to this. You are upset because a bird flew away from another bird.

No, that's not what happened. You just called me upset, so you wouldn't have to address the content of my post. It was a weak ad hominem.

I saw the meme picture and used it as an example that a lot of feminists would rather make gifs mocking the idea that men have grievances than actually address said grievances.

And that's fine. They're just another -ism. But many men find it patronizing to hear how feminists are working to solve their issue on one hand, and having those issues mocked on the other.

Basically many feminists don't want this:

They want this:

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

But many men find it patronizing to hear how feminists are working to solve their issue on one hand, and having those issues mocked on the other.

So either the "she ignored my man feelings" comic is correct or you really just don't have a sense of humor about this.

You're pulling a lot of assumptions out of your ass about a lot of people without any evidence just because you saw a bird fly away from another bird and the caption scared you.

 

[TUROK]

You're pulling a lot of assumptions out of your ass about a lot of people without any evidence just because you saw a bird fly away from another bird and the caption scared you.

Ah yes, the ol' "it's just a joke" defense.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Ah yes, the ol' "it's just a joke" defense.

It literally is a joke. People enjoyed it. One guy didn't. It says nothing about feminism and the people who believe in it.

 

[Freezie KO]

So either the "she ignored my man feelings" comic is correct or you really just don't have a sense of humor about this.

You're pulling a lot of assumptions out of your ass about a lot of people without any evidence just because you saw a bird fly away from another bird and the caption scared you.

I don't have a sense of humor at all. And I feel more patronized by the ice cream gif than the bird gif.

 

[Sai-kun]

GOD I LOVE THIS. So fantastic.

 

[WanderingWind]

It literally is a joke. People enjoyed it. One guy didn't. It says nothing about feminism and the people who believe in it.

Of course it does. It's just not that big a deal. Some people are just overly sensitive, is all.

 

[andymcc]

Basically many feminists don't want this:



They want this:

lmao what the fuck

 

[Devolution]

lmao what the fuck

Thread has come full circle.

Because feminism.

 

[Freezie KO]

I was very careful to say "many feminists" and not "feminism".

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

I was very careful to say "many feminists" and not "feminism".

That's what they want?

 

[andymcc]

I was very careful to say "many feminists" and not "feminism".

wow, quick save dude! you sure made that look like less of a generalization!