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Man fed up with nagging wife hides in forest for 10 years

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11933358

A gardener got so fed up with his wife's nagging he ran away from home and lived in the woods for ten years.

Malcolm Applegate, 62, was married to his wife for three years before upping sticks after the relationship reached breaking point.

He then made his way from Birmingham, where they lived, to London - making half the three-week journey on foot after his bike was stolen, the MailOnline reported.

Malcolm said: "I was married to her for three years, but unfortunately it got too much.

"First of all I met her in Eastbourne and I married her in Birmingham.

"For three years it was alright, we got on with one another and the gardening got too much for her.

"She said, 'Why don't we have more time together?' I said, 'How can I? I have been recommended to people'.

"I just upped and left, I got fed up with her because we used to get so many arguments.
'It took me three weeks to get back to London.

"I didn't lock my bike up in Oxford and someone helped themselves to it, so I had to walk back from Oxford."

He secretly left his family home when increased working hours angered his wife, but the gardener has now told how he emerged from hiding.

After leaving, Malcolm camped in "thick woodland" near Kingston, south west London, while working on gardens at a community centre for the elderly.

He said: "There were three of us camping.

"They were just camping around with me because at the time I was working in the centre and we used to go there for a wash and a shower.

"No one knew we were there. It's not well known - nobody would go in there."

Malcolm had also lost contact with his sister during the ten years he spent sleeping rough - and she feared he was dead before they were reunited when he found a new home.

He said: "It had been a decade years since I'd last seen her, and in that time she had been to all of the Salvation Army hostels in the south trying to find me.

"I think she assumed I was dead.

"I wrote her a letter once I was settled in Greenwich and she phoned me up, in floods of tears.

"We now have a great relationship again."

Malcolm has moved into the Emmaus Greenwich centre, a shelter for the homeless in Greenwich, south London.

He said: "Before becoming a companion at Emmaus Greenwich, I was a gardener in Farnborough for 25 happy years.

"I loved the job and I still love tending to gardens now.

"It wasn't until I got married that my life became increasingly unsettled.

"The more work I took on, the angrier my wife got - she didn't like me being out of the house for long periods of time.

"The controlling behaviour started to get out of hand and she demanded that I cut my hours.

"After a long time trying to stay in the marriage, I decided to leave for good.

"Without a word to anyone, not even family, I packed up and left.

"I went missing from them for ten years."

Malcolm now works at Emmaus doing a range of odd jobs and uses his spare time to raise cash for homeless charities in the area.

He added: "My day-to-day involves working in the shop or driving the vans, I'm not fussy what jobs are given to me as long as I'm working.

"In my spare time, I enjoy doing sponsored walks for other homeless charities.

"My recent walk through London raised almost £300 for Street Souls, not bad for a man in his sixties.

"I'd like the people who donate to Emmaus to know that I am grateful for being given a second chance at life.

"I have a lovely room, I am able to work and I can still lead an active social life - I love it here - my life is officially back on track."

Hell of a drastic lifestyle change over a failed marriage. Why not just get a divorce?
 

shaneo632

Member
Doesn't sound like a stable human being. Incredibly dickish not to let your family know you're OK for a decade. Christ.
 

grandjedi6

Master of the Google Search
The original source is Daily Mail and they didn't even bother to look into the wife so I'm calling bullshit.
 

Jencks

Banned
This is simultaneously horrible for the wife yet hilarious that this dude just chilled in the woods for 10 years. People are strange creatures.
 

zeemumu

Member
This feels like a Simpsons episode

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It's actually the premise for a book
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TS-08

Member
So she wanted him to work less to spend more time with her, he acted like that wasn’t possible, but eventually his solution was just to disappear entirely.

Yeah I definitely think there’s a lot more to it than that.
 

Mr-Joker

Banned
I feel that folks are focusing on the thread title and ignoring this part of the statement;

"The more work I took on, the angrier my wife got - she didn't like me being out of the house for long periods of time.

"The controlling behaviour started to get out of hand and she demanded that I cut my hours.

Sounds like the guy was in abusive relationship due to his wife being a controlling person.
 

AlexMogil

Member
What a well-written article.

It's like a Twitter feed.

Short concise sentences.

There probably should have been paragraphs.
 

Morrigan Stark

Arrogant Smirk
Sounds like the guy was in abusive relationship due to his wife being a controlling person.
That's quite the jump to conclusions. Maybe her demands were reasonable and he just went nuts.

Evidence of him being nuts: he disappeared for a decade without even contacting his sister or other family
Evidence of the wife being abusive: a claim from a nutcase

Anyway, clickbait DailyMail trash that's probably fake so w/e?
 

Pbae

Member
Could be religious reasoning for not getting a divorce, but reading that snippet you provided OP, guys sounds pretty awesome if not a bit flighty.

I'm just imagining this guy being like Bear Grylls but instead of gutting a animal carcass, he prunes some topiary.
 
This is a fantastic story with a great ending. The guy knew things weren't getting better, so he chunked the deuce.

He's a man among men.
 
His sister is a saint. He doesn't deserve her.

Probably need a ton more details to make sense of the marriage though but leaving without any goodbye is a cowardly move.
 

ArjanN

Member
That's quite the jump to conclusions. Maybe her demands were reasonable and he just went nuts.

Evidence of him being nuts: he disappeared for a decade without even contacting his sister or other family
Evidence of the wife being abusive: a claim from a nutcase

Anyway, clickbait DailyMail trash that's probably fake so w/e?

Pretty much.
 

shandy706

Member
Sounds like he married my ex. I have fixed hours 8-6, 4 days a week then a 4 hour Friday....she'd still nag about me not being home constantly.

I had a career and paid every single bill (and she had no job)...don't have to hear her fussing anymore thankfully.

Should have considered the woods nearby apparently, lol.
 
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