artsi
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Dude, your penis doesn't decide if you're into someone or not.
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Dude, your penis doesn't decide if you're into someone or not.
Widdle Puppy
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LOL chill man
Valkerionseven
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This.
I've had times where it just wouldn't "end" if you know what I mean even though things were lasting a bit too long haha. My girlfriend enjoyed it for a while then we were like "geeze im sleepy as fuck"
this kinda stuff happens man. Welcome to having a sex life, get used to it, and there are worse things that can happen.
Subpar Scrub
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Not surprised to see you scrounging for a burn instead of just admitting that no one is avoiding dudes because they wore a fucking disney tie.
God, i honestly dont know why dudes take advice from people who are so clearly pulling shit out of their ass
As long as they wear a rubber.
lmao wrong page
ZackieChan
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They either shoot all night or not at all, apparently
always crazy bacon
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Observation reported on. There are generally agreed do donts in dating fashion. Cant understand why your so upset by that.
EchoChamber
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Is the same guy? OMG
I mean wearing Disney stuff is sorta similar to wearing anime stuff. It can limit your options in certain ways. Maybe not a tie at work but generally Disney stuff is a no go for dating apparel.
Subpar Scrub
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Wait... you mean all of my edgelord text over DBZ character shirts aren't cool? Fuuuuuu~
travisbickle
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always crazy bacon
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Knocking one out.
Subpar Scrub
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Oh fuck, I actually created a tinder account. Legit not feeling great, I hate using pictures of myself in things. Well, my plan now is to get a photo that includes my whole body, one with me smiling
and one with mates. Maybe get one of me on the bike during a mountain ride or at a concert, both of which I have coming up in the next couple weeks.
Currently have myself set to "off" until my profile is where I want it to be.
I don't know what to write in the bio. Hobbies? What I'm studying? My work? Interests? What I'm looking for? Oh god help me. How is it I can be mostly chill talking to people IRL but hate internet dating? I love the internet! 😰
Edit; how the hell did I initially miss that piece in the OP about overthinking and salmon, legit almost cried at that
fuck that
Currently have myself set to "off" until my profile is where I want it to be.
I don't know what to write in the bio. Hobbies? What I'm studying? My work? Interests? What I'm looking for? Oh god help me. How is it I can be mostly chill talking to people IRL but hate internet dating? I love the internet! 😰
Edit; how the hell did I initially miss that piece in the OP about overthinking and salmon, legit almost cried at that
Messofanego
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...ok...
artsi
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I'm not afraid to make a move and I did, but she rejected the kiss last time (saying that she wants to take it slow) so I just don't want to appear like an asshole for not respecting that.
Just got to feel the situation tonight and go for it if she seems more receptive this time.
She does seem like the more conservative type, and is pretty religious like I said before so it might affect things.
I'm kind of nervous despite doing this dozens of times before.
Dude's been in heaven with this awesome girl for weeks and now he's having a bit of technical difficulties so he's planning to break up?
Damn son, it doesn't work like that.
Megalosaro
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Ok guys, I calmed down. Don't worry, I'm not gonna break up. I was being a bitch yesterday
Talked to my dad about it. He said the exact same thing you guys did. And said hed fly down from Wisconsign and slap the shit out of me if I broke up for some stupid ass reason
Talked to my dad about it. He said the exact same thing you guys did. And said hed fly down from Wisconsign and slap the shit out of me if I broke up for some stupid ass reason
This is hilarious cause I was gonna say you needed a slap if you broke up with her had everyone else not already replied to you telling you to chill out. Your dad sounds like a cool guy lol
Glad to hear you are thinking straight now.
Krauser Kat
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Glad you talked it out with someone. Also check your gendered language.
Gotdatmoney
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In general please mellow out a bit. You're getting high strung about thee most irrational shit.
Performance issues happen. It sucks. We get it. However donn't 0 to 100 your reaction whenever something goes bad. It's a bad way to live in general.
It probably has a lot to do with the environment he lives in (aka his batshit roommate).
Messofanego
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Haha, you should ask you dad about this stuff more often and then dump it on Dating GAF as a second resort.
always crazy bacon
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It's a term searching your post history shows you've used. No need to start waving your finger at another member for it.
always crazy bacon
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Why are you singling out white women as ghosters? It's not a race specific action at all and it sounds like you've developed an unhealthy conspiracy theory.
Count Dookkake
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It makes sense that the most sought after group might be more cutthroat with rejection.
Well, I vented here some time ago - broke it off with a girl because we are living too far apart and both of us not wanting to go the extra mile for a long distance thing.
Couldn't get her out of my head after that (despite enough diversion) and decided to contact her if that was still the case after a month.
Was still thinking of her after a month, haven't met a girl I clicked with like that in ages. Took a long look at myself and decided that I would at least give it a try. Didn't want to look back in a few years and regret not talking to her again...
So, I contacted her and she responded nicely but a bit reserved and she pointed towards all the facts that won't make it easy. She threw in a few jokes, said it's the same with her though - she couldn't get me out of her head too. I explained myself - some humorous, some straight talking and was earnest that I didn't know if the long distance would work for us but that I would like to give it a try - now or after a really busy summer for the both of us. Maybe the text was too frank, maybe I should've sugarcoated it more or should've been more positive about it, but I didn't wanna bullshit her about this.
Well... I haven't heard of her since my last text and honestly: I'm mostly fine! I did give it a shot - if she doesn't wanna go for it, I completely understand regarding the circumstances and since it's summer, I guess I'll hopefully not be down for too long.
Couldn't get her out of my head after that (despite enough diversion) and decided to contact her if that was still the case after a month.
Was still thinking of her after a month, haven't met a girl I clicked with like that in ages. Took a long look at myself and decided that I would at least give it a try. Didn't want to look back in a few years and regret not talking to her again...
So, I contacted her and she responded nicely but a bit reserved and she pointed towards all the facts that won't make it easy. She threw in a few jokes, said it's the same with her though - she couldn't get me out of her head too. I explained myself - some humorous, some straight talking and was earnest that I didn't know if the long distance would work for us but that I would like to give it a try - now or after a really busy summer for the both of us. Maybe the text was too frank, maybe I should've sugarcoated it more or should've been more positive about it, but I didn't wanna bullshit her about this.
Well... I haven't heard of her since my last text and honestly: I'm mostly fine! I did give it a shot - if she doesn't wanna go for it, I completely understand regarding the circumstances and since it's summer, I guess I'll hopefully not be down for too long.
Baron von Loathsome
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There is an 82% chance that she'll appreciate how far gaming has come if you show her The Last Night.
It's internet dating. Anyone that does it is going to meet a lot of people, and the people they meet are also going to be seeing a lot of people. A ton of people get demoralized after 5, 10, 20, conversations or dates, whatever, but I think it is healthy to keep in mind the sheer scale of internet dating.
- Most of the people you Like on any given app won't Like you back.
- The majority of matches won't lead to dates.
- The majority of those first dates won't lead to second dates.
- You probably won't be sleeping with the majority of the people you meet up with.
- Even fewer will actually lead to a relationship.
And despite all that, it is still completely plausible to get several months-long relationships per year, or even find "the one". I find random statistics to be encouraging more than anything else, because it makes more people feel well within the range of "normal" dating outcomes. It can be demoralizing to not really "get" how it all works, which leads to taking things personally when it shouldn't be.
Krauser Kat
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I keep track for my own curiosity. I never use it to make any decisions though. I like having a record of all the names of everyone i have seen before.
People who use stats to somehow game the system, are misaligned and probably wont meet whatever goal they have in mind.
I wasnt going to go on another date last night. Just kind of wanted to watch the sony presser.
But i matched with a girl who only lives a 10 minute walk away and we had a ton in common and she wanted help putting her air conditioner in. I ended up going over and putting it in for her and spending the next 2 hours chatting and drinking on her porch. It was a good night.
ZackieChan
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We've got a live one here.
JadedWriter
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The pretext of this date reads like a porno plot.
Barrel Cannon
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Got a first date today. Haven't been on one in a while. I already feel like I'm overthinking things
JadedWriter
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God I hate online dating. Finished speaking to a woman that states she's in Jersey but she's actually in fucking Qatar
Looots of scams. Tons of scams. You'll build up a sixth-sense for immediately identifying the BS.
It helps reinforce an attitude of 3-4 messages before asking them out, which is way better approach and attitude.
JadedWriter
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I pretty much read anything with busted syntax as a scam. OKC is usually less scam ridden. Just sick of dealing with this nonsense.
ZackieChan
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You'll fit right in here
How do you consistently have these problems? You must be doing something wrong, bro.
JadedWriter
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I either get no reply or scam. There's like no in between.
Like i said, women are not relegating guys to nice guy status because of a goddamn disney tie. So, when you say that, don't put that off on anyone but yourself.
What app are you using?
I recommend not sending unsolicited matches if it is through OKC. Just do the Double Take or match system, and only match people that like you back. My response rate from unmatched messages is, like, 5%, and few of those have led to actual dates.
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