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Cool, I got stood up. I'll probably see this girl on Sunday (since we go to the same church). I am not going to confront her. Still feel pretty crappy about this.
This is why dating is too old-fashioned for the 21th century. Don't feel bad, you're not supposed to. Rethink your approach if you are truly hurt by this.Cool, I got stood up. I'll probably see this girl on Sunday (since we go to the same church). I am not going to confront her. Still feel pretty crappy about this.
This is why dating is too old-fashioned for the 21th century. Don't feel bad, you're not supposed to. Rethink your approach if you are truly hurt by this.
Cool, I got stood up. I'll probably see this girl on Sunday (since we go to the same church). I am not going to confront her. Still feel pretty crappy about this.
That's messed up, man. Did she have any excuses or she was just AWOL?
No, I'm not hurt. A little annoyed mostly. Dating is pretty normal with people here.
That's awful dude. Just ignore her from now on.Cool, I got stood up. I'll probably see this girl on Sunday (since we go to the same church). I am not going to confront her. Still feel pretty crappy about this.
Talked through some issues with my girl, things will be okay I think. But she ended things by saying, "Just promise me one thing." Me: "What's that?" Her: "If we do break up someday, promise to still be my fuck buddy." Me: "........I think that can work out. >_>"
This is why dating is too old-fashioned for the 21th century. Don't feel bad, you're not supposed to. Rethink your approach if you are truly hurt by this.
I dunno... She's been trying to get me to move in with her for a while, so I don't think that's it.If your girl actually said that, then you're already broken up, you just don't know it yet. She just hasn't found your replacement. No woman that's into a man will say that, as appealing as it may sound. Not only is it unladylike, but it shows she doesn't respect you anymore
I've said that to women before in my younger more immature days after I had already mentally checked out of a relationship and had little to no respect for them left, and the only thing I could ever really use them for was sex, but just hadn't found my next girlfriend.
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Woah, just released the thread is almost up. Gotta say I've enjoyed reading everything.
Don't get too excited
Don't get too excited
inb4 next thread.
So I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. Last weekend was her 21st birthday party, and we threw it at my apartment. Mostly randoms showed up, so I didn't know that many people except a few.
Before I go any further let me say that my dad is an alcoholic. My girlfriend knows that I think drinking to get drunk is stupid and that it can ruin families like it did mine. My dad cheated on my mom several times and has done much worse throughout the years.
After the party at my apartment we all go downtown for some drinks. We go to a bar, and there's a small dance floor upstairs and they start dancing. I should also note that I'm DD. So everyone is dancing and I notice my girlfriend say something. Next thing I know she pushes this black guy and he pushes her back. She hits the floor, so naturally I shove him and he punches me in the face. He runs off with his group and I'm left alone with a hole in my lip bleeding everywhere. Idk what my girlfriend or everyone else was doing, so I left the bar with some napkins and sat on some bench a block away.
My girlfriend and co. comes out and says that the guy touched her butt or something. She then starts screaming that she's gonna find him and beat his ass. I tell her that's not gonna happen and she gets all pissed off at me. We get back to the car and she has a panic attack for what seems forever and throws up several times. Then we get home and she bitches out my roommates and calls their gfs fat and ugly etc etc. They end up leaving and sleeping somewhere else it was so bad.
I'll skip the other stuff but in short she was insane. I had to get 6 stitches in my mouth since there was a hole in my lip after getting hit.
So we talked this week about stuff and her friend was having her 21st birthday party tonight. My girlfriend told me she wasn't going cause of what happened etc. etc. She's like I'm not gonna go out for awhile since all that stuff went down. After I get off work, I text her and she tells me she's out with her friend. I'm like what? It's like she didn't even listen to anything or follow through with what she said.
I guess I'm just disappointed beyond belief since she lied and pull this shit after everything that happened last weekend.
One more post to help close the doors on this thread.
My 4th semester of school will be ending in a few days and I've learned a lot even though there have been no "breakthroughs" or whatever. Progress has been glacial but still something. I feel like a lot guys in here like Izick are complaining about their looks but for me it's all about dealing with my personality. I'm not sure exactly what it is exactly but it feels like there's something missing. Maybe OT4 is what's missing, we will see.
You're in luck man, you just have to work on your personality and you'll be golden. I honestly think I have a great personality, I have a lot of cool stuff going on in my life and I always have interesting conversations with girls, however my looks aren't up to par so I'm kinda fucked. I take care of my body and my appearance, I have a nice haircut and I dress nicely but my looks aren't gonna attract any women.
It's ready, just need to time its release with time zones. It will be different, that's for sure. If I need to change or add anything, even grammatical errors, feel free to say so! I probably won't add any errors thoughAll dat pressure, Minamu.
All dat pressure.
How did the first date go? Other than the response time, do you have any red flags?This girl texts me back initially pretty quickly, but then after like the second reply she stops and doesn't reply for hours, sometimes even responding the next day. She told me she was asleep basically the entire day, so maybe she's like incredibly sleep deprived? The weird thing is that she still replied to me and asked me how I was and stuff, rather than acting completely uninterested.
It's really grating on me because I was planning on asking her out this week (we met for coffee once already), but considering how long she's taking to get back to me I'm starting to feel a bit annoyed. I feel like I've barely gotten to know her, so I don't really want to throw in the towel so soon.
Any thoughts guys?
One more post to help close the doors on this thread.
My 4th semester of school will be ending in a few days and I've learned a lot even though there have been no "breakthroughs" or whatever. Progress has been glacial but still something. I feel like a lot guys in here like Izick are complaining about their looks but for me it's all about dealing with my personality. I'm not sure exactly what it is exactly but it feels like there's something missing. Maybe OT4 is what's missing, we will see.
From what I've gathered, a lot of people seem to think midnights is an ugly person, and say it straight to his face, and it's bringing him down, which I can understand. No gaffer seems to agree with those rude statements though. I'd personally love to hang out as it seems like he does have a personality (and I want to meet these weird people).I haven't been following your dating thread posts so this might be old news, but: What kind of stuff are you interested in? Personality comes from doing things. Examine yourself, ask yourself how you could be more awesome. Maybe that means learning an instrument, learning a foreign language, getting in good shape, etc. Something you have control over and can set measurable goals for. Become the kind of person you think is awesome and you'll attract people who feel the same way. Not only that but you'll feel better about yourself and boost your confidence and therefore your social skills.
Pumpkin, don't read into it. Everyone has different texting habits, doesn't mean anything. Ask that babe out.
How did the first date go? Other than the response time, do you have any red flags?
It sounds fine then. Maybe she's waiting for you to ask her on the second date since she suggested it in the first place. You have nothing to lose, so go for it.It went really well from what I could tell. Basically my whole mentality was just to have a super light, but fun/positive conversation. I felt really relaxed. The conversation also felt very balanced, it wasn't one-sided at all. There weren't any awkward silences. We had a couple laughs, and I can honestly say I showed her my best. Afterwards, I felt like we had both enjoyed each others company, and she was actually the one to suggest meeting up again.
As for red flags... Not particularly. She's foreign so sometimes the language barrier gets in the way. I also noticed she was sometimes a little bit negative about herself, but I think it might be because of her upbringing/culture? It's almost like a sense of modesty, maybe? Her parents sounded a bit... Strict, possibly emotionally abusive too? :| There's a lot of unknowns still, at this point.
It sounds fine then. Maybe she's waiting for you to ask her on the second date since she suggested it in the first place. You have nothing to lose, so go for it.
How heavy are your make out sessions? I've never found it difficult to transition.I severely suck at "closing the deal". Went for a drink last night with a girl whom I had dated briefly earlier this year (things didn't work out back then for several dumb reasons). We hadn't seen each other since February so this week I randomly send her a text if she wanted to get a drink and catch up. We had a great time and the cafe we were in was closing down so we headed to my place. We talked, made out, talked and made out, and then she went home... This isn't the first time I screw up my chances when I have a girl in my apartment.
I kinda doubt I will have another shot with this girl. That said, any tips on how to move the make out session to the next level so that I may prevent future fuck-ups?
At least she didn't hold her palm over her drink :lol (meta thread reference joke) Was there anything sexual going on except for kissing? Tugging at clothes? Why not just say "let's continue this elsewhere".I severely suck at "closing the deal". Went for a drink last night with a girl whom I had dated briefly earlier this year (things didn't work out back then for several dumb reasons). We hadn't seen each other since February so this week I randomly send her a text if she wanted to get a drink and catch up. We had a great time and the cafe we were in was closing down so we headed to my place. We talked, made out, talked and made out, and then she went home... This isn't the first time I screw up my chances when I have a girl in my apartment.
I kinda doubt I will have another shot with this girl. That said, any tips on how to move the make out session to the next level so that I may prevent future fuck-ups?
Sorry to hear about that, but good story too There are no rules about the texting. When do you want to text her? Do it then. Normally I'd advice against reaching out but you're gonna have to in this case.So I recently rejoined single-gaf, after my wife admitted to having cheated several years ago in the beginning of our marriage. I tried to get over it, couldn't, so best thing to do was split. We're young and don't own much so the divorce stuff was pretty simple and civil. Anyways, it'll be final in the next week or so.
Background info out of the way, last night at my job this girl that comes in regularly with her family just starts talking to me. I manage a local theater so the fact that she missed about 5-10 mins of the hobbit was pretty telling that she was interested. Long story short I got her number and man did it feel good.
I'm 22 and haven't been single for over five years. My ex and I started dating in high school when we were both 17. I almost felt guilty at first but then reality set in that this was okay to do. I'm not looking for anything serious but still felt awesome after she finally walked back into the theater.
Btw, I got her number, she didn't get mine. When should I text her?
At least she didn't hold her palm over her drink :lol (meta thread reference joke) Was there anything sexual going on except for kissing? Tugging at clothes? Why not just say "let's continue this elsewhere".
Sorry to hear about that, but good story too There are no rules about the texting. When do you want to text her? Do it then. Normally I'd advice against reaching out but you're gonna have to in this case.
Hey guys,
Simple problem, met a girl recently and have been out on a couple of dates (about 4-5) but haven't been able to escalate to a kiss or anything. I thought she didn't want anything to do with me, but it turns out she's incredibly love shy. She has said she likes me, in a somewhat contrived way but still can't seal in the kiss. I know she's love shy for a few reasons, she's 25 and hasn't had sex in over 4 years. She's only ever had one boyfriend which lasted for 6 months when she was younger (19) and I gather from her friends that she doesn't really like hugs. I can literally feel her shaking a bit when I hug her. It's really odd.
I kinda like this girl (last few girls I've dated were lame in comparison, but had no problems with physical contact) but I don't really know how to deal with it. My best guess is to tell her that I'm into her, and that I don't want to pressure her and if I'm ever going to far or fast she can just tell me to slow down, or that whenever she's ready. I'm concerned that there might be some awful history somewhere in there but I don't really want to bring it up.
Could use some help.
inb4 next thread.
So I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. Last weekend was her 21st birthday party, and we threw it at my apartment. Mostly randoms showed up, so I didn't know that many people except a few.
Before I go any further let me say that my dad is an alcoholic. My girlfriend knows that I think drinking to get drunk is stupid and that it can ruin families like it did mine. My dad cheated on my mom several times and has done much worse throughout the years.
After the party at my apartment we all go downtown for some drinks. We go to a bar, and there's a small dance floor upstairs and they start dancing. I should also note that I'm DD. So everyone is dancing and I notice my girlfriend say something. Next thing I know she pushes this black guy and he pushes her back. She hits the floor, so naturally I shove him and he punches me in the face. He runs off with his group and I'm left alone with a hole in my lip bleeding everywhere. Idk what my girlfriend or everyone else was doing, so I left the bar with some napkins and sat on some bench a block away.
My girlfriend and co. comes out and says that the guy touched her butt or something. She then starts screaming that she's gonna find him and beat his ass. I tell her that's not gonna happen and she gets all pissed off at me. We get back to the car and she has a panic attack for what seems forever and throws up several times. Then we get home and she bitches out my roommates and calls their gfs fat and ugly etc etc. They end up leaving and sleeping somewhere else it was so bad.
I'll skip the other stuff but in short she was insane. I had to get 6 stitches in my mouth since there was a hole in my lip after getting hit.
So we talked this week about stuff and her friend was having her 21st birthday party tonight. My girlfriend told me she wasn't going cause of what happened etc. etc. She's like I'm not gonna go out for awhile since all that stuff went down. After I get off work, I text her and she tells me she's out with her friend. I'm like what? It's like she didn't even listen to anything or follow through with what she said.
I guess I'm just disappointed beyond belief since she lied and pull this shit after everything that happened last weekend.
I severely suck at "closing the deal". Went for a drink last night with a girl whom I had dated briefly earlier this year (things didn't work out back then for several dumb reasons). We hadn't seen each other since February so this week I randomly send her a text if she wanted to get a drink and catch up. We had a great time and the cafe we were in was closing down so we headed to my place. We talked, made out, talked and made out, and then she went home... This isn't the first time I screw up my chances when I have a girl in my apartment.
I kinda doubt I will have another shot with this girl. That said, any tips on how to move the make out session to the next level so that I may prevent future fuck-ups?
I haven't been following your dating thread posts so this might be old news, but: What kind of stuff are you interested in? Personality comes from doing things. Examine yourself, ask yourself how you could be more awesome. Maybe that means learning an instrument, learning a foreign language, getting in good shape, etc. Something you have control over and can set measurable goals for. Become the kind of person you think is awesome and you'll attract people who feel the same way. Not only that but you'll feel better about yourself and boost your confidence and therefore your social skills.
From what I've gathered, a lot of people seem to think midnights is an ugly person, and say it straight to his face, and it's bringing him down, which I can understand. No gaffer seems to agree with those rude statements though. I'd personally love to hang out as it seems like he does have a personality (and I want to meet these weird people).
It sounds like she's just a bad/immature drunk. A buddy of mine ended up marrying someone who was like that and the only resolution was her stopping drinking completely. It was a big transition for her since she loved going out, but to save their marriage she realized she needed to stop. She tried controlling her drinking, but couldn't, so her therapist told her she had to go cold turkey. She's been sober for like 3 years now, and their marriage has been getting better. For me that would be a deal-breaker, but luckily my GF is a fun person when she's drunk.
If you want to save the relationship, tell her she needs to control her drinking better. If she is unwilling, bail.