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[PSqueak]

this is like going on gaf and making the thread 'is donald trump bad?'

like you know what the answer is gonna be here

I mean, i think the OP's question is not about the act itself but more about how acceptable in society has become, because let's be honest, despite de progress western society is still incredibly ass backwards regarding gender. Just because other countries or places might have it worse, doesn't mean we're quite yet at the right spot.

Should men being allowed to be pretty without society giving them backlash? absolutely.

Is society at that point yet? Sadly, no.

 

[Earthbound64]

Outside of having facial hair, or exposing your bare chest, I can't really think of anything a women isn't "allowed" to wear.

A shirt revealing unshaven armpits or hairy arms, or pants/shorts/dress revealing unshaven legs?

 

[Ovid]

Oh come on...you know what I'm talking about.

 

[brawly]

Kpop. They don't wear dresses but they're about as close to it as you can get.

 

[Phoenix RISING]

Beware of dress code violations at work, OP.

 

[gutshot]

Flowmoney thread? Flowmoney thread.

 

[Fliesen]

if women want to bang you while wearing a dress, then i don't see why not

problem is women don't want to bang a man wearing a dress

there are plenty of women who will bang feminine guys though, up to a certain threshold

* Not everything in life revolves about sex.
* Also, homosexuality exists.
* Also, there's all kinds of people with all kinds of preferences - there's certainly women who enjoy a man in a dress.

 

[Incitemaybe]

I think your question is.... Not the best question.

Allowed? You can and forever do you.

Does the culture you find yourself in create and adhere to arbitrary thinking that forces a confrontation when "doing you"?

In too many places, yes.


For instance, holding hands with my husband still elicits looks at best and at worst, things I don't want to think about. Are we "allowed" to hold hands? I would never give a shit and fight whomever had a thought to enforce a ridiculous idea.

Most of the time it's just easier to not hold hands or show affection since doing so create an atmosphere where I have always had to be on guard. Wearing whatever you want, exibiting your femininity as a man, comes at every moment in this society with the need to defend yourself in some form.


Be strong and work on accepting yourself so those battles become easier and a source of strength for others.

 

[pje122]

Nope.

 

[dralla]

I've been called pretty before and those same people seem to think I was gay (I'm not). Thank you, societal norms.

Dress/Act however you like

 

[DiipuSurotu]

 

[Demoskinos]

You're allowed to be whoever you feel like. Even if you still identify as a cis straight man things like fashion and how you present yourself are still part of your identity. The rigidity of how most of society defines masculinity and what it means to "be a man" I've always found shitty and never bought into that shit ever.

Be you. Fuck everyone else.

 

[Spaced Harrier]

You can do whatever you want.



Some things are going to be swimming upstream, look piss poor etc but you can still do it if you want.

A better choice for most is to accentuate what you have, play to strengths, but you do you.

Wear a dress if you want. Will you be pretty? Probably not. So what.

 

[mantidor]

In Japan they are

Unfortunately it will be met with backlash in some places, but thats life, unless is not life threatening you do you.

 

[rokkerkory]

Are men allowed to look good? Of course... mens fashion and beauty industry is on fire.

 

[Kurita]

Kpop. They don't wear dresses but they're about as close to it as you can get.

It's a question of cultural standards though.
K-Pop dudes are seen as cool and handsome in Korea, not "pretty"/"feminine" like they would somewhere else.
Like, you'd show them to a random Joe in the US and I wouldn't be surprised he'd assume they're gay.

 

[Van Bur3n]

I feel pretty.

 

[AlexMeloche]

if women want to bang you while wearing a dress, then i don't see why not

problem is women don't want to bang a man wearing a dress

there are plenty of women who will bang feminine guys though, up to a certain threshold

Anything a guy do is to fuck women.

Obviously.

 

[Earthbound64]

I feel pretty.

And witty?

 

[data]

I can't be pretty if I don't wear a dress?

 

[Earthbound64]

I can't be pretty if I don't wear a dress?

Yeah, OP is all sorts of strange assumptions.

 

[Bronx-Man]

Niggas out here looking beautiful as shit

Y’all out here conforming to outdated gender standards in 2017? COULDN’T be me

 

[Flowmoney]

I can't be pretty if I don't wear a dress?

I never meant to say it was required to be.

 

[sixteen-bit]

Sure, why not?

 

[Earthbound64]

Niggas out here looking beautiful as shit

How do you know the person is beautiful if you essentially can't even see them?

That is, how would that look substantially different on a woman, or a mannequin?

I can't be pretty if I don't wear a dress?

I never meant to say it was required to be.

I mean, the opening line of your OP defines it that way...

By "pretty" I mean like be feminine , wear dresses etc?

 

[Bronx-Man]

How do you know the person is beautiful if you essentially can't even see them?

That is, how would that look substantially different on a woman, or a mannequin?

An outfit itself can be beautiful, silly goose

 

[Mesoian]

By "pretty" I mean like be feminine , wear dresses etc? I mean speaking as they still identify as a guy and their orientation has no baring on anything.

I made like thread about gender/sex but it stood out to me that some had reservations when it came to doing certain things.

Is there something inherently wrong with doing as you please? Or would it come with a lot of backlash?

Yup.

There'll be backlash but yeah, you're totally allowed to. I've hung out with dudes who were deep in to goth loli fashion, catsuits, etc...you'll always get looks, maybe one belligerent dude who wants to mix it up (especially now), but yeah man, you can do whatever you want.

 

[Earthbound64]

An outfit itself can be beautiful, silly goose

Fair enough.
I guess it's just strange to ask if a man can be pretty, if you can't even see/tell that there's a man under there.

 

[Pizza]

I saw some androgynous men’s dresses that I desperately want, I wear leggings sometimes and I’ll buy a romphim as soon as I can get one for less than $100

Coordinating an outfit and making myself look aesthetically pleasing makes me feel pretty af, even if I’m just nailing a punk aesthetic.

I called my friends hair pretty when he got a haircut that was different than what he’s had for awhile after we talked about haircuts

I have no issues with feeling pretty tbh

 

[TangoAlphaLima]

 

[Aiustis]

if women want to bang you while wearing a dress, then i don't see why not

problem is women don't want to bang a man wearing a dress

there are plenty of women who will bang feminine guys though, up to a certain threshold

It's 2017.

Just like women don't get pretty just for the benefit of men, the reverse is true too.

That said:

I'm fine with both and have a preference for pretty men.

Everyone should be free to do what they want and the world would be a better place if we spent less time being gender police.

Edit: I'm always trying to get my bf to wear make up too.

 

[brawly]

It's a question of cultural standards though.
K-Pop dudes are seen as cool and handsome in Korea, not "pretty"/"feminine" like they would somewhere else.
Like, you'd show them to a random Joe in the US and I wouldn't be surprised he'd assume they're gay.

Well, sure. But I'm assuming OP isn't from there so it would probably fit his description.

 

[ForkNetwork]

Not in Peru

fuck Lima

 

[subrock]

you're damn right we are!

 

[Florist]

Do whatever you want, as long as you don't hurt others doing it.

Words to live by right here.

 

[andythinkpad]

What kind of question is this?

No they aren't, because the pretty police will show up in black helicopters and take them away.

 

[Aaronology]

Uh. Prince?

 

[Kthulhu]

I watch/read JoJo, so yes.

It's a shame society doesn't agree with me. Ideally, people could and should wear whatever they want just about whenever they want.

 

[DiipuSurotu]

Fact: In Saudi Arabia all the men wear dresses.

 

[Gully State]

 

[Snowybreak]

Uh. Prince?

Oh yeah... Prince was very pretty.

 

[Linkark07]

Not in Latin America

fuck Latin America

FTFY

 

[Jeronimo Jones]

I don't know if your most recent threads on gender/identity are going to get you the answers you want unless you just want a general discussion.

If you just want to hear someone to say that it's ok to be yourself, it's ok to be yourself.

Figuring out who you are and what role(s) you prefer is your business, but unfortunately it doesn't guarantee universal agreement or support and there is a decent chance of backlash if one doesn't fit within society's expectations.

 

[Earthbound64]

Not in the Americas

fuck the Americas

FTFY

FTFY

 

[PSqueak]

Not in Peru

fuck Lima

FTFY

True.

That's the second thing after my inherent lack of feminine prettiness (that is, being ugly) preventing me from crossdressing, i'd get assaulted the moment i step out of my home over here.

 

[halfbeast]

I think he's pretty. and he should be allowed to be pretty.

 

[xxracerxx]

I think he's pretty. and he should be allowed to be pretty.

Is that Timedog?

 

[Baron von Loathsome]

 

[abstract alien]

Everything you do in this day and age comes with some backlash from people who don't know or give a shit about you, but want you to live life how they like, so at this point it really doesn't matter. People will still get on the internet and complain away via keyboard.

 

[rudger]

Kinda depends where you live, but why not?

Then again, a woman recently told us our baby was very pretty and said “no offense” since he’s a boy....we were very confused why we would be offended by that.