But how will I know you're into me if you don't sacrifice ever jacket you own for me?
But how will I know you're into me if you don't sacrifice ever jacket you own for me?
I'm a regular Jamie Oliver.As a female we often cover expenses that everyone forgets about, like the meals prepared at home
I find it a bit weird that men just offer up their seats to random women. I will gladly give up my seat for old people, small children, pregnant women, disabled people and anyone else that looks to have a harder time standing. I don't consider it bad manners not to offer your seat to a healthy young woman. It seems a bit outdated to be honest.Not sure if these things are being a gentleman, but of course I do, cos its about being polite and courteous. If I'm on a bus, and an old person/woman gets on, its only right to offer them my seat etc.
Not much of a gentleman I guess.-Opening doors-- yes, but for everyone
-Walking close to curb--not sure what this means, I think so?.
-Give up seat in public places- only if they look really old, always if they're pregnant, I have a 1h commute, so somewhat egotistically I'd rather someone else stood up
-Limit profanity-- I don't use that much profanity as I never let myself get riled up, but I also don't consider it that much of a big deal.
-Pay for dates-- Rather not, I like my women independent, I don't really down date either.
-Put on her coat--See above, I don't like the slave thing
I would tend to open the door for anyone when convenient. Im not doing that when people are bumrusshing behind me.Obviously this question is for men.
Just curious do you still follow was are considered traditional western gentlemanly customs?
Quick audit of gentlemanly behaviors with my comments
-Opening doors--I do this for everyone honestly, but especially women and older people.
-Walking close to curb--I think I do this instantly in all types of company.
-Give up seat in public places-I do this for both women of all ages and older men and children of all sexes
-Limit profanity--I don't use too much profanity IRL and much less with someone I just met. I don't mind profanity in known company for humorous situations.
-Pay for dates--I do this. If it gets serious we usually do round robin style. I got her, she gets me next. Or per venue. I get dinner, she gets drinks. Etc. But only in committed relationships not during beginning stages of dating.
-Put on her coat--I actually never do this. I think this is a probably too outdated in my experience. I only really do this for the huge winter coats if we go to a place with a coat check like a swankier bar or lounge.
Those are the ones I can think of.
If you know more, add those.
Wait, I don't get why the curb one's way outdated. To me it seems like the most subtle 'gentlemanly' thing you can do. It's not like most people in my company are going to notice I'm the one who tends to walk closest to the curb. And isn't the whole thing rooted in safety? I mean, if I'm walking down the sidewalk with my child, SO, a sick person, et cetera, I'd be the one walking nearest to the road just in case someone on the road does lose control, that way I'd be hit first and there's a super small chance I'd be able to knock whomever I'm walking with out of the way. It's a life-preservation thing, even if me being a shield against an out of control car would be super-super futile.
But still, doing this with a child seems like common sense to me, as you're also doing it to prevent them from being a stupid child and blocking them from wandering out in the middle of the road. I dunno, man.
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
I didn't no the mans supposed to but I do it anyway. I'll also be the first to open a door. Not a car door though. Sorry I'm not walking all the way over there.Yes.
When you are walking with a woman on the street youre supposed to stay on the side closest to the street.
Look, I'm not going to go about pinpointing whatever you're implying about what I said or myself, but I can tell you that I'm also not going to force myself and shove whoever I'm walking with on the sidewalk out of the way so I can be closest to the curb. That's ridiculous. If it happens, it happens, and it's mostly dependent on whether or not the thought crosses my mind. Honestly, it's probably more likely to happen with someone I care about, whether it be my girlfriend, boyfriend, mother, father, best friend, grandmother, grandfather, whatever. And as I said earlier, to me, this also still seems like a gesture done in common sense with a child, having nothing to do with gender.The walking on the curb side of the street is just the most outlandish, comical thing ever. If I were a woman and a man deliberately swapped sides with me and he told me it was for my protection I would laugh in his face and then throw up inside.
If you were walking on a sidewalk with a close male friend, would you consciously go to the curb side? If so, then it's not a gender thing for you, and it's a deliberately selfless gesture that says "I would rather take the hit and sacrifice myself over this person I'm really fond of and don't want to see hurt." Cool. Then you're just a nice guy with common courtesy and it's no longer a "gentlemanly custom."
If not, then it's an outdated, sexist gesture that falls back into "Women need protecting by men, even in the subtlest of ways." It's no longer selfless, but instead becomes another small way to feel masculine or powerful in the presence of a woman.
Depends on the girl. Some expect the man to pay always, some split, some offer to pay. No real rule about it.Question
As a man are you always stuck with the bill? I really don't mind paying but it seems odd that in some couples they rotate and in some it is expected of the male to pay.
needless to say i am no longer with this person but that was one thing i never understand.