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You are not ugly !!!
Escape Goat
Member
Maybe hes Hollywood ugly where all he needs to do is take off his glasses to become hot. Just ask Kathy Ireland.
Im so ugly and unattractive.
Oh wait Im hot now.
Good looks is not everything, im a little handsome today, but i was ugly in the past when i was a teenager, I though that Now im better looking things would change, thats not true. Im not a cool, sociable human being, people usualy avoid me after knowing me and they are right to do so.
So your personality and mind is what matters in the end not your appearance, they can have a bad First impression of you, but If you have confidance and is a cool Guy, or is charismatic you are awesome and thats what matters than good looks.
Also wardrobe and gym, can improve your appearance, but as i Said mind and personality is more important.
So your personality and mind is what matters in the end not your appearance, they can have a bad First impression of you, but If you have confidance and is a cool Guy, or is charismatic you are awesome and thats what matters than good looks.
Also wardrobe and gym, can improve your appearance, but as i Said mind and personality is more important.
Maybe hes Hollywood ugly where all he needs to do is take off his glasses to become hot. Just ask Kathy Ireland.
Im so ugly and unattractive.
Oh wait Im hot now.
I hate my glasses and feel like that lol.
There is honestly no such thing as ugly. I know people say that and don't really mean it sometimes, but it's true. Normative beauty standards are a construct of colonialism and capitalism, we're taught to hate ourselves and spend money.
Love yourself as deeply as you can, and then take it even further. Keep fostering self-love until you die. The more you do, the more you'll open yourself up to the world, and the more people will love you regardless of what you look like.
Also, play around with fashion more. Try different styles that maybe you don't think you can pull off, and see if you feel better in them.
Love yourself as deeply as you can, and then take it even further. Keep fostering self-love until you die. The more you do, the more you'll open yourself up to the world, and the more people will love you regardless of what you look like.
Also, play around with fashion more. Try different styles that maybe you don't think you can pull off, and see if you feel better in them.
ghostofsparta
Member
Join the club! Admission is free
I have a cleft lip and it fucking sucks. So ugly. Trans dysphoria makes things even worse
Maybe hes Hollywood ugly where all he needs to do is take off his glasses to become hot. Just ask Kathy Ireland.
Im so ugly and unattractive.
Oh wait Im hot now.
That'll make your shamrock shake.
ghostofsparta
Member
Do not take accutane. Seriously don't.
Messofanego
Banned
What sucks about the cleft lip?
Are you actually claiming that society-wide beauty standards did not exist before these two things
Holy fucking shit
pixelation
Member
It's absolutely true. Having a good attitude wont make you not ugly, but it will absolutely make you more attractive.
If Steve Buscemi was a guy who behaved as ugly as he looks, then he would just be plain ugly, and might not have ever become such a good movie star.
Steve isn't even really ugly anyway. When he wanted to look clean, he cleaned up damn nice.
But most of the recent roles i can remember him in all involve him typecasted into an "ugly" character.
Night.Ninja
Banned
I'm lucky I'm classed as attractive, I don't even like looking in the mirror
Always-honest
Banned
We're all ugly to someone.
But yeah. Hit the gym. Healthy and good for your self image. Trust me.
But yeah. Hit the gym. Healthy and good for your self image. Trust me.
I'm ugly, but it doesn't matter. I know this is a really generic, bland, and empty statement, but how you look really doesn't matter unless you're shallow IMO. Unfortunately most of society is to a large degree (and yes, I honestly think I'm above that), but we all need to work to overcome that. I don't really know how to make this point in a way that doesn't sound super pretentious and misanthropic though.
Basically my advice though is to stop caring about how you look and what others think of you and just do the things you enjoy.
Basically my advice though is to stop caring about how you look and what others think of you and just do the things you enjoy.
Maybe I can help you feel a little better about your lip. This is JanJaap van der Wal, he's a famous comedian here in the Netherlands, and he was born with a cleft lip (although I believe he had some surgery to minimize it, not 100% sure):
He's one of our most popular comedians: regular sold out standup shows, multiple tv shows (documentaries) he hosts, for years he was one of the regulars on the Dutch version of Have I Got News For You, and he hosted the Dutch version of the Daily Show. In other words, he's incredibly popular and well-liked, and absolutely nobody cares about his lip. People genuinely like looking at his work, and his work means thousands of people staring at him on stage and on the screen. He didn't let it hold him back, even though he talked about being bullied for it when he was a kid. He overcame that childhood trauma and achieved a lot of success. And, not that this is the most important thing, but he's now married to a very attractive Dutch actress and has a kid with her.
Just one example of someone with the same condition, leading a happy and succesful life, while being adored by a huge number of people who genuinely enjoy watching him.
Everyone has their thing, and even though you may not be what you yourself may consider traditionally attractive, that's no reason to hold yourself back from leading a happy and fullfilling life. Everyone deserves that. You do too.
MaximumSpider
Banned
Im ugly too but lately come to realize that my only enemy is myself which Im trying to fix
G-Bus
Banned
Been the same way as you OP since I hit highschool. I have days where I think I look pretty good and than days where im suprised the mirror didn't crack.
Getting in shape will help your own self esteem immensely. Learning not to give a fuck is another trick.
I still have problems today even though I'm married and what not. Always hated my face. Not worth giving up though.
Getting in shape will help your own self esteem immensely. Learning not to give a fuck is another trick.
I still have problems today even though I'm married and what not. Always hated my face. Not worth giving up though.
It's clearly visible. I've gotten shit for it my whole life. My nose is weirdly shaped as a result too. Yeah, I'm getting surgery for it soon but the thing is people will still be able to tell I have it even after that. I hate it so fucking much
Thanks.
Did you see my response to you above? I hope it'll give you some peace of mind. The older you get, the less something like that will matter.
Edit: didn't see your edit, it appears you did. Good luck man, it'll work out. Stay strong.
Yeah, sorry, I did. It looks like that guy got surgery to stitch his lip together as a baby, but hasn't had a nose job or lip surgery after that. I plan to get both very soon. I find having long hair and wearing glasses helps distract people from it.
stn
Member
1. Exercise and get in good shape. Good for aesthetics and good for burning mental and physical energy.
2. Make sure you wear clothing that fits you properly and suits your age.
3. Groom yourself, get a haircut that fits your face and head shape.
These three things will make you instantly more attractive. Is it easy? Hell no. If you don't do it, though, you'll just keep hating yourself with no end.
2. Make sure you wear clothing that fits you properly and suits your age.
3. Groom yourself, get a haircut that fits your face and head shape.
These three things will make you instantly more attractive. Is it easy? Hell no. If you don't do it, though, you'll just keep hating yourself with no end.
Battle Litany
Banned
I've suffered from terrible body dysphoria and eating disorders most of my life. It's not fun. I hate looking in the mirror. If it weren't for shaving and straightening my hair I never would. Photos are even worse, I think there's probably less than 20 pictures of me from the past 5 years.
I'd like cosmetic surgery as well (forehead reconstruction, rhinoplasty, & genioplasty are the procedures I've looked into) but I'm terrified of complications. Unfortunately the two things I hate most (size of my head and midface length) cant be fixed anyways.
I'd like cosmetic surgery as well (forehead reconstruction, rhinoplasty, & genioplasty are the procedures I've looked into) but I'm terrified of complications. Unfortunately the two things I hate most (size of my head and midface length) cant be fixed anyways.
Messofanego
Banned
Maybe I can help you feel a little better about your lip. This is JanJaap van der Wal, he's a famous comedian here in the Netherlands, and he was born with a cleft lip (although I believe he had some surgery to minimize it, not 100% sure):
He's one of our most popular comedians: regular sold out standup shows, multiple tv shows (documentaries) he hosts, for years he was one of the regulars on the Dutch version of Have I Got News For You, and he hosted the Dutch version of the Daily Show. In other words, he's incredibly popular and well-liked, and absolutely nobody cares about his lip. People genuinely like looking at his work, and his work means thousands of people staring at him on stage and on the screen. He didn't let it hold him back, even though he talked about being bullied for it when he was a kid. He overcame that childhood trauma and achieved a lot of success. And, not that this is the most important thing, but he's now married to a very attractive Dutch actress and has a kid with her.
Just one example of someone with the same condition, leading a happy and succesful life, while being adored by a huge number of people who genuinely enjoy watching him.
Everyone has their thing, and even though you may not be what you yourself may consider traditionally attractive, that's no reason to hold yourself back from leading a happy and fullfilling life. Everyone deserves that. You do too.
For cleft lip, there's also Joaquin Phoenix and Tom Burke.
CrazyHorse
Junior Member
In my eyes I am very beautiful. I don't care what others think.
All of you should feel the same.
All of you should feel the same.
I feel you, OP.
Nuts to that. Put the glasses and big T-shirt back on. <3
Maybe he's Hollywood ugly where all he needs to do is take off his glasses to become hot. Just ask Kathy Ireland.
”I'm so ugly and unattractive."
”Oh wait I'm hot now."
Nuts to that. Put the glasses and big T-shirt back on. <3
HarryKS
Member
Come on now son.
curiouscharles
Member
fuck OP, i feel for you man.
i doubt you're actually ugly, but i know what it's like for your own face to not meet your own beauty standards... i struggle with this too.
i doubt you're actually ugly, but i know what it's like for your own face to not meet your own beauty standards... i struggle with this too.
I personally think, like I said before, that the percentage of truly ugly people is so low it almost doesn't register. And the people in that camp are those that are unfortunately disfigured in some way.
Most people who call themselves ugly are likely average folk who no one else on the street would look at and think "Damn that person is ugly."
Wag
Member
No doubt. I used to feel really shitty about myself. It took a lot of hard work, therapy and self reflection for my attitude to change.
Of course a supportive family/living environment helps, and we all can't be lucky enough to have that.
It's possible the OP has body dismorphia of some sort. Probably why he/she should seek out the advice of a professional.
it's the only thing that helps
True Savior
Member
Most people are ugly or at least have what are considered ugly features. We are also extremely judgemental over our own physical features. If your goal is to date a gorgeous person, yeah probably your chances might be low. Life is clearly (natural) biased over similar pairings but physical ugliness is rarely a determent of a happy life. Luckily there's an abundance of great people whom anyone can bond.
Also, we tend to get accustomed to other people's features, which makes any kind of ugliness to become less and less apparent.
If you created this thread this is obviously an important issue. I can't advice you to simply accept it and move on (it's easier said than done) but don't create a fictitious reality in which your features always create a negative reaction and they define you.
Also, we tend to get accustomed to other people's features, which makes any kind of ugliness to become less and less apparent.
If you created this thread this is obviously an important issue. I can't advice you to simply accept it and move on (it's easier said than done) but don't create a fictitious reality in which your features always create a negative reaction and they define you.
ghostofsparta
Member
It works real good at fucking you up. I guarantee you will regret it
Edit: Okay, not quite. I'm saying current pervasive global standards of beauty are rooted in colonialism and capitalism, not that all standards of beauty ever are.
Dee Dah Dave
Member
Sneak up on the mirror.
You are probably a 5 or 6 like most people, don't be so hard on yourself
And also remember that those images of movie stars and models are taken under perfect lighting conditions, at perfect angles and with makeup.
This is me as well. Recently Id thought I put the worst of it behind me until I went to the doctor and rando weighed and was shocked to learn that I was not the 185-190 I thought but in big jeans, pockets with a knife set, screwdriver, pill bottle, phone, work boots, and hair soaking wet I was like 168. As a 6'2" tall dude that's kind of scary, but not super bad yet. I've been trying to keep myself straight by forcing down a few bags of candy here and there, but I have a feeling the psychological side of things are probably here for the long term.
Having abs and being below average is a lot better than being fat and being below average
Confidence is the most beautiful thing about some people.
Nose Master
Member
Have you tried taking off your glasses and paint covered overalls
Then again, a lot of fat below-average people have found success romantically because they just don't give a shit. They're like, OK, I'm fat and not handsome, got it. Why does that mean life has to suck? I can still have friends. I can still be nice to people without expecting favors. I can stop caring what people think about me, ignore the media fostering romantic entitlement within me, and enjoy being alive.
Losing weight, doing a nice skincare routine, buying well fitting clothes, and getting a nice haircut can get you a really long way. People making sappy speeches about how everyone is beautiful isn't going to help you change the way you feel about your face/body, so try something that will actually get physical results. Just ask us if you are interested in any of these things, we can help you out.