Atramental
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*watches steamy Queen music video*
What are you trying to pull here, Suairyu?
What are you trying to pull here, Suairyu?
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The Great Porn Experiment (TEDxGlasgow)
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This - a placebo? Why I never!
Still going through with it though. Some habits can be cut back.
Not a placebo and not just about ED. There are many symptoms this can help with.
I mean, hormones are a real thing, guys, for a start, and the chemical science of addiction isn't exactly a mystery either.
I am merely the shepherd trying to herd his flock to a better tomorrow.*watches steamy Queen music video*
What are you trying to pull here, Suairyu?
RumblingRosco
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I have literally fapped 1-2 times a day on average, every day, for the past 10-11 years. I've never had any issues as far as I recall with performance with a girl, but this is making me think I should give a 90-day fap-break a shot. I've tried before but can never make it past 3-4 days. I think tonight I'll give it one last one-off and then begin this torment starting tomorrow; seems May 1st would be as good a day as any to begin.
Chemical dependency is a real thing which is why we know that you can't be "addicted" to porn bar some psychological habit formation. All the issues that the challenge addresses is basically cutting back on over-stimulation that'll leave your hormones at lower levels when the actual sex starts.
I'm not saying that this challenge is bad, but it's hardly revolutionary either.
Oh cool, another guy who hasn't read the OP or thread commenting on this. I get so lonely when you types aren't around.
You're not becoming addicted to porn per-se, you're becoming addicted to the dopamine (surprisingly, a chemical!) rush you get in your brain whenever you crave and look at porn. It's very real and not just a mental thing.
It's physiological, not psychological.
Atramental
Banned
*Phew* this day is almost over with.
I even have a calendar to mark off each day.
I even have a calendar to mark off each day.
I read the thread and have been around before. I've been pretty supportive of what it's trying to do and am participating as well.
But that's not how substance dependency works. That's why gambling isn't a substance abuse. You don't treat adrenaline junkies the same way you do cocaine addicts. Basically, you can't become addicted to your own dopamine production - you have to have an outside source. If anyone says otherwise, they don't understand addictions or are trying to talk about psychological addiction which is a... different use of the term.
JumpJeff84
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I find that when I'm leading my normal daily life, I don't watch a lot of porn. I spend more time chasing women and having sex with them as much as possible, and often make bad decisions.
When I need to 'cool off', I turn to porn. Keeps me outta trouble. I'm in one of those phases now. Swearing off of women for a week and sticking (pun intended) to my computer.
It's a fun way to do things- when I take these dips into porn it's kind of a thrill because I haven't been overexposed.
When I need to 'cool off', I turn to porn. Keeps me outta trouble. I'm in one of those phases now. Swearing off of women for a week and sticking (pun intended) to my computer.
It's a fun way to do things- when I take these dips into porn it's kind of a thrill because I haven't been overexposed.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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BlueTsunami
there is joy in sucking dick
Day 18 for me. Its not that tough honestly, you just have to abstain from actually looking at stuff. Avoid it if you must (avert yon' eyes!). I'm feeling a bit indifferent to gratuitous porn in general at the moment but feel like I wanna jump my bones at any girl I find attractive that looks my way.
bananabread
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Does failure mean a complete reset?
I've caved twice so far (day 3 of my first attempt and day 8 of my second one), but both times it's been without porn and without visualising anything. Does each failure mean a complete restart at day 1, or will it just slow the process down?
I've caved twice so far (day 3 of my first attempt and day 8 of my second one), but both times it's been without porn and without visualising anything. Does each failure mean a complete restart at day 1, or will it just slow the process down?
If you viewed porn. You reset. The 90 challenge is to stay COMPLETELY away from porn. No masturbating to it, viewing it or having an orgasm to it. Stay away from it. You can have sex with your partner however.
Atramental
Banned
1 day down.
89 more to go.
89 more to go.
It will be a week once I complete today that I have not PMO!! Wow I feel so good. Glad I got over the 2 to 3 day hurdle. I always seem to cave in around that time. But it seems like a breeze now. I've been flirting a lot with various different ladies. Jesus, I just get so horny once I see or hear the ladies teasing me. Good feeling. I've been resting, exercising, reading books (downloaded The Hunger Games from the Kindle iPhone app). Just feeling great. Full of enegry. Not mad at the world.
Love it. 80 days more. I can do it!
Love it. 80 days more. I can do it!
ChuyMasta
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Oh wow. I just watched the video. I am already seeing some of the symptoms of addiction to porn.
I am paranoid. I have a constant feeling of worry, concern and anxiety towards stuff that shouldn't make me feel that way.
I am also starting to look at porn that is not really considered "normal" and everything but porn seems boring, uninteresting and I have no real desire to do anything with my afternoons. Plus, I have an attitude of I don't care about you anymore at work...
So, umm....day 0?
I just fapped to lesbians in bunny costumes that "pooped" 8-balls before watching this video =/
I'll commit to this. Here we go, GAF!
I am paranoid. I have a constant feeling of worry, concern and anxiety towards stuff that shouldn't make me feel that way.
I am also starting to look at porn that is not really considered "normal" and everything but porn seems boring, uninteresting and I have no real desire to do anything with my afternoons. Plus, I have an attitude of I don't care about you anymore at work...
So, umm....day 0?
I just fapped to lesbians in bunny costumes that "pooped" 8-balls before watching this video =/
I'll commit to this. Here we go, GAF!
Atramental
Banned
Yep. You can't fap to it or look at it without fapping.
Physical intercourse with another person is the only thing that's allowed.
Yes.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I'm in. I have a shit ton of the symptoms of porn addiction. (From what I can recall of the symptoms listed in the video, I have pretty much everything other than ED.) I generally look at porn for like, 2 hours every night. :/
;_;
I started (or stopped, really) two days ago, which makes today day 3, and I actually feel a bit better now. Not sure it's a placebo effect or what, but it feels nice. I'm certainly gonna try to go for the full 90 days.
;_;
I started (or stopped, really) two days ago, which makes today day 3, and I actually feel a bit better now. Not sure it's a placebo effect or what, but it feels nice. I'm certainly gonna try to go for the full 90 days.
spyhunterzero
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Well I told my friend about this a few days back and it seem like an interesting thing to do. I'm at day 5 now, don't really know about him though. Wish me luck guys.
killertofu
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90 days?
My girlfriend has been in China since September (I visited for a month in December).
What the hell is there to do besides wank it? I think a wank before I go out to the bar helps make me feel better about the whole thing.
She comes back next month...maybe I'll lay off the porn til then
My girlfriend has been in China since September (I visited for a month in December).
What the hell is there to do besides wank it? I think a wank before I go out to the bar helps make me feel better about the whole thing.
She comes back next month...maybe I'll lay off the porn til then
Originally made it 3 days when I first started. Then it was four days.
......I'm up to about 4 days again. I'm determined this time though. Especially because I'm pretty sure at this point that my last relapse is what drained my motivation to hook up with this girl that literally looks like Jessica Alba who texted me Saturday night to come over late late saturday night - or i guess sunday morning......... Still kicking myself for that one.
......I'm up to about 4 days again. I'm determined this time though. Especially because I'm pretty sure at this point that my last relapse is what drained my motivation to hook up with this girl that literally looks like Jessica Alba who texted me Saturday night to come over late late saturday night - or i guess sunday morning......... Still kicking myself for that one.
I'd personally advise a more "Fall off the wagon? Get back on the wagon." approach. No need to start all over just because you jacked off once. Add an extra 10 days to your target goal or something.
But twice in less than two weeks? Yeah, that's just you not even trying.
Yes. Why wouldn't it?
Goddamnit, people. Why do you keep making this all convoluted? This is really, really simple stuff. 2+2=4 kind of simple.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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No porn is getting hard cause... I never realized how often it seems to pop up in my internet travels.
But not doing anything to porn, I think I can manage. Third time's the charm and all that jazz.
wondermega
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I'm just going to pretend the real kool-aid man is participating in this thread.
"O-H-H-H Y-E-E-A-H!" Stop kool-aid man! Stop abusing yourself, I say!
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Maybe everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too. Trying hard to find loopholes so they can self-justify that what they're doing isn't really cheating, or it's okay, or something to that effect.
No, don't even look at it. Change your internet travels. Stop fucking this up.
You're being all, "Man, this success thing is really tough; I think I'll make it so I'm going to fail instead."
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Heyyyyyyyyy,
I'm just saying.
I can do this. No worries, bro. I'm avoiding the porn. Three days, one set of boobs. That's progress for me. And it was unintentional.
I don't think my intent was saying 'this success thing is really tough so I'll set myself to fail." Where'd you get that from?
Lol huh?
The no porn is pretty managable, the no fapping is to hard, caved in last night, i've been to much exposed to insane hot woman is short skirts the last couple of days.
So then why don't you talk to these "hot" woman?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Porn is the voice killer.
Procrastination (in this case) leads to masturbation. He will be missing out on soooooo many opportunities. Masturbation/pornography is nothing like the real thing.
Edit: Having an actual female in the bed or anywhere giving you and you giving back sexual pleasure is what you or anyone in this thread that's doing this challenge should want.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Bless the new Batman trailer, it's occupied so much of my attention I haven't even thought of porn outside this thread.
The real thing. Man, that's the dream. I SHALL ATTAIN.
Arjen
Member
When did i say i didn't?
Just saying. I would rather use my sexual energy trying to flirt with these "hot" ladies. Than staying home beating off. I'm not saying your doing that but just saying that's a better alternative.
I think that's where many are trying to get to.
For me I have become aware that I let porn become an outlet for my sexual energy which has sapped my sex drive for real life partners and has damaged my drive to court, flirt and continue to follow through with females.
I know it played a role in problems with my last relationship and ones before that......all I'm saying is that its easier said than done to stop looking at porn and begin recovering properly.
Arjen
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Well obviously, but when you didn't close that night, but you did have the girl grinding your dick with her perfect ass, then beating it off when you get home is quite the relief.
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