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That's why you use a safeword.
Reading the whole story, yeah, that kid was seriously crossing a line.
Trust is super important in BDSM. When your partner tells you to stop, you immediately fucking stop.
"Whipping" in BDSM rarely involves actual physical harm. You aren't using a full-on bullwhip here, it's more like slapping a butt, but with a tool. Punching is inflicting an actual wound, and can damage internal organs and such. With whipping, you usually just have a pleasurable sore feeling after the event is concluded. That's not to say that BDSM can't involve punching at all, but it's pretty rare (I've never heard of it happening), and it's definitely a different degree of sadomasochism taking place than whipping.Oh yeah. Remember when Seth Rogen got in trouble for it in one of his movies and claimed it wasn't rape?
I may be unfamiliar with the BDSM "movement" or whatever, but the difference between whipping somebody and punching somebody isn't really that great. I just kind of lump all that stuff into "rape fantasy sex" but I have no interest in it and I'm probably just ignorant.
Exactly. People who think that media plays no part in influencing the social attitudes and behavior of people are deluding themselves."Holding something responsible" != "One contributing factor"
This is exactly the kind of shallow-ass understanding that gets people into trouble. You don't just say, "Okay, the safeword is 'gerontology,'" and then go to town. You start with a mutual understanding and a foundation of trust. Unless you've got that, a safeword is completely powerless.That's why you use a safeword.
That's why you use a safeword.
Most of the time you don't even need an explicit safeword unless you're deliberately incorporating elements of resistance. For most people "Ow, that hurts," or "Stop," are a completely sufficient indicators of displeasure.
He then began striking the woman with a belt.
The story doesn't use a safeword? Does the movie? I haven't made an attempt to view either.
Also, the moment punching is involved, it's not even close to BDSM.
That's why you use a safeword.
"But they did it in a movie, so it was alright?"
I meant the article. From what I hear, a safeword is never used in FSOG either.
Does 50 shades even have safewords? It's a pretty bad first exposure to BDSM from my understanding since it doesn't really touch upon matters of mutual consent, education, and communication.
It's a dangerous thing to show because then you get couples like this who decide to "try it out" and end up going way too far.
Does 50 shades even have safewords? It's a pretty bad first exposure to BDSM from my understanding since it doesn't really touch upon matters of mutual consent, education, and communication.
It's a dangerous thing to show because then you get couples like this who decide to "try it out" and end up going way too far.
Well..., it was still probably less painful than watching the film.
*cough*
...., I'll get me coat.
Woman says "No, please stop"
Keep going cause I saw it in a movie.
Is BDSM considered domestic abuse?
And that's the big problem. A safeword doesn't mean shit if the activities it's meant to control aren't happening in an environment of trust and communication.I could be remembering wrong but technically, yes it does. But the problem is Anastasia never uses it, even when it is pretty clear that she is not comfortable with what they are doing.
Hossain continued striking the woman including with his fists, according to an arrest report and she managed to get one arm, and then another, free. But he then held her arms behind her back and sexually assaulted her as she continued to plead for him to stop, according to Karr.
Is BDSM considered domestic abuse?
Thread title should be changed to "19-yr old student charged with sexual assault after brutally raping classmate"
This wasn't the fault of a movie. It didn't happen because the guy didn't understand the etiquette of BDSM or have a safeword. He's a rapist.
You're on a forum where we discuss video games where you can brutally kill people. Do you not realize the irony of this statement?
Unless they include it in a box set, that falls on your foot.No harm came from the movie.
I agree.It's a work of fiction, not an instructional manual. It doesn't have to do shit regarding safe words or correct BDSM techniques.
Well that didn't take real freaking long...
Please someone who has seen the movie does it actually go over safe words? If not, fml that is stupid.
Seems like that book/movie massively misrepresents BDSM, and is giving people the wrong ideas about how it's supposed to work.
Thread title should be changed to "19-yr old student charged with sexual assault after brutally raping classmate"
This wasn't the fault of a movie. It didn't happen because the guy didn't understand the etiquette of BDSM or have a safeword. He's a rapist.
SpoilerI think it was kind of beating you over the head with the fact that he did a bad thing.
But in the movie it was consensual, with safe words. There has never been a Hollywood movie with this much explicit consent.
I don't know where all this misinformation is coming from. The movie is terrible but it's unfair to misconstrue what the author actually wrote.
Probably a contributing factor too (if its true he was repressed). I like how quick GAF is to label the guy a monster. This is why we have such a high prison population.His parents are going to go medieval on his arse. Muslims don't bone before marriage, it's something the parents take quite seriously if the truth were to be discovered.
They set up safe words, etc in the movie at leastWhich is something the book failed to address at all. No clue about the movie. BDSM communities hate the book, because it leads to people doing stupid as hell things without educating themselves.
Apparently this guy has no idea what consent means, which is fucking sad, considering he's apparently smart and shit.
How could this idiot get into collage?