Advocatus Diaboli
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There are unwritten rules to dating. They take a while to learn. What happened was neither surprising nor strange.
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There are unwritten rules to dating. They take a while to learn. What happened was neither surprising nor strange.
Gotdatmoney
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People can be turned off by something like that when you have barely exchanged pleasantries yes. The message is try and stay away from saying things that can be misinterpreted.
If you disagree that is fine of course. But yes, I genuinely think that waa your major mistep. Is it dumb? Yes. Does it mean it shouldn't be pointed out for future reference? No.
Gotdatmoney
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I dont think you have ill will towards women lol. That's not what I am getting at. My point is that most people are common. Most people lead a life of normal activities. It's flawed to draw inference from it. There is a normality in profiles because normal is derived from the sample.
In Tinder all you are looking for is matches to people you are attracted to and have no red flags. That is literally it. No one profile being morw unique matters than the others because unless they give you a swipe their creativity is not helping your chances. We encourage more inique profiles to stand out. Not to attract specific types but because people are fluid and profiles dont tell the whole story.
Make sense? I don't relate to "I love my dog more than you" or "pizza enthisiast" I dont care. But I also know that shitty tinder bios say nothing about people. Relating to a bio doesnt mean much either.
Make a tinder profile with a good bio and the best, most interesting pics of yourself you can find and see how many matches you get. Now replace the pics with these basement selfies of this GL slayer:
and change the bio into something super generic, just enough for her to not think you're a bot. Compare and contrast the results and you will have your answer.
You can also try using Lachoswki or Barret but it would be hard to make it look legit.
Advocatus Diaboli
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Well, that (kinda surprisingly but not really) didn't work out. Oh well. Deleted contact; moving on.
At least you had a great night out! I'll take that over the chase of dating any day.
Royal_Flush
Member
Sorry to interrupt your Tinder discussion, but I'm a bit at loss here: Iranian girl, liberal Muslim, came here (Germany) for her Masters, in a LDR with her boyfriend in Iran, will stay at least another 2-3 years. We hit off really well, but I'm getting mixed signals leaning towards "just friends" (like 80:20).
a) Should I even bother?
b) How big of a douche move would it be?
c) How do you even ask a girl you know is in a relationship out without sounding like a complete asshole?
d) What does it say about me that I'm even asking those questions? (You don't have to answer that one...)
a) Should I even bother?
b) How big of a douche move would it be?
c) How do you even ask a girl you know is in a relationship out without sounding like a complete asshole?
d) What does it say about me that I'm even asking those questions? (You don't have to answer that one...)
jimmypython
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You can have all the thoughts you'd like. Just make sure don't act on them until she's single.
Messofanego
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But you haven't gotten any signals she's actually into you, right? A sign that can't be confused as just being friends?
Also, someone in a relationship is too much work, unless if she's looking to break up. Best to find someone who's actually available, no? Just stay friends with this girl.
Dude, we get it, you think you're ugly. If you're not going to make an effort to spice up the physical package (hair, clothes, gym - which makes a huge difference), then make up for it with other redeeming qualities. If you can't think of any redeeming qualities that women would find attractive, then you have a lot of work to do beyond the physical aspect. No girl is going to fall in love with the 'woe is me, life is pain' routine.
And trying to convince others of your viewpoint is just incredibly toxic.
LookAtMeGo
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like why are you wasting your time?
Skipping to (C), you don't. Boyfriend is a nonstarter, always.
Your only move is to wait for her to make the move. If she is really into you, she will act on it. Otherwise stay classy. Oh and I wouldn't invest to much time if I were you. There is plenty of singles.
I'm kind of confused by its awkward comma/bullet-point list of qualities, most of the stuff I've seen people write is awkwardly formatted and phrased because of it.
Yep this too, mine included. Then I read someone who wrote a coherent paragraph and I felt bad.
Royal_Flush
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Thanks for the quick replies everyone. It's what I expected to hear but not what I hoped for, tbqh. Anyway, it is how it is. I won't start pursuing that seriously then.
I only use two colognes for different occasions; Guest for Men and Bvlgari for Men that I got as a gift from my older brother. I've found that wearing cologne makes no difference on dates unless in super close proximity or making out but even then I've never received a compliment for it. I think wearing cologne is less important than society makes it out to be considering that it's a multi-billion dollar industry. If anything, wearing clean smelling clothes with deodorant (optional) and using a shampoo/conditioner that smells solid works wonders.
It's a "curated" match system based on their own algorithm and your parameters. I get matched with 21 bagels a day but the ones that look more interesting are the ones that you have to use beans to unlock and like them. Even then, they have to like you back to initiate a conversation.
CMB is mired in microtransactions much like other free dating apps. I've gotten matched up with girls that I'm not interested in and don't end up messaging them but I've also been in cases where girls left the conversation, effectively unmatching me. I've yet to really hit it off with someone that I've met through there save one time way back in November.
Juke Joint Jezebel
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I barely ever use perfume myself. Most of it is grossly overpriced so I wouldn't want to fund the industry. So I just use nice scented bodywashes and deodrants. On the rare occasion I do use perfume though I use a "smell-a-like" cheap perfume called "Next Gold":
Only costs about £8 and it usually lasts a couple of years because of how little I use it. Better than paying in excess of £33 for the "top brand" equivalent, Yves St. Laurent's "Cinema". It smells exactly just like that. An easy christmas/birthday gift for me .
Gotdatmoney
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Naw I got an easier suggestion. Side note, you still aint winning the pity game brotha.
You put in work im your profile to make yourself stand out. So yeah it matters, you gotta put forth the best you. But all the profile is for is getting swipes. It's not a psych evaluation. Try to be interesting, best looking and cool pics of you and then ots basically just a numbers game.
ZackieChan
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While you were having birthday parties with numbered balloons, I studied the blade.
While you were seeking adventure, I mastered the block chain.
While you took duckface selfies, I cultivated inner strength.
And now that the dating world is on fire and the fuckbois are at the gate, you have the audacity to swipe right on me?
While you were seeking adventure, I mastered the block chain.
While you took duckface selfies, I cultivated inner strength.
And now that the dating world is on fire and the fuckbois are at the gate, you have the audacity to swipe right on me?
Went to Toronto for the day with a few friends today. t was a nice since on several occasions girls smiled at me and one came up and started talking to me and asked for my number. I don't know if I'll actually talk to her since I live a distance. But it's just nice since where I am from it's not as easy to meet people or at least for me.
Advocatus Diaboli
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It was! And I literally didn't feel a single second of resentment. Why let shit like that bother you? All the time wasted worrying about why someone wasn't interested or ghosted you, when there could be literally a million and one reasons, none of which actually matter, could be spent more productively.
Meanwhile, I just got back from another date.
Aside from her being a fucking Patriots fan, it was fantastic. She bought me drinks, we got ice cream, and we just went for a walk.
Subpar Scrub
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Every girl I've known who posts stuff like this is either a massive jerk or a psycho.
Depends on the dog breed.
I just want a cat people only Tinder
My man.
This; although it's really more about my dislike of dogs than my liking cats.
LookAtMeGo
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I dated a girl off Tinder a while back and had fun for a few months. She posted a picture of her and her hairless cat and I told her that her cat looks like a ball sack.
Juke Joint Jezebel
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War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
In my experience okcupid is a bad site. It tends to attract people who spend too much time online and in communities like tumblr. Not to say they are bad people - they usually are at worst ineffectual and inoffensive - but I find it is a very different crowd to most other dating sites and apps.
Case in point, there are too many people identifying themselves as sapiosexuals because they want the respect and positive attention that lgbt people get in certain communities but without any of the unfortunate social disadvantages.
Meh. I find OKC is more my crowd than Tinder or Bumble. These messages are usually sent to girls that are older than me so there's an extra "i don't give a fuck" vibe to them.
Yep that's the right mentality to have. Patriots fan is a tough pill to swallow but I'm sure with proper treatment she'll be okay.
I wouldn't mind this. I saw someone's profile today on Tinder that just said "dogs".
Alright. For the record I like all animals but I dislike dog obsessed people.
Subpar Scrub
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If tinder had a cat/dog person filter it'd be great. Girls that own/like staffys, boxers and dogs like that are awesome.
Lmao
Could have been someone unmatching you. Could also have been a bot account that was deleted.
I dunno, I kind of like OkCupid because so far I've found it has the least garbage UI of any dating app I've used except for Bumble, at least tries to get you to genuinely talk about yourself and answer legit questions to judge compatibility, and doesn't seem to be filled with bots and spamming you with useless crap.
Maybe the crowd is different, I dunno, but in theory I like it way better than Tinder and it's miles better than trash fires like POF.
Like if you could point me to another quality dating app that puts at least some emphasis on bios, I'd be interested.
Gotdatmoney
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always crazy bacon
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You're scared of relationship failure and seek guarantees that years down the line the relationship will still work. Even though you've had that answer many times. Anyway have you split up with her yet?
always crazy bacon
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How many women won't match with him because he's too hot?
always crazy bacon
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Just more redpill bullshit. Manlett, maxslook ect..
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Wait, what? Are you honestly insinuating that women on a dating site will strike up conversations with men they find physically attractive? That's ludicrous!
Honestly, I don't even know what you're trying to say or prove anymore.
Starlightmuse
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Fuck off, man, you really tire me. You can't get a girl and it's obvious why, and it has nothing to do with your look.
I think It's manga
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