Pandaman said:so... was he supposed write 18 letters to 18 imaginary women who each suffer from one of the various abuses rife within muslim communities in the middle east? maybe a couple dozen more letters to western muslim communities to keep up the good work?
Geez, this is alot of work to say a woman in an elevator freaking out because someone asked her out was overreacting.
Pandaman said:right, but Muslim women do have their genitals mutilated by razors, they are denied the ability to drive as well as a number of other rights. the common factor shared by these women that drives and legitimizes their abuse is their religion, not their specific tribe, not their nation. Nothing good will come from hiding that and acknowledging it doesn't magically make every Muslim male a misogynistic wife beater either.
No you see, he's not at fault at all.
Always-honest said:Poor guy finally gets the guts to say something to a lady, he said it in the most kind and unagressive way he could imagine and she puts it on a blog basicly saying he's a creep. Not directy, but that's what it comes down to.
Dawkins reacts in a way that is so over the top that he draws attention in a negative way.
All fine and dandy, both are attention whores and that's what they got.
I just feel bad for the dude.
Always-honest said:Poor guy finally gets the guts to say something to a lady, he said it in the most kind and unagressive way he could imagine and she puts it on a blog basicly saying he's a creep. Not directy, but that's what it comes down to.
Dawkins reacts in a way that is so over the top that he draws attention in a negative way.
All fine and dandy, both are attention whores and that's what they got.
I just feel bad for the dude.
But the only part of the muslim community who would be offended by what Dawkins wrote would be the ones who are in favor of genital mutilation and such. That doesn't seem like a part of the community that deserves any respect to me.The Lamp said:But worse, he unnecessarily bludgeoned the Muslim community in the beginning of the blog post.
Matthew Gallant said:Poor guy, all he wanted was to have anonymous sex with a woman visiting from another country whom he would then never see again. Such a nice guy.
EliCash said:Rebecca Watson sounds like an annoying person. That's my two cents anyway, can't see what Dawkins did wrong here.
She would have been if the guy was more goodlooking or rich.Speedymanic said:Sounds like she needs to be get laid.
Didn't say that it did. But with the amount of sympathy the guy's getting, apparently some people feel like he's a hero for a new age and it's terrible that she's dismissed him as some guy who only wanted random sex with her because every woman should feel a certain way about that, and that way is "AWESOME! A DUDE WANTS TO SEX ME UP AND THEN NEVER SEE ME AGAIN!"Gonaria said:You seriously have some fucked up views about sexuality. Wanting/attempting to have sex with someone you are attracted to, even if you'll never see that person again, does not make you morally degenerate.
harSon said:I'm not all that fond of Richard Dawkins, and I do agree that greater evils do not render lesser evils unimportant, but that girl is definitely overreacting. Simply getting hit on in that manner is not sexism. Reminds me of this "alert" I received through my campus email a quarter or two ago:
"A female student relayed the following information to UCSC officers about an incident that occurred while she was running on a Pogonip trail near the UCSC Firehouse at around 11:30 yesterday morning:
She reported that she noticed a male jogging behind her, that she asked him not to, and that he complied with her request.
Officers searched the area but were unable to locate the male. He is described as white; about 20 years of age; of medium height; shirtless, wearing basketball shorts short, and a backwards baseball cap.
No crime is alleged to have occurred. But as a precaution, we wanted to share this information with you.
Thank you."
What the fuck.
He gets sympathy for having the guts to ask her for a drink.Matthew Gallant said:Didn't say that it did. But with the amount of sympathy the guy's getting, apparently some people feel like he's a hero for a new age and it's terrible that she's dismissed him as some guy who only wanted random sex with her because every woman should feel a certain way about that, and that way is "AWESOME! A DUDE WANTS TO SEX ME UP AND THEN NEVER SEE ME AGAIN!"
Sex is dirty and wrong.Matthew Gallant said:Poor guy, all he wanted was to have anonymous sex with a woman visiting from another country whom he would then never see again. Such a nice guy.
Your mind... it's not functioning properly. Who said there was anything wrong with dismissing him? Do you really not get that it's about her, lambasting him online, comparing it to sexual assault and rape, and that that might kinda suck for the dude, and anyone who actually underwent rape and such? The guy just made a pass at a girl in an elevator, which isn't a big deal, she didn't get hurt in any way. She was just scared/uncomfortable for a little bit, which was because of her own paranoia, given that he was polite about it.Matthew Gallant said:Didn't say that it did. But with the amount of sympathy the guy's getting, apparently some people feel like he's a hero for a new age and it's terrible that she's dismissed him as some guy who only wanted random sex with her because every woman should feel a certain way about that, and that way is "AWESOME! A DUDE WANTS TO SEX ME UP AND THEN NEVER SEE ME AGAIN!"
Maybe he wanted to sex her up multiple times.Matthew Gallant said:Didn't say that it did. But with the amount of sympathy the guy's getting, apparently some people feel like he's a hero for a new age and it's terrible that she's dismissed him as some guy who only wanted random sex with her because every woman should feel a certain way about that, and that way is "AWESOME! A DUDE WANTS TO SEX ME UP AND THEN NEVER SEE ME AGAIN!"
She initially said, "don't do that, I don't like that". What a lambasting!msv said:lambasting him online
She didn't do that, you're just assuming she did. She said that approaching someone in an elevator is creepy and could make a person think they're in danger, not that it was the same thing as an assault.comparing it to sexual assault and rape
Matthew Gallant said:She initially said, "don't do that, I don't like that". What a lambasting!
She didn't do that, you're just assuming she did. She said that approaching someone in an elevator is creepy and could make a person think they're in danger, not that it was the same thing as an assault.
Yes, she obviously felt like she was sexually assaulted, which is why she didn't mention it until the last part of her video. She had to warm up with Mythbusters to build up the courage to talk about it. And she was so angry about it.Gonaria said:your selective comprehension is impressive. I salute you good sir.
Exactly. Her initial video of calling the invitation creepy isn't the issue. Dawkins compared this incident to the plight of some Muslim women. She responded in podcasts and convention speeches that his statement dismissed all female survivors of rape and sexual assault in the West. In doing so, she also ironically marginalized rape and sexual assault victims by declaring her incident sexual objectification, associating him to a potential rapists, and linking her incident to one that a survivor of sexual assault and rape would undergo.msv said:Your mind... it's not functioning properly. Who said there was anything wrong with dismissing him? Do you really not get that it's about her, lambasting him online, comparing it to sexual assault and rape, and that that might kinda suck for the dude, and anyone who actually underwent rape and such? The guy just made a pass at a girl in an elevator, which isn't a big deal, she didn't get hurt in any way. She was just scared/uncomfortable for a little bit, which was because of her own paranoia, given that he was polite about it.
Gonaria said:your selective comprehension is impressive. I salute you good sir.
Clearly the woman, because that's the kind of hysterical thing women do. Watson is clearly an insane feminazi leading a smear campaign against men everywhere.faceless007 said:No, he's absolutely right about that. It was two goddamn minutes in a personal vlog where the most incendiary thing she said was "Guys, don't do that, it makes us uncomfortable" and that alone interrupted the entire skeptical blogosphere and prompted thousands of hateful commenters (including in this thread) to lose their shit. So who's overreacting?
faceless007 said:No, he's absolutely right about that. It was two goddamn minutes in a personal vlog where the most incendiary thing she said was "Guys, don't do that, it makes us uncomfortable" and that alone interrupted the entire skeptical blogosphere and prompted thousands of hateful commenters (including in this thread) to lose their shit. So who's overreacting?
Because that's not what prompted the backlash. It went viral before Dawkins stepped into the fray. You can't defend the ridiculous backlash it initially got then retcon to it somehow being a defense of rape survivors. Yeah, I totally believe that's what was really motivating all the guys who sent her spiteful comments.Gonaria said:Why do you guys conveniently ignore what she wrote after that?
Exactly. She gave speeches at conventions about it, some before Dawkins even replied. She also hijacked science podcasts to talk about it.Gonaria said:Why do you guys conveniently ignore what she wrote after that?
Matthew Gallant said:So women having sex with strangers makes them whores?
faceless007 said:Because that's not what prompted the backlash. It went viral before Dawkins stepped into the fray. You can't defend the ridiculous backlash it initially got then retcon to it somehow being a defense of rape survivors.
Always-honest said:She would have been if the guy was more goodlooking or rich.
i kid
Sennorin said:How do you approach a hardcore feminist girl anyway? Wouldn´t she always accuse you of being sexist, because, you know, you *are* approaching her to have sex with her, afterall. "Oh no, don´t objectizise me!" :/
SennorinSennorin said:How do you approach a hardcore feminist girl anyway? Wouldn´t she always accuse you of being sexist, because, you know, you *are* approaching her to have sex with her, afterall. "Oh no, don´t objectizise me!" :/
Sennorin said:How do you approach a hardcore feminist girl anyway? Wouldn´t she always accuse you of being sexist, because, you know, you *are* approaching her to have sex with her, afterall. "Oh no, don´t objectizise me!" :/
Sennorin said:How do you approach a hardcore feminist girl anyway? Wouldn´t she always accuse you of being sexist, because, you know, you *are* approaching her to have sex with her, afterall. "Oh no, don´t objectizise me!" :/
Why? So that you wouldn't have had to hear about it? She was trying to point out that even within a community as supposedly progressive, rational and enlightened as the skeptic community, there exists a shamefully prevalent degree of misogny and sexism, as evidenced by the blowback against her two-minute vlog. That puts her in the unenviable position, as so many minorities and women are, of trying to bring such things to light without seeming overly defensive, because of course once you come across as defensive your point is automatically invalid and you're just being hysterical. But that's bullshit. You can agree or disagree with her point, you can have an argument about what the encounter truly meant or did not mean, but to ignore the entire altogether and say she should have just shut up about it is, sadly, the predictable reaction of someone without an argument. No, she's not the one who overreacted.Gonaria said:I'm not. She should have either taken the high road and ignored the morons or called them fucking disgusting morons not worth her time. She didnt do that though and made that harmless incident out to be much more than it really was
faceless007 said:Why? So that you wouldn't have had to hear about it? She was trying to point out that even within a community as supposedly progressive, rational and enlightened as the skeptic community, there exists a shamefully prevalent degree of misogny and sexism, as evidenced by the blowback against her two-minute vlog. That puts her in the unenviable position, as so many minorities and women are, of trying to bring such things to light without seeming overly defensive, because of course once you come across as defensive your point is automatically invalid and you're just being hysterical. But that's bullshit. You can agree or disagree with her point, you can have an argument about what the encounter truly meant or did not mean, but to ignore the entire altogether and say she should have just shut up about it is, sadly, the predictable reaction of someone without an argument. No, she's not the one who overreacted.
That's exactly what she did. First you say you she should have shut up about the whole thing and taken the high road and let it die down, now you're saying she should do exactly what she did do by discussing the backlash! Pick one.Gonaria said:Are you serious? She can bring attention to those morons by calling them out on their stupid, disgusting immaturity.
Good thing she never claimed that. It's so telling that everyone has to keep mis-stating what she wrote that prompted such outrage as being so much more irrational than it really was.People being complete douche bags on blogs does not give her justification to paint herself as a victim in that little incident and claim that the guy was sexually demeaning misogynistic rapist.
The elevator issue prompted the backlash which gave her the ammo to keep talking about it. What is it about being asked not sexually proposition (yes, that's what it fucking was, the bar was still open) a stranger at 4 am in an elevator that makes us all feel so goddamn persecuted? Yeah, and it's the women who overreact.She has every right to call the people who said she needed a good rape disgusting misogynistic pigs, but painting that incident in the elevator than anything more than an uncomfortable non-issue is just wrong.
Napoleonthechimp said:It is worthing noting at this point that we have a society that prizes intellectualism and rationality but yet the father of the Socratic method - Socrates - was in his younger days a warrior in the Athenian army.
meltingparappa said:
- All Rebecca said was "this is an awkward thing for someone to do"
faceless007 said:Good thing she never claimed that. It's so telling that everyone has to keep mis-stating what she wrote that prompted such outrage as being so much more irrational than it really was.
makes me uncomfortable when men sexualize me in that manner.
Richard Dawkins believes I should be a good girl and just shut up about being sexually objectified
Every time I mention, however delicately, a possible issue of misogyny or objectification in our community, the response I get shows me that the problem is much worse than I thought