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Lol some women do as well. But I whole heartedly agree with your logic. My feelings get genuinely hurt when ever I've recieved any such messages, even if it's a woman I find completely unattractive. I don't think it's that I'm personally offended, but it definitely hurts and challenges my own sensibilities. I feel like there's a lot of misplaced anger and frustration in those types of messages.

Yeh sorry I should have said people, it's just my experiences have all been with men.

 

[Skullface]

Yeh sorry I should have said people, it's just my experiences have all been with men.

No need to apologize, I was just agreeing with you that it happens and that it sucks. I'm sure it happens a lot more with w4m though, if anything because women statistically get inboxes more then men.

 

[Lulubop]

Does Tinder update your location even when you're not using it?

 

[Valus]

Reposting this from the dating thread since everyone is busy helping Yellow over there:

So a little update from me. For those that don't remember, I was dating two women for awhile trying to figure out which one was better for me. Woman A had one big pro being that she was a super gamer nerd, but a bunch of cons as well. Woman B had a bunch of normal pros, just overall a normal gal, and really not any meaningful cons to speak of.

On Friday, my cat, Zack, passed away. He was going to be six years old in May. I rescued him after he was abandoned in my dad's backyard when he was barely two weeks old. It was sudden, traggic, unexpected, and left me completely devastated. Both women consoled me but woman B definitely shined in showing compassion and that she wanted to be there for me as much as possible.

So I'm in a relationship now, which I'm happy about. But Zack was like a son to me, and I'm just so depressed over losing him. I thought being cheated on after a three year relationship hurt. Losing Zack like this has left me in shambles. So just a general PSA to all of you animal owners out there: give your companion(s) some love, you never know when life is going to decide and fuck you over.

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

Reposting this from the dating thread since everyone is busy helping Yellow over there:

So a little update from me. For those that don't remember, I was dating two women for awhile trying to figure out which one was better for me. Woman A had one big pro being that she was a super gamer nerd, but a bunch of cons as well. Woman B had a bunch of normal pros, just overall a normal gal, and really not any meaningful cons to speak of.

On Friday, my cat, Zack, passed away. He was going to be six years old in May. I rescued him after he was abandoned in my dad's backyard when he was barely two weeks old. It was sudden, traggic, unexpected, and left me completely devastated. Both women consoled me but woman B definitely shined in showing compassion and that she wanted to be there for me as much as possible.

So I'm in a relationship now, which I'm happy about. But Zack was like a son to me, and I'm just so depressed over losing him. I thought being cheated on after a three year relationship hurt. Losing Zack like this has left me in shambles. So just a general PSA to all of you animal owners out there: give your companion(s) some love, you never know when life is going to decide and fuck you over.

Oh man I feel like a huge jerk. I'm sorry for your loss. Has she continued being super supportive? I know it's super hard, at least you were able to rescue him and give him a wonderful life <3

 

[User 479360]

Reposting this from the dating thread since everyone is busy helping Yellow over there:

So a little update from me. For those that don't remember, I was dating two women for awhile trying to figure out which one was better for me. Woman A had one big pro being that she was a super gamer nerd, but a bunch of cons as well. Woman B had a bunch of normal pros, just overall a normal gal, and really not any meaningful cons to speak of.

On Friday, my cat, Zack, passed away. He was going to be six years old in May. I rescued him after he was abandoned in my dad's backyard when he was barely two weeks old. It was sudden, traggic, unexpected, and left me completely devastated. Both women consoled me but woman B definitely shined in showing compassion and that she wanted to be there for me as much as possible.

So I'm in a relationship now, which I'm happy about. But Zack was like a son to me, and I'm just so depressed over losing him. I thought being cheated on after a three year relationship hurt. Losing Zack like this has left me in shambles. So just a general PSA to all of you animal owners out there: give your companion(s) some love, you never know when life is going to decide and fuck you over.

I'm really sorry for your loss. Try to take solace in the fact that he lived a good life, which is the most important thing. You did a great thing for him by rescuing him and looking after him.

I know how it feels to lose a beloved cat, and sympathize.

 

[Kerrinck]

Just want to give a small update and thank you guys for the advice of growing a thicker skin regarding Tinder.
Gotten a few matches after the initial rejection and I am having some good conversations.
Went on a couple of dates that really went nowhere but at least I am getting the hang of it (and getting some much needed self esteem boost).

 

[Jhoan]

I've been seeing a psychiatrist for several months now, and had tried different antidepressants before that. She prescribed one the first time I spoke to her, but it didn't end up working, and neither is this one I'm on. It's my fifth type of antidepressant, I've been on it for months, and have been bumped up to the 2nd highest dose allowed.

When I speak to her, she asks me if I'm dating. Before, I said no. I've always wanted a relationship, but I wasn't obsessing over it. However, something happened inside me and it's all I've been able to think about as of late.

I've had an online dating profile for a while now, but hardly used it. Now, I'm using it more.

I think I could date. And I just wanted to be honest. I didn't bring it up right away. That said, maybe I should hide it.

Eh, I'm not sure if being on meds is the best solution since they might be making you feel this way. Maybe you should try cognitive behavioral therapy but I digress since everyone has different treatment options. As someone who has Social Anxiety and sees a therapist for it, I never ever make it my business to tell girls I date that I'm seeing a therapist or let it bother me for that fact. That's something that I guard very closely but I'm working on improving myself.

That being said, if you're being honest about wanting to date, then I say follow your heart. There's no better saying than that. I agree with Mr. Sam about bringing it up in a later subsequent date with girls, just not upfront since timing is everything.

Lastly, I would also say to have fun with dating and don't rush into a relationship in hopes that it'll cure your depression or fill in a void with the first girl who accepts all your baggage. You'll find that you're gonna swing and miss on several dates and it's totally okay. You learn to develop a thick skin and keep moving. The more dates you go on, the more comfortable you'll get with talking to women.

Reposting this from the dating thread since everyone is busy helping Yellow over there:

So a little update from me. For those that don't remember, I was dating two women for awhile trying to figure out which one was better for me. Woman A had one big pro being that she was a super gamer nerd, but a bunch of cons as well. Woman B had a bunch of normal pros, just overall a normal gal, and really not any meaningful cons to speak of.

On Friday, my cat, Zack, passed away. He was going to be six years old in May. I rescued him after he was abandoned in my dad's backyard when he was barely two weeks old. It was sudden, traggic, unexpected, and left me completely devastated. Both women consoled me but woman B definitely shined in showing compassion and that she wanted to be there for me as much as possible.

So I'm in a relationship now, which I'm happy about. But Zack was like a son to me, and I'm just so depressed over losing him. I thought being cheated on after a three year relationship hurt. Losing Zack like this has left me in shambles. So just a general PSA to all of you animal owners out there: give your companion(s) some love, you never know when life is going to decide and fuck you over.

Sorry to hear about that man. I remember watching a kitten that my mother took in suddenly pass away in a friend's arms a kid when my brothers and I had friends over. It was our first realization of how fragile life can be. The most gut wrenching part was my mother didn't give it a burial but threw it in the trash area since we live in the city. I would say to remember the good times and keep those memories alive. People and pets may pass away but memories are immortal. I think you'll get through it eventually.

 

[Rest]

Is this a selectable status on a dating site? I almost guarantee that's a way to ward off sex pervs. Which is strange... Because most women I've met on dating websites I wound up having sex with one date 1 or 2. Not by design either.

It's not selected by the user, the site susses it out from a person's answers. Almost every single girl's profile that I look at has some level of "Less Sex Driven than other women" listed as a personality trait.

 

[Jhoan]

So apparently Tinder is being used for viral marketing of movies these days. A guy got trolled by a bot promoting a movie for a change instead of porn. Dude proceeds to feel an emotional gut punch but laughs it off in the end:
https://www.yahoo.com/movies/ex-machina-tinder-sxsw-stunt-text-113788219202.html

 

[User 479360]

Eh, I'm not sure if being on meds is the best solution since they might be making you feel this way. Maybe you should try cognitive behavioral therapy but I digress since everyone has different treatment options. As someone who has Social Anxiety and sees a therapist for it, I never ever make it my business to tell girls I date that I'm seeing a therapist or let it bother me for that fact. That's something that I guard very closely but I'm working on improving myself.

That being said, if you're being honest about wanting to date, then I say follow your heart. There's no better saying than that. I agree with Mr. Sam about bringing it up in a later subsequent date with girls, just not upfront since timing is everything.

Lastly, I would also say to have fun with dating and don't rush into a relationship in hopes that it'll cure your depression or fill in a void with the first girl who accepts all your baggage. You'll find that you're gonna swing and miss on several dates and it's totally okay. You learn to develop a thick skin and keep moving. The more dates you go on, the more comfortable you'll get with talking to women.



Sorry to hear about that man. I remember watching a kitten that my mother took in suddenly pass away in a friend's arms a kid when my brothers and I had friends over. It was our first realization of how fragile life can be. The most gut wrenching part was my mother didn't give it a burial but threw it in the trash area since we live in the city. I would say to remember the good times and keep those memories alive. People and pets may pass away but memories are immortal. I think you'll get through it eventually.

Thanks for the lengthy reply. I've taken everything you said into consideration, and will use it going forward. I don't think anything you mentioned or advised was wrong.

We live in the country, and it's been cold as Hell this winter. But two stray cats have been coming (with others who would unfortunately disappear) to our front door for years now. A father and daughter. We feed them daily.

They had more kittens, and brought two over. I brought both in, and pet them a lot, but I was never able to keep them so they had to go back outside. They were too young when I first brought them in anyways, because they still needed to feed from their mom. But we have a container outside that's by a wall which blocks southernly winds. It has hay and a towel in it, which they would use to keep warm.

Unfortunately, the nicest kitten disappeared. Now, we recently learned that a black cat (all three are) was hit and killed on our busy road where people drive like idiots. It sucks, because if it was the kitten -- which it seems like -- he had a home. I just couldn't keep him in a cage for two days while I waited for the woman to finally decide.

We have two cats, and I kind of wish it was the father of the kitten that got hit because (although I love cats) he would always hurt ours and the neighbours', resulting in expensive vet fees.

 

[Lulubop]

Need a good Saturday night date recommendation here in NYC. I'm super picky when it comes to food, so I'd rather not do a restaurant but I'd like for something more than just hitting up a bar, unless it's a pretty unique spot. Only a second date, but I'm pretty into her.

 

[Jhoan]

Thanks for the lengthy reply. I've taken everything you said into consideration, and will use it going forward. I don't think anything you mentioned or advised was wrong.

You're welcome and remember to keep your head held high. Without sounding self-righteous, I have strong opinions against taking medication to combat a mental illness/anxiety which is why I didn't want to ruffle any feathers to anyone---including you---who does to respect them.

Need a good Saturday night date recommendation here in NYC. I'm super picky when it comes to food, so I'd rather not do a restaurant but I'd like for something more than just hitting up a bar, unless it's a pretty unique spot. Only a second date, but I'm pretty into her.

Check the good old NYC thread where there's a bunch of recommendations in the last page. It won't hurt to ask in there either.

GK86 will tell you to check Time Out New York and I'll tell you to hit up The Pit for a live show plus drinks in one place perfect for a Saturday night. Regardless what you end up going with, I would say not to do something super fancy that ends up blowing a hole through your wallet. Good luck man!

And is it just me or has it become harder to get matched up with girls on Tinder after the update? It makes me want to reactivate my OKC profile.

 

[Zeyphersan]

I don't know what it is, man. I've created and deleted a lot of Tinder accounts in my time, but for some reason this time is just going great.

I'm using the same photos as before. I have a slightly funnier and more sarcastic bio. All I did was end it with "Definitely not a country guy. At all" and BOOM, all the chicks are rolling in. More matches than I've ever had. Even in a time when people have limited "likes" to give in a certain period, it's going really well. Even my OKCupid and POF profiles are going well. I don't know what to attribute to those two

For the first time in my life I think I'm going to start just casually dating, and it's awesome

 

[GrizzNKev]

I feel like I'm shit out of luck in my area due to my disconnect with the culture. Everybody in Seattle is either really into beer, really into coffee, or really into weed. All perfectly fine here, but I am in the extreme minority of having zero interest in any of those things and not really willing to ingest them or participate, and it immediately shuts down a ton of social opportunities. Wah. Only thing I have going for me is how often I go to the gym, but it's a very small one and sort of a closed community.

 

[electricshake]

I feel like I'm shit out of luck in my area due to my disconnect with the culture. Everybody in Seattle is either really into beer, really into coffee, or really into weed. All perfectly fine here, but I am in the extreme minority of having zero interest in any of those things and not really willing to ingest them or participate, and it immediately shuts down a ton of social opportunities. Wah. Only thing I have going for me is how often I go to the gym, but it's a very small one and sort of a closed community.

Pubs and coffee shops don't just sell beer and coffee. Or are you not willing to go to those sorts of places at all?

 

[GrizzNKev]

Pubs and coffee shops don't just sell beer and coffee. Or are you not willing to go to those sorts of places at all?

I just don't feel it would be appropriate for me to ask someone out to do something like that and then drink water. Like why did I even ask in the first place lol. I only drink water.

 

[electricshake]

I just don't feel it would be appropriate for me to ask someone out to do something like that and then drink water. Like why did I even ask in the first place lol. I only drink water.

Ok well don't ask people to do that, suggest a different activity for a date (bowling, lunch, a walk, museum/gallery etc) and if you get invited out for a coffee or drink tell them you don't drink but are happy to go with them (assuming you are).

 

[GrizzNKev]

Ok well don't ask people to do that, suggest a different activity for a date (bowling, lunch, a walk, museum/gallery etc) and if you get invited out for a coffee or drink tell them you don't drink but are happy to go with them (assuming you are).

Meh. I still don't think I'm ready for dating.

If I post in this thread again in less than one year someone please slap me

 

[User 479360]

So, I took your advice GAF, and did really well last night. I'd wanted to go to bed early, but ended up spending two hours on online dating apps. Then another two hours talking to an awesome girl who lives nearby and loves hockey more than I do.

She had a funny but potentially offensive poem in her profile, so I wasn't sure of what she'd be like, though I decided to message her anyways. Turns out she doesn't get a lot of messages except for sex or from married guys, and is seemingly really interested. The poem was a joke to interest people.

We're still talking today, and she wants to tonight when she gets home from a game. I have not mentioned my mental illnesses, nor have I spent too much time talking about myself. We've mostly talked about cats and hockey. My situation (looking after my disabled mom) a bit, too.

I've also had three matches on Tinder. One hasn't replied, but two others messaged me. One is from nearby, and seems really cool, but she goes to school 8 hours away and is in her last semester. The other is from far away but goes to school here.

I sent both a message saying it's too bad they're so far away, because both profiles said 60+km. I added, "because you're really pretty" to the second one.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

I feel like I'm shit out of luck in my area due to my disconnect with the culture. Everybody in Seattle is either really into beer, really into coffee, or really into weed. All perfectly fine here, but I am in the extreme minority of having zero interest in any of those things and not really willing to ingest them or participate, and it immediately shuts down a ton of social opportunities. Wah. Only thing I have going for me is how often I go to the gym, but it's a very small one and sort of a closed community.

I've asked girls out for coffee and I end up drinking tea. The point is to just to meet in person to see what you actually have in common and if you click.

So, I took your advice GAF, and did really well last night. I'd wanted to go to bed early, but ended up spending two hours on online dating apps. Then another two hours talking to an awesome girl who lives nearby and loves hockey more than I do.

She had a funny but potentially offensive poem in her profile, so I wasn't sure of what she'd be like, though I decided to message her anyways. Turns out she doesn't get a lot of messages except for sex or from married guys, and is seemingly really interested. The poem was a joke to interest people.

We're still talking today, and she wants to tonight when she gets home from a game. I have not mentioned my mental illnesses, nor have I spent too much time talking about myself. We've mostly talked about cats and hockey. My situation (looking after my disabled mom) a bit, too.

I've also had three matches on Tinder. One hasn't replied, but two others messaged me. One is from nearby, and seems really cool, but she goes to school 8 hours away and is in her last semester. The other is from far away but goes to school here.

I sent both a message saying it's too bad they're so far away, because both profiles said 60+km. I added, "because you're really pretty" to the second one.

This is good. Keep things casual, let a conversation run its course, and then ask to meet when you feel it's appropriate.

 

[stn]

Meh. I still don't think I'm ready for dating.

If I post in this thread again in less than one year someone please slap me

Dude, be open-minded. I get not doing weed, okay. But coffee? Fucks sake, just have one of those fruity drinks or something just for the sake of a date. You're telling me there's not one drink you'd order at Starbucks? Order a small tea and take one sip every 20 minutes if you must.

I sent both a message saying it's too bad they're so far away, because both profiles said 60+km. I added, "because you're really pretty" to the second one.

Good, keep at it. Remember to sound positive and don't be so eager to bring up all your issues. Though one thing: I'd refrain from saying things like "you're pretty". Its very bland and overdone to hell. Try to flirt in a fun way, know what I mean?

 

[Lulubop]

You're welcome and remember to keep your head held high. Without sounding self-righteous, I have strong opinions against taking medication to combat a mental illness/anxiety which is why I didn't want to ruffle any feathers to anyone---including you---who does to respect them.

Check the good old NYC thread where there's a bunch of recommendations in the last page. It won't hurt to ask in there either.

GK86 will tell you to check Time Out New York and I'll tell you to hit up The Pit for a live show plus drinks in one place perfect for a Saturday night. Regardless what you end up going with, I would say not to do something super fancy that ends up blowing a hole through your wallet. Good luck man!

And is it just me or has it become harder to get matched up with girls on Tinder after the update? It makes me want to reactivate my OKC profile.

I was actually thinking about taking her to the UCB theater. After I posted that, I had remembered she said she was a fan of comedy shows. The Pit works wells obviously too, so I suggested both and I'll see what she says. As for the first date, it was at this cool little beer bar around my way called the Proletariat.Things indeed escalated pretty quickly.

As for Tinder, not to brag but I'm having much better luck than ever with the profile pics I have up now. Not short on matches or potential dates, and I get a surprising amount of first messages. Including the girl I'm taking out Saturday. I actually have a date tonight with someone else, but my mind is sorta not really into it. I've pretty much abandoned OKC, it's usually just to much back and forth.

 

[Zeyphersan]

So casual dating is kinda the best? I've never done it before, always been totally not looking or in a super committed relationship, but just tonight alone I have 4 dates planned from people I met off Tinder and 2 from OKC. Shit be crazy

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

So casual dating is kinda the best? I've never done it before, always been totally not looking or in a super committed relationship, but just tonight alone I have 4 dates planned from people I met off Tinder and 2 from OKC. Shit be crazy

I myself dont get it. Naturally I can't focus on ore than one person at a time. I've tried it and always feel so much guilt when juggling more than one person.

 

[BeatResetsTheWorld]

I just don't feel it would be appropriate for me to ask someone out to do something like that and then drink water. Like why did I even ask in the first place lol. I only drink water.

I've gone on a coffee date and drank hot chocolate because I don't like coffee. She thought it was cute/funny

 

[Zeyphersan]

I myself dont get it. Naturally I can't focus on ore than one person at a time. I've tried it and always feel so much guilt when juggling more than one person.

I mean, I'm absolutely not leading any of them on. I'm genuinely interested in going out with all of these women. I think the difference is the online aspect: the first date is (so far) the first place where I will be meeting them in person. I'm definitely not going to commit to a person just through our online interactions, so the first date is pretty important. Obviously if things get serious with one of them I'll stop, because at my core I'm a monogamous guy, but at this exact moment there's no one for me to be monogamous with

My last huge relationship was formed in high school, where everyone knew everyone and you had a first date once you had known the person pretty well already, so the date was almost a formality. I've never had a legitimate "Let's get to know each other" first date, so this is really exciting.

 

[Lulubop]

I mean, I'm absolutely not leading any of them on. I'm genuinely interested in going out with all of these women. I think the difference is the online aspect: the first date is (so far) the first place where I will be meeting them in person. I'm definitely not going to commit to a person just through our online interactions, so the first date is pretty important. Obviously if things get serious with one of them I'll stop, because at my core I'm a monogamous guy, but at this exact moment there's no one for me to be monogamous with

This is me right now. I've having a ton of fun. I'd settle for the right person, and if someone piques my interest than I'll lean that way but no one has really done that. That said this past Monday I had a great date with someone I'm now genuinely interested in getting to know better. About a month ago there was another girl I came across who I felt the same, but she's just wait to busy and just at a really different place in her life.

 

[Tabasco]

The girl I'm talking to wants to meet up for an event I'm not that interested in.

Advice on how to deal with this? She said she really wants to go but I would rather do something else.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

The girl I'm talking to wants to meet up for an event I'm not that interested in.

Advice on how to deal with this? She said she really wants to go but I would rather do something else.

What's the event?

 

[Tabasco]

What's the event?

Crawfish festival.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

Crawfish festival.

I don't blame you for not wanting to go.

Just be straight up and say you'd rather do something else.

 

[Rest]

Crawfish festival.

Hmm, yeah, that could suck as a date. Is it a first date? That would be a genuinely bad date if so.

You could tell her that you're doing other things that day, drop by for an hour or two, then tell her you have to go before you get completely bored. Have a backup date in mind, so that if she wants to leave with you, you can take her to do something more interesting. Maybe have some friends ready to go as well, so that it will look like you actually were priorly engaged.

I was looking at my answered questions and realized that most of them say "Irrelevant" for desired responses. I'm going to go through and be more picky/idealistic and see if it gets me any better results.

Doing this raised my match percentages for women that I was already well matched with, but isn't showing me anyone new so far.

 

[BeatResetsTheWorld]

Ever talk to someone so boring that you assume they must've just gotten through life solely based on their looks?

I matched with this girl on tinder, really good looking and within a few messages she wanted to text so we exchanged numbers and started texting and she was just...it was just an exercise in frustration. She's one of those types who has nothing to say on anything, and gives the briefest answer possible. I understand some people just don't text much, but she was responding really quickly which means she either had nothing else to do or was somehow engaged by our conversation.

At one point she asked "Why are all your texts questions?" and I say "Because you give short answers and don't say much", which I thought would pretty much end it, but then she asks if I have another recent picture and changes the subject. Suffice to say, soon after I stopped chatting...

 

[GrizzNKev]

Ever talk to someone so boring that you assume they must've just gotten through life solely based on their looks?

I matched with this girl on tinder, really good looking and within a few messages she wanted to text so we exchanged numbers and started texting and she was just...it was just an exercise in frustration. She's one of those types who has nothing to say on anything, and gives the briefest answer possible. I understand some people just don't text much, but she was responding really quickly which means she either had nothing else to do or was somehow engaged by our conversation.

At one point she asked "Why are all your texts questions?" and I say "Because you give short answers and don't say much", which I thought would pretty much end it, but then she asks if I have another recent picture and changes the subject. Suffice to say, soon after I stopped chatting...

My last girlfriend. She was hot, but.. zzzzzzzzzzzzz

 

[Zeyphersan]

Ever talk to someone so boring that you assume they must've just gotten through life solely based on their looks?

I matched with this girl on tinder, really good looking and within a few messages she wanted to text so we exchanged numbers and started texting and she was just...it was just an exercise in frustration. She's one of those types who has nothing to say on anything, and gives the briefest answer possible. I understand some people just don't text much, but she was responding really quickly which means she either had nothing else to do or was somehow engaged by our conversation.

At one point she asked "Why are all your texts questions?" and I say "Because you give short answers and don't say much", which I thought would pretty much end it, but then she asks if I have another recent picture and changes the subject. Suffice to say, soon after I stopped chatting...

Happens all the time, and I don't get it. Same thing happened, matched with a girl on Tinder, conversation was going really well, she told me to text her, started doing that, then boom, nothing. It's like talking to a rock.

 

[Sun Drugs]

For those of you using Tinder, how many profiles do you usually swipe right? Maybe I'm just too picky but in 4 days I have only found about 6 women I am interested in. Out of hundreds, at this point. Is this the norm?

 

[Kastrioti]

Just started an OKC profile after using Tinder. Kept my profile essay somewhat short and simple because like I said in my essay you can't get to know someone based off a few paragraphs.

How many questions are in the questionaire? I've probably answered about 60 questions including what's the meaning of life and it doesn't seem to end.

Anyways we'll see how it goes I'm a bit tired so I'll put more effort into the questionnaire tomorrow.

 

[GK86]

For those of you using Tinder, how many profiles do you usually swipe right? Maybe I'm just too picky but in 4 days I have only found about 6 women I am interested in. Out of hundreds, at this point. Is this the norm?

Back in my day, I always swiped right. Back when the swipes were free.

 

[Kastrioti]

Back in my day, I always swiped right. Back when the swipes were free.

Ahhhh the good old days of going to Starbucks on your day off and swiping right till your thumb could take it no longer.

 

[Zeyphersan]

For those of you using Tinder, how many profiles do you usually swipe right? Maybe I'm just too picky but in 4 days I have only found about 6 women I am interested in. Out of hundreds, at this point. Is this the norm?

I mean, you have a limited number of right swipes, so we're all swiping the same number

To be honest I'm having better luck once they put in the limiter than before. Can't explain it.

 

[Zeyphersan]

How many questions are in the questionaire? I've probably answered about 60 questions including what's the meaning of life and it doesn't seem to end.

Thousands. You're not supposed to answer them all

 

[davepoobond]

Ever talk to someone so boring that you assume they must've just gotten through life solely based on their looks?

I matched with this girl on tinder, really good looking and within a few messages she wanted to text so we exchanged numbers and started texting and she was just...it was just an exercise in frustration. She's one of those types who has nothing to say on anything, and gives the briefest answer possible. I understand some people just don't text much, but she was responding really quickly which means she either had nothing else to do or was somehow engaged by our conversation.

At one point she asked "Why are all your texts questions?" and I say "Because you give short answers and don't say much", which I thought would pretty much end it, but then she asks if I have another recent picture and changes the subject. Suffice to say, soon after I stopped chatting...

Happens all the time, and I don't get it. Same thing happened, matched with a girl on Tinder, conversation was going really well, she told me to text her, started doing that, then boom, nothing. It's like talking to a rock.

some people just dont know how to have a conversation. i get frustrated when i am talking to someone new and they give me nothing to work with, so im asking all of the questions and answering my own. i just dont talk to them after the 3rd or 4th message like that.

 

[Zeyphersan]

some people just dont know how to have a conversation. i get frustrated when i am talking to someone new and they give me nothing to work with, so im asking all of the questions and answering my own. i just dont talk to them after the 3rd or 4th message like that.

How hard is it for people to hold a conversation? Especially online, that's about as low-committment as it gets

 

[Makonero]

Got a second date tonight with an incredible girl. Great looking, amazing chemistry and quite a bit in common. We seem to be looking for the same things too. We'll see how things go! She's coming over to my place for a pancake dinner (her idea!) and then we're playing it by ear. Activities we've discussed doing: playing Monopoly (she's never played and because I play without house rules, the game can be fun and provide plenty of time for conversation), watching terrible restaurant shows, Mario Kart, or simply cuddling up and watching a movie.

Should be a fun night, whatever happens.

 

[davepoobond]

How hard is it for people to hold a conversation? Especially online, that's about as low-committment as it gets

apparently its hard enough where about 85% of the girls i end up talking to do that.

its very rare to actually have someone who is replying back with more than 3 words.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

It's kind of like being at a buffet line and seeing the pot roast at the end. You want to head straight there but there are other people in the way and there is some other food to go through first. So you take a bit of salad, a roll, and a scoop of mashed potatoes, all while leaving room for the pot roast.

Eventually you get to the end and you find out the pot roast is all gone. Now your plate is half-empty with food you didn't really want in the first place. So you pick at the food while waiting for more pot roast, or you dump the whole plate and start at the back of the line again.

You=hot girl
Pot roast=hot guy
Rest of the food=other guys

 

[Tabasco]

I'm having second thoughts about driving for over an hour just to see this girl for the first time.

I think I'm either going to ask her if she can meet me at a halfway point or just call it off. What do you guys think?

 

[Salamando]

I'm having second thoughts about driving for over an hour just to see this girl for the first time.

I think I'm either going to ask her if she can meet me at a halfway point or just call it off. What do you guys think?

If you haven't yet, talk to her on the phone or Skype. See what the conversation's like before you meet.

Don't suggest to meet halfway - suggest to meet at a decent place you can have fun at that just happens to be halfway. If no place exists and all the fun stuff is at the end points...suck it up and go the hour. Worst case scenario, you've wasted an hour of your day. You've probably spent more than that browsing GAF just this week, if not just today....

 

[Tabasco]

If you haven't yet, talk to her on the phone or Skype. See what the conversation's like before you meet.

Don't suggest to meet halfway - suggest to meet at a decent place you can have fun at that just happens to be halfway. If no place exists and all the fun stuff is at the end points...suck it up and go the hour. Worst case scenario, you've wasted an hour of your day. You've probably spent more than that browsing GAF just this week, if not just today....

She doesn't have a car, so is it not ideal for her to find a ride somehow to a halfway point?


I feel like I'm going to have to do that 2 hour round trip or else this meet up isn't happening...