thatbox said:
It was a smart-ass way of saying this: It really isn't up to us guys what constitutes unhealthy objectification because we're not the ones it makes feel uncomfortable. She felt uncomfortable. Either you acknowledge her right to feel whatever the fuck she does, which is a pretty damn basic intrinsic right, or you claim the right to determine for all women what they should feel toward you. Which is a little like white people telling black people what is and isn't racist.
I suspect we would just go around in circles, because I really don't see any way around the idea that he was propositioning her, and therefore sexualizing her. The bar was still open, he could have asked her to keep talking before she left, and he didn't have to say "my room."
I don't care what she does beyond falsely categorizing this interaction - this is, incidentally, the same thing that Dawkins seized on. He feels that calling things like this sexist/misogynistic/etc. is harmful to the cause of fighting actual sexism/misogyny/etc. His response was absolutely overly caustic, but that's Dawkins.
Where's the chain of events that starts with Watson derying the guy in the elevator and ends with people taking FGM less seriously? How the fuck does that logic work? No, it's the same tired old fallacy, which I would have thought Dawkins was above, that "You can't talk about X because you haven't written 10,000 words about tangentially-related subject Y, therefore you're a hypocrite." Even if that argument was valid, which it isn't, it doesn't apply because Watson has in fact spent a fair amount of energy as a skeptical advocate talking about gender and the religious right and FGM and other issues.
I disagree. If she hadn't attempted to turn the incident into a feminist issue, nobody else would be arguing that it isn't. People relate socially awkward situations on their blogs all the time without trying to escalate normal, trivial social interactions into massive social commentary. Someone politely hitting on someone else is not inherently wrong, regardless of the sexes and genders involved.
Once again, the straw feminist. Two goddamn minutes on a persona vlog was not "massive social commentary," nor did she at any point claim that "hitting on someone else is inherently wrong." The relevant factors keep getting omitted: It was 4 am, she was alone, she had already expressed a desire to go to bed, had been drinking, she was in a foreign country, in an elevator. And it made her uncomfortable. Initially, at least,
that's all she said. It wasn't until the rape threats and misogynistic vile started pouring in, and Dawkins, that she put it in the broader context of the supposedly enlightened, rational skeptic community still being pretty damn sexist. And she was absolutely right about that being a feminist issue.