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Is Anyone Actually Single?

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Greddleok

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I recently broke up with my partner, after a few years, and I've been trying to get back into dating.
However, it turns out that literally everyone I speak to is in a relationship, or married. TV has lied to me. There aren't a bunch of single twenty-thirty somethings. They're all content in relationships.

I've had to resort to online dating, my god, it's awful. It took me 3 dates to figure out that pictures don't reflect reality. Seriously people, post honest images, you're just wasting everyone's time if you don't.
 
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Guess Who

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The reason you don't see single people out and about is that all of them are right here on Neo Gaf Dot Com, like me.
 
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royalan

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Plenty of single people, OP. Are you looking? By that I mean, are you actually getting out and meeting people, or just looking for "next girlfriend"?
 
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dity

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Maybe they just tell you they're in a relationship after they hear you saying things like "fat girl pose"?
 
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Mr Cola

Brothas With Attitude / The Wrong Brotha to Fuck Wit / Die Brotha Die / Brothas in Paris
I must admit I was astounded to the degree at which people will hide how they look in pictures, it was almost a work of art, but very deceitful.
 
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Mr. Giggles

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Koriandrr said:
more like all those apps that let you photoshop the shit out of your pics.
Some girls have really become pro at those, you can barely tell they've been shopped.
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Ohhhhhh .... I see.... Ah yes the old cat fish tactic.

It ain't so bad, fat girls are awesome. More ounce for the bounce I say
 
Chuckie

Chuckie

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Koriandrr said:
more like all those apps that let you photoshop the shit out of your pics.
Some girls have really become pro at those, you can barely tell they've been shopped.
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No Fat Girl Pose (or Angle) is shooting the picture from a certain angle, then crop it.
 
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Greddleok

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Mr. Giggles said:
wtf is the fat girl pose?
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It's a way to take a picture that disguises your fat body. If you then go out on a date with this girl, you then see her fat body and have to choose between walking away before she notices, or spending a couple of hours talking to someone you're not interested in at all.

Because I have a conscience, I end up dating them, and then explaining after that we weren't a good fit. Just fucks me off because I only have so much free time, I don't want to spend it with someone I have zero attraction to.
 
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Mr Cola

Brothas With Attitude / The Wrong Brotha to Fuck Wit / Die Brotha Die / Brothas in Paris
Mr. Giggles said:
Ohhhhhh .... I see.... Ah yes the old cat fish tactic.

It ain't so bad, fat girls are awesome. More ounce for the bounce I say
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Its less how they look and more why they would go to such lengths, im not talking about taking nice photos that hide a bit, im talking wilful deception, not just in body shape but face aswell. Someone wanting to hide so much is giving off red flags internally whether they exist or not.
 
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danowat

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Greddleok said:
I've had to resort to online dating, my god, it's awful. It took me 3 dates to figure out the "fat girl pose." Seriously people, post honest images, you're just wasting everyone's time if you don't.
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Nowt wrong with internet dating, when I was thrust into the dating world again in my mid 30's it was pretty much the only decent option, I met my wife on Match.com.

Pictures aren't always a good way to judge how someone will be suitable to dating, some people just don't picture well, and look way better IRL (like me!!).
 
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dity

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Greddleok said:
It's a way to take a picture that disguises your fat body. If you then go out on a date with this girl, you then see her fat body and have to choose between walking away before she notices, or spending a couple of hours talking to someone you're not interested in at all.

Because I have a conscience, I end up dating them, and then explaining after that we weren't a good fit. Just fucks me off because I only have so much free time, I don't want to spend it with someone I have zero attraction to.
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Oh, so there are single girls.
 
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ClosingADoor

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Mr Cola said:
Its less how they look and more why they would go to such lengths, im not talking about taking nice photos that hide a bit, im talking wilful deception, not just in body shape but face aswell. Someone wanting to hide so much is giving off red flags internally whether they exist or not.
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Well, otherwise no one would message them. Online dating is about 99% about looks.

danowat said:
Pictures aren't always a good way to judge how someone will be suitable to dating, some people just don't picture well, and look way better IRL (like me!!).
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This is also true. I've met more people from online dating that I thought were more attractive in real life then the other way. Or maybe we're just lucky.
 
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Servbot24

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Greddleok said:
It's a way to take a picture that disguises your fat body. If you then go out on a date with this girl, you then see her fat body and have to choose between walking away before she notices, or spending a couple of hours talking to someone you're not interested in at all.

Because I have a conscience, I end up dating them, and then explaining after that we weren't a good fit. Just fucks me off because I only have so much free time, I don't want to spend it with someone I have zero attraction to.
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I'm assuming you have 0 attraction to most of your friends though right?
 
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Koriandrr

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Greddleok said:
It's a way to take a picture that disguises your fat body. If you then go out on a date with this girl, you then see her fat body and have to choose between walking away before she notices, or spending a couple of hours talking to someone you're not interested in at all.

Because I have a conscience, I end up dating them, and then explaining after that we weren't a good fit. Just fucks me off because I only have so much free time, I don't want to spend it with someone I have zero attraction to.
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And here I thought you only meant that you're disappointed that they would lie to you about their appearance. I can understand being pissy about someone having photos that really don't represent who they are in person, but completely ignoring a girl because she's fat is plain rude. People like you are the reason they do that in the first place, so they get the chance to actually meet the person and show their personality, because most of the times they wouldn't even get the chance.
 
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BigEvilTurtle

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Mr. Giggles said:
Wtf are MySpace angles?
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mySpace.jpg
 
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SuperBanana

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Koriandrr said:
And here I thought you only meant that you're disappointed that they would lie to you about their appearance. I can understand being pissy about someone having photos that really don't represent who they are in person, but completely ignoring a girl because she's fat is plain rude. People like you are the reason they do that in the first place, so they get the chance to actually meet the person and show their personality, because most of the times they wouldn't even get the chance.
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You can't force a person to be attracted to someone overweight or any other kind of size or shape that they don't find appealing. If a guy lies about being in some fancy job, or having a heap of money, or having a huge dick and gets a date from it he'd be seen as a lying douche bag and a loser. It's a deceptive way of getting a date and hoping they'll be guilt tripped or tricked into more. Using the reason of "Well you forced me into lying because you wouldn't be interested otherwise" is never an excuse.
 
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Aiii

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Koriandrr said:
And here I thought you only meant that you're disappointed that they would lie to you about their appearance. I can understand being pissy about someone having photos that really don't represent who they are in person, but completely ignoring a girl because she's fat is plain rude. People like you are the reason they do that in the first place, so they get the chance to actually meet the person and show their personality, because most of the times they wouldn't even get the chance.
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While good and well, I disagree that not being attracted to fat people is "rude." And I say this as someone that was fat for all of his adult life until recently. I never once considered anyone rude for not liking me because I was obese.

Because it's simply not, it's attraction. Now, can you eventually fall in love with someone that is fat through their personality? Certainly, if it's someone you've got to know over time. But not in the span of one date, when attraction and initial shallow introductions is the deciding factor.

There are people that are attracted to fat people, being dishonest about your appearance (and this goes not just for fat people, but for anyone that purposely hides less attractive, but highly noticeable physical trades) is never going to pay off when dating. It might get you more dates, but it's very unlikely to get you more actual relationships.
 
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dity

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SuperBanana said:
You can't force a person to be attractive to someone overweight or any other kind of size or shape that they don't find appealing. If a guy lies about being in some fancy job, or having a heap of money, or having a huge dick and gets a date from it he'd be seen as a lying douche bag and a loser. It's a deceptive way of getting a date and hoping they'll be guilt tripped or tricked into more.
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The is a lot to take away from from someone simply taking a nice picture of their body.
 
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Busty

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Hang tough OP, the first round of divorces will kick in soon and then you'll be swimming in tail and, unlike them, you won't have the crippling millstone of a divorce round your neck.

I speak from experience.
 
Chuckie

Chuckie

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Anyway, to answer your question OP.... no.. nobody is single anymore. The whole world paired up, but it was an odd number and you got left out :(

Sorry man.
 
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SuperBanana

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dity said:
The is a lot to take away from from someone simply taking a nice picture of their body.
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It's not a "nice picture of their body". Some people use photos that are done to look deceptive or even use old photos. I once met a girl who was at least 50-60lbs heavier in person than any of her photos on okcupid and those included body photos. I don't like the feeling of instantly being lied to or tricked before even meeting. It kills any connection immediately. If you're overweight then take some nice pictures but be honest about yourself. Bigger people can still look very pretty. This coming from someone who used to be 100lbs heavier himself.
 
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Greddleok

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Koriandrr said:
, but completely ignoring a girl because she's fat is plain rude.
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Not being attracted to someone because they're fat isn't rude. I'm not attracted to men, goats or people without faces either. It's preference. I'm not judging them for being fat. I don't care what life choices they make, but I'm not attracted to them.

dity said:
Oh, so there are single girls.
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Not that I've met in the wild. I've had to actually go to a dating site to find them. You don't need to take my title so literally...

Servbot24 said:
I'm assuming you have 0 attraction to most of your friends though right?
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Actually I'm attracted to all my female friends.
 
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Mully

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I don't know what I am right now. I'm in the early stages of seeing someone, but I know it won't work out because of who I am, even though I truly love them and want to be loved. It also doesn't help my ex came into the bar tonight and I couldn't stop thinking about her.

I know I should be single right now and my lifestyle proves that, but I deserve to be loved; whether I believe that statement or not, and this girl I'm with at the moment, loves me. I should be completely sold on her, yet I'm still held back by my love of my ex (been an ex for nearly 4 years) and my deep belief that I don't deserve love.

Odd and introspective situation. Honesty is always the best answer.
 
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Fliesen

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Greddleok said:
Not being attracted to someone because they're fat isn't rude. I'm not attracted to men, goats or people without faces either. It's preference. I'm not judging them for being fat. I don't care what life choices they make, but I'm not attracted to them.
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well, let's not throw homosexuality, beastiality and superficiality into the same bucket, shall we :/
 
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True Savior

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There's a lot of single people , but they definitely hide themselves a lot. I suppose its because of that. Lesser social activities or something I would say the big majority of women I am interested tend to always be compromised. Which is a damn shame.
 
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dity

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SuperBanana said:
It's not a "nice picture of their body". Some people use photos that are done to look deceptive or even use old photos. I once met a girl who was at least 50-60lbs heavier in person than any of her photos on okcupid and those included body photos. I don't like the feeling of instantly being lied to or tricked before even meeting. It kills any connection immediately. If you're overweight then take some nice pictures but be honest about yourself. Bigger people can still look very pretty. This coming from someone who used to be 100lbs heavier himself.
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Has it maybe occured to you that they might have just chosen those older photos or taken that pose simply because they thought they looked pretty?

You sound super paranoid.
 
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Koriandrr

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Aiii said:
While good and well, I disagree that not being attracted to fat people is "rude." And I say this as someone that was fat for all of his adult life until recently. I never once considered anyone rude for not liking me because I was obese.

Because it's simply not, it's attraction. Now, can you eventually fall in love with someone that is fat through their personality? Certainly, if it's someone you've got to know over time. But not in the span of one date, when attraction and initial shallow introductions is the deciding factor.

There are people that are attracted to fat people, being dishonest about your appearance (and this goes not just for fat people, but for anyone that purposely hides less attractive, but highly noticeable physical trades) is never going to pay off when dating. It might get you more dates, but it's very unlikely to get you more actual relationships.
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That is the point I was trying to make. I do agree with everything you said.

What I just wanted to say is that it's ignorant to not even give them a chance. There is no excuse for 'false advertising' and they shouldn't do it, but also I disagree with OP's statement to 'walk away' when he sees they're fat. Give them a chance, you don't know what'll happen, you might click well together and at the end of the day your view of a person as a whole really changes the way you see them, sexually as well.
 
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KevinCow

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This has also been my experience. I only really interact with people at school, but every single girl I've talked to there has already been in a relationship.
 
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Fliesen

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Koriandrr said:
That is the point I was trying to make. I do agree with everything you said.

What I just wanted to say is that it's ignorant to not even give them a chance. There is no excuse for 'false advertising' and they shouldn't do it, but also I disagree with OP's statement to 'walk away' when he sees they're fat. Give them a chance, you don't know what'll happen, you might click well together and at the end of the day your view of a person as a whole really changes the way you see them, sexually as well.
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i'll let OP in on a secret, btw: People's weights can change.
So that hot chick you started dating might just gain some serious pounds, while your soulmate, currently 30 pounds too heavy for your liking (because she possibly went through some stressful years in her personal life or career) might eventually drop that extra weight.

Of course, your loss, not theirs.
 
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SuperBanana

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dity said:
Has it maybe occured to you that they might have just chosen those older photos or taken that pose simply because they thought they looked pretty?

You sound super paranoid.
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It's pretty much online dating 101 that you use current photos or even take new ones just for the profile. If you look radically different to photos then you update them. You're just making excuses for people lying. If someone takes some photos in front of huge pools, mansions, and expensive sports cars and comes off looking like he lives a life of luxury but actually works a minimum wage job would that be totally fine? "Oh no, that's not my car, I just thought it was pretty".

There's making the truth look more attractive and promoting your best qualities(eg: Getting a nice haircut and wearing a suit for a photo) and then there's just being deceptive(posing in a Ferrari and acting like it's your own).
 
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w3bba

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coworker (female, 24) has the same problem, even though she is quite the looker and a nice person to have around (at least at work)

inb4 op wants her phone number, i dont have it :p
 
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