Mr. Giggles
Member
Ah whiskey dick.
My old nemesis
My old nemesis
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johancruijff
Banned
You put your pants on and resume drinking
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
Why not at least eat her out/suck him off? At least if you won't get off, they will.
Even if my wife ever wanted to do this, I think I'd be uncomfortable. We've only ever had sex with each other, and doing it with other people for the first time just to get off would kind of ruin that without being really worth it.
This is just my personal current situation though. Ask me again in ten years
This is just my personal current situation though. Ask me again in ten years
The whole "If you're a man and you can't perform sexually EVERY SINGLE TIME you're less of a man" is bullshit.
Sometimes it's drugs or alcohol, sometimes it's nerves, sometimes it's stress from other parts of your life, sometimes you're just not in the mood.
In your case, I'd say there's a few factors at play.
For people shitting on the OP for calling a stop to it, if you're swinging and one party is no longer enjoying themselves, you stop, end of fucking story.
Sometimes it's drugs or alcohol, sometimes it's nerves, sometimes it's stress from other parts of your life, sometimes you're just not in the mood.
In your case, I'd say there's a few factors at play.
For people shitting on the OP for calling a stop to it, if you're swinging and one party is no longer enjoying themselves, you stop, end of fucking story.
ProtomanNeo
Member
Ahh yes Ive seen this episode many times. Fortunately for me when the stakes were such, I had another substance in my system. Do not feel disgruntled OP with only 1 partner on the line Ive fizzled out like if too drunk. Ive learned the play is great oral and heavy making out. Create an excuse to cuddle. Youll pass out maybe for 15 ( in my experience ) then youll come back like a beast.
Kain-Nosgoth
Member
don't worry OP, that happens to everyone, you're still a man, thinking that is freaking bullshit, you can't always be perfect!
And i assure you there's worst... the only time i had chance to have sex, was the time i couldn't get it up, maybe too nervous but still... never got an other shot since then, and i'm affraid that if an other time comes, i will have the same problem!
Good thing i don't really care, if i have an other opportunity, i'll try my best, that's it
And i assure you there's worst... the only time i had chance to have sex, was the time i couldn't get it up, maybe too nervous but still... never got an other shot since then, and i'm affraid that if an other time comes, i will have the same problem!
Good thing i don't really care, if i have an other opportunity, i'll try my best, that's it
travisbickle
Member
Just want to point out the op didnt have a foursome. Taking your pants off, then having a hissy fit and ruining everyones fun because you cant get it up is not having a foursome that the title implies.
Vincent Alexander
Member
Agreed. Get that mouth workin'. God gave it to you for a reason, and it wasn't licking stamps.
Soapbox Killer
Grand Nagus
Yeah so this is not about golf, like at all. I'm like sometimes your driver just doesn't do what you want it to do...well I guess that could still be relevant.
(also super freaky-deaky stuff ain't for everybody, It ain't for me)
(also super freaky-deaky stuff ain't for everybody, It ain't for me)
Elegant Weapon
Member
I imagine the people who think or say that aren't actually having much sex.
everyone has off nights. LeBron doesn't score 30 every game
Queen Vulpix
Member
I'm far from an expert but I don't think your a failure of a man or anything. Try to use it as a learning experience should a next time ever happen.
Something somewhat similar happened to me that I ended up feeling bad about. had my 2 guy friends over and had a small party, one of them didn't drink, the other did drink a little but barely affected by it and I was very drunk being the lightweight I am after some persistence on my part they helped me to my bed then things led to another and a 3 way began. After a bunch of foreplay/oral and stuff one of my guy friends asked if it was okay to try anal and I drunkenly said sure (didn't want to be penetrated vaginally while drunk and stuff) but after a few minutes of it hurting quite a bit, unsurprisingly, while trying to deal with it I asked for him to stop and afterwards I felt like I ruined the night for both of them. I ended up passing out naked on my bed only minutes after because 1am suddenly 4am oh well haha
Something somewhat similar happened to me that I ended up feeling bad about. had my 2 guy friends over and had a small party, one of them didn't drink, the other did drink a little but barely affected by it and I was very drunk being the lightweight I am after some persistence on my part they helped me to my bed then things led to another and a 3 way began. After a bunch of foreplay/oral and stuff one of my guy friends asked if it was okay to try anal and I drunkenly said sure (didn't want to be penetrated vaginally while drunk and stuff) but after a few minutes of it hurting quite a bit, unsurprisingly, while trying to deal with it I asked for him to stop and afterwards I felt like I ruined the night for both of them. I ended up passing out naked on my bed only minutes after because 1am suddenly 4am oh well haha
People in here scolding the OP over foursome etiquette... cmon... that shit is emotionally tricky.
When it comes to sex, even group sex, people should just be honest about what they want.
If youre entering into a group sex situation, you gotta be ready for peoples irrational feelings to put shit to a hault and you better be cool enough to not get pissed that you had to stop.
When it comes to sex, even group sex, people should just be honest about what they want.
If youre entering into a group sex situation, you gotta be ready for peoples irrational feelings to put shit to a hault and you better be cool enough to not get pissed that you had to stop.
I mean he was going to let her get railed as long as he was allowed to get his dick wet too. Was it an exchange of goods or were they just having a good time with some free love? I hope the OP didn't think of it as trading cause that would not be too cool.
Alexander DeLarge
Member
Uh, yes? He's the significant other of five years to this girl.
...if everybody was consenting on that basis, why would it not be cool?
Some modern day Puritans up in this thread.
Crazyorloco
Member
Alcohol seems to help some guys, but for me alcohol kills my erection.
It does help me take the initiative more with girls though.
It does help me take the initiative more with girls though.
Well, thinking of it as trading implies possession rather than just a consent to allow extra- relationship sex to happen. Like, I think me *giving* you my girlfriend in exchange for your girlfriend has a different connotation than I'm ok with you guys having sex and you're ok with me having sex with the person you are in a relationship with.
I dunno I mean it's complicated but it felt a little to me like withdrawing from a trade because you didn't like the terms now that you won't get your part. I think particularly the use of the word "fair" in relation to it made me feel that way.
To me, equating masculinity to sex in the first place is pretty dumb.
Elegant Weapon
Member
I somewhat agree but I'm curious what you think defines masculinity?
This is exactly me. Though the first time was with a hooker, second with an older woman from Bumble, so maybe not the most relaxed situations
I'm not too upset about it myself either, but it's a bit frustrating to worry about another equipment failure if I end up in another situation
FallingEdge
Member
He averages around 30 a game tho 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Valkerionseven
Member
It happens OP, by your story it's most likely a result of drinking too much/fatigue, it happens.
Don't drink so much since it seems like your susceptible to this as a result, get a good rest if you know your going to try again sometime. Pregame a bit/more foreplay but don't blow your load.
All the usual sex advice for dudes who went limp one time and are now freaking out.
Don't drink so much since it seems like your susceptible to this as a result, get a good rest if you know your going to try again sometime. Pregame a bit/more foreplay but don't blow your load.
All the usual sex advice for dudes who went limp one time and are now freaking out.
Elegant Weapon
Member
That's cause Bron has the right mentality and is committed to being the best every time he steps onto the court
I know if my head isn't in the game, I'll lose a hard on no matter what's happening.
bigboss370
Member
whats this whiskey dick everyone is talking about?
wouldn't drinking help with any anxiety or nerves and actually enable an erection?
wouldn't drinking help with any anxiety or nerves and actually enable an erection?
CrimzonSamurai
Member
Alcohol limits the ability of your blood vessels to dilate, and enough can just make it so you can't get an erection.
Also is there really such a thing as a four-way, or is it just two couples having sex next to each other?
lucebuce12
Member
A four-way is a thing but this is not that. This is just couple swap.
FallingEdge
Member
True true. It is why I tell my dick before I bang that we need to get ready as I take my talents to south peach.
Drink too much booze and the increase in blood pressure can cause ED issues, that's usually combined with a reduction in sensation 'cause your nervous system is depressed, so it can be a double whammy for your dick.
You could drink the same amount and be able to maintain a rager for hours though, so it's not a given that trying to fuck when very drunk will always result in failure.
Why not? She was having a good time by his account, why should she not be allowed to have some fun?
VendettaRed07
Member
I dont think the definition of what it strictly was matters much. If his girlfriend wasnt into it and wanted to stop having sex with the other dude and OP and the other girl were getting off on each other just fine, would anyone say wow she made you stop midway? What a cockblocker! If she wanted him to stop as well? I dont think they would.
If OPs requirement to allowing another man fuck his girlfriend infront of his face was an equivalent exchange of semen expulsion then theres nothing wrong with that.
We've all had bad nights. Don't write off another time. Be honest with your partner you're nervous. If it fails take a few minutes and try again. Don't force it.
My last one night stand I was too drunk to get it up and when we tried in the morning I was so hungover I almost threw up on her. For a week I was terrified it could be ED and then realized I still had morning wood.
Do some pushups before your next chance. Get that testosterone up a bit! And masturbate without pornography. Masturbation good porn bad apparently.
Don't worry about it OP, we've all been there. Not the foursome bit, the flaccid in the face of spread legs bit.
It's frustrating. But there are any number of reasons for it to happen, chief among those being your foolish treacherous brain. The one time you want it off and for your body to react on instinct alone your brain starts getting involved and overthinking it.
Best thing to do is just shrug it off, laugh about it and don't concern yourself with next time.
It's frustrating. But there are any number of reasons for it to happen, chief among those being your foolish treacherous brain. The one time you want it off and for your body to react on instinct alone your brain starts getting involved and overthinking it.
Best thing to do is just shrug it off, laugh about it and don't concern yourself with next time.
The issue I see is that rather than being uncomfortable with the situation like you are describing with the girlfriend (not into it), the OP stopped her because he didn't feel he was getting a fair trade. I feel a little hinkey about that commodotization of his girlfriend.
If he was having trouble with feelings the foursome was bringing up in him or whatever, I get it but that's not what he described. Seems a little objectifying.
SmackDaddy
Member
man, non-monogamy is complicated as shit.
Only if you're doing advanced calculus to balance the semen scales and shit. You ever tried to calculate compound interest on anal? It's not easy let me tell you.
One Eyed Willy
Member
You're 27, thats when boners start to break ... slowly. Nerves, alcohol, drugs, age.. it's a losing battle. Now you know why most guys can't be porn stars lol
Whisky dick is when you drink too much whisky or hard liquor, not having like 2 drinks to calm your nerves.
Whisky dick is when you drink too much whisky or hard liquor, not having like 2 drinks to calm your nerves.
Prototype Viktor
Member
i wouldn't call that a foursome just straight swinging. Seems to be like OP you like the idea of that or open relationship or even Poly but not the execution of it
just role play with your woman and leave it at that or at least do a Poly relationship for her sake
just role play with your woman and leave it at that or at least do a Poly relationship for her sake
MeatGrinder
Member
Hot damn, I would never let my SO get fucked by another guy. I am too jealous for that and she knows. How you did it OP, I have no idea.
And yeah, thats not a foursome, thats a couple swap.
And yeah, thats not a foursome, thats a couple swap.
This is one where either side trying to go on without the other is kind of shitty. Obviously one person demanding everyone else stop because they cant be involved is pretty selfish, but the others just carrying on and leaving that guy out really sucks too, especially given the intimacy involved with what they were all doing
Maybe you missed this bit in the OP. Maybe he didn't explain the situation and his feelings correctly.
I mean he calls it a foursome when it's obviously a partner swap.
Edit:
Here's his clarification.
These situations are not emotionless things, if someone is not feeling it they are totally entitled to changed their mind about continuing. And if he and his GF have a good relationship you would expect her to have his emotional feelings as a priority. These things break up relationships because people don't respect other people's feelings. Everyone should be enojoying it not just some.