well, joke's on you -- I've absolutely hit my pets.
Oh yeah, the joke's totally on me. Physical abuse for everyone. Haha. Get it?
In fact I don't know too many people with pets who didn't at some point...? Not sure where this "unanimous" is coming from.
I'm going out on a limb here and say that it is unanimous outside of your circle. Extremely few people feel it is OK to abuse their position of power with their pets.
And, yes, the reason is because with children, you can clearly communicate with them. If they disobey you, it's because they chose to disobey you. Not because they didn't understand, or lacked the capacity to understand, as would be the case with most pets.
Children are not dumb, they're ignorant. I would never condone physical punishment against an entity that doesn't understand why its happening to them. At that point it's cruelty, only at the benefit of the person causing the pain.
..But you just said you hit your pets...
But like you said...that doesn't always happen. Hence:
The difference is that while you feel you are in a position to discern good use from bad, literally all research over more than twenty years show that there are no good benefits from physically punishing children, and that there can only be negative effects. The reason why we have research to understand these things is that we negate the perpetuation of certain practices through culture, and through "I hit my children because my parents hit me, and that seemed to have worked".
We can instead make useful observations on how techniques we employ actually work when you study the effects of it, and all research shows it only has negative effects.
There are plenty of good arguments to spanking your child. You just refuse to accept them. I mean, it's really just that simple.
Really? Cause I've cited a lot more research in this thread than you have. Can you give me one good argument for hitting your children? That doesn't involve "violence is always a part of life"?
i'm willing to agree that never having to cause pain to your child is probably ideal...but not really, because people aren't ideal creatures, and i don't know how useful that statement will ever be.
So the 50 countries around the world that have banned hitting children, they just do it for show? Because no parent are ever good enough not to fucking hurt their child? I mean, if you can't prevent yourself from hurting your children, then I guess that's who you are, but you categorically applying this to everyone else isn't what constitutes a good reason for hitting your children, and it in absolutely no way does it represent how other people are.
You seem to believe that violence is something that should always be avoided, but you refuse to accept that violence is a part of human nature that can't be avoided.
I'm sorry you see the world with violence in center like that. I can tell you that it absolutely can be avoided. I've never been bullied, I've never "not been able to defend myself", I've actually trained martial arts for many years, and would be fully capable of defending myself, but I have not once ever needed it.
Every time i step into one of these bully threads, and read about how people let a single person emotionally wreck them with stress on a day-to-day basis (because their parents never taught them how to appropriately apply violence to protect themselves), it's honestly a bit sad.
That's a horrible generalization, and it is completely irrelevant to this thread. You do not show you kids anything about defending themselves when you hit them.
To be honest, after having to respond to that post, I feel you live in a very violence-centric world. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm saddened by hearing that. I'm also very sorry that you perpetuate that with your children and your pets; that you are unable to see that the world the way you see it is worse for the way violence is central to it, and that you pull those close to you into that same sad world of abusing power and violence.