Gonaria said:
nor is he a potential rapist. Well, I guess he can be, but what a stupid term since pretty much everyone you'd meet would be a potential rapist, potential murderer, potential thief, etc
It is not stupid. One in six American women is sexually assaulted in their lifetime. That means that there are a lot of rapists out there (about one-in-sixty if every rapist has 10 victims, for instance). The prudent thing for a woman to do is to assume that every man is a potential sexual predator.
The woman in question had no way of knowing that this man was not a rapist. Suppose she had gone up to his room for coffee and been sexually assaulted. I would be willing to bet that if she said she had been sexually assaulted, the same GAFfers who were calling her an uptight bitch earlier in the topic would be saying that there's no way she would go to his room at 4:00 in the morning if it weren't for sex, that they probably had consensual sex and she regretted it after the fact and cried rape, and would be making up scenarios in which she led him on, flirted with him, etc.
Yes, it is true that he probably was not going to do anything of the sort, and that even if he were interested in her that he would take no for an answer. But she does not know that, and putting her in that situation was not the appropriate thing for him to do. She was explaining that it made her uncomfortable as a single woman alone in an elevator with just him; I don't see what the difficulty is with understanding that in that scenario a woman might feel unsafe.
I might be being a bit too speculative, but I have been getting the feeling that there are some people who are sympathetic to the guy in question and would themselves have preferred to wait until she was alone and asked her privately if she wanted to have coffee in their room for conversation - and would have meant that and nothing more - and feel offended by the idea that she would have found them to be uncomfortable and potentially threatening in that scenario. Am I completely off-base here or is that the case?