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Age difference and you (well, me)

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Truant

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I'm currently seeing a girl that's waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to young for me. I'm 26, she's barely 19. Is this wrong? I mean, it makes me feel weird. I don't want to be one of those guys. I guess I am, though.

The worst thing is the whole "Man, this immature guy can't get girls his own age because he's a creep"-thing, which is not true at all. I think that way when I see guys with young girlfriends. I usually date women my own age, but this one is special. She is incredibly beautiful, super funny, smart, decent knees. Everything you'd want. Except she's a teenager. I'm embarrased to tell my friends her real age. So far I've just sort of jumped around the subject, hinting at 21-22 - which is also too young, to be honest.

I've been with women older than 30 as well, and that also felt wrong. Actually, that's a bit comforting in a way. Anyway, I'm tipsy and I probably shouldn't have made this thread. Also, pedogaf needs to stay away from this thread. Or wait, maybe that's me. I'm doomed.
 
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Ferrio

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(26/2)+7 = 20.

Ooohh so close op... so close.

At 29 I went on a date with an 18 year old.. that was awkward. She gave me the hand....
 
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lethial

Reeeeeeee
I dated a girl who was 7 years younger than me for a few years. I was 27-29. There's some things you have to put up with in terms of maturity no matter how mature she tells you she is. I generally date women who are younger than me anyways. My best friend is 36 and his gf just turned 20 and they are super happy together. They'll probably be married in a year or two.
 
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NotTheGuyYouKill

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If you're happy and she's happy and no one wants to tar and feather you, I think you're good to go.

What's that mathematics rule for determining the lowest age you can date? Divide by two and add seven?
 
DanteFox

DanteFox

Member
Let's be honest. You don't really care what any of us has to say on the matter. You will continue to enjoy that twenty-year old-ness.*

*Patrice O'Neal reference
 
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Truant

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Ferrio said:
(26/2)+7 = 20.

Ooohh so close op... so close.

At 29 I went on a date with an 18 year old.. that was awkward. She gave me the hand....
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Dude, don't even.

She's coming over to my apartment this weekend to stay with me for a few days. I feel like Chris Hanson is gonna show up any minute now. Reading what I just wrote makes it worse!
 
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Kalnos

Banned
(AGE/2) + 7!11!1!! Getting that out of the way. As long as they are over 18 you're fine, though someone that young probably isn't very mature and might not be ready for a long term relationship.

My girlfriend is 3-4 years older than me (22-25/6) and I don't think it's too weird.
 
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sn00zer

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I only date girls within one or two years of my own age....so I think you guys are weird...also as the brother of someone dating someone much older the brother will not like you
 
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R2D4

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Truant said:
I'm currently seeing a girl that's waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to young for me. I'm 26, she's barely 19. Is this wrong? I mean, it makes me feel weird. I don't want to be one of those guys. I guess I am, though.

The worst thing is the whole "Man, this immature guy can't get girls his own age because he's a creep"-thing, which is not true at all. I think that way when I see guys with young girlfriends. I usually date women my own age, but this one is special. She is incredibly beautiful, super funny, smart, decent knees. Everything you'd want. Except she's a teenager. I'm embarrased to tell my friends her real age. So far I've just sort of jumped around the subject, hinting at 21-22 - which is also too young, to be honest.

I've been with women older than 30 as well, and that also felt wrong. Actually, that's a bit comforting in a way. Anyway, I'm tipsy and I probably shouldn't have made this thread. Also, pedogaf needs to stay away from this thread. Or wait, maybe that's me. I'm doomed.
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When I was 28 I dated a girl that was 18. She just graduated high school a few months earlier too. It was definitely weird. I broke it off with her after about 3 months. It just felt wrong.
 
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jasonng

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I was in the same boat when I found out this girl I took out was 19, I was 25 and I'm still in school. At first it didn't bother me but when we kept talking and getting to know each other I realized we were in two different worlds. The deal breaker was when she kept talking about getting to clubs and bar with a fake ID. Needless to say it was a no go.
 
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Atramental

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Truant said:
Dude, don't even.

She's coming over to my apartment this weekend to stay with me for a few days. I feel like Chris Hanson is gonna show up any minute now. Reading what I just wrote makes it worse!
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You're fine, man.

It'll be weird if you make it weird. So... don't make it weird.
 
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Gilby

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I feel you. I had always dated older than myself but a few months ago wound up getting into a relationship with an 18 year old (I'm 24). I too felt a little creepy at first, but after a while it'll pass.


...I think.
 
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Truant

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If it was only me and her, I'd be fine. But you know, society. My friends. What will they think? I can't lie to them forever. They're really hardasses by that stuff.

I guess a big pluss is that her dad is a millionaire. But he probably thinks I'm a child molester.
 
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Log4Girlz

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Yeah I've dated 18 year olds. Age is only a number (you know, once they're legal). I will say though, its rare to find a mature 18 year old.
 
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Mammoth Jones

Member
You're 26. Dating a 30 year old isn't wrong. That's only a 4 year difference. My mom is 4 years older than my dad. If he had your attitude I'd be in a tissue somewhere.

But back to your main point: I just think it's a matter of compatibility. A 19 year old tends to be in a COMPLETELY different place than a 26 year old. What's a 19 year old doing? Just getting acclimated to being away at college, partying, getting drunk every weekend, clubbing...

What's a 26 year old doing? About to have a baby, working on their 401k, establishing their career...etc

But I mean, if you're both in the same place in life and are compatible then more power to you. I personally can't do it. But that's for different reasons.
 
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ConfusingJazz

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If you're an American, you're going to have this conversation, and realize its not worth it:

"Hey, let's go to the bar and get a drink."
"I can't, I am under age"
"Baby, its time we had a talk..."
 
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sn00zer

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At least its not as fucked up as our local 711 owner (40 something) dating an 18 year old....18 year olds just look like children to me and girls who graduate or are in the later college years are much more interesting because they have had a chance to grow up
 
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Broder Salsa

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19 and 26 is way too young?
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What you are doing is legal for a reason, it's not bad and you shouldn't feel bad for it. If your friends are going to be offended they are shitty friends.
 
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Truant

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sn00zer said:
At least its not as fucked up as our local 711 owner (40 something) dating an 18 year old....18 year olds just look like children to me and girls who graduate or are in the later college years are much more interesting because they have had a chance to grow up
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Now that you mention it she kinda looks like a kid. What the fuck am I doing.
 
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FreeMufasa

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Doesn't matter as long as it's legal. I'm 21 and currently seeing a 28 year old. Happy days =)

Also, when i'm around 40 I plan to marry someone young 18-24.
 
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hydragonwarrior

Member
Holy crap, that age difference is miniscule. Well, compared to what I've seen anyway.

Don't think so far ahead. Unless it's been like 6 months that you've been together and you think you want something long term going, then start considering if the age difference will be a big deal if/when you decide to have a family (because the age gap is a bigger deal when family comes into play). THe social aspects you can just wing it and hang out with other people.

Not to mention, she ALSO ages. You'll eventually meet her friends down the road.
 
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Az987

all good things
When I was 18 I dated a 16 year old. She had just graduated from High School so I figured she was pretty smart and mature until that day she put a nerd in my ear and got it stuck.
 
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McNei1y

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Stop worrying about something that isn't there. You're fine. It's pretty common. At least your not with someone illegal.
 
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Barbacoatl

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sn00zer said:
At least its not as fucked up as our local 711 owner (40 something) dating an 18 year old....18 year olds just look like children to me and girls who graduate or are in the later college years are much more interesting because they have had a chance to grow up
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mf.luder

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I've kind of considered, not that I've done it, as a rule of thumb that if they are in university there shouldn't be any moral issues. But frosh girls are not normally the ones you want for a girlfriend.

I want a girl that is graduating university, haha.
 
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Baron Aloha

A Shining Example
OP is right on the edge of acceptable like Ferrio pointed out.

One of my neighbors is 48-49 (claims he is in his 30s when he meets women) and dates 19-23 year olds. He got divorced 10 years ago and has 2 daughters roughly ages 17 and 14 that live with him. His current girl friend is 20. He's had 7 or 8 live-in girl friends since his divorce. None of them has been older than 23. They tend to live with him for a year or so then move out. I can't really blame him. Truth be told if I was his age and I could still get the women he gets I would...but I don't have any children.
 
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Riggs

Banned
Dude she is legal, and you are legal. If you feel it's right, and she feels its right, then fuck what society (or what you think society) thinks.

Seriously who gives a damn what people think, it seems you do. I would suggest nipping that in the bud, or your relationship is going to be over soon.

Ya that "No Pedo anime" thread I remember that from yesterday. I kind of was thinking something was going on with you OP, seriously just enjoy your relationship lol you think to much.
 
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kswiston

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Mammoth Jones said:
But back to your main point: I just think it's a matter of compatibility. A 19 year old tends to be in a COMPLETELY different place than a 26 year old. What's a 19 year old doing? Just getting acclimated to being away at college, partying, getting drunk every weekend, clubbing...

What's a 26 year old doing? About to have a baby, working on their 401k, establishing their career...etc
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I guess it doesn't matter if you are just casually dating the person, but I have seen this become an issue with couples a number of times. A 23-24 year old guy will start dating a 17 year old girl. All is good until the guy reaches 26-27 and starts thinking about having family, and the girl realizes she is barely 20 and is not ready for that sort of commitment.

I got married when I was 27. When I was 19, I had barely even started dating. Physically, I didn't change all that much in those 8 years, but there was a lot of emotional growth.
 
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