BadAss2961
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Come to think of it, i've never heard a man refer to a woman as romantic.
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Are men more romantic than women?
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ThoseDeafMutes
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I don't think that's because they use different words, I think it's because that's just not something they talk about. Like when your buddies ask you about this new girl you're seeing you almost never talk about how funny she is, even if she is funny.
No that just means your old and/or your libido is donezo.
clearacell
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I suppose men are 'forced' to be more romantic in order to access the goods.
This is the one correct answer, so by default men must be more "romantic" in order to feed into the female need for romance...for the most unromantic of reasons.
wildm4ninside
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I think being romantic is a part of personality, maybe you can pretend to be romantic, but sooner or later your real nature comes out.
And this is true for both, men and women.
In my case, in my couple, the most romantic is my boyfriend (we are both men), he always does romantic things, he likes to plan romantic situations and stuff.
I simply don't think in a romantic way, except in some rare circumstances.
And this is true for both, men and women.
In my case, in my couple, the most romantic is my boyfriend (we are both men), he always does romantic things, he likes to plan romantic situations and stuff.
I simply don't think in a romantic way, except in some rare circumstances.
triplestation
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i think women are more romantic cause when they bend over their butt looks like hearts
There is no universal definition anyway; it lies on a case-by-case basis.
BadAss2961
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And little smiley faces, and xoxo.
H.Protagonist
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But as has been said, you don't really hear a woman described as 'romantic' when she does something. It does seem like a word more oft used for men in relationships. We get the 'thoughtful' or 'caring' label when we do anything considered extra or above and beyond. It seems like an unfair comparison just based on common usage.
Unless you're in high school, romantic gestures toward (non-needy/desperate) women are usually counter-productive at the start, so faking them to get laid is pretty silly. You're usually going to come off as a fedora. Better to keep those sentiments for later in a relationship when it's a reinforcement of bonds that already exist.
Yep. Romanticism isn't meant for hitting on.
Always-honest
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I hear so many gender specific characteristics that aren't gender specific at all. Silly generalisations.
It's like these people live in a one one dimensional world where all people are the same. Weird.
It's like these people live in a one one dimensional world where all people are the same. Weird.
Rocket Scientist
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Not exactly. Society expects men to be more romantic than women, which leads to men making more romantic gestures in general.
Shadow of the BEAST
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ThoseDeafMutes
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Please tell me more.
SouthernDragon
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Uh, no. Following in tango is one of the hardest follows there is. Women have to guess at a variety of figures since the lead can communicate in a limited way during tango. I'm also from a Latin country.
That said, romanticism is expressed in different ways by different genders.
Apeopleman
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are we using fedora to describe a corny dating tactic now? Lol
Trent Strong
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First, defining what "romantic" means would be a chore in itself.
Assuming we can all sort of vaguely, generally get the gist of it, my guess would be that most of the generalized behaviors we see are culturally enforced; that is, men are implicitly guided to be less romantic because it is perceived as less manly. Absent cultural influences, the distinctions might be very small.
On the other hand, I'm not convinced these distinctions are completely fabricated by culture, either. In almost all areas I've seen studies done, differences between male and female sexually have been observed even when cultural variables are controlled for as best possible. Further, as we all know, men and women have different sex hormones running through their bodies, so it shouldn't be surprising if different sexual behaviors are generally exhibited between the two sexes.
So to stop pontificating and sum up my point: the "romantic" differences between the sexes are mostly -- but probably not entirely -- a construct of our society. There are some noted differences between male and female sexuality and I'm generally wary of assumed absolute equivalence between the genders in this regard.
Assuming we can all sort of vaguely, generally get the gist of it, my guess would be that most of the generalized behaviors we see are culturally enforced; that is, men are implicitly guided to be less romantic because it is perceived as less manly. Absent cultural influences, the distinctions might be very small.
On the other hand, I'm not convinced these distinctions are completely fabricated by culture, either. In almost all areas I've seen studies done, differences between male and female sexually have been observed even when cultural variables are controlled for as best possible. Further, as we all know, men and women have different sex hormones running through their bodies, so it shouldn't be surprising if different sexual behaviors are generally exhibited between the two sexes.
So to stop pontificating and sum up my point: the "romantic" differences between the sexes are mostly -- but probably not entirely -- a construct of our society. There are some noted differences between male and female sexuality and I'm generally wary of assumed absolute equivalence between the genders in this regard.
Spring-Loaded
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But it is true! Men are more romantic. Have you ever seen a romantic comedy where the woman brings the guy flowers?
The answer to that is: no. You have not. And since art imitates life, it's the truth. Men are more romantic than women = fact. All men.
When I decide on a date, my girlfriend and I do to a fancy place like Red Lobster. When she's picking places? She goes to Wal-Mart or Fresh Market, cooks the stuff she bought and we eat at home, maybe with some candles lit. I have to take the responsibility of cracking her crab-leg shells so she won't maybe cut herself at Red Lobster. What sacrifice is she making in my name by cooking something herself? Seem a little one-sided to you, hmm?
I rest my case.
Always-honest
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Ofcourse there are differences, especially because of hormones. I don't see how romantic behaviour is one of those differences though. Unless basic mating rituals are considered romantic
.Ofcourse there are differences, especially because of hormones. I don't see how romantic behaviour is one of those differences though. Unless basic mating rituals are considered romantic
I absolutely could be wrong.
Really what I'm saying is this; lacking any further data one way or the other, I typically find the best conclusion to be "most of our behavior is culturally conditioned, but not all of it."
That isn't always true, but again, lacking any better data that's typically the best bet, I find. It's sort of like betting "present trends continue" when forecasting the future of any field; not always right, but it's probably the best bet unless you have special knowledge about what is going to happen.
TheKaeptain
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Men: John Keats
Women: Jane Austen
Men 1 Women 0
Women: Jane Austen
Men 1 Women 0
Men: John Keats
Women: Jane Austen
Men 1 Women 0
Truly beautiful.
TheKaeptain
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I'm a practical romantic.
I've never bought my wife real flowers because they wither away. I bought her one plastic rose when we started dating because it'll last forever.
When we go to the movies, we only watch superhero or animated films. That's because chick flicks don't really have sfx worth seeing on the big screen (and they're boring too).
When we go out, I hold her hands. That's so I can stop her from going into shops just to look around.
I've never bought my wife real flowers because they wither away. I bought her one plastic rose when we started dating because it'll last forever.
When we go to the movies, we only watch superhero or animated films. That's because chick flicks don't really have sfx worth seeing on the big screen (and they're boring too).
When we go out, I hold her hands. That's so I can stop her from going into shops just to look around.
Always-honest
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Yes, i agree with that.
Finaika
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Wait, there are 21 year olds who watch DBZ?
You must have missed the DBZ threads around here.
There are even 21 year olds who play God of War, Final Fantasy and Mario.
Women want more romance?
Yeah, always found this hobby-selection ludicrous myself. My cousin, who is 15 years old, got into FF (thanks to me who is 21, coincidentally) precisely because it reminded her of Twilight. She kicked in with FFXIII. All those time-wasters are as worthwhile and ridiculous. That's all.
Napoleonthechimp
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Wow. You're a big bag of sunshine.
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