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TheSeks

Blinded by the luminous glory that is David Bowie's physical manifestation.
T.O.P said:
Got it, i'll just try to men the fuck up and talk to him asap


fuck i hate this
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Whoops. Misread. I don't know if that's your reasoning, but your reasons of him being a bit hyperactive is correct. Unless you lay down the law and say "no, I'm not out. (which I doubt you will)" and lay the rules of this relationship out, it's a bad idea. In fact, the more I read this the more it's just a bad idea all around. It isn't the age issue to me (though that could be one) it's more that you're friends with his brother and you're basically family to them.
 
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T.O.P

Banned
TheSeks said:
Whoops. Misread. I don't know if that's your reasoning, but your reasons of him being a bit hyperactive is correct. Unless you lay down the law and say "no, I'm not out. (which I doubt you will)" and lay the rules of this relationship out, it's a bad idea. In fact, the more I read this the more it's just a bad idea all around. It isn't the age issue to me (though that could be one) it's more that you're friends with his brother and you're basically family to them.
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yeah, i instantly had the feeling that it wasn't right, at all

i feel like shit right now, in every way i try to see the situation

the fact that i would even fuck a chair right now doesen't help a bit, and let's add the fact the if we're going on a trip the chances that something will happen are high

i'll need to call it off for sure if he doesen't get it right away
 
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Cosmic Bus

pristine morning snow
T.O.P said:
yeah, i instantly had the feeling that it wasn't right, at all

i feel like shit right now, in every way i try to see the situation

the fact that i would even fuck a chair right now doesen't help a bit, and let's add the fact the if we're going on a trip the chances that something will happen are high

i'll need to call it off for sure if he doesen't get it right away
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What TheSeks said is absolutely correct. His age is not the problem -- his lack of maturity is. Coupled with the circumstance of the family, you not being out(?) and so on... This is something you need to put a stop to before it gets (further) out of hand, end of discussion.

As for putting yourself in that path of temptation, well, I have to be blunt: exercise some damn self-control. Everyone is capable of doing it, but not everyone chooses to. You're horny? Go jerk off.
 
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TheSeks

Blinded by the luminous glory that is David Bowie's physical manifestation.
Cosmic Bus said:
As for putting yourself in that path of temptation, well, I have to be blunt: exercise some damn self-control. Everyone is capable of doing it, but not everyone chooses to. You're horny? Go jerk off.
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Go jerk off while thinking of that seventeen year old brother of your friend that wants to boink with you. Fahlalalalalalalalala... kiss de boy...

Actually, no. Don't. I'm just stirring shit.

Also red: I hate your avatar. But that's because I've had to deal with Tebow for a hell of a lot longer than the national people have had to. :|
 
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TheSeks

Blinded by the luminous glory that is David Bowie's physical manifestation.
BeesEight said:
So this project I've been working on for a year I've basically been told probably won't take off. Because it doesn't meet the corporate checklist. Oh, but hey, get a blog started and a following on Twitter because that's all the pubs really care about for marketing and maybe you can bypass their shitty requirements.

Maybe. Because, you know it's so easy to get a huge following on these shit services inundated with people and their inane chatter.

And I totally have anything to put on a shitty blog or fucking tweet. What I am going to tweet? Everytime I take a goddamn dump? These stupid things only work once you're already established but nope, we won't help you get there unless you have one!

But it's okay, it's not like I was hoping this fucking project was going to go anywhere. Naw, this year was nothing. I don't mind working out of the crappy gas station for the rest of my life.

Fuck. All. This. Shit.
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What? Settle down, take a deep breath and repeat this in a clearer fashion.
 
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dragonlife

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red_13th said:
Dancing with the Stars, yes.
Novelas have so many hot actors, my favourite is Gabriel Soto from Amigas y Rivales (ooold one, it has actually become a meme in the gay community around here).
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Gabriel Soto's in a new one that's airing. I don't know the name of it, but it comes on in the afternoon. The main chick he's in love with is a maid at his mansion... or something.

Also, yeah... he's kind of hot. Dat body.
 
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T.O.P

Banned
So he texted me this morning

"Sorry if what i did yesterday made you feel uncomfortable, still i donnow why i did that, but you're a cute guy and i feel we get along pretty well..."

just replied

"look don't worry about yesterday it wasn't unpleasent or anything, my brain just stopped me instantly, we should just forget about that, there are a lot of external factors that worry me right now and i just can't feel it right, it's not comfortable for me thinking about you outside of something like a little brother, sorry"

then

"yeah, i just wanted to thank you, maybe i exaggerated a bit"



i think we're good actually, gotta see how he'll react in the long period, god it will be awkward to meet him again now
 
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red13th

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dragonlife said:
Gabriel Soto's in a new one that's airing. I don't know the name of it, but it comes on in the afternoon. The main chick he's in love with is a maid at his mansion... or something.

Also, yeah... he's kind of hot. Dat body.
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Jesus Christ how did I not know of this novela before. I need it!
I swear if I ever met Gabriel Soto I'd seriously kidnap him and turn him into my sex slave.
 
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Miles X

Member
How do you deal with being a rebound guy? He promised me so much and made me feel so secure and amazing, then pulled the rug from out under my feet.
 
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Miles X

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Tritroid said:
:( Details plz.
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I met the guy April 1st (should have read the signs eh) and from the offset he was besotted with me, longingly staring into my eyes telling me sweet nothings, wanting to be with me lots and missing me, never had a guy feel this way about me. We clashed on a couple of issues, I'm not as outgoing as him and we're both tops but I was willing to learn to bottom, but other than that I thought the fact we had a strong emotional bond could pull us through.

We both said it was craaaazy how strong we felt this early on, and I was hesistant after being burnt not too long ago, but I went with the flow. Then this past weekend he felt he wanted to slow it down a lot and that it's all become very serious and heavy (which I agree with, but I fall in love hard and fast and when I'm going there is no stopping me) but he had already text to meet up with this guy.

he has ex issues, but says he just feels anger and pain and that's why he can't get into anything serious right now and just wants light stuff, should have thought about that before promising the world to me and putting me on cloud 9, I was more than ffin happy to take it very slow but he insisted on going full steam ahead.
 
Tritroid

Tritroid

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Dynopia said:
I met the guy April 1st (should have read the signs eh) and from the offset he was besotted with me, longingly staring into my eyes telling me sweet nothings, wanting to be with me lots and missing me, never had a guy feel this way about me. We clashed on a couple of issues, I'm not as outgoing as him and we're both tops but I was willing to learn to bottom, but other than that I thought the fact we had a strong emotional bond could pull us through.

We both said it was craaaazy how strong we felt this early on, and I was hesistant after being burnt not too long ago, but I went with the flow. Then this past weekend he felt he wanted to slow it down a lot and that it's all become very serious and heavy (which I agree with, but I fall in love hard and fast and when I'm going there is no stopping me) but he had already text to meet up with this guy.

he has ex issues, but says he just feels anger and pain and that's why he can't get into anything serious right now and just wants light stuff, should have thought about that before promising the world to me and putting me on cloud 9, I was more than ffin happy to take it very slow but he insisted on going full steam ahead.
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So...he recently broke up with someone and pursued you, but once he had you he texted to meet up with someone completely new? Or to reconcile with an ex?

Sounds like he loves the thrill of the chase. He pursued you until he got you to fall for him, then he moves on to other guys. That trait is pretty common in narcissists, so if that's what this guy was, you're better off forgetting about him now and moving on (as difficult as that may be at this point).

Are you still communicating with him in some way?
 
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Miles X

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Tritroid said:
So...he recently broke up with someone and pursued you, but once he had you he texted to meet up with someone completely new? Or to reconcile with an ex?

Sounds like he loves the thrill of the chase. He pursued you until he got you to fall for him, then he moves on to other guys. That trait is pretty common in narcissists, so if that's what this guy was, you're better off forgetting about him now and moving on (as difficult as that may be at this point).

Are you still communicating with him in some way?
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No this is a new guy he's meeting, he has money which makes him feel nice, don't ask.

I cut all contact, I gotta feeling he'll be back at some point though :\

Why is it so hard to just find a decent guy that can fall in love with you? I've been screwed over way too many times, probably my own fault for wearing my heart on my sleeve.
 
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Tritroid

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Dynopia said:
No this is a new guy he's meeting, he has money which makes him feel nice, don't ask.

I cut all contact, I gotta feeling he'll be back at some point though :\

Why is it so hard to just find a decent guy that can fall in love with you? I've been screwed over way too many times, probably my own fault for wearing my heart on my sleeve.
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Yeah...I know the feeling. I've had a problem with letting my gaurd down and falling for the wrong guys too. Unfortunately there are a lot of 'predator' guys out there who will take advantage of guys like us, just because it's something they get off on.

I told my ex once that he's sick in the sense that he treats his relationships like he treats cars; he's always trying to quickly upgrade to the next model. People like that rarely feel actual love for the people they're with, they just see them as a source of attention for them, or a type of material possession.

I'll echo what my friends have told me: Not all guys out there are like this. There are plenty who are looking for exactly what you and I are after, they're just more difficult to find because they're not actively hunting new forms of prey like these users are.
 
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Miles X

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Tritroid said:
Yeah...I know the feeling. I've had a problem with letting my gaurd down and falling for the wrong guys too. Unfortunately there are a lot of 'predator' guys out there who will take advantage of guys like us, just because it's something they get off on.

I told my ex once that he's sick in the sense that he treats his relationships like he treats cars; he's always trying to quickly upgrade to the next model. People like that rarely feel actual love for the people they're with, they just see them as a source of attention for them, or a type of material possession.

I'll echo what my friends have told me: Not all guys out there are like this. There are plenty who are looking for exactly what you and I are after, they're just more difficult to find because they're not actively hunting new forms of prey like these users are.
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You summed it up rather nicely. Someone once told me the fact we can actually open up our hearts to someone and love them is an amazing trait to have, I guess some guys like you said just arnt capable of that.

I think I believe there are decent guys out there, but with every fresh heartbreak I just feel the bad ones are becoming the majority. Interesting simile with the car, I think that's a reflection of the world we live in today, sadly.
 
Tritroid

Tritroid

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Dynopia said:
You summed it up rather nicely. Someone once told me the fact we can actually open up our hearts to someone and love them is an amazing trait to have, I guess some guys like you said just arnt capable of that.

I think I believe there are decent guys out there, but with every fresh heartbreak I just feel the bad ones are becoming the majority. Interesting simile with the car, I think that's a reflection of the world we live in today, sadly.
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Being able to love someone openly might be an amazing trait to some...but it seems like all it does is cause eventual heartache, haha.

The best thing to remember is to not let people like this leave you bitter and jaded. And you're right, there are decent guys out there, you just have to be willing to wade through all the shit to find them.

About 2 months ago I was in a local gay bar, and the ex had (once again) caused me so much heartache it brought me to tears, even though I was trying my damn hardest to hold them back. A random guy, that I haven't seen since, walked up to me, put his arm around me and whispered in my ear: "Just keep smiling baby", and walked away. Oddly enough that advice was so fucking simple, but it helped me get through the last few days of that horrendous situation. :)
 
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sphinx

the piano man
Tritroid said:
A random guy, that I haven't seen since, walked up to me, put his arm around me and whispered in my ear: "Just keep smiling baby", and walked away. Oddly enough that advice was so fucking simple, but it helped me get through the last few days of that horrendous situation. :)
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if he is your type you should definitely seek that guy. If he had the sensibility to know you were getting through a hard time and said those words instead of asking for bed and sex then maybe it's worth it to get to know him better.
 
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Cosmic Bus

pristine morning snow
Hm, does anyone remember who I handed over admin duties to on the gaf hot men Tumblr? It never gets updated anymore and I wouldn't mind taking over the reigns again.
 
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Dead Prince

Banned
i'm trying to figure out what my email is. i think cosmic gave me admin priv when he handed it over lol.

EDIT: Got it.


Cosmic Bus said:
Hm, does anyone remember who I handed over admin duties to on the gaf hot men Tumblr? It never gets updated anymore and I wouldn't mind taking over the reigns again.
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PM me your email and i'll add you to admin to the tumblr.
 
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Magnus

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Man, OK Cupid is esssploding for me. Must be spring hormones in the air? A lot of guys seem interested and want to meet; I literally don't have the funds for drinks out more than a couple times a month.

I tried to suggest coffee dates just to be more practical and not miss out on Mr. Right (and make more friends), and one guy was actually like, "I'm not good enough for a whole evening?". Wow, easy elimination test. Lol

Yeah, semi stealth-brag post but I never get to. So there. :p
 
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sphinx

the piano man
I just had a date with the cutest guy ever... he seems to have this automatic friendzone syndrome in himself.. I think I could like him but he is unable to bond...what should I do?
 
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Bel Marduk

Banned
sphinx said:
I just had a date with the cutest guy ever... he seems to have this automatic friendzone syndrome in himself.. I think I could like him but he is unable to bond...what should I do?
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How many dates have you been on with this guy? I mean it may be premature to say you've been friendzoned..
 
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Phonomezer

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DMPrince said:
and remove all of your music taste too.
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