fuzzyreactor
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Nope, girls love Bad Boys, they don't want to be threat gently anymore, believe me
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Do you still follow gentlemanly customs?
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key word: girls
I find "threat gently" far more interesting.
Nealand Liquor
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I laughed in real life.
I open doors for everybody except car doors.
My car can only be unlocked on the driver side. And the keyless entry on my car fob is out of battery. Sooo, it'd be really awkward If I went to my driver side, Unlocked the car, walked around to passenger side, then opened the car door for her then walk back to driver side.
My car can only be unlocked on the driver side. And the keyless entry on my car fob is out of battery. Sooo, it'd be really awkward If I went to my driver side, Unlocked the car, walked around to passenger side, then opened the car door for her then walk back to driver side.
Kitsunebaby
Member
A lot of it really does (obviously I'm speaking for myself). I find all the stuff like pulling out seats, opening car doors, et cetera to be really obnoxious. Like, not only are you treating me like a child, but you're wasting time in order to do it.
SillyEskimo
Member
It's the little details that you do for one another that make a relationship special. For instance, I keep a warm moist towel next to the bed so my wife can clean her ass up after I cum in it.
ProtoCents
Banned
Have you guys ever heard about opening a car door for someone?
Say you're both leaving the restaurant and getting in your car... this one girl expected me to walk around the car (we were coming from the driver's side) and open the passenger door for her.
This is where being a gentleman and courteous is just intrusive to the other's capabilities. It's not like we're getting in a cab together and entering from the same side... then it would make sense.
Anyways, when she mentioned it to me in the form of, "You're not going to open the door for me?" I knew she was a nut.
Say you're both leaving the restaurant and getting in your car... this one girl expected me to walk around the car (we were coming from the driver's side) and open the passenger door for her.
This is where being a gentleman and courteous is just intrusive to the other's capabilities. It's not like we're getting in a cab together and entering from the same side... then it would make sense.
Anyways, when she mentioned it to me in the form of, "You're not going to open the door for me?" I knew she was a nut.
Conkersbadfurday
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No on almost all accounts. I'll open doors for people, but only if they're at a certain distance away. I can't be asked to stand there all day when you have perfectly working arms.
entremet
Member
I've heard of it.
She's old school. Doesn't necessarily mean she's nuts, tho.
Like a poster said above, not everyone likes these behaviors as they are a hassle, but it appears the girl you're talking about it, expects it.
YMMV.
IISANDERII
Member
In Mad Men they always stand up when their wives get up. I wonder if it's to make up for the perpetual infidelity.
a lady did that for me once, we were married 3 years. I finally tricked her by leaving the toilet seat up one night, heard a large splash around 2 am and never heard from her again.
edit: is this thing on?
entremet
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I open doors for everyone - male or female, young or old.
I don't curse in public, only with friends.
I never recommend going out anywhere or doing anything, whether with friends, family, or in a dating capacity, unless I'm prepared to pay for all of it (of course people never let me, but I always try).
The putting on her coat thing doesn't apply much to me given I'm gay; and as nice as I try to be, unless the person is very old or injured, fuck giving up my seat lol
EDIT: Almost forgot - I always stand up to greet people besides my two best friends. Always ask people how they are doing and give eye contact, and if someone asks how I am first, I respond and ask the same of them. Always throws people at stores and restaurants off since people tend to not do that much around here lol
I don't curse in public, only with friends.
I never recommend going out anywhere or doing anything, whether with friends, family, or in a dating capacity, unless I'm prepared to pay for all of it (of course people never let me, but I always try).
The putting on her coat thing doesn't apply much to me given I'm gay; and as nice as I try to be, unless the person is very old or injured, fuck giving up my seat lol
EDIT: Almost forgot - I always stand up to greet people besides my two best friends. Always ask people how they are doing and give eye contact, and if someone asks how I am first, I respond and ask the same of them. Always throws people at stores and restaurants off since people tend to not do that much around here lol
-Opening doors
Yup still do
-Walking close to curb
Yup
-Give up seat in public places
Not to often, but yes I do.
-Limit profanity
lol fuck that
-Pay for dates
It's always 50/50 with this kind of thing because once you do it, when should you stop?
-Put on her coat
Yeah that's a bit too old fashioned
Yup still do
-Walking close to curb
Yup
-Give up seat in public places
Not to often, but yes I do.
-Limit profanity
lol fuck that
-Pay for dates
It's always 50/50 with this kind of thing because once you do it, when should you stop?
-Put on her coat
Yeah that's a bit too old fashioned
Memento_Mori15
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1. Hold the door for everyone.
2. Never heard of this until now.
3. Always do this.
4. I barely even curse nowadays.
5. I also do it the same way you do it. I pay for something, she pays for the next(it's cheaper than what I paid for)
6. I do it a few times.
Sectorseven
Member
I do most of these things on a regular basis and I've never seen a woman not appreciate it. In fact most of them are pleasantly surprised, which leads me to believe there are a lot of shitty men out there.
DoktorEvil
Banned
If you're clumsy, it helps to learn alternate words that sound like the curse words.
Fudge has gotten some usage around my 2 year old nephew.
NobleXenon
Member
First to open the door, holds it for everyone behind.
killamajig
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ETIQUETTE
IN SOCIETY, IN BUSINESS, IN POLITICS
AND AT HOME
BY EMILY POST
1922
https://www.gutenberg.org/files/14314/14314-h/14314-h.htm
IN SOCIETY, IN BUSINESS, IN POLITICS
AND AT HOME
BY EMILY POST
1922
https://www.gutenberg.org/files/14314/14314-h/14314-h.htm
Open doors and give hery coat when it is cold are as gentlemanly as I get.
I open and hold doors for everyone though so that's just out of habit. As far as the cold thing, she gets cold easily and I don't get cold even at low temperatures. I only wear a coat because she makes me.
Oh and I do give up my seat in public. It better be an elderly person, a pregnant lady, a lady with kids, a person with a disability, a person carrying heavy shit. Other than that I won't stand up.
Some dude told me he needed my seat because he needed to make a call. I just looked at him and said nah, I'm texting and I need both hands.
I open and hold doors for everyone though so that's just out of habit. As far as the cold thing, she gets cold easily and I don't get cold even at low temperatures. I only wear a coat because she makes me.
Oh and I do give up my seat in public. It better be an elderly person, a pregnant lady, a lady with kids, a person with a disability, a person carrying heavy shit. Other than that I won't stand up.
Some dude told me he needed my seat because he needed to make a call. I just looked at him and said nah, I'm texting and I need both hands.
I just blaspheme when swearing isn't appropriate.
I open the car door for my mother or any other person who gets into my car. If my nephew are there, than they have to do it for her, we just learn from each other. Scolded my bf once for not doing it 8 months ago and he has since been doing it everytime.
And some people have no manners. My ex stood on his side and left me opening the car door by myself a week after I had a seizure. I could actually see him in the mirror just standing there while I was struggling. That was it.
I don't curse since I work with kids/parents. Summertime tho? Total sailormouth
I should add the coat thing to my bf, but he also puts my shoes on sometimes.
And some people have no manners. My ex stood on his side and left me opening the car door by myself a week after I had a seizure. I could actually see him in the mirror just standing there while I was struggling. That was it.
I don't curse since I work with kids/parents. Summertime tho? Total sailormouth
I should add the coat thing to my bf, but he also puts my shoes on sometimes.
entremet
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Damn, girl. You don't play lol.
The girl im talking to atm loves when i hold doors for her and stuff. I dont do the coat thing, that's strange, but i do walk on the outside of the curb for her. She told me its the first time a guy treated her that way.
True Savior
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Depends on the nature of the relationship. But yes i tend to do some stuff you listed. I tend to open doors. I never seat in a public transportation. There's always kids , women , elderly..let them seat (i also work in a desk so i like standing up). The curb thing , only with kids.
I have a dirty dirty mouth , but i tend to shut off if im with women.But if im in a relationship...nope. Dirty dirty mouth. That's me.
Pay for dates ? I dont really mind but a girl who blindly accepts it is a problem to me. Unless there's some cash problems.
The coat stuff i just ask the person if she's cold or something (if she forgot to bring something).
I loved to help my ex-gf dress. Not in a butler way lol. I always found it sexy as fuck.
What a gentleman.
I have a dirty dirty mouth , but i tend to shut off if im with women.But if im in a relationship...nope. Dirty dirty mouth. That's me.
Pay for dates ? I dont really mind but a girl who blindly accepts it is a problem to me. Unless there's some cash problems.
The coat stuff i just ask the person if she's cold or something (if she forgot to bring something).
I loved to help my ex-gf dress. Not in a butler way lol. I always found it sexy as fuck.
What a gentleman.
-Opening doors: For everyone
-Walking close to curb: For everyone
-Give up seat in public places: For everyone
-Limit profanity: Not particularly, but I do tone it down in public if children are close. I don't swear regularly anyway.
-Pay for dates: Split bill normally.
-Put on her coat: Nope.
Majority of these I'd see as just general custom. Being considerate/kind, I guess.
-Walking close to curb: For everyone
-Give up seat in public places: For everyone
-Limit profanity: Not particularly, but I do tone it down in public if children are close. I don't swear regularly anyway.
-Pay for dates: Split bill normally.
-Put on her coat: Nope.
Majority of these I'd see as just general custom. Being considerate/kind, I guess.
ImpalingNarwhal
Member
I find it awkward to NOT hold the door open for someone. It just feels natural.
entremet
Member
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
lol.
this is totally outdated due to the prevalence of concrete/asphalt roads.
I don't do any of those things differently for genders.
Holding doors open is just good manners.
Making sure not to bump into people yes.
Profanity I limit in general.
I've paid for friends food sometimes as some are still in the post college job search phase so $$$ is scarce. If they insist on paying for themselves I let them.
Offer to help get a coat if they have their hands full
Holding doors open is just good manners.
Making sure not to bump into people yes.
Profanity I limit in general.
I've paid for friends food sometimes as some are still in the post college job search phase so $$$ is scarce. If they insist on paying for themselves I let them.
Offer to help get a coat if they have their hands full
DriftedPlanet
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I hold doors open for everyone. Limiting profanity is on a case-by-case basis, I don't want to accidentally offend someone. Helping someone with their coat only makes sense when at home preparing to leave. I haven't encountered a meal where we didn't go dutch (though we've only been on really informal group dates).
Nice. I feel like its only proper to ask as it brings up the mutual understanding that though they're at work and you are the customer both of you are still people. Not enough people seem to think of cashiers or other employees as real humans (I get that you mean it more generally, I just went in a retail/service industry direction).
Nice. I feel like its only proper to ask as it brings up the mutual understanding that though they're at work and you are the customer both of you are still people. Not enough people seem to think of cashiers or other employees as real humans (I get that you mean it more generally, I just went in a retail/service industry direction).
SolidusDave
Member
Same, but I don't actually stand there to hold the door open, it's just more efficient depending on the direction of the door (and while I enter I always leave the door open for the person directly behind me). Other cases are people holding stuff obviously.
If I actually let you pass while holding the door open, I definitely check out your ass though. 2 birds with one stone
Pretty sure I only do this with small children (traffic etc.).
Only if the person visibly struggles to stand. Definitely not for young women (unless they are my company obviously), that might actually come across creepy. If I notice there's really no free place left in a Bus etc, I will offer it also to elders.
Why would I give my place to a healthy child though?
To me that's more something you do in a professional setting? I don't really hold back all that much when with female company.
Only if I like that person. I will ask first though, several women think they are being pressured because of the notion that I may expect something in return.
If it goes long-term we also to that round robin thing.
I do it with dates sometimes, but it's often kinda awkward because I don't do it correctly haha. I take the coat off and put it up though.
Kitsunebaby
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No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
But how will I know you're into me if you don't sacrifice ever jacket you own for me?
Dude what? My experience is the complete opposite. It's probably your presentation.
SolidusDave
Member
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
Why is he standing ankle-deep in the puddle?
If the puddle is as deep as where he stands, she will still get wet feet. She's not Jesus.
There's a high chance of her heels wrapping around the jacket, making her fall flat on her face.
She's not properly dressed for such a rainy season.
That's a sure-fire way of getting your bag mugged.
He's starring at her ass, not subtle at all.
and most importantly, why is she not walking around it???
PeskyToaster
Member
i lay down in puddles for her to walk over them.
You Are Viewtiful
Member
It is actually harder for kids to balance.
I don't give up my seat to women on public transit. That's strange if not offensive, they'll probably take that to mean I think they're old lol. I do all the rest you listed though. It's common manners for all genders, not really gentleman upper-class behaviour.
1. I do this all the time. It understandably annoys some people if I time it poorly.
2. I do this because I like to challenge my balance a bit, never really considered it a "gentleman" behavior.
3. I can't remember doing this, but I also can't remember a situation where it would have mattered
4. I try to, to varying success.
5&6. Never been on a date, so never.
2. I do this because I like to challenge my balance a bit, never really considered it a "gentleman" behavior.
3. I can't remember doing this, but I also can't remember a situation where it would have mattered
4. I try to, to varying success.
5&6. Never been on a date, so never.
crazy monkey
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